Do you date according to your “league”?

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shortster · Accepted Answer

I think that the concept of leagues ignores the fact that what you find attractive isn't always what everyone else finds attractive. Leagues would only make sense if beauty was less subjective and more objective than it actually is.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Pretty much. Thats the way the world works.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Considering I'm what most would classify as "bottom" or below most peoples leagues? I try not to think about that, lol. I will be honest when I say I usually veer away from guys that are "too attractive" simply for the fact I realize I don't have a chance with them because: they're already taken, married, gay, or not interested in me.

And no, I'm not to be cynical or hard on myself, but one of those situations is usually the case. So I set realistic standards and just go after guys that I assume are mutually interested in me as well.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I don't accept the concept of "league."

dynamicyandere · Answer

That doesn’t even cross my mind. It’s more things like: Are we compatible or not? How good is our chemistry? Do we vibe?

Though, I suppose certain lifestyle choices and interests indirectly requires people to be in a certain “league” for me to be interested.

Like, a healthy lifestyle is part of my life and that’s not something I want to downgrade. I eat healthy, I work out, I don’t do drugs. I will be most compatible with someone that lives a similar lifestyle. But that will require them to have their sh*t together in this area.

I also enjoy deep philosophical discussions and being able to talk about relationships, spirituality, and existentialism. That’s going to require them to be able to articulate themselves well and be intelligent enough to dive into those discussions with me.

Continual self-improvement is also a core part of who I am. I want to be with someone who will grow together with me. I want to be with someone where we will be able to help each other become better people. That aspect of personal growth is important to me. They would need to have progressed in their character enough to also value and practice personal growth.

All those things are needed for the chemistry to work well.

And that’s not even everything…

But, with just those examples, they would need to be healthy, intelligent, and value personal growth.

That already excludes a lot of people.

But, leagues are subjective, so I wouldn’t consider people that don’t meet my standards as below my “league”. I’d just consider it a lack of compatibility.

TenderFantasy · Answer

Unfortunately no. I think I should have. I learned the hard way. There's a REASON why some people are in worse shape in life than me. Not being rude just being honest. Some of it is self-inflicted and they' don't even realize it. For example, I met AND fell in love with a 47-year-old caucasian drug addict with mental health and financial issues and various criminal records. But that is because we spent TIME together back in 2016 on and off for many years! And during that time, I was trying to improve myself and my situation in life, but he wasn't! He even got worse! But because I LOVED and CARED about him, I even took him to the E. R. one day a few months ago (even for something non-life threatening), and there, I saw someone throwing up, it was gross and I got scared that I might catch covid there so I never even stepped foot in there when I saw that middle aged white lady doing that! It was traumatic and sadly, I can't turn back the time with that. I'll have to live with the fact that I saw that. *sigh* I should have respected myself enough to say no to certain people and not have been THAT in love and caring and desparate to help and fix someone!

WonderBell99 · Answer

I could not care less about those supposed leagues. Someone will always be out of my league; I date who I'm attracted to. If someone interests me, it is because I find them attractive, love their personality and their companionship. If my partner thinks he is out of my league, he probably should not be with me then. I want to be the girl of his dreams. if he feels like he is just 'settling' for me, maybe we should not be together..

melanieeeB · Answer

When I was younger I did care about leagues but I know better now lol

But to go with this question, as a teen I definitely dated "below my league", cause I didn't think much of myself and didn't think I could get the guys who I used to see as "way above my l.", until I realized that I can get those guys easily and what became my standard.
Now I would "say" I date in my "league" but I get to hear often from guys I dated or even had a relationship with, that I "deserve someone better than them" ... I don't know what all of this means lmao

MCheetah · Answer

No. Cause then I'd be dating female convicts, overweight single mothers, and drag queens! 😂

I'm not picky about looks. I just want a girl who's TALL, kind, has morals and ethics, and most of all, is into me! Also, what I consider to be attractive is what many men do not want (thick, big women), so you can't say I'm going after (your idea of) 8s and 9s.

