Is a 23 year old virgin male who's never had a girlfriend a turn off?

Question

I'm a 23 year old guy who has never had any experiences with a girl & I feel like I'm missing out & feel like I'm a loser for not having sex or ever having a girlfriend.

Truthatanycost · Accepted Answer

I call bs on the majority of the pinks responses. Most women value experience, confidence, and ability... not virginity. Many of them are too lazy to start from a clean slate. You being a virgin will be a turn off in most cases... but depending on the situation, they don't always need to know, or at least you don't have to make a big deal about it.

This is the problem in this culture, ask a question like this and most will feed you a bunch of idealist, feel good bullshit. Just like the lies they tell you saying that most women are attracted to nice guys.

However, the only person that decides whether you are a winner, or a loser is yourself.

Reaperbot666 · Accepted Answer

Since I did not have my first real relationship until I was 25. And was still a virgin until shortly after getting into that relationship. I can somewhat understand you feeling on the matter.

While it can be hard to feel like someone might think it is odd. More so in today’s world where people start having sex in there early teens.

Just remember that some girls kind of like being a guys first. Even well into your 20s. Also while it is rare these days. Some people still opt to save there virginity until marriage.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think some girls will find it sweet.
But for yourself, get some experience under your belt, because by the time you find the girl you want to be with longer term, you don't want to be fumbling around, inexperienced. Practice, practice, practice. Have fun!

MissDawn7961 · Accepted Answer

not at all ! It just means that the virgin male is in total control of his body to where he does not have to have sex until he is on his Honeymoon ! If there are no girls around that you are interested in dating yet then that is cool too ! Thanks

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

1. Get job
2. work towards a career
3. Focus on a passion or hobby
4. Get involved in your community
5. Don't watch porn

When you see a pretty girl, talk to her about the environment around you, her outfit, something. Introduce yourself and just keep the convo going, don't be afraid of making things awkward. Just smile a lot and laugh things off.
Before she leaves ask for her number, snap, instagram, something.

Good luck. Also bro you are fine. Everyone has a different path. Women dont define who you are.

MajesticTwelve · Answer

Your sexual experience or lack of is neither a turn off or a turn on. That's just who you are right now.
That has no bearing on if you're sexy or would make a good boyfriend or not. Those are entirely unrelated.

Roxxy99 · Answer

It’s a little odd in today’s world because you don’t often see that but it’s not exactly a turn off. I’d be fine with being someone’s first. It would be kind of sweet tbh. If I may, why have you never had a girlfriend or had sex? Are you extremely shy? Once you start having sex, you’ll realize you really have been missing out. Lol

Aaron1456 · Answer

Agree it's bs on the women that say its ok. A women can't teach a man how to be a man. It ant no disny movie out there that a very small percentage of women that won't that are going to find you couse if they dont... They won't you to be alone. As a man you have to be confident in yourself. I'm 23 average looking average life. Its just my confidence in my self that I have to work on. You have to keep working on yourself bros. So like dont lisen to your mom when she says (Dont worry you'll find someone) This only makes you more alone. You have to get up and do something as a man.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

For all the garbage women here at GaG will tell you, of course it is a turnoff. So I would be careful about who you tell. And I would also figure out how to gain better social skills. Because women, unlike their previously established reputations, can be really cruel to guys who lack experience.

GhettoGirl · Answer

Your not a "loser", I won't say a guy being a "virgin" at 23 is a turn off but I'll say I'm not giving lessons on how to screw and ain't putting my feet behind my ears and letting you figure it out.
But I've given a few guys their very first blow jobs, but that just destroys them because nothing they get after my wet n sloppies is going to be near as good.

ImJustCurious13 · Answer

Look man, I'm 20 and in the same position as you, but I'm perfectly fine with it. If a woman see's it as a turn off then you should see her as a turn down, and if it's guys giving you trouble for it then they're not worth your time. Don't feel pressured into doing it, do it when you feel truly ready.

Unit1 · Answer

Unfortunately this is the norm for guys to be in their 20s and kissless virgins, who never had a girlfriend.

Don't sweat it bro. If a woman loves you, she wouldn't care about that. She would happily change that for you.

As it turns out: So far no woman has loved us.

natasha3012 · Answer

Nope... Not a turn off at all. The personality of the guy matters... the way he shows love and affection... Not how long has he been single or whatever

Syrian_survivor · Answer

It's not a turn off, but thinking you're a loser because of it instead of feeling confident and strong anyway because sexual experience doesn't mean shit is a turn off, sex isn't everything, it's barely anything tbh, there are a million other things you should pay attention to and improve yourself in so you can feel good and confident in general, ignoring shit that doesn't matter like sexual experience.

JoeyH101 · Answer

Maybe its different between gender however I was terrified when my girlfriend said she was a virgin. Almost like one of those things you dont want to take. Virginity is a weird concept, it's just a guilt feeling I got from thinking I might not be the one who should have done it. Might be different for others though.

Sheyhoney · Answer

It honestly just depends on the female. Everyone has different preferences and there’s girls that will want you to have experience, while there’s also girls that like you virgin. There’s no right or wrong, turn on or turn off.

RoastedCharms · Answer

22, same boat. Losing my hair too, but decided to buzz it and use my winning smile. You're gonna fail, but you're also gonna regret never trying. Never trying makes you weaker than getting over your nerves and talking to that girl.

