I think this is an ignorant question. Any woman who wear pants is a cross dresser. Men wore skirts, robes and dresses for most of history. Women wearing men's clothes today benefit from cross dressing women of history pushing through the ignorance until women were finally able to wear what we want. To judge men for wanting to wear what they want is hypocritical and shows that a woman is not at all educated or intelligent. What we wear is a form of expression. It expresses creativity, style, and comfort. If a person is willing to dump a good man because of CLOTHES, that woman is a bit of a shallow twit. XD I hope the rest of her romantic life bites her. She doesn't deserve much with an attitude like that. Other women are dealing with cheater, drug addicts, dead beat dads, and the only complaint here is CLOTHING!!! Ha ha ha!
I love your attitude
Omfg got have got to be kidding me. My ex who I thought was a straight male with whom I had a baby, was secretly cross dressing and meeting other CDs was beyond traumatizing. Your ignorant comment is offensive. Not everyone is going to be okay with the realization their partner is not who they thought they were. How dare you. Cross dressing is not always black and white. It is a serious mental illness for some.
@Gadato it's clothes ffs. Like the packaging on a gift or letter and nothing to do with what is inside. Focusing on the superficial and judging from it is vapid and vacuous. No ones sexuality is determined by their outward appearance and by showing the inability to delve deeper than the surface, the only judgement to reach is prejudice that leads to bigotry
I'd have a problem with it. That's not what I want in my relationship. More power to him if that makes him happy, but he can't expect me to be happy with it.
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u I want a girl who wants to be a girl! If she wants to look like a guy, she needs to find somebody else!
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As long as they won't bother me or destroy any of my dresses, I am cool.
Love your outlook on it
I totally understand that. And it's a great attitude to have. Crossdressing has nothing to do with liking men. But I get it... if that happens it changes the game for sure.
A woman in a tie is sexy as hell... maybe a little mustache with some bicycle handles.
We could really have some fun with this!
Therapy! :) :) :)
@OlderAndWiser LOL
No to the mustache. Lol
@Jamie05rhs Just look people been downvoting me for over a year lol
@coachTanthony Lol
Nah I won't, like what the hell were you thinking
My husband is a cross dresser. He doesn't wear woman's clothes in public. Well except he wears ladies panties. He likes how woman's clothes feel and styles. He in fact has more lingerie than do. He actually is the one that got. me to wear lingerie. He's great at picking out and putting together outfits.
Woman cross dress everyday. We wear pants and boots and ties. Why can't men wear dresses, heals, and scarves?
Just because he likes ladies clothes doesn't make him any less of man. I have found my wonderful hubby is actually more in tune with what woman really want and need.
Love your view on this!
@Loving_Husband thank you
You're welcome.
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Are you confusing your boyfriend's crossdressing with him being gay or transsexual? A little more than half of transvestites are straight men who have no desire to be women or to be gay. If he only wants to dress this way at home or with you, what is it precisely that upsets you about it? Remember YOU can crossdress every day. There are proscriptions about men doing it though. It is prejudice. Perhaps you can't get over your prejudice about it. Maybe you should break up with him if it disturbs you. But you shoulld acknowledge how this is a double standard.
My general statements stand with a few caveats: To what extent does crossdressing enter into the relationship? With women there's far more flexibility. Women can just about wear anything. With men, there's just about zero acceptance of them wearing dresses in public or to work. The same would go for makeup. A man who crossdresses is considered unmasculine and all SORTS of things. A woman who crossdresses might be butch. Might just be playing with image. If you could not accept a public display of crossdressing, would private crossdressing be OK? There are several options to weigh.
i said if you'd feel disturbed by it and MAYBE! You stated that you and your mother had a discussion about this and both decided you could not accept a crossdresser partner. If you couldn't accept that behavior what else is there to do? I'd suggest therapy with the person and an unbiased counselor, personally. There might be room for compromise. I'm solely using parts of your statement to come to a logical conclusion.
I dont want a feminine ass dude. Crossdressing would cause me to not only question his sexuality but to also leave him.