I just want my 5'10" thick, big-booty Waifu with triple-D's and a kind heart like Vanessa here! 😭

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

I have not dated yet, but even subconsciously, I would only reach out to the girl that I think I can win over right?

First, I need to feel comfortable asking her out or even establishing the first contact, right? The other things enter the scene after that, I guess.

I myself don't know if I will be able to get out of my league or not, but, I have a crazy level of craziness and confidence. Or so my friends have told me. I can work on that in this direction as well and ask someone out sometime.

One thing I have found is that many beautiful girls are single on average, just because there are very few genuine guys mustering up the courage to ask them out. They, obviously, do not even want other types of guys asking them out, it seems.

SEL195 · Answer

I would say i date a little bit below my league because i don't trust a handsome man or some guy who has everything i find attractive. So i have to be the hotter one in the relationship otherwise i feel they would cheat. But ugly guys cheat to so that reasoning makes no sense 😂😂 but in my weird mind it makes sense

Biancam13 · Answer

Not "leagues", but I tend to date people who I think are similar to me in some aspects. I think it's more of a subconscious thing than a conscious thing though. I do think that subconsciously we tend to be attracted to people who have similar qualities to us.

Topaz1979 · Answer

I date within my league because I date people who have an interest in dating me as well and I believe that's what makes them within my league. I do realize that society has set leagues through things like attractiveness levels, wealth levels, intelligence levels stuff like that but even so If a person is attracted to you and they genuinely want to pursue a relationship with you then it means they see you as being within their league, that's often the case in my view.

Avatar74 · Answer

I don't use any form of league analogy, I am what I am, I'm reasonably good looking and have found that some very attractive looking women have found me attractive whilst others don't, it's the same with women who are less attractive some find me attractive some don't.

Its all a question of personal taste in my opinion.

Dominique95glee · Answer

No some people do but not me I don’t care if he/she is a dork or nerdy if they love me treat me with care kindness and they are loyal and trustworthy and sweet and we have Communication that’s all that should matter it should not matter if was is for example a cheerleader and other on the Academics club or one is rich other one not rich enough should never matter

ohsheeT · Answer

I have no League but I like somebody I like them and I guess if they're going to give me a label of what kind of League I'm in and I probably don't even want to be around them there's nobody better than anybody else in this world there's people that have different opportunities that other people and while everybody grows so do their opportunities within themselves but I have enough label so I don't need anymore

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

In life if you never try you will never know & when it comes to matters of the heart I rather try & fail rather than not to try at all. As for me I date & I don’t care if the girl is out of my league or under my league.

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

Confidence and self respect will put you in a much higher “league.” League is a social construct that you can decide for yourself who is where, and where you are. You know society put’s the big butt blonde bitches that got money on a pedestal… but the confidence will put you on the same thing

Crafteroon · Answer

I date someone I am attracted to and are interested in.

Going for someone based on their looks alone is pretty much "judging a book by its cover." You can miss someone that can touch you deeply if you stop going for people below or above your league.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I don't know about leagues but my ex was a 10/10 half-white man. I must feel attracted to the person a lot in order to date them. I don't date if I'm only a little interseted. I always thought he was way above me but he called me beautiful. I still miss him.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I don’t categorise myself into a league. I am a good person… and I am confident and I do know that I am attractive. so my choice in a potential partner would be someone who is compatible with my personality, someone who is also a genuinely good person, and who also takes care of himself just like I do.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

Fuck. Leagues. If you settle for less, you're going to get used to dating them when you could hunt and catch that solid 10. Always go for the diamond, not the 'somewhat pretty rock'

LarryTheLunarLunatic · Answer

A real question ! all right! thank you !!

This is so fun to answer. After all is discovered, the league picks who you date.

I enjoy league play, I usually forget any sort of superior, inferior ego status that doesn't exist but inside your mind.

Guardian45 · Answer

As a neurodivergent, I am sometimes clueless in that regard, just as I am about following fashion rules. If I meet someone physically and personality-wise attractive to me, then I say F@#% the rules and what anyone has to say about it. I'm NOT a sheeple.

