"Talk and flirt with other girls just to make the one you like jealous", "presist on asking her", "touch her arm", seen some friends getting backfired by this.
@roland77 Atcually I don't do that, however I've seen many of my friends do this type of moves. If I like a girls I would go directly to her and let her know how I feel.
Really, I think the mysterious ones just creep people out. And when I tried it, people thought I was plotting an attack on the school. So, eh, no. Mysterious does not equal relationships
I've heard people say that women love "mysterious" guys, but never understood that either. What does "being mysterious" even mean? Just never talking to people and always keeping to yourself, hiding your intentions, etc?
If he cheats on you then it’s your fault for not pleasing him and you should apologize and try to do better to please him. This was advice from a family friend.
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Best dating advice I got was your MyTake on LDRs Worst? I don't know, My older brother told me if I didn't kiss on the first date it means the girl doesn't want me. He told me at 13 and because of that I tried kissing girls wayyy too early.
I would say 13 is definitely too young to always kiss on the first date. As an adult, it makes more sense, but you do still risk kissing a girl too early. That's a good point
The worst dating advice I’ve ever gotten was from my parents. They told me to always pay for everything and bend over backwards for girls. I can forgive them that they grew up in a different traditional generation. But I HATED them for that nice guy brainwashing bullshit., especially my mother.
The whole "play hard to get / act uninterested" thing. The amount of people (both genders, from what I hear and keep hearing) who still follow this game is one main reason of why the dating world is so exhauating. I'm so glad I'm done with it.
@Jamie05rhs Unfortunately, some people just like to play "catch and release". Fortunately, that's mostly a high school game from my experience (I saw it happen a lot then, but not so much since), but there are a few who like to chase someone just to see if they can get them interested, but then don't really want them once they get them.
I hate it when people talk about confidence like it's the secret to getting a woman. I know some jealous insecure little bitch dudes that pull way hotter girls than they should be able to. The secret to getting girls is to be fun
I didn't hear it from someone and I can think and feel on my own, but answering any incoming phone calls is not exactly attentive to your dating partner.
Lol if she has an active social life, it's best to garner her friend's approval before asking her out. Otherwise they may try to prevent you from hitting on her
What? So I need her friend's approval to get to know her now? I mean that's pretty ridiculous given what we have to do still. "IF" she feels she likes me we still have to date which costs money then we agree on boyfriend and girlfriend then we continue a relationship and all this takes a long time how longs it gonna take to get her friends approval?
If you see a girl in the library studying with her 3 friends, and you go right up to the one girl and ask if you can speak to her alone, she probably will feel too much pressure in front of her friends and not go. Her friends will then judge you for it. Whereas if you were to go up to the group and ask them a question relevant to what you're studying, that's a good way to get to know them--and her. Once you develop a rapport, you can then ask her out
If you're interested in a girl who is never alone, then you better get her friend's approval too She is a girl who relies heavily on the influence of her friends, and she will probably not pursue you if you if her friends don't like you
Whether a girl is heavily dependent on her friends or not, you should strive for the approval of her friends and family members and other people she cares about
My best friend never liked my ex... then he ended up cheating on me. I probably should've listened more to her because she knows what kind of guys are good for me. But she thinks my current boyfriend is perfect for me, and I really appreciate the attempts he makes to get along with her even though they have completely clashing political and social views
I can understand this with my mother because she's always right with the right or wrong girl. But friends for me is like I feel she should be independent enough to not rely on her friends it's like your body and mind so you choose your relationships for yourself.
I am pretty independent, but I still value my friend's opinions. Part of being a productive and assimilated member of society is valuing those around you. There's a certain amount of "dependence " that is healthy between people for stable and successful relationships
A girl who doesn't value her friend's opinions isn't going to value yours
This is weird for me because I'm a lawyer and I suppose my life is built upon it so my view is generally you can listen to the advice of your friends but ultimately it's you who needs to choose given the evidence.
One of my aunts is a lawyer. Sometimes she is not as flexible with this kind of thing as she needs to be. It has caused serious tension with her church
Sometimes it's good to take other people's views and opinions into consideration. It can help check you when you're being a bit too extreme
"There's a perfect person out there for you." No one is perfect. When you are young, you should get to know other people with some fun dates just to practice socialization. You will love the imperfections of the 'perfect' person when you find them.
Honestly the only dating advice I ever acted on was good. But the worst advice I got was "get her drunk"... Didn't do that. The most annoying one was "you be gentle with her!" - moms. As if...
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"Talk and flirt with other girls just to make the one you like jealous", "presist on asking her", "touch her arm", seen some friends getting backfired by this.
Why did you date her in the first place? Because you like others? Not nice on her.
@roland77 Atcually I don't do that, however I've seen many of my friends do this type of moves. If I like a girls I would go directly to her and let her know how I feel.
@Derick529 Oh, lord English language has you and you for different meanings... I mean with "you" non-personal. :-)
To try and be "mysterious." "MY LIFE IS AN OPEN BOOK, JOHN, THAT'S NOT GOING TO WORK!" -Me, highschool senior year
Lol. Being mysterious is a good way to sketch a girl out
Really, I think the mysterious ones just creep people out. And when I tried it, people thought I was plotting an attack on the school. So, eh, no. Mysterious does not equal relationships
Lol that's actually a funny story. Now that humor is a. good quality
My entire family is full of comedians, and my first joke as a bad pun when I was around 2 years old. So I know how to make thing humorous.
I've heard people say that women love "mysterious" guys, but never understood that either. What does "being mysterious" even mean? Just never talking to people and always keeping to yourself, hiding your intentions, etc?