Thats how u end up withh a Caitlyn jenner 🤷♀️
I don't mind it as a bedroom fetish between us, but outside the bedroom... not so much
I think seeing a guy in panties is kind of hot on occasion :)
I’m cross dressing atm. Button shirt and jeans 😉
Women dress in traditionally men’s clothing without anyone caring. The fact it’s so disturbing for men to do the same is actually a slight on women,
I wouldn’t mind. I’d be glad he wasn’t sexist. I can’t say i would find it attractive as an everyday wear. Just like I don’t dress in button shirts every day.. But once in a while 🤷♀️😊
Cross dressing has a deeper psychological reason behind it, than just "I think this dress looks good". Typically these people are extremely perverted and sick
@wolfcat87 I think he's talking about men who want to wear women's dresses. As I said before, the repercussions of men wearing dresses are denigration and mental illness. Women wearing pants have virtually no labels.
@wolfcat87 there are jeans made for WOMEN. You can not keep using that as an excuse !!!
@wolfcat87 way to misconstrue a statement. By cross dressing I'm talking about wearing fake tits, wigs, etc.
I thinkk wolfcart has his finger on the pulse. The big issue is MEN crossdressing. Women wearing men's clothes in a male way is unusual, but doesn't have the negative overtones of a man wearing women's clothing, wigs, makeup to appear female. Women sleep in men's boxer shorts. No big deal. Do men sleep in women's panties? Unlikely.
Sorry, Wurdom
@Screenwriter why are there no labels for women who wear 'mens' trousers while skirts (kilts, togas, tunics of Greek and Spartan warriors, etc) plenty of examples of iconic masculinity that are feminine in appearance.
Being in touch with what is currently classed as femininity (sensual, soft, fragrant, light, etc) has been coopted into the current narrative of social engineering by the powers that be to try to restrict men from expressing themselves for fear they may recognise their power and tell the rulers to gtfo thus having a social revolution that brings the full spectrum of masculinity back to prominence.
Most crossdressers are men who might've lost a very close female relative, or mother, early in life and wear women's clothes to comfort themselves or express themselves in ways that being in male garb doesn't. There are crossdressing groups that get together and crossdress together.
There are some deeper psychological reasons, but few are perverted or sick.
You're kink shaming someone to the point that you're even willing to end a relationship for it, is your relationship with him that shallow and superficial? If you're not into it, that's fine, leave him be to do his own thing, you don't have to be a part of every single element of his life and that's totally okay. But leaving him for it is ridiculous, unless your relationship didn't have much to stand on to begin with.
How so if my girl at some point wanted to fuck me and it's not somthing she could live without in a relationship what other choice would there be but to end the relationship you can't force people to be with someone if they are not comftble with what they want out of the relationship
@boggboss "if they are not comfortable with what they want out of the relationship" is correct, yes. But that means that this entire relationship revolves around him cross-dressing, rather than it being a fetish he explores sometimes and could perfectly do without her participation if he so necessarily wants it. This girl is (seemingly from her question) willing to break it off from purely being aware that he does it, to the point that she "might" accept it after 20 years of marriage. If you notice that your partner cross-dresses after 20 years of marriage, then cross-dressing is barely a footnote in your relationship.
Yes, we all read it wrong, but the discussion is valid. Let it roll!
I'm going to argue with you about this. You might call this person shallow and superficial. But if the partner knew nothing about this crossdressing and suddenly found out about it and was shocked and or horrified, that might be the last straw.
Some people are resilient and flexible. Others are not. It is better that a partner leaves if they're horrified and can't support the person in question. This happens all the time for a dozen reasons. A partner has a serious illness, a partner loses their job, their mind, their money. People can't handle LOADS of different issues that seem shallow. This is just one of them.
I don't know if I'd end a 31 year relationship over it-- especially since a woman wearing a man's clothes is usually seen as not as bad as a man wearing a woman's clothes. A girl can wear her boyfriends t shirts or even his jogging pants or whatever and it will be seen as "cute". But if she's fully role-playing as if she's a man, then that's not gonna gel with me. I like feminine women, not butch women.
Women can't really cross dress, because anything a man can wear, a woman has an equivalent outfit for. Only men can cross dress.
@wolfcat87 Or maybe just because women have more clothing options than men do. Yea, I think that's it.
@wolfcat87 More like no one really cared about how women dress beyond a passing remark.
I disagree. Women who wear suits made for men, not female EQUIVALENTS of those suits, like the woman pictured above, ARE crossdressing. It just doesn't have a similar burden behind it. Some people might think you're a lesbian or butch, but otherwise, the outfit is accepted. If a man came to work in a woman's dress, I mean a work appropriate woman's dress, skirt and top or suit, would run into all kinds of trouble from management.