BlueScorpio · Answer

My response of would been, so you agree.. you think it's small. Sorry but I always have come with clap back or comeback lol

Macaron02 · Answer

League is just a term used to make people feel worse or better, like my Mom who I do love used that term on my crush look wise; and honestly it's offensive; so no I don't date according to my league

genericname85 · Answer

wow. i love this burn in the chat you posted xD obviously everyone aims slightly up. only men date down sometimes cause it's competitive enough in their own league. let's not kid ourselfes: pussy is the more sought after good, not dick.

DJB72 · Answer

No, but I do tend towards staying in my own species...

AsaKyo · Answer

I don't really have a league I guess? Aha, I hope you don't block me pinay lmao

Adam1978 · Answer

I am a guy, I can't date outside my league, I would simply get rejected. So all dates would be within my league.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i never have. i think low self-esteem lowers your attractiveness

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I guess? But maybe my league is higher than I originally thought. I’ve dated some hotties and I tend to think of my own appearance as extremely average

Pyrofox · Answer

If size is all that matters you have a very small idea of the world XD.

jaadu_14 · Answer

I don't Lolllllllllll dating is not my thing i just stare and move on

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

Everybody is imperfect regardless to their physical advantages. Everybody's poo smells like poo not roses. No-one is special. BUT when it comes to mental and emotional intelligence there could be classifications

carlgpfeifer · Answer

I love dating girl out on a date I just like to take nice and easy with girl just have nice time with her just have feel relaxed on date in eveiñg with warm dinner going to movies coming home getting ready for bed in eveiñg

AviatorTom · Answer

I've never consider what league I, or the person I'm dating, are in.

NurseMel4 · Answer

No. I just date everyone. I like having fun. Friends, or more, it’s all ok with me.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I date women I find attractive, that find me attractive. Since they seldom occur together I seldom date.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Of course I do, otherwise there'd be no one for me to date

TroyDT2 · Answer

I date those who attract me and who then say "Yes." Some are drop dead gorgeous. Others are Plain Janes.

Juxtapose · Answer

Leagues are for losers with low self-esteem or bullies who want to feel like they're better than everyone else when really they're just as scared and lost as the rest of us.

nawtee_me · Answer

to me there is no league... I do not put one person in front of others. That is what the world wants everyone to believe but are we all not made equal?

shaysh87 · Answer

yes, i do. But there aren't that many guys that are completely out of my league. Most guys are average looking or cute. Its uncommon to find a guy who looks like a 9 out of 10. I go for guys who are cute, handsome, but not bombshell hot.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

Leagues are stupid, I could think I’m out of someone’s league another person could think that they’re out of my league and so on, it doesn’t make sense

my_name_is__ · Answer

I don't think there's such thing as a league in dating.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I date women who are kind-hearted, like to kiss, like to cuddle, like to hug

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

What bar In what category of what league  I think everyone has different ideas of what a relationship should look like.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

I date a girl of any race or category as long as got a great nice personality an doesn't matter hair color ether

Pudsmucker · Answer

It would be wise that you marry within your own language. It's so you can better communicate with your companion.

Iron_Man · Answer

I don’t believe in that it’s all about the persons heart and their character and values

Lina26 · Answer

What do you mean by league? class, looks? This question is very deep and can be discussed in various ways.

magiusX26 · Answer

when i cared to, i think no. most of my EXs people say were way out of my league

Fuentes · Answer

I just like chick's with phat asses and nice face

Thatnyguy87 · Answer

Obesssion over lables is damning you are the only one who defines your limitations. people either like you or dont. If the dont. Who cares.

BlurryHaze · Answer

Never heard of leagues before. I connect with people I am able to connect with and am attracted to people i find attractive. Simple as.

BJP21 · Answer

No there is compatibility along all leagues. Even if its out of mine.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Well in my dating years, I dated according to cute and available.

MrTaboo · Answer

If people only knew that "leagues" are the reason relationships don't work.

Jerre · Answer

No, I date according to the women I am interested in. And all can’t believe how big I am.

Hanrej · Answer

I date who I'm attracted to. I feel it's up to them to decide what league I play in.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Nope.. we are all humans... we are all on the same league...

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