If a guy is in his late 20's or older and never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, should he just give up? is it already too late for him?

[Anonymous]

Why shouldn't he give up? Why isn't it too late for him? i honestly believe, feel, that experiencing dating, relationships, and sex in your formative years, or just in your teens and 20's is really important, part of the human growth experience, if you didn't experience them by a certain age, and besides, for guys, men, their sexual prime, sexual peak years are their 20's, if they go sexless throughout all their 20's, why should they bother continue trying to have sex in their 30's and older? mens testosterone declines usually after 30, why is it never too late to lose your virginity? I feel i would rather deprive myself of sexual pleasure because as i'm older, i would have to settle for second-best, second-rate sex, because the ship sailed already a long time for best sex in your teens or 20's, and the people who say sex gets better with age, are people that started having sex around the age most people do, in their teens and 20's, usually by early 20's.

I will admit, people have made me angry when they have said things to me like "realize that plenty of people are still looking for love in their 50's. Sure, they might not be virgins or inexperienced, but being older has not stopped them."

Another one,, this woman, she made me feel even more bitter, resentful, and angry when she said this to me:

"Because it isn't. My 72 year-old landlord and her 90 year-old boyfriend are proof of that."

Seriously, that just made me very angry, c'mon, around that age, a guy is very likely to have a very limp dick, brittle one, weak body for sex.

Another reason why for me, is because i feel if i ever do get a girlfriend and i start having a dating life, sex life, i will always be bitter, resentful, jealous, of people that got to experience dating, relationships, and sex before i did, earlier in life, they didn't miss out on young love like i did, i feel if i ever do get a girlfriend and i'm out there with her in public with

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only one female response to this question, very interesting

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so why should a guy not give up?

[Beaver19]

No, this article is all self pity, you need to grow a pair and explore life more, I'm a virgin and I had a really hot 25 year old girl wanting friend with benefits, I turned her down because I believe in legit relationships, you don't have to be religious about it, but you act like a frustrated child in how you talk, I lost my hair to TE at 18, oh well I don't post a mytake screaming about that.

It's not too late but you have to be social and get along with people, if what you wrote here reflects you in person you're out of luck

[Bandit74]

I'm not sure how old you are, let's say you're 27, so Don't go for 27 year old women who have already slept around and tried out all their sexual fantasies with other men. You'd just be the reliable guy she wants to play house with now that her options are deminishing.

Try to date a 22 year old, 5 years is a pretty acceptable age gap and she can help you experience young love. Plus they'll be better looking and probably haven't slept around as much as single girls your age have.

It's really not too late for you.

[Asker]

i'm almost 28

[Bandit74]

So what, I just randomly picked 27. It's not like that's the cutoff.

Look if you were 35 I'd maybe say you were skrewed. However at 28 you could still date a girl in the 21-24 age range and enjoy young sex. It come down to whether olyou want to try and make it happen or if you'd rather just give up and complain about it.

[Asker]

if i can find the motivation to stop feeling sorry for myself and take action to my issues with women, hopefully i can fix my issues with them before i'm 35, in which i can still be able to date or hook up with girls in their early 20's

[loves2learn]

You need to make peace with your pass and look to the future. This much resentment is not healthy.

[Anonymous]

No. It's too late when you're 70. But you're still young, do it when you're ready.

[Asker]

and you girls have so much power in your youth

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you say that?

[moviedude714]

i think what he means is that he feels women are far less prone than men are to being late bloomers in the dating/relationship world, whenever you hear of a person who is 25+ years of ago and never had a relationship before, still a virgin, it's almost always guys you hear of instead of women

[moviedude714]

*25+ years of age

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe that's true. I have two friends, both girls amd 20 years old and both of them are virgins.

[Asker]

i agree with moviedude

[Anonymous]

I didn't start dating until my early 30s, and I'm now engaged to a lady who is equally inexperienced. We are both in our first actual relationship. It's not too late.

[Asker]

i assume your girlfriend is younger than you

[Opinion Owner]

Nope, she's a few years older.

[Asker]

i always find it more shocking to hear of a woman being single, celibate that long compared to a guy, mainly because women don't have to be the initiators

[Opinion Owner]

She's just a very devoutly religious lady.

[Asker]

like i said before, for women it's usually by choice

[Anonymous]

Most likely it is unless you become rich. All that's left are women who would've never given you the time of day when they were younger and believe that you should be extremely grateful that they (Now that they are older, their looks have faded and/or they got knocked up by the wrong guy/s and now want someone that's responsible like you) "blessed" you with their presence.

[Asker]

was wondering if you agree with this quote about bad-boys and nice-guys and women, i got it from an Australian Dating Coach for men:

"Some nice guys have the mistaken belief that a woman will go through a “bad boy phase” and then eventually realize that she wants a nice guy who treats her like a princess. This belief stems from seeing very confident, assertive women in their 30s and 40s eventually settling down with a nice guy. Why does that happen? Simple. Women lose their attractiveness as they age. When a woman hits 30 years of age, she rapidly begins to lose value on the mating market. She eventually gets to the point where she has to accept whatever she can get because all the confident guys are either committed or still sleeping with women in their 20s."

[Opinion Owner]

Spot on

[Anonymous]

I suggest waiting until your at least 36 to give up

[Asker]

Sounds good

[Ulyss]

That's weird because you should easily be able to get a girl since you have your own place, income etc and "mature" maybe you just kept getting a crappy hand keep going at it and don't spend all your chips unless you are sure

[Asker]

that would make me even more bitter, angry, resentful, pissed off, girls who are chasing me because i have my own place, financially stable, well-established, i want to reject them because my mindset is "why should i give you girls a chance when i couldn't have you girls when i wanted you when i was in my teens and 20's?

[Ulyss]

I go for younger girls instead which you should be doing as well it's pretty hard to get a girl your own age in L. A but that's my experience

[abundantlyrich]

If you value yourself, maybe not.

[Anonymous]

i hate reality for being the way it is

[Anonymous]

Tell me about it, geeze

[Opinion Owner]

this video right here explains it all:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=91SlnIVDFso

[disgustingweebtrash]

It's over