Let's say you are dating this one person you really like, but turns out his/her ex really messed them up. Things that left traumatizing things, would you help?
Backstory; I was diagnosed with HSP a year back, I have therapy and I am in an healthy relationship! But this all started because i did have an abusive ex boyfriend. I'm curious what you would do in such an situation, let met know!
I would support and help!
Leave them
Say that they dont need to make a big deal about it
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What would you do if you would be dating a person with a mental health issue?
I already been there done that with a boy. Never again. I understand that they ha e some stuff going on, but that type of person is draining. Especially when they don't try to better themselves. I make sure that I'm at a good place with myself mentally, spiritually, financially, etc before i invite another person in, its because i know I can't expect someone to love me and stuff if I can't do so myself, the boy legit drained so much of my sympathy I had. He was always assuming and causing so much drama over the littlest things because he could, t deal with what happened in the past. What also didn't help, was his family wasn't supportive to him, which made him jealous over my twin sister and my other family members, because I e been blessed with a supportive and protective family.
He taught me that there's no use saving someone who doesn't want to be saved. I'll only put go with so much for so long, before i just don't let them drag me down with them. I know I don't deserve that kind of partner and I'm not staying with someone who will make you look like the bad guy because they don't deal with their issues properly.
I might try to help for a while and see if she can get professional help if needed. I can't say I'd tolerate it indefinitely though and might leave if it doesn't improve. I wouldn't hold it against her but I dated a bipolar girl ages ago and we nearly got married but the relationship probably took a hit on my mental health as well. It turned into what I guess people call a "codependent" relationship, and I fell in love with the idea that she needed me to take care of her (not the healthiest way to love someone in hindsight). These days I tend to favor mental health and stability as one of the most desirable traits in a partner.
If she is honest about her backstory i am willing to stay and try if its not to severe. And that is because i am probably the most rational boyfriend she could have, understanding of her behavior and thus not getting overly hurt by it. While we work together on turning her back into the girl i would absolutely love.
I am very curious about how other people think about it. My boyfriend helps me and support me, but I want the opinions of others. Like what would you do in that situation :)
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