Ikr, dafuq does it mean?
If he cheats on you then it’s your fault for not pleasing him and you should apologize and try to do better to please him. This was advice from a family friend.
Best dating advice I got was your MyTake on LDRs
Worst? I don't know, My older brother told me if I didn't kiss on the first date it means the girl doesn't want me. He told me at 13 and because of that I tried kissing girls wayyy too early.
Aw thank you
I would say 13 is definitely too young to always kiss on the first date. As an adult, it makes more sense, but you do still risk kissing a girl too early. That's a good point
Haha even at 23, I still dont kiss on the first date. I learned my lesson. its best to get to know each other first
The worst dating advice I’ve ever gotten was from my parents. They told me to always pay for everything and bend over backwards for girls. I can forgive them that they grew up in a different traditional generation. But I HATED them for that nice guy brainwashing bullshit., especially my mother.
Yeah, most girls want a guy with some back bone.
@sapphireruby well I’ve improved since my late 20s. Had to evaluate what was impressed on me.
The whole "play hard to get / act uninterested" thing. The amount of people (both genders, from what I hear and keep hearing) who still follow this game is one main reason of why the dating world is so exhauating. I'm so glad I'm done with it.
Lower your standards. That means settling for less then you want/deserve. It's a recipe for disaster.
My grandma told me to marry a rich man since I didn’t like cooking. Instead I just have one who’ll cook with me. 🍷
If theyre mean to u they like u. Thankfully i knew this was bs before highschool. Also that if they chase u it means they want u.
Haha sometimes people are mean to you because they're just mean people
Why would we chase someone if we didn't want them? Chasing is a lot of hard work.
@Jamie05rhs Unfortunately, some people just like to play "catch and release". Fortunately, that's mostly a high school game from my experience (I saw it happen a lot then, but not so much since), but there are a few who like to chase someone just to see if they can get them interested, but then don't really want them once they get them.
Yup. Thought this was common knowledge
@aWes0MeNeSs. It always college games. I also. seen it college too.
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I hate it when people talk about confidence like it's the secret to getting a woman. I know some jealous insecure little bitch dudes that pull way hotter girls than they should be able to. The secret to getting girls is to be fun
Any dating advice is bad if not tailored to the individual and situation.
That is a bold statement, but I can agree with it for the most part
I didn't hear it from someone and I can think and feel on my own, but answering any incoming phone calls is not exactly attentive to your dating partner.
Next thing: make her clear that you are interested in sex only but she isn't because "all women want sex". That is really bad. #sexism
If you date long enough to know all their flaws you should stay with them rather that finding someone else and get back to square one 🤷🏻♀️
Talk to her when she's alone (when are girls ever alone).
Lol if she has an active social life, it's best to garner her friend's approval before asking her out. Otherwise they may try to prevent you from hitting on her
What? So I need her friend's approval to get to know her now? I mean that's pretty ridiculous given what we have to do still. "IF" she feels she likes me we still have to date which costs money then we agree on boyfriend and girlfriend then we continue a relationship and all this takes a long time how longs it gonna take to get her friends approval?
Not that long. For example:
If you see a girl in the library studying with her 3 friends, and you go right up to the one girl and ask if you can speak to her alone, she probably will feel too much pressure in front of her friends and not go. Her friends will then judge you for it. Whereas if you were to go up to the group and ask them a question relevant to what you're studying, that's a good way to get to know them--and her. Once you develop a rapport, you can then ask her out
If you're interested in a girl who is never alone, then you better get her friend's approval too
She is a girl who relies heavily on the influence of her friends, and she will probably not pursue you if you if her friends don't like you
Whether a girl is heavily dependent on her friends or not, you should strive for the approval of her friends and family members and other people she cares about
My best friend never liked my ex... then he ended up cheating on me. I probably should've listened more to her because she knows what kind of guys are good for me. But she thinks my current boyfriend is perfect for me, and I really appreciate the attempts he makes to get along with her even though they have completely clashing political and social views
I can understand this with my mother because she's always right with the right or wrong girl. But friends for me is like I feel she should be independent enough to not rely on her friends it's like your body and mind so you choose your relationships for yourself.
I am pretty independent, but I still value my friend's opinions. Part of being a productive and assimilated member of society is valuing those around you. There's a certain amount of "dependence " that is healthy between people for stable and successful relationships
A girl who doesn't value her friend's opinions isn't going to value yours
This is weird for me because I'm a lawyer and I suppose my life is built upon it so my view is generally you can listen to the advice of your friends but ultimately it's you who needs to choose given the evidence.
One of my aunts is a lawyer. Sometimes she is not as flexible with this kind of thing as she needs to be. It has caused serious tension with her church
Sometimes it's good to take other people's views and opinions into consideration. It can help check you when you're being a bit too extreme
Then again realising I lied I actually listen to my mother’s advice.
"There's a perfect person out there for you." No one is perfect. When you are young, you should get to know other people with some fun dates just to practice socialization. You will love the imperfections of the 'perfect' person when you find them.
Look for the prettiest one with the lowest self esteem in the room.
*I work with the shittiest people on earth*
Just a pretty (silly) lady. The real ladies are not pretty, they are lovely and carrying.
Honestly the only dating advice I ever acted on was good.
But the worst advice I got was "get her drunk"... Didn't do that.
The most annoying one was "you be gentle with her!" - moms. As if...
Treat women like garbage and they will fall for you.
If I do get a woman to fall for me this way I probably wouldn't like her.
Eharmony is great! I was told! What a lot of crap!!
"Rush her before it's too late" from my sociopath ex friend
Which gladly I didn't fell for it.