My girlfriend wants to work as a bottle service girl and I’m not ok?

[nblanch23]

My girlfriend got a job as a bottle service girl and I’m uncomfortable with it they wear these really skimpy uniforms wear you can pretty much see your whole but and a half tank that shows a lot of cleavage they are told specifically to flirt with guys to sell drinks we dated for a year and a half split up for three months and have been trying again I told her I couldn’t get back into this if she kept the job am I wrong for not be willing to compromise my Values I don’t want people seeing my girl every weekend and her being flirtatious with guys i don’t want to be controlling honestly I just can’t handle the idea I love her flirting and being sexy should be for me I don’t want to share that should I leave if she chooses a skimpy outfit and tip money over my feelings and relationship security

[LuxAeterna]

Any type of employment is good employment I would say for USA even college grads are struggling. You should let her be independent. She is your girlfriend and if there's love there's also security. And if she moves on with some customer then she wasn't worth wasting time to begin with. Alternatively if you insist she doesn't work your choices are either support her or alternatively another job for her. But she may not be happy with that income and eventually blame you and that may bring some other kind of stress.

[nblanch23]

She works as a teacher during the week and lives with her parents so that’s not her main income it’s a side job on weekends I don’t care about money respect for our relationship is more important I completely disagree with you

[LuxAeterna]

Teacher? In a bottle service profession? She will most def loose the teaching job you do know that right if a single parent of any student ever got aware of this.

[LuxAeterna]

Your ok to disagree. I don't judge. I come from different perspective.

[LuxAeterna]

When I wrote my opinion I thought your girlfriend was a college grad or something not in a professional teaching setting. Then answer is absolutely no. Your question should include her current employment as well so gives better idea of the situation.

[nblanch23]

No much love dude I appreciate your opinion

[LuxAeterna]

All good bro always speak my mind ;) let your gal know teaching thing is gone if she risks it with this.

[nblanch23]

To me if she just picked up a regular waitress position or literally any non sexual job it’s the the fact she’s dressed extremely sexually and she would be obligated to flirt so I kind of view flirting as cheating I can’t really accept it I love an independent working girl but I don’t think morals are less important than money

[LuxAeterna]

I know exactly what you mean bro. But to me it's surprising she's putting her teaching profession at risk

[nblanch23]

She’s under no obligation to inform them she’s not posting pictures of her working there odds are they would find out but I agree that if they did it would not be good and she probably would get fired I’m gonna think about a day or two make sure it’s what I want but if she takes the job and I decided to leave I wouldn’t be petty and report it or anything I’d still want nothing but good for her just because something makes me uncomfortable being in a relationship doesn’t mean I suddenly hate her ik ur not saying that I’m just saying I’ll care about her regardless of weather I decide to get back in a relationship with her or not

[LuxAeterna]

Obligation to inform wasn't even my worry. I believe in karma. U don't have to report if you split. Among the gazillion people visiting the place all it takes is one to notice. u take the higher ground and wish her the best. It's her decision eventually.

[thrombis]

If u trust her then drelax and don't worry. Just be qn even better boyfriend for her.

[nblanch23]

We’ve had problems I don’t fully trust her she knows that

[nblanch23]

Also even if she didn’t do anything I’m not ok with people seeing my girlfriend it’s not even an insecurity’ thing it’s just something I’m morally opposed to in a relationship

[nblanch23]

I view flirting as cheating it’s part of the job description so

[Anonymous]

You have every right to be upset about this if this is something you feel you will never be ok with or be able to accept her doing then it would be best to walk away

[nblanch23]

Thanks that’s pretty much how I feel I just don’t like giving ultimatums I’m not like that unfortunately it’s really the job or me I’ve been trying to find away to be ok with it because I wanted our relationship back but the thought of it makes me sick to my stomach I actually don’t see a problem with someone having the job I’m not judging people but I have a much higher standard for someone I’d be in a relationship with than someone I’d be friends with or something like that

[CyberWarrior98]

Need a tissue to cry in?

[nblanch23]

I reported u don’t be a dick

[CyberWarrior98]

lol you sound like a child.

[nblanch23]

This is important to please go be an a hole another place I want actual opinions What kind of person are you someone asks you for help and you make fun of them I wasn’t crying and even if I was real men cry now please sir do fuck off

[buttcrackjoe]

I wouldn't like it either