He has the kekistan flag as his profile pic. He's trolling you. 😂
@Screenwriter Meh, you can call that if you want, but women don't stand out when they were male clothes. You'd only stand out wearing a man's suit if that suit didn't fit you properly, but otherwise most people are just going to assume it's a pant suit. A woman wear pants, a dress shirt, and a jacket is not unusual. A man wearing a dress is very unusual. Even if you wanted to call it cross dressing, it doesn't have the same impact. Very few people are going to take notice.
No I most certainly wouldn't be, and sadly it would definitely be the parting of the ways.
I like tomboys, so I wouldn't care if she wanted to dress like a guy. Girls are still pretty regardless, no matter what they wear.
I would never cross-dress, though. I'm not into that. Except that one time I did it for a play. But it was funny because it was ironic because everyone knew I wasn't like that.
Sure... But I much rather long or short skirts... Disposable slinky shirts.. Rip apart an use em to tie them up... Or not... One ex many years back maybe a decade even.. Ugh.. Had a rope, made of all the clothes torn apart from heated passion, probably at least 60-80feet long... Only the shallow make their partners live an do the way they choose.. An if some1 stays with the "other" that acts this way... Stupid you... Your lifes yours.. Not for others to make decisions about..
As long as he didn't do it in public and bought his own clothes then why not? Id consider it more of a hobby, just like some people like to draw or such. I'm personally very straight though, so it'd have to stay as a hobby rather than turning into anything sexual
I done it for Halloween and such for fun, but not as a every day thing. If she wanted to dress more in male clothes i wouldn't care, i would probably help her out
Women are already cross-dressers, they were pants, suits, mens clothing.
I sort of dont have a choice. I would love to date a woman who only wears skirts and dresses.
But you understand why we don't. Stuff shows that we don't want to show. It's nice to dress up in a dress. But dresses aren't practical. You have to sit funny ways. Get out of cars funny ways. Your legs are cold in winter. If they're long, they make it hard to walk, are heavy and get dirty from the ground. They might look femmy, but they're dollwear, not personwear. If you guys wore them, you'd understand.
@Screenwriter Dresses are very comfy, men around the world wear versions of skirts and do not fuss.
I do understand the conveniences associated with men's clothing and their practicality
And I don't negatively judge women who wear pants, sorry if I gave that impression.
But cross dressing is common among women 😂 just wanted to point out that women do in fact cross dress. So I don't have a problem with it
@wolfcat87 I don't find them comfy. Western garb is usually not long in length as the native costumes of say, Berber men in the desert, or native men in the pacific... sarongs. It has a lot to do with climate. In the northern hemisphere where women are rushing to work and need protection from cold, wind and flexibility, dresses are not my top choice. In pants you can sit any way you like and not have to worry about exposing yourself or having to be demure. Put every male in America in a dress that strikes above their knees and see how that works out for comfort and practicality.
If I had a partner, I think in the bedroom it would be fine, for role play and all or if she likes to wear some guy clothes when we're just hanging around the house, then fine I guess, but if she full on tries to look like a man, then probably not.
Let me just say, heels and makeup were originally made for men. They weren’t meant for women at all.
So true.
It’s valid because them being created was not for the purpose of women. Meaning it’s not even ours to wear in the first place. It was men’s. So saying a men can’t wear makeup or heels doesn’t work when the existence of them is purely because of men.
It is because from the knowledge and wisdom gained from knowing this that one can deduce that it's only OPINION that changes and not the deed.
Social stigma attaches to things people have prejudice about. If the prejudice is removed there goes the stigma.
Consider, Spartan soldiers, Roman gladiators and centurions, Highland warriors, and just about any masculine society where men didn't wear restricting garments around their legs and bodies to create a single image style.
There once was a time women NEVER wore pants. Only dresses so by that standard we’ve become accustomed to women cross dressing
It may have been so long ago. It was very much frowned upon for any female to wear any type of masuline clothing. So... if society doesn't have an issue with woman wearing men's clothes, why should we have one with men wearing ladies clothes?
@MotherEarth2020 good question
Thank you
@MotherEarth2020 because jeans aren’t seen as men’s clothes anymore maybe back when you were born but obviously times have changed
I have no problem with men cross dressing but not my man, I prefer if he's not into anything feminine. not that I have a problem with feminine guys.
It's definitely abnormal. If you are looking for someone to who you are confident about long term, cross dressers tend not to rate high on that spectrum. It's not hate, its statistics. I hope things work out for the best.
If you call a kilt a skirt you're wrong. If thats where you're going with that.
