Do you only date people that you think are in your league?

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LoU_Hades · Accepted Answer

This isn't a big psychological discovery that most people pick their partners on similar or higher attractiveness level, if there is no other need like money or social status.
Hence thinking "she/he is outside my league" very likely an illusion of individual self-perception.
That's why people think instinctively about money if they see a pretty girl with an ugly manlet or handsome stallion with an older good conserved lady. (sometimes is this just a son and his mother LOL)

NearlyNapping · Accepted Answer

There is no such thing as being in a league. There are only people who have preferences, but I will never assume what their preferences are. If I am interested in a 10/10 who happens to be a princess who is in line for the throne, I'd go for it. Do I know the end result? Almost certainly, but I'd go for it anyway. Maybe she'll like me.

I have dated from 4 to 9.5. It has no bearing.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

It usually seems that way, that or I date guys people consider are "below" me (that really depends on one's perspective though).

Not on purpose, but I guess I always thought I wasn't good or attractive enough to date a hot, "10" guy. I figure most attractive guys will just look at me, laugh, or not even acknowledge me.

So I tend to look for guys that are below or at my league to lessen my chances of being rejected.

Account · Accepted Answer

I don't know about leagues. Usually: If they are insane, I end up wanting them. That is all there is to it.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I don't recognize the validity of "leagues" or stratified classes.

milkes · Answer

No matter what people say there are grades/leagues, based on personality, willingness to life, approaches to many things. The way people look is in a high level dependant on how people live their life + dna.
Coming back to question - yes, I would date someone from different environment. In general people are equal go each other, so why not. Same so called league girl might not be the one if there is no chemistry between us.

wankiam · Answer

for me no... i have dated all sorts of women and its been that way because i ignore the notion of leagues. yes i have been that guy that others look at and ask what the hell she is doing with me and my simple answer to that is because i talked to her like a human being

Ronald_25 · Answer

No, that is absolute bullshit, you come to someone because they look attractive, you stay because you love them for who they are mentally and spiritually. I am a free spirit and I was confused why girls were still dating me a couple of years ago when I was depressed, emotional and very overweight. It's not all about physical appearances.

blutwolfe · Answer

yes kinda, but more so along the line of 'types'. Like there's the cut and paste league where you're an average Joe then wondering why a celebrity isn't returning your calls. Like hollywood would be in a league of its own, kinda why they only date in their league.

Like for most of us its either you're attractive or you're not, I wouldn't call it much of a league.

silvermoon84 · Answer

I don’t think about leagues. Connection is more important. If he happens to resemble Bradley Cooper that’s awesome. If he doesn’t but he has a good heart, good personality and makes me laugh, that’s more important.

lightbulb27 · Answer

no, id date below or above my league, but I have only dated within my league as that is what I'm attracted to and what I have available. maybe that is an insulte the girls I've dated, but my league is pretty wide...

Cruciatusdeatheater · Answer

I try to date anyone that I like. I’ve gotten with people out of my league and one way out. It just depends on you and what you can bring to the table.

Blair1994 · Answer

Its better just to chat to various people and see what happens. Maybe you will settle down with a 10 or find true love with a 4.  Relationships are a lot more complicated than "leagues".

dembones · Answer

NOPE. LOL. When I like someone I try to talk at first like trying to assess them, just like friends and being a bit pushy. Depending how things go I keep pushing until y think I can start flirting. I don't really think about if they are in my league, I go for it lol.

Aguysopinion4799 · Answer

I have yet to find anyone that is in my league, everyone seems to be in a higher league than me... I might eventually find someone in the same league but who knows, right?

WinterAurelia · Answer

If I dated in my league of looks, nobody would be here. If I dated in terms if personality, I would find many amazing people so, no

s2firestar · Answer

If I followed that principle, I would be out of the league of almost every fucking person on earth over the virtue of my job.

I find this whole league idea a bullshit sentiment that people make up to feel better about themselves.

Avicenna · Answer

I don't think about a woman in those terms. It's just about whether she is interesting and whether I think we'd enjoy spending time with each other.

hot70sguy61 · Answer

no.. I date all women... what I look for is chemistry... I believe a man should date many women... that way he will learn all the different types in the world and appreciate them...

