Would you prefer to go out with a quiet or a talkative person?

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UnknownReflection · Accepted Answer

Talkative.

I am talkative and i prefer talkative.

What bothers me is the misconception some people have about this trait. Who says being talkative means speaking nonsense endlessly all the time? that's an absolute crappy understanding of what talkative stands for.

Talkative means we are good at expressing ourselves and when a talkative person is educated enough, they also become good with words. We can express and explore our emotions better than the rest. We have this ability to get detailed and give depth to our explanations. We have higher chance to be good orators, speech givers and story-tellers both in writing and vocally.

Being talkative means we enjoy engaging conversations. We desire to talk and communicate with our surroundings because communication is an essential tool for gaining knowledge, sharing information and a key to solve any presented possible problem. We love the details and find them crucial within a conversation.

Being Talkative, does not equal being inconsiderate, empty-mouthed, rude and noisy. That goes down to one's personality set-up and does not represent the whole talkative population. I'm talkative, it doesn't mean i don't appreciate silence or generally being alone either or that i will engage conversation and always have something to say regardless of where i am, whom i am with and what is the condition. Everything is a matter of the right time, the right moment and the right group of people. Period.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

It is easier to get a quiet person to open up and talk than it is to get a talkative person to stop blabbering!

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

It's most pleasant when you can have a conversation with someone that involves give and take. Sometimes they're quieter when you're talkative, sometimes they're talkative with you're quieter, and when it's necessary both of you are able to listen to the other when that's what needs to happen.

PeacefulRainDrop · Accepted Answer

Quiet!! I think most people are not comfortable with quietness.. I dont want someone talking non stop when I just want to go for a relaxing walk with company or watching the sky or a movie... I am a quiet person I get overwhelmed with non stop talking.

AmandaYVR · Answer

I like this q. Talkative or not so talkative probably doesn't matter that much, but I need a calm person. I don't like people with a frenetic energy. I have often said over the years, "That person needs a tranquilizer. I'd inject them with a shot to calm them down, if I could." I like fast talkers more than slow talkers, though I know that can overwhelm some people... they like the opposite. But I'd rather discuss more things, and more in depth, than a slow conversation that really drags. I like it to be stimulating and fun or intense and serious. I don't find many conversations awkward anymore, except for small talk when first meeting someone. I suck in groups and crowds, but I can talk to pretty much anyone one-on-one. I like them to be equal, with both people contributing, interested, and getting equal air time. No one should feel railroaded or like they're in interview mode. On a date, or when first getting to know someone, if one person doesn't ask questions or dominates the conversation not out of enthusiasm but lack of awareness... well they may not be someone worth pursuing. Unless you give them a head's up and see if they adapt quickly, change their behaviour. Some people can change, too.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Seeing as I'm a quiet and shy person (until you get to know me and I come out of my shell; then I'm pretty talkative!), probably someone who is talkative because I find that conversation will come more easily and natural. I get nervous having to be the one to keep the conversation going and try to find things to talk about.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I have never dated a quiet person so I don't know but loud people are interesting - some stay interesting after you get to know them and others become boring over time.

Jackieboi · Answer

Both have pros and cons, but at least with a talker you dont have to worry about awkward silences and you can just zone out if theyre talking too much or try adding something. With a silent gal i think itll just make me insecure and wonder if she's silent cause she's regretting coming unless she's visibly shy. Or at least pulls a "sry if i seem far away/preoccupied/uninterested, but somethin somethin reason" doesn't even have to be a legit reason as long as she notifies me that she's aware of it.

Moonchild714 · Answer

I'm Talkative so I like Talkative. But there have been relationships where we were too talkative, so the guy needs to be less talkative than me. People hated going out with us One they couldn't get a word in and two they couldn't keep up with our conversation as we were in different parts of the convo... LOL

LittleTroubleMaker94 · Answer

I guess talkative. I'm a quiet person in general but if you start the conversation I won't have issues talking. I just don't like to bother people and just feel like I am a lot of the time.
But sometimes you meet those people that no matter what are just easy to talk to like it doesn't matter.
I have issues talking with most people unless in a professional environment and I have found some people I just click with so well. It's also cool to find someone like that because it makes them special.

hahahmm · Answer

it’s better to think before you speak then to spend so much time talking thar you never have time to think.

