Monogamy, to me, is a painfully outdated conception. The world has seen multi-person marriages since the dawn of recorded history. Both polygyny and polyandry were practiced in ancient greece. According to the Ethnographic Atlas (1998), of 1,231 societies noted, 588 had frequent polygyny, 453 had occasional polygyny, 186 were monogamous and 4 had polyandry. (Although more recent research suggests polyandry may be more common than previously thought.) _wiki It's not like the concept is anything new. This is the point where some will examine the transactional nature of ancient marriage and imagine a single, wealthy man surrounded by barefoot concubines feeding him grapes on a golden throne, but I promise you that's hardly the case: Modern non-monogamy (most commonly referred to as "polyamory" in English) is the umbrella term used to refer to any structure of romantic relationship that exceeds 2 participants. Under that umbrella there's a whole WORLD of polyamorous relationships: There's the triad (3 equal partners) there's the "open relationship" (an intimate couple who are open sexually, but not romantically) There's "relationship anarchy" (wherein everyone involved in the relationship has a different dynamic) there's the "family unit" (in which 3 or more people are romantically involved as equals. sometimes they have children) and that's barely the tip of the iceberg.
I just wonder why now, in the modern day, with all the information available, people are STILL clinging to monogamy. Even people who ADMIT they'd be happier otherwise refuse to disrupt the cycle they were born into. I have no reverence for things like tradition, or sexual conservatism. It's no secret that being responsible when you're sexually active will save you from most dangers that come with having multiple partners, especially since polyamorous people aren't usually involved in "hookup culture". It feels like the door is finally opening to a world of romantic freedom. Why not go for it?
Are you monogamous? Still? Why?
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Because most of us (especially guys) will not share under absolutely any circumstances. I'd sooner start fighting other men to the death than have to share a girl.
Your argument is also incredibly misleading. As a whole pretty much every society that values the wellbeing of children strongly enforces monogamy and even chastity until marriage. The example s you used are notoriously degenerate.
I'd bet my life men would start getting extremely violent the moment they have to share their partner. The only ones who are okay with it now are the most mentally I'll men who are too horny to have any regard for values.
If anything polyamory should be strongly discouraged as sexual deviancy.
Ah, yes. Violence is a completely rational response to another man having a design relationship with your women. She's your property, after all. Women deserve nothing but what they earn under your authority. What a king.
Round of applause for the king of female morality, everyone. 👆👍👏👏👏👏👏
Because a mutual agreement is so oppressive right? The irony is that you couldn't be more wrong. Women are treated the most like property when one man has multiple women that exist only to serve his ego an his dick.
Monogamy forces men to cooperate with one woman and view them as at least a semi equal partner. Otherwise the upper echelons of men would literally treat you like property, and likely they to reduce women's rights much further.
It's not your mind who makes this decision. It's your heart.
But there is also a reason why monogamy makes sense. Intimity influences your hormonal balance and the ties between the two people. If it comes to the point when the relationship is putting to a test - maybe because of children - you might need this ties between two, not three.
So when it's just about fun, polyamory might work. But when you need someone to trust and to go through the hard times of your life, it might fail.
The best thing is: You can do it. Nobody can stop you. You just need to find the right partner. But if you can see, they will not be easy to find. And not only because of tradition.
While I have no problem with idea of polyamory, I feel that it is often used in a unhealthy manner. I have a good friend that has a very loving polyamorous relationship. But I have also met people that I would consider to be cheating and using polyamory as an excuse.
Yes, I'm strictly monogamous. Why? Because that is the only arrangement that fulfills *me* personally.
I would never enjoy having multiple partners, I'm incapable of being interested in more than one person. Exclusivity in intimacy are the entire point of romantic connections for me, and someone who does not share my views, they can't provide me with what I want in a relationship.
I don't know? It's not like I do it consciously, that's just how it works for me. The exclusivity is what I want in a relationship, the fact that someone finds me special and wants a connection with me that they wouldn't have with anyone else.
I don't "get" polyamorous relationships, I don't get how you can do romance without the specialness/exclusivity element, romance and non-exclusivity are mutually incompatible, in my point of view.
Monogamy is Biblical and, despite being "painfully outdated" as you put it, is the way it should be. Marriage is meant to be between one man and one woman, not multiple men or women. Anyone going against God's word is considered lawless. So if you're into polygamy, you're living in sin.
I don't see why people have a problem with polygamy. My romantic attraction isn't very strong, so I don't see the problem with having romantic relationships with many people. I'm also polysexual (similar to bi) so that may be a factor in my opinion. Many think that poly relationships are just sex, but that's not true.
I am definitely considering becoming polyamorous. I recently fell in love with a woman who is poly (and she was up front about it from the start) I'm not sure if I will be able to actually handle it but I won't know until I try.
I only want one woman. And that's just how it is. That's the way God designed it, and it's what I've always wanted for myself. Don't ask me why; I don't know. It's just what I'm drawn to. A lifetime romantic partnership between 2 people: a woman and a man.
Monogamous societies have lower rates of violent crime. Monogamy helps reduce the amount of men at the bottom of society from going mad from lack of puss, and shooting up a school or something. That's why cuckoldry exist; the benefits of polygamy without all the violence that comes with it.
by the way, are you actually a woman? Because you sound like a man.
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