Would you prefer to go out with a quiet or a talkative person?

[coachTanthony]

[UnknownReflection]

Talkative.

I am talkative and i prefer talkative.

What bothers me is the misconception some people have about this trait. Who says being talkative means speaking nonsense endlessly all the time? that's an absolute crappy understanding of what talkative stands for.

Talkative means we are good at expressing ourselves and when a talkative person is educated enough, they also become good with words. We can express and explore our emotions better than the rest. We have this ability to get detailed and give depth to our explanations. We have higher chance to be good orators, speech givers and story-tellers both in writing and vocally.

Being talkative means we enjoy engaging conversations. We desire to talk and communicate with our surroundings because communication is an essential tool for gaining knowledge, sharing information and a key to solve any presented possible problem. We love the details and find them crucial within a conversation.

Being Talkative, does not equal being inconsiderate, empty-mouthed, rude and noisy. That goes down to one's personality set-up and does not represent the whole talkative population. I'm talkative, it doesn't mean i don't appreciate silence or generally being alone either or that i will engage conversation and always have something to say regardless of where i am, whom i am with and what is the condition. Everything is a matter of the right time, the right moment and the right group of people. Period.

[OlderAndWiser]

It is easier to get a quiet person to open up and talk than it is to get a talkative person to stop blabbering!

[coachTanthony]

I think I would agree with that!

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO, Coach!

[Screenwriter]

It's most pleasant when you can have a conversation with someone that involves give and take. Sometimes they're quieter when you're talkative, sometimes they're talkative with you're quieter, and when it's necessary both of you are able to listen to the other when that's what needs to happen.

[coachTanthony]

Give and take would be ideal that is for sure!

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Quiet!! I think most people are not comfortable with quietness.. I dont want someone talking non stop when I just want to go for a relaxing walk with company or watching the sky or a movie... I am a quiet person I get overwhelmed with non stop talking.

[coachTanthony]

Non stop talking... yuck. There needs to be a good balance for sure!

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Yes I agree but id take silence and peace over worried filled chattering

[Screenwriter]

There's a time and place for silence too!

[PeacefulRainDrop]

I agree Screenwriter and thanks for MHO!

[AmandaYVR]

I like this q. Talkative or not so talkative probably doesn't matter that much, but I need a calm person. I don't like people with a frenetic energy. I have often said over the years, "That person needs a tranquilizer. I'd inject them with a shot to calm them down, if I could." I like fast talkers more than slow talkers, though I know that can overwhelm some people... they like the opposite. But I'd rather discuss more things, and more in depth, than a slow conversation that really drags. I like it to be stimulating and fun or intense and serious. I don't find many conversations awkward anymore, except for small talk when first meeting someone. I suck in groups and crowds, but I can talk to pretty much anyone one-on-one. I like them to be equal, with both people contributing, interested, and getting equal air time. No one should feel railroaded or like they're in interview mode. On a date, or when first getting to know someone, if one person doesn't ask questions or dominates the conversation not out of enthusiasm but lack of awareness... well they may not be someone worth pursuing. Unless you give them a head's up and see if they adapt quickly, change their behaviour. Some people can change, too.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Seeing as I'm a quiet and shy person (until you get to know me and I come out of my shell; then I'm pretty talkative!), probably someone who is talkative because I find that conversation will come more easily and natural. I get nervous having to be the one to keep the conversation going and try to find things to talk about.

[jennifer_bloom]

I have never dated a quiet person so I don't know but loud people are interesting - some stay interesting after you get to know them and others become boring over time.

[Jackieboi]

Both have pros and cons, but at least with a talker you dont have to worry about awkward silences and you can just zone out if theyre talking too much or try adding something. With a silent gal i think itll just make me insecure and wonder if she's silent cause she's regretting coming unless she's visibly shy. Or at least pulls a "sry if i seem far away/preoccupied/uninterested, but somethin somethin reason" doesn't even have to be a legit reason as long as she notifies me that she's aware of it.

[coachTanthony]

awkward silences... is she really interested or not.. no doubt!

[Jackieboi]

Nothing creates more pressure on both parties and more of a black chasm of insecurity than the awkwars silence. I rather she talks about her shoes😅

[Moonchild714]

I'm Talkative so I like Talkative. But there have been relationships where we were too talkative, so the guy needs to be less talkative than me. People hated going out with us One they couldn't get a word in and two they couldn't keep up with our conversation as we were in different parts of the convo... LOL

[coachTanthony]

Too talkative is really bad!

