A virgin guy in their 30s is a loser?

[Anonymous]

I'm 30 years old and I never had a girlfriend because for a long time I had some family situations.

This year, after the pandemic, I have done different things in my life. Today I have job stability and maybe I will buy a car this year. I would like to meet someone, to have a stable relationship and to have a family in the future.

I don't know, when I meet a girl, how to tell her that she's my first girlfriend, or that I've never had sex. I'm worried about how she might react. Or that she thinks I'm a red flag. What advice would you give me for my situation?

[exitseven]

okay- you are a little older than most but everyone is different. You had a set of circumstances that prevented you from having a relationship with anyone. This is nothing to be embarrassed about. I would not even bring it up. Just be confident and friendly and don't make such a big deal about virginity. There is a lot more to a relationship than that. By the time you are ready to have sex she will be understanding about this and it will not be a problem.

[Selene1600000]

You don’t need to announce it like a confession early on there’s no rule that you must disclose “I’ve never had a girlfriend” in the first conversation. When things start getting more serious and there’s mutual trust, you can simply be honest in a calm, matter of fact way, without apologizing or making it feel like a flaw. The right person won’t see your lack of past relationships as a red flag they’ll care more about how you treat them now and whether you’re emotionally ready for a relationship.

[Claudia233]

If a girl thinks you are a loser then she is not your girl. Find one with the same morals, way of thinking and perception of the world. All the others shouldn't matter

[moviedude714]

Is losing your virginity to an escort or sex worker out of the question for you?

[Shamalien]

A lot of girls will see you as a real catch. Have that confidence

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Virginity isn’t really part of the equation in terms of success

[Remnaourei2]

Virgin until marriage is excellent.