NYCstreetPhotog · Answer

Leagues don't exist. Personal charm, intelegence, and confidence, are the only deciding factors.

GingerGuy · Answer

I have never believed in that. Everyone is equal. A human being!

loki35 · Answer

Well if I haven't dated in over 10 years and I don't really see myself as high ranking, I guess yeah I seem to stay in my league.

standardguy · Answer

It is a mixture. If she is very pretty or very much younger I can compensate by my education and titles. But if she is young, beautiful and gas a great job I let her dating another person.

BIGGESTD39 · Answer

I've dated weman that were way out my league but I had money then i made the choice to step away from that life a few years ago and now I just dot care

yeeeeeeeet · Answer

If I date someone, they're clearly in my league lol.

zagor · Answer

No. I date people who: 1. I find attractive (and no, that doesn't just mean looks) and 2. Are willing to date me.

Nicaragua · Answer

thats a horrible way to see people as numbers or just value them by their looks

Shark_61695 · Answer

If everyone else is playing tennis, I'm playing squash.

Browneye57 · Answer

SMV is not a 'league'. It's a value, and a severe mis-match really never works out that well.

winterfox10 · Answer

I don't really think leagues exists, so I'm not sure how to answer

Swat_ · Answer

Man if I believed in leagues I'd never date anyone 😆

poneglyphs · Answer

I don't date cuz no one likes me anyway, so everyone is out of my league

Luijo · Answer

I try, with a hello at least, if she answers we can talk and see what happens, if she don't say anything i just move on

Pulimuli · Answer

I honestly have no idea exactly where i stand and I've Been with a wide variety of women ranging from average to very hot So my answer is no

DDpsy · Answer

No because absolutely everybody is below my leagues so I will always be forced to settle.

13IsALuckyNumber · Answer

No. I will date above or below as long as long as I want to be with her because of her personality.

Satanicpriest · Answer

I only league down lack of confidence low self-esteem those are the qualities I look for

Anonymous · Answer

I dont want a man who looks like a model or who is wealthy 'cause i dont want to date someone who is loved and desired by every woman. My jelousy can't handle this

SuitAndTie · Answer

I date girls I find attractive. I don't even think about leagues.

JoinMyDream · Answer

There are leagues? Why was I never told this? Is that why Beyoncé won’t return my calls? LOL

Guanfei · Answer

No, because if I did, I wouldn't even date a dead tree.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

No. Thats why i dont date hos or single moms or career women or older women.

constantine15 · Answer

Yes, I'll reject a girl if I think she's too pretty and out of my league.

megaman242 · Answer

One step down, in my league and above is the only thing I date.

Arct1c_Ch0k3 · Answer

Yo if a girl or guy is cute and you like them ask them out. Whats the worst that can happen. (they could say no)

ToddTaylor · Answer

No anymore I admit I'm trying to find a really pretty lady that has a beautiful personality to match her looks

warrior0345 · Answer

I haven’t dated but I probably would stick to this rule I had this really attractive blonde completely humiliate me.

Shiningtempest · Answer

I only date people that I think are in my league to avoid heartbreak.

BrotherFrost · Answer

Please. I am first going to test a girl out if she is even close to my level.

David_Bayer · Answer

The league thing isn't really widespread in my country

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Yes. Because if you try to date someone who's out of your league, then it will come to bite you

Terryk808 · Answer

No there is no league. its about Finding the right one to love

aceruser101 · Answer

i cannot get date regardless if their in my league or not!

Alfie_Solomons · Answer

I don't date anyone at all, girls just don't like me.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know of many women who are out of my league  I'M OUT OF THEIR LEAGUE HONESTLY  there are so few women in my league they are hard to find

aficionado · Answer

Everyone is above my league.

BestUserName100 · Answer

Yep wouldn’t even waste my time if not.

Hey_uoy · Answer

Unless I'm in love, yes

GermanGuy87 · Answer

no I will date out of my league

eshedd · Answer

Uh, everyone is out of my league soooooooo…

Ripper_E · Answer

No, because there is no such thing as a league

unluckyplant710 · Answer

Honestly yes absolutely.

Nobody-gives-a-finch · Answer

No one's in my league. I always have to date up.

Gedaria · Answer

No , if we hit it off , go ahead ….

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