I can't find statistics about male crossdressers, except that straight ones almost always enter into relationships with women and don't tell them. Then after they do the reveal, the women feel betrayed and leave them. I don't know that the men want to leave. I think they hope that a loving partner will accept their kink. It appears most don't. Even after longtime relationships.
That's my point. The relationships don't last and women feel like they aren't secure in their relationship. I don't mean to say that girls feel insecure about what their partner does. However they perceive stuff like that as dangerous and unstable for their relationship.
But it's not dangerous or unstable if a woman wears pants or T shirts or other male garb. So how is it dangerous for men to wear women's garb. It's different and unusual. But maybe it makes the man comfortable. It's why I live in board shorts, plus It's the gear I need to wear at work. But that's not an excuse. I like to wear shorts and Ts. Dresses are for dressup. I don't wear them on a daily basis, nor do I want to. I do a lot of outdoor work in my garden, on my house, and they're not practical.
I found out yesterday that my partner likes dressing in outer girls clothing ( fishnets, skirts) that type I am with then 4 years they only told me yesterday I don't know how to feel or react
As we have a near 7 month old and another one due in 5 months
Not just 'cross-dressing' but role playing fun? Love when she likes to play and be more dominant!!
Privately, at home, so what's the big deal?
Only insecure boys can't deal with a dominating, woman, just for playing!!
I guess so. Doesn't make a difference to me I suppose. He'd need to wear my clothes though.
As long as he's still willing to be my throne, I'm all good.
My wife has been crossdressing since she was born. She wears pants and tee shirts
Gals can pull off "crossdressing" (if someone wants to call it that) with a fedora and look quite sexy with it.
Pffft, this is a sick subject in here with some pretty sick dudes. NO a guy would immediately find himself in a volatile situation were he to share this with me.
i'm a masc-presenting butch lesbian, i get commonly mistaken for a guy and in terms of a preference for a partner i'm butch4butch (though i like femmes as well)
I would have no problem to give my girlfriend a shirt if she is at my place but I would never try her stuff.
Fuck no. Maybe if she did it as a statement to prove something I'd support but other than that I need me a lady not a mongoose
If she wears jeans, boots and flannel, fine. If she wears a man's business suit, meh, not so good.
So I guess I would say as long as it is because she feels comfortable in mannish clothes, fine. But if it's to express some desire to be a man, no.
A desire to BE a man is transsexualism. A desire to dress like a man could be a whim, fashion to transvestism. I think the man's business suit divests a woman of looking LIKE a woman. It ALSO divests a man of looking like a man, in general. Unless it's slim cut, business suits don't show a man's body. They mask it. Similar "suits" for women cling at the hips, show off the legs, have a tight fitting top. They usually don't divest women of looking like females. I think it's an interesting contrast. The question is WHY?
@Screenwriter Because people don't want to look at a man's body...
I certainly LOVE to look at a mans body. Maybe YOU don't!
@Screenwriter Even women generally prefer to look at other women. That is why so many TV weather people are F.
I like my male weatherman. I don't prefer to look at women. Aaron Taylor-Johnson, lately of Bullet Train, is on the cover of Esquire. That is some nice looking man I prefer to look at. Where do you get this women prefer to look at women. Maybe gay women do. I'm not gay and I prefer to look at men any chance I can get to see a nice looking one. Maybe you're saying "straight men" don't prefer to look at a man's body. I also think that's silly, because if it's an exceptionally fit body, I'd think a straight man could go, hey, maybe I can look like that if I blah blah blah... If I see a woman in a fitness magazine, I might think that about another woman. That's the only time I'm interested in looking at other women's bodies. To compare them with mine and see how I can improve mine. Otherwise, I'm not interested in them.
A couple of times for jokes is fine. If it’s for real then no lol
crossing dressing is a sin and I will not date anyone who does this for I am a Christian
I grew up in a very religious family. I am very devoted to my faith. My family read and knew the Bible forwards and backwards. Nowhere in the Bible have I ever seen anywhere that it says cross-dressing is a sin. Waman cross dress every day. You wear pants, boots, button up shirts , short coats or jackets, yes? That is cross dressing. So in your reply that cross dressing is a sin, you are commiting a sin., I would advise you to stop wearing male gender attire and go back to the 1950's and wear knee length skirts, dark rights and saddle shoes.
"A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the Lord your God detests anyone who does this." Deuteronomy 22:5.