I’m unimpressed by people who know pop culture trivia but can’t defend any ideas they claim to believe.

beebella · Answer

I guess talkative (as long as they don't talk TOO much), because I'm already quiet enough and I need someone who knows how to start/have a conversation. Being with another quiet person, like myself, seems like it would make things a little dull, tbh.

Lemonsauce · Answer

Definitely talkative but depends on what kind of talkative.. If all they do is talk about themselves then I'd rather go with a quieter person. If they talk about things other than themselves and they know how to listen as well as talk and keep a good conversation going, then definitely, yes. I enjoy talking as well as listening.

Kurαȷ · Answer

I would prefer to go out with someone who is quiet, unless they have things to say.

I'm introverted and I don't always talk, so I have hard time dealing with people who need to talk 24/7 or else they start feeling like there is "an issue".
I'm perfectly fine with hanging out with my partner in silence, it's the expectation to say things to remain entertaining that I find frustrating.

standardguy · Answer

Sure a talkative person is more attractive. But during the weeks and months of the relationship you can see if the things she says are true and interesting. And if she knows when to be quiet and act 😉😁

Hamsteroids · Answer

Quiet for sure. There’s only so much of a chatter box that I can take. My boyfriend is kind of like me. He’s laid back and reserved and I love it. He prefers to listen than to talk so that works out great lol

burlen · Answer

I think it depends on how much talkative they are and what subject matter they tend to talk about. If by talkative you mean someone who talks non-stop and rare gives a chance for others to contribute to the discussion, then I will be reluctant to date such a person.

Also, if most of what she talks about is on subjects I find boring or on subjects that come across as braggadocio, I will be reluctant to date such a person.

markscott · Answer

I'd rather be with a somewhat talkative person. If they are too talkative, however, I'f much prefer the quiet one.

JSmuve · Answer

Probably somewhere in the middle. She can be talkative just as long as she doesn't expect me to listen. Women who talk too much put me to sleep pretty quickly. But too quiet and I'm like, "are... are you interested in me?" So maybe 40% on the talkative scale.

s_alj04 · Answer

Talkative for sure!!! I wanna get to know the person i like!

ItsAMeA · Answer

Talkative. I'm quieter so I think it would be better for me to go out with someone talkative, to help bring me out of my shell.

Mikaychay95 · Answer

Talkative bc even though im talkative myself I can get clammed up and forget how to speak so he/she can help me out lol

fonduegirl · Answer

somewhere in the middle. both seem equally problematic.  PS. I don't go out with people so I never gave it a serious thought.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

Talkative because I need someone who gets me talking haha I usually end up liking a guy who's my opposite.

someswedishguy · Answer

Well I wouldn't want to break my back carrying the conversation... 🤔

ariadneR · Answer

Talkative. I'm quiet, but when I'm talking to my man I'm a chatter box. Go figure.

CoffeeWC · Answer

I'm a very quiet person so another quiet person would be pretty awkward

CubsterShura · Answer

I'm very talkative so another talkative partner would be a CHAOS 😂 I need a quiet partner.

taleets · Answer

Talkative person definitely! As long as they ask me about myself as well.

Tressie · Answer

I prefer not so talkative nor so quite. I like genuine person.

Creepazoid · Answer

Talkative. It's hard to be the only one trying to carry a convo. But still once the shy ones open up they can get pretty talkative too

13IsALuckyNumber · Answer

Talkative. I’m surprisingly talkative myself, most people who I first meet would soon realize what a mistake they made in getting to know me more.

GlitterDragon · Answer

Definitely talkative. I’ve dated a quiet guy before and it just makes me feel like I’m talking to myself.

