No you haven't been celibate for too long. Your celibate by CHOICE. The thing is simply this. There is no such thing as FINDING love. You must have LOVE within you. And you don't. You don't love yourself. Not just by you having premarital sex before marriage, but by seeking attention in places that you shouldn't. You need to WORK on yourself. You also have to get HEALED from the rape incident and get some help. Also to add, your friends life is just their life. You don't want their life and there is no guarantee that their relationships are REAL relationships and unless you have religious of god fearing friends, it is just as sexual relationship that will fail eventually if it doesn't change. So being envious of them is pointless.
Plus, your not celibate. Celibate is who I am. Somebody who is not interested in dating, sex, and refrain from those experiences and choices. You are just unavailable and have attachment issues due to your poor experiences with men and sadly picking the wrong kind of people trying to get one. You have to figure yourself out. And learn from your choices. Not avoid them.
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"I just want to love someone", got to love yourself to love and be loved, I dont think you're there.
These guys sound terrible. Maybe you need to move to a different area or something
Wow shit sorry to hear you got raped. That's real fucked up shit. But getting back to the 4 year celibate thing, I can do 4 years standing on my head easy. The last time i even kissed a girl was back in January 2005 yes that long ago. so 4 years is nothing. and as far as watching the guy who has a girlfriend jerking off yes it is that bad its still cheating and a real shitty thing to do to someone behind their back. Just start looking more serious into guys you like and don't count out guys who may seem nice and genuine. Most women will pass up on them because they like the bad boy. Heck i just answered one woman who was whining about her ex being in prison and still wanting to know if he thought about her sexually. Don't be like that. Look for good quality guys who will treat you right and make you happy and dont take that for granted
Find a way to go around your group of friends, meet friends of friends, or even find new people.
Sometimes we need a fresh start to pudh confidence back up.
About the guy you liked, I'm just disgusted by that proposal...
Remember to actually kerp sn open mind in terms of love tho, you never the day after tomorrow!
Best of luck.
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Maybe you should take a break and focus on something else. There are a lots of beauty beside romance.
I’m sorry about all that happened. I don’t think you should give up on love 💕
Ask your girls friends who of their boyfriends friends would be a good match for you. Then ask for help in getting a date with him.
nah you'll find somebody, but niggas got needs bih.
Where do you meet guys?
Yes you should nobody like a man complainer
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