Have you ever rejected someone you were attracted to?

[Anonymous]

I know this kinda weird, but have you ever been so aloof towards someone you were attracted to, especially if they gave you interest back that you just flat out slowly rejected them?

for example a few years ago there was a girl I met through some mutual friends (she was a pretty much a 9 in hotness my book) I had a very big crush on. we mostly saw each other through our mutual friends hanging out, but we never hung out alone. She was flirting around with me (and I flirted back) but I thought it wasn't genuine because I thought she was just being nice, and she also was kinda flirty with other guys too. I was also kinda self conscious too. One of friends even noticed that she flirting with me.

Because of those feelings I never escalated things to having both of us hanging out or going on a date. I remember once I told her my birthday and a month later she remember and was commenting my MySpace page. She even messaged me her email and phone number, and I didn't even do anything with that. >_<

She moved away, and I see her pictures on Facebook and I just sigh at my stupidity, lol.

Has something like this ever happened to you?

Updates

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a little update on that girl, I actually made this question a status update on Facebook...and guess who liked it? that girl whom exactly I was talking about... LOL.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he was my crush from high school, and I managed to connect with him. To my utter surprise, we clicked and got along great. We had long convos, flirted like crazy and the chemistry was intense. I was in shock for the longest time that he actually liked me. He invited me out several times, but kept coming up with excuses and never took me out. I got fed up and stopped talking to him. He contacted me 10 months later and we started talking again. This time, he took it to the next level of going out and I was hesitant. He gave me some lame ass speech on how he cared and wanted to go out. I know for a fact he really liked me because his family members told me and he said so. I finally tried to get him to confirm a date to meet, he stumbled and changed the subject. That was it, I was done, no more chances.

[Anonymous]

yes, the guy I liked did the EXACT SAME THING to me! I wouldn't be surprised if you were him! lol I genuinely and sincerely not just liked but loved him and waited for him and still think of him each day hoping he would contact me to start over being friends or even more than friends. I'm a shy girl so it was hard for me to be the tough guy and go up to him and tell him how I feel, but I did ask him out and hinted it all the time.

if you like her you should contact her and see what's up. just be genuine and kind and be real and honest, like you're sorry you never had the chance to spend time with her but youve always liked her and want to see her again.

life is too short not to take risks. go for it :) it'd be my dream come true if my guy contacted me like that id be in his arms right away.

[beerY33]

don't wait around for him! go get him! haha, seriously. that's what you're telling this guy to do. you should do it yourself!

[Opinion Owner]

i tried I really did when we were in school together, I always messaged him, asked him out gave him my number added him on fb tried to make convo and he was attracted to me, like my friends said he would blush and stare at me but he just never took it anywhere and ended up playing games, at times he was rude to me and hurt me =/ its a long story

[Asker]

hey there, that's kinda weird because that same girl did hint at me a few times but I never got the clue...that girl is on my Facebook but I remember when I added her to my list, I attached a message just asking how she was and hoping she was doing well and never got a response. she doesn't even interact on my wall or to any of my status updates. maybe I did p*ss her off by how I acted? :(

[Opinion Owner]

you probably did or there's a misunderstanding there between you two may be you acted a certain way in person that hurt her and now she's feeling rejected by you, basically you have to open up to her and let her know how you feel if one of you don't than there's no communication and the potential relationship is doomed to begin with

[Asker]

i don't know its way too late for that, we have both moved on and our little interaction was ancient history haha

[Opinion Owner]

its never too late

[Asker]

yea your right, if I ever run into her if she comes back into town, ill ask her to hang out and I'll try to tell her what's on my mind. I do remember being a little rude to her, and I wasn't being honest with by acting so distant, so maybe ill tell her that too. :)

[Opinion Owner]

yes! =) I really wish you were him ='[

[Asker]

yeah, I really wish you were her, too. I would feel so bad if she felt the way you do ;(

[Anonymous]

Yes. There was this guy I met that was really nice and we got each others' phone numbers the second day we talked to each other. He texted me a couple days later to hang out at the student union and we did for a few hours. He walked me back to my dorm (it was maybe 10:00 pm and dark out) and we just said a casual bye (still just friends). Before he left he told me to text him about anything and he really stressed the "anything." I wish I would have asked him to hang out again. We never texted or anything after that and we never really even spoke to each other after that either.

[Asker]

aww why you didn't contact him? :/

[Opinion Owner]

I'm still not completely sure why I didn't. I had thought about it a few times back when this happened about 11 months ago but I'm still unsure why I never did anything about this.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I rejected a girl that was physically beautiful, and had a great personality (who I was very much into), because she was being immature and playing too many games. I mark it up to her inexperience, insecurities, and not really knowing what she wanted at the time. Gossip from her friends indicates she still likes me, even though its been a few years and the rejection caused a lot of drama. I'd give her another chance if she gives me the impression she grown since then.

[Jaleel]

yeah it has happened. I attracted "the hottest girl in school" you could probably say. we always talked and I teased her a couple of times and she was in the friend zone for me and I was dateable for hers. I just randomly talked to her during class, we always laughed, she gave me her kick it location added me to Facebook but I never did anything with it and felt like a bitch.

[bel42]

Yes. I had lots of different things going on at that time and even though I liked him , I knew that the relationship wouldn't work out. I was too busy to start a relationship with someone. I didn't want him to go through that because he was a really great guy.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, that's happened to me multiple times. I have a hard time opening up to guys I actually really like. It kind of sucks. I guess I just don't like the vulnerability of it, but that's kind of dumb of me, because the guys I do go for end up liking me a lot more than I like them, which is no fun.

[Anonymous]

Yes, a guy that I dated and still really liked asked me to hang out with him. I said something about being too busy with school, probably because I was afraid of getting hurt... I also was not in the "best place" in my life at that point. I didn't think I could deal with it not working out, so I just stayed away.

[Opinion Owner]

Point being: staying away doesn't mean you don't like the person. It probably means there is/was some sort of pertinent fear there.

[LickCurlyToenails]

Yeah there was this one guy who liked me but I was so shy and nervous around him that I just kinda ignored him. I was upset for MONTHS because of what I did.

[FierceMegan]

Yes, out of fear of being used, or thinking,"why would he like me?" I have regret over it a lot. This happened twice to me. I have regret about it too.

[MrWrong]

Yeah. Usually it's what I'd perceive as bad chemistry (not so much them). There is truth to the whole personality > looks thing.

Anymore, and it's because I'm afraid that I can't trust them.

[Snar87]

If choosing between two girls then yes I have. I was interested in two girls at once an I had to choose one. I rejected about five other girls while I was dating one. I'm not sure this counts.

[Anonymous]

@update that's awesome! that means you just revealed everything to her! now go talk to her =D

[Asker]

wellll...not exactly hahaha, I didn't share the exact situation/story, or mentioned her, I just used the question topic, and I also said that 'i made that mistake plenty of times'..then 1 hour later she liked it. it shocked the hell out of me...

[Habakkuk]

yeah, because I thought they weren't serious

[Habakkuk]

as per the update: wow

[NayaAbouzaid]

Yeah I got intimidated so I backed off.

[moviedude714]

not really