Bensbrie · Answer

I prefer someone in the middle. Someone who is quite at times and talkative at times. A good balance is nice. I am both talkative and quite afterall.

BrotherFrost · Answer

I like talkative people in general. Probably because i'm the opposite. Also, talkative girls get to reveal themselves earlier so i know if i want to continue dating them much sooner.

naijagurl · Answer

I would prefer a talkative person. I’m definitely more of a listener than a talker so I need someone more talkative than me otherwise there will be a lot of silence.

GhettoGirl · Answer

Quiet Will Not work here at all I've left weak ass on conversation guys at the table many times. Shy quiet inverts get the hell out my face. Like mental midgets

happyhedgehog · Answer

I'd prefer if they can talk a little more than me; I find it hard sometimes to keep the conversation going. But not too much, because I sometimes can talk a lot too. So I guess someone who can be both.

0oGreyo0 · Answer

I like high energy people. Cause I'm super high energy. I go out of my way to make introvert hyped

LoU_Hades · Answer

I like talk active people, but not every time. Most people start to talk a lot after few drink and I turn into listener. Sometimes I just want to relax or to rock out while dancing.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Talkative, because I'd like to have someone to talk to, though I wouldn't want to talk to them 24/7 though, so there'd have to be a bit of a balance and like don't talk all the time.

dropkicknj13 · Answer

It depends on how long we've known each other. It can take a bit for me to warm up to someone and become more talkative, so if they are also quiet it might be a struggle to carry conversation.

catj9999 · Answer

For me personally someone talkative being as I'm quite quiet. But at the moment the guy im talking to is more quiet than me so it makes it fairly difficult

kk_longcoy · Answer

Depends on what they are talkative about. If they are to talkative about themselves an how much better they are what they can do better then now.

Ganta2Igarashi · Answer

A talkative person would surely make the evening pretty interesting and it would make it easier getting to know how she thinks what she likes and hates and so on

SoWhAt249 · Answer

I'm a quiet person in general, but I like to get loose with the ones I'm comfortable with. So I'd definitely want to meet someone like myself.

Ria23 · Answer

Talkative but quiet when you need to be for example about our business, financial issues, problems in general.  Can you answer my question plzzz😁

saeyamazaki · Answer

Very in between. It depends on my mood. My boyfriend already is talkative himself but knows when to relax

SamtheDnDgirl · Answer

Talkative person. I think conversation is crucial in a relationship.

Myonzon · Answer

Talkative. I can still date quiet and get her to become talkative but if she heavily relies on me to start a conversation but can't keep up with the convo then no

NineBreaker · Answer

I'm more concerned with the quality of the talk than the amount of it.

ALewis30 · Answer

I prefer someone in the middle. Not too talkative, not too quiet.

arabgoddess · Answer

Talkative.. I've been living with a quiet one and it's killing me.. Its like talking to the wall

MissDawn7961 · Answer

a quiet and shy person who wants to have a one on one conversation with just me

sexphobe · Answer

Talkative defo. Quiet people r so awkward on dates 🤦‍♀️

Anonymous · Answer

Someone who’s shy but can keep a conversation going once alone with you. so i guess in the middle?

Slax421 · Answer

Personally I prefer someone talks. I enjoy conversation because I am interested in what the other person has to say. But I can't stand empty talk. Engage and add something intelligent or be quite.

kortex · Answer

Talkative , but im kinda shy. And i need a person like that to open up

lifelearner011 · Answer

I like respectful and genuine people, sometimes they might talk more or less.

sarah_777 · Answer

definitely talkative but someone that can also listen.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Someone in the middle, because I'm quiet... but I feel overwhelmed when someone never shuts up. I end up zoning out.

Tyffen · Answer

Someone who talks about interesting topics, but is sometimes quiet. In that she takes a moment to breathe and listen to the sounds around her.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Talkative if i don't already know them. Because I have a tendency to remain quiet with people i don't know so ad not to offend them.

Burtonfan · Answer

Uh. I want to talk to a smart person, with actual interests. Not a taking head who just needs to hear there own voice.

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