[Moonchild714]

Especially when both partners very talkative. The first question my brothers actually ask boyriends is how do they deal with me Talking all the time? Some of the boyfriends said it's one of the things they love about me, most said they enjoy hearing me talk. But the real answer is when they do want me to shut up they just kiss me... LOL. Secret often I'll get very annoyingly talkative just for the kiss... 😉

[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha Ha nice!

[LittleTroubleMaker94]

I guess talkative. I'm a quiet person in general but if you start the conversation I won't have issues talking. I just don't like to bother people and just feel like I am a lot of the time.
But sometimes you meet those people that no matter what are just easy to talk to like it doesn't matter.
I have issues talking with most people unless in a professional environment and I have found some people I just click with so well. It's also cool to find someone like that because it makes them special.

[hahahmm]

it’s better to think before you speak then to spend so much time talking thar you never have time to think.

I’m unimpressed by people who know pop culture trivia but can’t defend any ideas they claim to believe.

[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha Ha wow yes.

[beebella]

I guess talkative (as long as they don't talk TOO much), because I'm already quiet enough and I need someone who knows how to start/have a conversation. Being with another quiet person, like myself, seems like it would make things a little dull, tbh.

[coachTanthony]

Right... how does one find the right mix? Maybe plan a date that encourages different behaviors maybe?

[Lemonsauce]

Definitely talkative but depends on what kind of talkative.. If all they do is talk about themselves then I'd rather go with a quieter person. If they talk about things other than themselves and they know how to listen as well as talk and keep a good conversation going, then definitely, yes. I enjoy talking as well as listening.

[Kurαȷ]

I would prefer to go out with someone who is quiet, unless they have things to say.

I'm introverted and I don't always talk, so I have hard time dealing with people who need to talk 24/7 or else they start feeling like there is "an issue".
I'm perfectly fine with hanging out with my partner in silence, it's the expectation to say things to remain entertaining that I find frustrating.

[standardguy]

Sure a talkative person is more attractive. But during the weeks and months of the relationship you can see if the things she says are true and interesting. And if she knows when to be quiet and act 😉😁

[coachTanthony]

For sure... I love a talkative person but when she is just waiting for you to finish so she can go on a tirade... that is not good!

[Hamsteroids]

Quiet for sure. There’s only so much of a chatter box that I can take. My boyfriend is kind of like me. He’s laid back and reserved and I love it. He prefers to listen than to talk so that works out great lol

[burlen]

I think it depends on how much talkative they are and what subject matter they tend to talk about. If by talkative you mean someone who talks non-stop and rare gives a chance for others to contribute to the discussion, then I will be reluctant to date such a person.

Also, if most of what she talks about is on subjects I find boring or on subjects that come across as braggadocio, I will be reluctant to date such a person.

[markscott]

I'd rather be with a somewhat talkative person. If they are too talkative, however, I'f much prefer the quiet one.

[JSmuve]

Probably somewhere in the middle. She can be talkative just as long as she doesn't expect me to listen. Women who talk too much put me to sleep pretty quickly. But too quiet and I'm like, "are... are you interested in me?" So maybe 40% on the talkative scale.

[s_alj04]

Talkative for sure!!! I wanna get to know the person i like!

[ItsAMeA]

Talkative. I'm quieter so I think it would be better for me to go out with someone talkative, to help bring me out of my shell.

[coachTanthony]

Sort of your Ying to their yang!

[ItsAMeA]

Yes, exactly!

[Mikaychay95]

Talkative bc even though im talkative myself I can get clammed up and forget how to speak so he/she can help me out lol

[anon1903]

somewhere in the middle. both seem equally problematic.

PS. I don't go out with people so I never gave it a serious thought.

[Arslanrex]

Why don't you go out with people?

[anon1903]

I am not least interested in dating world atm

[Arslanrex]

You and me both haha

[anon1903]

are you sick of their company as well?

[Arslanrex]

Not sick, it's too much effort especially when it leads to nothing. Better just not caring too much about it.

[anon1903]

i tend to appreciate nihilistic view such as yours

[Arslanrex]

We'd probably be friends if we ever met 😂

[anon1903]

well perhaps

[Arslanrex]

Are you very selective of your friends?

[anon1903]

do I sound like I'm not?

[Arslanrex]

No you sound like you are. But that's not a bad thing.

[Jemini_Crocket]

Talkative because I need someone who gets me talking haha
I usually end up liking a guy who's my opposite.