Did you ever regret rejecting someone romantically?

[SmileyLady]

[Emmytexrex]

Nah if I reject someone is for a reason like a girl I rejected she was too clingy I have not even asked her out she has started telling everyone that I am her guy so that other girls will back off so I don't condole that I rejected her and yh

[Emmytexrex]

Thanks smiley for the mho

[Anonymous]

Yes when I was teenager
I was arrogant idiot
And several girls I just ignored until they left
I totally regret that now
Maybe I'm still doing it

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the spicy regret of missed connections! 🍦 I've seen it from both sides – the one who got away and the one who let them go. Regret can feel like wearing socks in the rain: awkward and a bit chilly. But remember, every experience, even the missed chances, helps shape our journey in love. 💖 So embrace the lessons, because who knows? That rejection might lead you to an even spicier romance. 😉

[mandyfire98]

I don't like rejecting anyone. It's always awkward for everyone involved and it's scary for me to do. I don't know what the outcome will be if I do it.

[NathanOlipop]

Sounds like you need to try and saturated the people who approach you to be less scary perhaps.

[mandyfire98]

Perhaps people shouldn't take rejection like it's a complete assault on their character and act out on that.

[NathanOlipop]

Simply saying things to let off some passive aggression toward someone online isn't going to change anybody and you know that. Tell us the type of locations these rejections end up occurring at so we can troubleshoot.

[mandyfire98]

And who exactly do you think I'm talking about specifically?
I gather you think this doesn't happen and women are just exaggerating? That men don't ever cause a scene and act negatively after rejection?

No I can't change anybody. I can't change the negativity and hostility that is spreading towards women online or in the real world. I didn't do anything to deserve any of it lol. Rejection isn't a reason to act hostile. It's part of life.

Grocery stores, college campuses, gym, parties, anywhere somebody can approach someone else.
Maybe I should just go to church, I don't go, maybe it's less likely there 😂

I've been called, slut, whore, ugly, fat once which is hilarious because I'm only 115 lbs lol.

Does this happen with every rejection? No, not at all. Has it happened too much? Definitely. Enough that it's worth calling attention to.

Maybe it's a testosterone issue?

[NathanOlipop]

It's not a testosterone issue, but a developmental issue. These are men who didn't develop emotional intelligence, but explains their lack of judgement before even trying to approach you. The reason for this is that men only have a few ways to express themselves and emotional intelligence doesn't develop in people who get left out or taught to express themselves with anger, which men are. I know because I am one.

Now let's talk about men who I know that have great emotional intelligence and didn't even get angry even after being cheated on. In order for me to develop emotional intelligence, something that lets me experience vulnerability rather you believe that or not (It's been a large number of funerals since I've cried), I had to be somewhere that allowed me to talk in a vulgar and inappropriate manner. The truth is, I hated when my parents talked vulgar in front of me as a child because it was disgusting and made me dislike a lot of expressions with vulgarity growing up, but here I am 34 years old and realizing that talking vulgar in a humorous manner was a great tool to gauge the reactions of others so long as I carefully place the comments. Our society today has essentially barred this from being allowed anywhere which causes men to only know to express themselves with anger because they have been programmed by sports coaches, parents, and other in person gate keepers of our society to not show vulnerability or not be allowed to play reindeer games with the rest of society. 1/2

[NathanOlipop]

In truth, many people will never develop or grow up, but since men are the culturally indoctrinated ones to approach a woman, you're also getting more traffic.

Now for my solution I would suggest for the problem.
1. Try to make a cultural shift to were women approach men instead of men approach women. This potentially could distract the bad men from approaching just everybody and anybody
2. Don't pretend the world revolves around you and decide to attack those who accidentally stepped on a landmine with no warning label and feminists that have removed the warning label most of the time (their clothes they use to express themselves)
3. Stigmatize people who complain about what people say purely out of offense as opposed to threats, the intent to act upon the threat, and actions that cause harm to the health of others

I'm sure I could come up with more. I could recommend getting a strong protector or hanging out with larger groups of women at the same time, maybe getting plenty of friends, however I can't say that will actually "fix" the issue that is a lack of emotional intelligence and disenfranchisement that when made worse, WILL eventually lead to even worse things in the future simply by judging the trends alone. 2/2

[mandyfire98]

Oh I don't mind people approaching me in general or asking me out overall. No issue.

