Glad it worked out for you in the end.
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What do you mean you wasn't ready to date?
College can be stressful I was depressed a lot
I understand that well.
And yeah I dont change my mind after rejecting someone. They deserve someone that gets it right the first time
I do agree.
Why is this anon?
I anon ALL my posts.
Now I'm even more curious to know your identity.
Why do you always go anon?
This site is filled with idiots who make it their life goal to attack when they disagree.
Be an adult and deal with it perhaps? 😛
Or just let the children get triggered and use shaming tactics to try and somehow "offend" me while I laugh at their retardedness.
Don't flatter yourself. You're not that important to triger anyone. 😊
Keep trying. Yo only prove my point.
And they are subject to change at any given moment. It is their god-given right to do so, just ask them!A woman's brain runs on feelings and emotion.A guy's brain runs on thought and logic. And ne'er the twain shall meet. ;)This isn't to say either doesn't have some of the other's, but it's a very basic difference between the two genders.
I was actually asking becase of a guy who seems to have changed his mind.
There's always a chance of misinterpretation or impression. But if you've established a relationship with a guy and it broke off, it's highly unlikely for them to come back and revisit that. The bottom line is you simply cannot negotiate attraction or desire. And guys in particular, make a quick assessment of any woman they meet - it's either a 'hell yes' or a 'hell no' moment, and that generally does not change. Remember, guys are driven by their testosterone - he's either wants you or he doesn't. They're not generally wishy-washy, unless they just are, or are really weak. Or have run out of options, and you don't want those anyway.
No, initially he wasn't up for a relationship so we remained friends, after 2 years he now suddenly wants a relationship.
I would re-word that..."Now suddenly he wants sex."And why there's really no such thing as a platonic opposite-sex 'friend' - one or the other will nearly always want more. There's a reason they were attracted to each other in the first place. But women will tend to nurture a 'friendship' from their emotional state, whereas men are much more goal-driven in their endeavors. As I say, a woman that isn't sexual with a man is not really that much use to him. I mean really, as far as friendships go, men are WAY more interesting and fun. And why a guy will know plenty of women, but his best 'friends' are guys. They're the ones he does fun stuff with - like hardcore guy-stuff - racing, competitions, strenuous activities like hiking and climbing, paratrooping, or building stuff, creating, etc.
Was thinking the same thing. Easier to say no now. 👍
Well, it's not a REASON to say no, but at least you have clarity. If he's really a catch, worthy of your time and attention, then maybe he's a viable prospect for a real romantic relationship. YOU have to make that assessment. I also know for a fact that women are either sexually attracted to a man or they aren't, and it's not changing any time soon. We call them 'vag-tingles', and once they're gone, or if they were never there, are NEVER coming back. It's a law of attraction, and you simply cannot negotiate attraction or desire - it's either there or it isn't, you can't manufacture it or create it out of thin air. If he doesn't bowl you over and make your knees week then he's simply not for you.
He turns my knees into jelly but I am afraid he'd be in it just for sex, which is not what I want.
Well, doesn't his staying close and in contact and keeping a 'relationship' with you over the previous two years have value to you? Is it possible all the while he did have feelings but chose not to reveal them?I'm not saying he's the perfect option for you, but what exactly would be wrong if it DID turn out all he wanted was sex? That's all it would be. What if it was really the ideal relationship and person you've wanted all your life? I will tell you the best lovers are your best friends first. DAMHIK. I married my best girl - but had to divorce first wife first. That cost me nearly a half-million. BUT IT WAS WORTH IT!!
It does have value but he's been pretty open previously about not being interested in me.I rather date someone who doesn't just want sex from me.Glad things worked out for you tho. 👌
Sure. Just don't date someone that DOESN'T want sex with you. You'll be bored out of your mind. ;)
Lets hope that doesn't happen. 😂
Our schedules conflicted so we went our separate ways. I still want to text her but even that's hard to do.