Would you only date those you are highly attracted to?

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Around 70% of guys look good to me and 0.2% look EXTREMELY good to me. I heard of men and woman claiming love at first sight but I think finding a guy I am highly physically attracted to is such an uncommon event, I won’t try to base my romantic pursuits on that. I am happy with a normal looking guy, even if he is ugly.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

I will date a girl who has a great personality and looks don't matter to me I feel this way some people set their standards too high

IronsKev · Accepted Answer

No maybe when I was a kid but as an adult I appreciate much more about a partner

t-8900 · Answer

She doesn't have to be super attractive. She can be a plain jane. I have said many times physically my main concern above all else is GOOD HYGIENE! If you dont have that then forget it, you're out. You got that down? Okay! Now do you love to cuddle? Are you naturally nurturing? Are you loyal to your man? These are what go from getting your foot in the door to getting into my heart.

Cherry234 · Answer

I wouldn't exclusively date the most handsome men but I want to date someone I find decently attractive. Even if he's considered average looking, I could still be attracted to him. It's not like I would only date guys that look like a 9 or a 10 because that's unrealistic. But I do think it's reasonable to want someone decently attractive. Also, attraction can't be forced. You shouldn't force yourself to date someone you're not attracted to. That's common sense. I do admit that I'm a sucker for a handsome face though

Shortman70 · Answer

If you wait for someone that looks perfect, you're gonna miss out on thousands of chances on love and happiness. Looks should only be a very small part of the attraction you have for someone. It's the little imperfections that catch my eye and makes you memorable. That's why I don't like a woman with a lot of makeup. They all to start looking the same with all that crap on.

Shizunk · Answer

To me there is a minimum threshold. Once I like a girl enough to be fine with having her around, being more attractive gets you diminishing returns. It's still motivating, but the importance drops off quickly.
There are women who showed interest and I didn't rerurn it purely due to insufficient attractiveness. But that is rare.

Spookydood · Answer

Would i *only* date girls i find physically attractive? Nah, but it's probably true I'd pursue the girls I do a lot harder.

When I was single if she seemed really interesting or we shared a lot of the same interests or hell even if i was curious about bumping uglies with her, physical attractiveness didn't keep me from trying.

Miristheiss · Answer

We may be playing semantics here.

I definitely had to be attracted to the one I got romantic with and wanted to pursue.
So yes I had to find her attractive. "Highly"?
Everyone can probably interpret this differently as to what you mean.

I can find a very average girl who is just kind of cute but plain attractive and would have wanted to date her. I didn't need/want some swimsuit model and nothing else. I didn't care of everyone else found her attractive.

DCooper · Answer

I'll only date a girl if she's between 5'4" and 5'8", 120-130 pounds, medium length brunette, and she has to make at least 6 figures

Blackcupcake · Answer

I'm not attracted to looks... I can see someone and think that they look good, but that's it. I don't feel any attraction. What attracts me to a guy is everything that's going on in his brain. It starts with genuine interest and curiosity based on how they express themselves and that could grow into an attraction then based on how much we've spoken, gotten to know each other and also most important, how much interest he shows back.

GoldenCage · Answer

I prefer average looking men who are humble about their looks. Not too hot and not too ugly. Not too shy and not an egomaniac frat boy

TheTerryTheory · Answer

Finding the perfect girl isn't easy at all, I think that being greatful for who you're with and what you have is the best you can do, and seeing their true colours and loving them, flaws and all, is already more than good enough to me.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I generally date 7s and above. But if she's a 6.7 or a 6.8 then I might make an exception if she has a REALLY good personality.

mynameisanya · Answer

personality is super important to me personally. if a guy has a shitty attitude but is physically attractive, i will be not as attracted to him. usually I don’t have a crush on a guy until i get to know him, then i start thinking he is physically attractive

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Yes, if it's a girl from a dating app.
In real life it's different. Your friend has a girlfriend, his girlfriend comes to a party with her obese friend. Somehow you feel a chemistry to this obese girl and you land in bed with her, even thought you wouldn't date her if she would approach you in a bar or in dating app.
Women who have nothing that appears sexy are extremely rare. Most girls have something that is highly attractive but on dating apps it's difficult to fall for those things.

boxxie2002 · Answer

Not only attractive people. But I would consider them first, as often people become more or less attractive as you get to know them.

ChiPaPa · Answer

Id only have like two ladies I've met like that. No.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I'll only date a woman that makes an effort for me. I know who I am. I'm quite happy single. If you want me to be part of your life prove that you bring something to mine other than just baggage.

anylolone · Answer

Only attracted is enough. Which means I can select for moral women.

_Troian_ · Answer

Yeah, I can only date with ones I find highly attractive and very feminine. I like hot women but if she is not that hot, however very feminine ( submissive, obedient etc. ) then it will turn me on and make me to be with her.

zaharuh · Answer

Personally yes, I don't want to spend a long time with someone that I'm not attracted to.

Bobby4488 · Answer

Nope, I would date one I like whether she is attractive or not

NicoletteXO · Answer

I only date men who I am highly attracted to; physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

I date those that are highly attractive on the outside and the inside. One needs someone who is capable of loving another person. In my experience, the very very hot women were boring and bad lays.

butterfingersaredope · Answer

Highly yes. Only the 70% when you don't have a highly around

nawtee_me · Answer

You are a rare woman indeed... Looks are not as important as the people themselves are. Looks change over time but what is in the heart remains...

Babygirl_S · Answer

He has to be above average and humble about his looks. I don't like snotty guys.

dragoblack · Answer

Yes, because why would I date those i find unattractive

Anonymous · Answer

Pretty much but problem is will they date me being average

alance99 · Answer

Looks dont matter much to me

lonelyguyintheworld · Answer

Nope equal opportunities

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

That's good, I agree with you.

Anonymous · Answer

I think so. I couldn't pursue anyone I'm not attracted to.

Anonymous · Answer

Women are just weird man. Leave them and focus on yourself and your own happiness

serious · Answer

I will never date in any scenario.

Slim57 · Answer

Nah but at least some attraction

Grubhub · Answer

Yep, exactly why I predominantly like latinas

Lonely888 · Answer

Nope

lazermazer · Answer

Do i look good?

LegendaryIcon · Answer

Yeah I would

MattSherman · Answer

High standards?

Julious0202 · Answer

Yes, I would

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