Now mind you this is the Old Testament, but the principle arguably still applies.
@Melshmallow046
You got me there. I in general do not debate on religion as it can be a touchy subject. I do know it states in Matthew:
That asking (praying) for forgiveness and you shall receive. So... of it is considered a sin asking for forgiveness, one shall receive and enter the gates of Heaven
@MotherEarth2020 any sin is forgivable, and there's no one who hasn't sinned. But someone who is truly following God (and is thus saved) will try not to sin. Grace is unlimited but it's not meant to be disposable.
@wolfcat87 it's culturally relative. Robes were not seen as feminine in that culture, but dresses are seen as distinctly feminine is western society today.
@Melshmallow046 this isn't a principle, it's an opinion from the bronze age edited in the dark age to get people who were uneducated to follow leaders who used superstition to hold on to and gain power.
If a guy wants to crossdress I have no issue with that. But I couldn't date someone who did.
I voted no. If I wanted someone in a dress I'd be banging a chick.
No, as much as it might bother some people, I am the only one who gets to dress like a girl in my relationship.
Definitely not harsh. People can do what they want in their own time, but that's weird and you wouldn't have to accept it.
Honestly i dont know. It depends on how deep the feelings were.
But just one thing to consider, women do this all the time. And put it down to fashion...
Exactly!! Why can't men?
”Women should not put on men's clothing (Deuteronomy 22:5). Obviously if I wanted a man, I'd turn gay, wouldn't I? It's a dealbreaker for me.
@wolfcat87 Those sort of religious pronouncements were enacted to control women. If they were hidden because of confusing garb, they couldn't be rounded up and sold or married off. Their whereabouts also could not be controlled. There was specific garb that announced womanhood. And if a woman, you had to be "kept" in a harem, or women's tent and could not hear men's business. This was true in the western world in corporate circles until recently. But since women have been subordinate for millennia, why would men choose to wear the garb of socially inferior people?
@wolfcat87 that’s your excuse for every comment. “ women in pants” “women in pants” please stop
Jesus never said anything about crossdressing or being gay or needing to get married. Jesus came to "fulfill" the Old Testament. His main schtick: LOVE ONE ANOTHER. Women who wear pants or T shirts or typical men's clothing are not men. Just as men who wear, for one reason or another, women's clothing are not women.
If that's your dealbreaker, OK. But Jesus Christ doesn't support such stuff. Old Testatment is "Old". Outdated. Interesting history. And remember, it was written down by MEN. So there's likely a great deal of bias there too.
I like Jesus' grains of salt. Love one another. Judge lest not you be judged. And though clothes OFT makes the man, they don't always. Shakespeare was good too.
Well I am male and a cross dresser and I know girls who are turned on when they see me wearing sexy lingerie. You should learn to be open minded and accepting/supportive. Try to be adventurous.
I wouldn't mind if my girlfriend crossdressed , if she was into that. Not in public tho
What are you doing wearing my blue shirt with green pants. Use the black pants. Lol
Gotcha. 😋
No way and not shocked more women want a man not to be a transvestite than men don't want a woman to be a transvestite. More women love men dressing masculine than men love women dressing feminine.
It's cause there's a long history of women wearing men's clothes. And though there have also always been a few men who've dressed as women for entertainment, living and working in women's clothes has never been widely accepted for men. There are tribes that have women-men, but we're talking about transsexuals who are accepted as women by the tribe and who live and dress as women.
Not really but she sort of dresses like me anyway.
Homies ya I wouldn't date nobody that gon dress like a Nigga and shit but I do have some female friends who dikes they my hittas I got beef with a female they gon deal with it I don't got to touch no female
I see girls wear mens clothing articles quite often, so its more extreme when its a guy doing it rather a girl.
You sound very triggered lol
My fiancée is a tomboy and I find it hot
Yes. I would, i've always asked to myself how do i look with fem outfit as well 😂
Yes and no, it’s a little different for women, you can generally get away with it. But also women generally do it for comfort. Where I don’t see how wearing women’s cloths would be more comfy at all
Tomboy look is fine for girls in my opinion men doing it is weirder
Don't women just get to dress like men now anyways?
@chefcurry looks good in high-heels and fishnet stockings
Absolutely not. Women have their clothing and men theirs.
Honestly, no I wouldn’t.
Nope , don't think i could handle it :(
I wouldn’t have a problem with it as I have cross dressed before
A woman can literally wear mens clothes and she would look cute but vice versa is not cute
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