I'm a 23 year old guy who has never had any experiences with a girl & I feel like I'm missing out & feel like I'm a loser for not having sex or ever having a girlfriend.
Is a 23 year old virgin male who's never had a girlfriend a turn off?
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I call bs on the majority of the pinks responses. Most women value experience, confidence, and ability... not virginity. Many of them are too lazy to start from a clean slate. You being a virgin will be a turn off in most cases... but depending on the situation, they don't always need to know, or at least you don't have to make a big deal about it.
This is the problem in this culture, ask a question like this and most will feed you a bunch of idealist, feel good bullshit. Just like the lies they tell you saying that most women are attracted to nice guys.
However, the only person that decides whether you are a winner, or a loser is yourself.
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Since I did not have my first real relationship until I was 25. And was still a virgin until shortly after getting into that relationship. I can somewhat understand you feeling on the matter.
While it can be hard to feel like someone might think it is odd. More so in today’s world where people start having sex in there early teens.
Just remember that some girls kind of like being a guys first. Even well into your 20s. Also while it is rare these days. Some people still opt to save there virginity until marriage.
I think some girls will find it sweet.
But for yourself, get some experience under your belt, because by the time you find the girl you want to be with longer term, you don't want to be fumbling around, inexperienced. Practice, practice, practice. Have fun!
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not at all ! It just means that the virgin male is in total control of his body to where he does not have to have sex until he is on his Honeymoon ! If there are no girls around that you are interested in dating yet then that is cool too ! Thanks
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1. Get job
2. work towards a career
3. Focus on a passion or hobby
4. Get involved in your community
5. Don't watch porn
When you see a pretty girl, talk to her about the environment around you, her outfit, something. Introduce yourself and just keep the convo going, don't be afraid of making things awkward. Just smile a lot and laugh things off.
Before she leaves ask for her number, snap, instagram, something.
Good luck. Also bro you are fine. Everyone has a different path. Women dont define who you are. -
Your sexual experience or lack of is neither a turn off or a turn on. That's just who you are right now.
That has no bearing on if you're sexy or would make a good boyfriend or not. Those are entirely unrelated. -
It’s a little odd in today’s world because you don’t often see that but it’s not exactly a turn off. I’d be fine with being someone’s first. It would be kind of sweet tbh. If I may, why have you never had a girlfriend or had sex? Are you extremely shy? Once you start having sex, you’ll realize you really have been missing out. Lol
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Agree it's bs on the women that say its ok. A women can't teach a man how to be a man. It ant no disny movie out there that a very small percentage of women that won't that are going to find you couse if they dont... They won't you to be alone. As a man you have to be confident in yourself. I'm 23 average looking average life. Its just my confidence in my self that I have to work on. You have to keep working on yourself bros. So like dont lisen to your mom when she says (Dont worry you'll find someone) This only makes you more alone. You have to get up and do something as a man.
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For all the garbage women here at GaG will tell you, of course it is a turnoff. So I would be careful about who you tell. And I would also figure out how to gain better social skills. Because women, unlike their previously established reputations, can be really cruel to guys who lack experience.
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Your not a "loser", I won't say a guy being a "virgin" at 23 is a turn off but I'll say I'm not giving lessons on how to screw and ain't putting my feet behind my ears and letting you figure it out.
But I've given a few guys their very first blow jobs, but that just destroys them because nothing they get after my wet n sloppies is going to be near as good. -
Look man, I'm 20 and in the same position as you, but I'm perfectly fine with it. If a woman see's it as a turn off then you should see her as a turn down, and if it's guys giving you trouble for it then they're not worth your time. Don't feel pressured into doing it, do it when you feel truly ready.
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Unfortunately this is the norm for guys to be in their 20s and kissless virgins, who never had a girlfriend.
Don't sweat it bro. If a woman loves you, she wouldn't care about that. She would happily change that for you.
As it turns out: So far no woman has loved us. -
Nope... Not a turn off at all. The personality of the guy matters... the way he shows love and affection... Not how long has he been single or whatever
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It's not a turn off, but thinking you're a loser because of it instead of feeling confident and strong anyway because sexual experience doesn't mean shit is a turn off, sex isn't everything, it's barely anything tbh, there are a million other things you should pay attention to and improve yourself in so you can feel good and confident in general, ignoring shit that doesn't matter like sexual experience.
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Maybe its different between gender however I was terrified when my girlfriend said she was a virgin. Almost like one of those things you dont want to take. Virginity is a weird concept, it's just a guilt feeling I got from thinking I might not be the one who should have done it. Might be different for others though.
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It honestly just depends on the female. Everyone has different preferences and there’s girls that will want you to have experience, while there’s also girls that like you virgin. There’s no right or wrong, turn on or turn off.
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22, same boat. Losing my hair too, but decided to buzz it and use my winning smile. You're gonna fail, but you're also gonna regret never trying. Never trying makes you weaker than getting over your nerves and talking to that girl.
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Absolutely not. If I'd consider someone a "loser" or a turn-off, it would be for other things (such as disagreeable personality or certain extreme opinons). But not for still being a virgin or never having had a girlfriend.
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The saving grace is you know you are STD free and that's actually a plus in the dating game.
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Women will tell you "no" but they are lying.
My advice is don't tell them and if the ask lie to them.
You're not a loser but i'm sorry to say generally your value amongst women is determined by your demand. Women want to feel they're getting a prize in a guy. Not the leftover that no other girl wants. - 382 opinions shared on Dating topic.
I’m like the female version of you but I’m almost 27. From my experience, no one really cares about virginity anymore. If they do, they are cucks.
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No. Not in the least. A guy who has been around is though. Trust me honey women do not like nasty men any more than men like a girl who has been passed around
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I wouldn't mind it but I would be curious as to why? By choice or other? Either way if it was by choice, I would respect your decision and would still date you if I was interested.
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You know being a virgin doesn’t make you a loser, it’s better having sex when you’re ready, and with the person who you feel comfortable.
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