Sayuri_san · Answer

Absolutely not. If I'd consider someone a "loser" or a turn-off, it would be for other things (such as disagreeable personality or certain extreme opinons). But not for still being a virgin or never having had a girlfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

The saving grace is you know you are STD free and that's actually a plus in the dating game.

Anonymous · Answer

Women will tell you "no" but they are lying.
My advice is don't tell them and if the ask lie to them.
You're not a loser but i'm sorry to say generally your value amongst women is determined by your demand. Women want to feel they're getting a prize in a guy. Not the leftover that no other girl wants.

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I’m like the female version of you but I’m almost 27. From my experience, no one really cares about virginity anymore. If they do, they are cucks.

BattleKitten77 · Answer

No. Not in the least. A guy who has been around is though. Trust me honey women do not like nasty men any more than men like a girl who has been passed around

BubblyMaria · Answer

I wouldn't mind it but I would be curious as to why? By choice or other? Either way if it was by choice, I would respect your decision and would still date you if I was interested.

GreciaJackson · Answer

You know being a virgin doesn’t make you a loser, it’s better having sex when you’re ready, and with the person who you feel comfortable.

Jammers14 · Answer

Take your time. With so many STD’s out there, you’re a catch!! You’re a blank canvas and when you meet the right person you can experiment with everything.

SapphireFox · Answer

Nope! Don't rush it. It's better to take your time than regret it.

Xlink · Answer

Why dont u try to get a girlfriend or get sex. It's not that hard.

What's stopping you why are you 23 and still a virgin your almost 25 then 30 year old virgin. Your options for woman gonna be real small

AngelLily · Answer

It's common/normal to not have a girlfriend or had sex especially at that age.

shimmeryns · Answer

No its not. You should start asking someone you're interested in to go out.

TheFlak38 · Answer

for women it's a turn off. Be careful with women who might show interest in you. They will do it because they know that for someone like you it is much easier to fall in love and get manipulated.
Women love to prey on virgin guys

Xienthius21 · Answer

Normal today. Hell. 21 and never kissed anybody. Just dont be in a rush and itll be fine. Been seeing a lot just getting into their first relationship at around the age of 26-29.

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

I wouldn't say your a loser just yet but your for sure missing out... All you gotta do. Is getbyour dick wet once then you'll have confidence to go after more... id suggest get a hooker and tell her your situation and go pound some clam

JeremyT · Answer

It's like any other activities, you have to practice to learn. Dont worry you are not missing much. But went it will append give you the time to lean. You put too much emphasis on this topic. Sex is just one part of a relationship.

stevemeh · Answer

Why is it that the shit women are saying is hard to believe? Oh that's right cause they are putting on a act

Makarinas · Answer

Are you crazy , dude? It is lucky that you are virgin. You are good :) Don't break yourself.

sawno · Answer

Girls typically don't mind if they like you, but will possibly wonder how so.

Just_a_human · Answer

Maybe we just don't broadcast it to the world but there are probably a lot out there

meggsy · Answer

Not my words but I think this might help

kinkavel · Answer

It's only a turn off if you are so obsessed that you haven't that you tell them, I was 21 when I first had sex and didn't say anything before, if you have a good basic knowledge of foreplay and can get her turned on the rest will come naturally.

FakeName123 · Answer

It solely depends if you are a virgin by choice or by a lack of competence.

VaibhavSharma1991 · Answer

Im 28, single, virgin. I know this sounds foolish but the fact is, that I want to get intimate with my future wife and nobody else.

Rangers · Answer

Women prefer men with experience, so you're behind, you might have to cut corners

BlackMex · Answer

Nothing wrong with no experience you will learn eventually

owens97 · Answer

depends to that person just find someone that it isn't yo

Daviid_ · Answer

Pretty normal nowadays, it might be uncommon for your parents as they would have relationships and sex much earlier.

DesertOasisMan · Answer

Don’t feel bad. In Japan there are many men & women over 30+ who have never had sexual contact with the opposite sex.

Anonymous · Answer

You’re not a loser! You’ll find the right girl who will love you no matter what :)

Cruizer · Answer

Probably due to the way you act. Desperation is not attractive at all.

d_e141 · Answer

No you're not a loser  You're just waiting for the right moment

iFarted · Answer

You're fine dude, as long as you're not a weirdo girls don't mind.

Anonymous · Answer

No and I strongly dislike people who judge people like that 😑

Anonymous · Answer

Never trust what a woman says. They're lying vipers who only like virgin men in order to use and abuse them

Anonymous · Answer

That is nothing to be ashamed of. Don't listen to the peer pressure, it only leads to regrets and tears.

Slim57 · Answer

Better to be a vrigin then not a virgin and have sex come ever 20 years

Anonymous · Answer

It's ok I'm 17 and the same way. i feel like no girl will ever love me. your not alone bro

Mikayla3 · Answer

No way, I want someone like that.

clampfan101 · Answer

I hope not. I’m 31 and still single. 🙁

sheepdip · Answer

How you treat people is more important

G_oogle_Y_i_ndians_r · Answer

Come to India. 37 aged men are virgin

biancalovexo · Answer

Not at all.

Anonymous · Answer

Nooo. It is cutteeeeee. I prefer virgins

Anonymous · Answer

As always cases like this are male-dominated

ClearCyan · Answer

Depends on the girl.

xyz94 · Answer

No, not at all.

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