I just expect people if rejected to respectfully accept it and move along peacefully, is all.

[NathanOlipop]

Fair. I misunderstood the tone of the message sorry.

[mandyfire98]

I think we might've misunderstood each other at some point. No worries

[PeachyPie93]

Two times..
The first was a guy I had a crush on he was my dads best friends son.. I liked him since we were 4 and our sisters made us kiss.. they always forced us to kiss or hold hands I liked him a lot but I felt he didn't actually like me, so when we were 12 our sisters told us to date and kiss so we did but I just thought it was because they told him to so I dumped him..
Second time was this guy I met on a dating app he was really nice, funny, friendly and good looking with a six pack. He asked me on a date and I cancelled 2 days before because I thought he was out of my league and I was really shy to meet him. I really should of went since it was only coffee and I doubt he would have been mean to me, even if he ended up not being interested..

[NathanDavis]

I didn't reject anyone

I just kindly had to let them know that I didn't feel the same way about them

having a thing for someone does not make you entitled to being accepted, therefore no rejection either

[SmileyLady]

Agreed 😊

[Bella138]

It's the definition of reject in a more polite and fancy way

[NathanDavis]

@Bella138 none of them felt rejected though... they just understood it

[NathanDavis]

and, I was being genuine.. not polite

[exitseven]

Yes, a girl I went to high school with wanted me to take her to the prom. She really was a sweet kid. I really did not like high school and wanted no part of it. She ended up having her cousin take her. Looking back I should have done it. It would have made her happy.

[IslaTheWitch]

no... I regret that I told him what I felt... but I learned :D

[ClassicDropout]

Nah. Fuck em. She didn't like me before I got a good job. Then suddenly after I get hired and get a new car she wants to "give me a chance." I'd rather shit in my hands and clap.

[Keyboardkat]

Well, that sure was graphic!

[NathanOlipop]

That's a very specific thing you would rather do. What inspired it?

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. This girl in middle school. I was an asshole. She was a very nice girl and I didn't treat her well. I regret it to this day. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Keyboardkat]

Well, now that you're over the old middle school angst, and you're 90 years old, maybe it's time to call her and apologize! Just kidding!

[Jamie05rhs]

@Keyboardkat Oh, that would be irrelevant now. She's married and she's doing extremely well in life. She definitely already won in every way. Haha

[slatyb]

Yes. I was offered an introduction to a lovely woman who had some acne scarring and I turned it down. I still regret it.

[alice55]

No but I regretted being awkward and make the guy thinking I didn't like him

[DerekC321]

I always regret it unless the person is a real jerk. I feel flattered that someone feels that way about me and I have regrets that I can't share their feelings

[nonchalantindividual]

I REGRET PURSUING A GIRL WHO CHEATED ON ME

ITS ALSO TRUE THAT MEN WILL RECEIVE THEIR FIRAT FLOWER AT THEIR FUNERAL BECAUSE WOMEN LOOK DOWN ON MEN WHO LOVE FLOWERS

[noohair]

I might regret being afraid of a certain person for a relationship. But that is ancient history...

[WatchedPot]

No. It either works or it doesn't. You can't force it or at least I wouldn't want to.

[Shihab_91]

Nope usually it was calculated, but i regret accepting people

[Nikki1989]

Nope. I always had good reasons.

[lin123_]

No but i regret not pursuing someone

[Anonymous]

never, i dislike everyone equally

[Keyboardkat]

You sound like a real joy to be around!

[dragoblack]

Nope. I'm always the one being rejected

[Keyboardkat]

Why would that be?

[dragoblack]

Because i don't play the petty bullshite, i treat women as people, i don't pamper random women, and I don't invest myself, time, and money in someone who won't treat me as a person, and equally invest their time & interest in me.

[Darkest-Knight]

No regrets at all.

[Delia2005]

No cause they tried to play me I saw throw them.

[ilover666]

yes but i date him now :))

[thatshydork]

Yeah

[Bella138]

I don't regret that

[red-lipstick-girl]

No, why would I be?

[LiamJHayden]

Never.

[Intheclouds00]

Of course

[In_Trance]

Never

[Slim57]

Nope

[eagle1951]

oh yes