I think that the concept of leagues ignores the fact that what you find attractive isn't always what everyone else finds attractive. Leagues would only make sense if beauty was less subjective and more objective than it actually is.
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Pretty much. Thats the way the world works.
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Considering I'm what most would classify as "bottom" or below most peoples leagues? I try not to think about that, lol. I will be honest when I say I usually veer away from guys that are "too attractive" simply for the fact I realize I don't have a chance with them because: they're already taken, married, gay, or not interested in me.
And no, I'm not to be cynical or hard on myself, but one of those situations is usually the case. So I set realistic standards and just go after guys that I assume are mutually interested in me as well.
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I don't accept the concept of "league."
That doesn’t even cross my mind. It’s more things like: Are we compatible or not? How good is our chemistry? Do we vibe?
Though, I suppose certain lifestyle choices and interests indirectly requires people to be in a certain “league” for me to be interested.
Like, a healthy lifestyle is part of my life and that’s not something I want to downgrade. I eat healthy, I work out, I don’t do drugs. I will be most compatible with someone that lives a similar lifestyle. But that will require them to have their sh*t together in this area.
I also enjoy deep philosophical discussions and being able to talk about relationships, spirituality, and existentialism. That’s going to require them to be able to articulate themselves well and be intelligent enough to dive into those discussions with me.
Continual self-improvement is also a core part of who I am. I want to be with someone who will grow together with me. I want to be with someone where we will be able to help each other become better people. That aspect of personal growth is important to me. They would need to have progressed in their character enough to also value and practice personal growth.
All those things are needed for the chemistry to work well.
And that’s not even everything…
But, with just those examples, they would need to be healthy, intelligent, and value personal growth.
That already excludes a lot of people.
But, leagues are subjective, so I wouldn’t consider people that don’t meet my standards as below my “league”. I’d just consider it a lack of compatibility.Unfortunately no. I think I should have. I learned the hard way. There's a REASON why some people are in worse shape in life than me. Not being rude just being honest. Some of it is self-inflicted and they' don't even realize it. For example, I met AND fell in love with a 47-year-old caucasian drug addict with mental health and financial issues and various criminal records. But that is because we spent TIME together back in 2016 on and off for many years! And during that time, I was trying to improve myself and my situation in life, but he wasn't! He even got worse! But because I LOVED and CARED about him, I even took him to the E. R. one day a few months ago (even for something non-life threatening), and there, I saw someone throwing up, it was gross and I got scared that I might catch covid there so I never even stepped foot in there when I saw that middle aged white lady doing that! It was traumatic and sadly, I can't turn back the time with that. I'll have to live with the fact that I saw that. *sigh* I should have respected myself enough to say no to certain people and not have been THAT in love and caring and desparate to help and fix someone!
I could not care less about those supposed leagues. Someone will always be out of my league; I date who I'm attracted to. If someone interests me, it is because I find them attractive, love their personality and their companionship. If my partner thinks he is out of my league, he probably should not be with me then. I want to be the girl of his dreams. if he feels like he is just 'settling' for me, maybe we should not be together..
When I was younger I did care about leagues but I know better now lol
But to go with this question, as a teen I definitely dated "below my league", cause I didn't think much of myself and didn't think I could get the guys who I used to see as "way above my l.", until I realized that I can get those guys easily and what became my standard.
Now I would "say" I date in my "league" but I get to hear often from guys I dated or even had a relationship with, that I "deserve someone better than them" ... I don't know what all of this means lmaoNo. Cause then I'd be dating female convicts, overweight single mothers, and drag queens! 😂
I'm not picky about looks. I just want a girl who's TALL, kind, has morals and ethics, and most of all, is into me! Also, what I consider to be attractive is what many men do not want (thick, big women), so you can't say I'm going after (your idea of) 8s and 9s.
I have not dated yet, but even subconsciously, I would only reach out to the girl that I think I can win over right?
First, I need to feel comfortable asking her out or even establishing the first contact, right? The other things enter the scene after that, I guess.
I myself don't know if I will be able to get out of my league or not, but, I have a crazy level of craziness and confidence. Or so my friends have told me. I can work on that in this direction as well and ask someone out sometime.
One thing I have found is that many beautiful girls are single on average, just because there are very few genuine guys mustering up the courage to ask them out. They, obviously, do not even want other types of guys asking them out, it seems.
I would say i date a little bit below my league because i don't trust a handsome man or some guy who has everything i find attractive. So i have to be the hotter one in the relationship otherwise i feel they would cheat. But ugly guys cheat to so that reasoning makes no sense 😂😂 but in my weird mind it makes sense
Not "leagues", but I tend to date people who I think are similar to me in some aspects. I think it's more of a subconscious thing than a conscious thing though. I do think that subconsciously we tend to be attracted to people who have similar qualities to us.
I date within my league because I date people who have an interest in dating me as well and I believe that's what makes them within my league. I do realize that society has set leagues through things like attractiveness levels, wealth levels, intelligence levels stuff like that but even so If a person is attracted to you and they genuinely want to pursue a relationship with you then it means they see you as being within their league, that's often the case in my view.
I don't use any form of league analogy, I am what I am, I'm reasonably good looking and have found that some very attractive looking women have found me attractive whilst others don't, it's the same with women who are less attractive some find me attractive some don't.
Its all a question of personal taste in my opinion.
No some people do but not me I don’t care if he/she is a dork or nerdy if they love me treat me with care kindness and they are loyal and trustworthy and sweet and we have Communication that’s all that should matter it should not matter if was is for example a cheerleader and other on the Academics club or one is rich other one not rich enough should never matter
I have no League but I like somebody I like them and I guess if they're going to give me a label of what kind of League I'm in and I probably don't even want to be around them there's nobody better than anybody else in this world there's people that have different opportunities that other people and while everybody grows so do their opportunities within themselves but I have enough label so I don't need anymore
In life if you never try you will never know & when it comes to matters of the heart I rather try & fail rather than not to try at all. As for me I date & I don’t care if the girl is out of my league or under my league.
Confidence and self respect will put you in a much higher “league.” League is a social construct that you can decide for yourself who is where, and where you are. You know society put’s the big butt blonde bitches that got money on a pedestal… but the confidence will put you on the same thing
I date someone I am attracted to and are interested in.
Going for someone based on their looks alone is pretty much "judging a book by its cover." You can miss someone that can touch you deeply if you stop going for people below or above your league.I don't know about leagues but my ex was a 10/10 half-white man. I must feel attracted to the person a lot in order to date them. I don't date if I'm only a little interseted. I always thought he was way above me but he called me beautiful. I still miss him.
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I don’t categorise myself into a league. I am a good person… and I am confident and I do know that I am attractive. so my choice in a potential partner would be someone who is compatible with my personality, someone who is also a genuinely good person, and who also takes care of himself just like I do.
Fuck. Leagues. If you settle for less, you're going to get used to dating them when you could hunt and catch that solid 10. Always go for the diamond, not the 'somewhat pretty rock'
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