Are you monogamous? Still? Why? (Page 2)

[Miristheiss]

If course.

F your twisted cheering for a broken, miserable life.

[Nigjt]

I can go one on one or if she dosent mind then I can be with as many as she is willing to share with me

[oliverofjones]

Well if I can't get 1 woman what makes you think I can get 2. As for a male being introduced to the equation, I don't like to share.

[Redstang88]

Yes, because one girl is more than enough headache for me

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

Sounds like you've been around shitty girls.

[Daarkblood]

Grande_Beefy_Swirl 90% of the women I've dealt with are shitty girls then by your implied definition. Lol I mean most of them were straight up cheaters or emotionally abusive in the end but still.

[Redstang88]

Nah, it’s just a bit of a hassle to keep any girl entertained

[strongcabbage]

it doesn't feel right to me. i would rather focus my attention on one girl than many.

[Philyouup]

I could entertain polygamy. I am comfortable with monogamy. I think until jealousy can be made non existence, monogamy is always going to be a mainstay.

[Rangers]

Yes, I'm weird, but not THAT weird and disconnected from reality.

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

Jesus. People act like I'm advocating the consumption of dog-meat.

[Ogopogo]

You're advocating people do something they aren't comfortable with and which is potentially very disruptive to family life. Those of us who want to allow each other sexual freedom and additional romantic attachments will manage this just fine on our own. We do not need someone telling us that our devotion to one another is retrograde and old fashioned. Social pressure, the insinuation that we are cowards, and naked FOMO are absolutely terrible reasons to allow each other such freedom. Sexual jealousy is real, sexual drama ruins childhoods, and the ONLY people who should be permitting their partners to sleep with anyone else are those who pursue it with natural enthusiasm and joy arising from their own relationship - never because it's fashionable and certainly not because monogamy is flawed.

Far from being outdated, monogamy is relatively new insofar as it is an invention of civilization. Some have argued convincingly that in fact it's how we got civilization in the first place: The natural alternative to monogamy is not polyamory but polygyny, which results in many productive and brilliant men failing to reproduce. Yes, monogamy is absolutely a social construct which is counter to mankind's nature - just like justice, education, representative government, the social safety net, and the idea of owning anything at all including one's own body. Periodically a fad comes along to challenge one of these traditions in spite of their almost universally good effect on human quality of life, and very often those promoting the fad make a point of ignoring these benefits in order to paint the tradition as outdated. But useful and helpful traditions by their very nature are never outdated. They are the bedrock of this tiny sliver of good living at the very tip of a hundred thousand year prehistory, nearly all of which was hell on earth for just about everyone.

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

First of all, i would attribute the success of prehistoric societies to early agriculture and animal rearing, rather than the cultural construct of monogamy.

Secondly, people can do whatever they want, but when you live in a country that's mostly monogamous and are yet CONSTANTLY inundated with messages and stories about people "trapped" in these monogamous relationships. First and foremost this is an issue of emotional literacy (something we don't teach in grade school). If people can't self-reflect and ask themselves hard questions about what they want/ who they are then I guarontee 99% of your relationships will fail until you knock someone up. Not the best outcome.
It took me years of personal growth and feeling like garbage to finally admit that monogamy isn't for me. If i hadn't explored those arguments i would still be lying to myself (and others).

FOMO is real and jealousy is real. Both are emotions that can be dealt with in a healthy, constructive way. In a healthy adult emotions (usually) don't just come out of nowhere. There's a reason you feel the way you do. Asking yourself "why" opens yourself up to hard answers.

Do what you want but, for me and millions of other people (including those who claim otherwise) monogamy just doesn't work.

[JesseJayNeak]

Yes, monogamy is not only related to humans. Many animals are monogamous such as various species of birds, wolves and canids in general for example

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

So what?

[JesseJayNeak]

So just because something is more popular than the other, it doesn't mean that we should cater to it or follow it

[Malik00]

Because lets be real here humans are kind of prone to jealousy, though I do agree that sooner or later people are gonna get bored, but with polyamory you run the risk of becoming a 3rd wheel

[Golden_shine]

Bad for health more than two. Can't be completely satisfying. I need 7 days a week 4 to 5 times a day from one person. How can't I do it with 2 or 5 people. Not possible for me. One at a time for me. Small jaw bones.

[PeteyB]

I've been open to the idea, and on paper it sounds like it would work
Are you polygamous?

[Shark_61695]

I'm not monogamous, that would be one more than I can have.

[dudeinohio]

Yes... monogamous.. always have been and always will be

[mrkdvsn]

Yes, always have been. Have never "been" with more than one woman at a time, or at the same time.

[Sabretooth]

no one needs multiple partners-just people who don't have self-control.

[anube]

Unfortunately yes because I'm single however I have a firm grip on my sex life

[Anonymous]

Stop putting these gross toxic posts online, you weirdo. Of course I’m still

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

UwU™

[Chase7777]

You can do whatever you want. Don't tell other people that your preferences are the ultimate one.

[DiscomfortZone]

Sure am :) Because I'm not an immature little rebel wannabe trying to fake a sense of generational worth by going against norms for its own sake.

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

"Rebel wannabe going against norms" is this 1957? Why do you phrase it like you're a Nazi trying to keep the youth in line?

[DiscomfortZone]

Your ignorance and sheer stupidity are nothing short of depressing.
1) You obviously have no idea what a Nazi is, you should read about it a bit before throwing words you don't know.
2) I'll give you this one for free: the Nazis were defeated in 1945, so saying "1957" is plain stupid.

[Shamalien]

... YOU'RE DUMB!

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

UwU owie. my widdo feewings.

[Shamalien]

LOL sorry girl I just don't have the patience for this anymore. You're just a retarded brainwashed idiot that's unwittingly helping bring down the greatest culture that ever existed. You should check back on what happened to those poly-amorous societies a few years down the road... it's really funny actually. See, those once great societies like greece and rome, they started out monogamous, then things got too prosperous, life got easy, they forgot their values and the foundation they were built upon, started pursuing hedonism, polyamory, degeneracy of all kinds, just like we are, and their great societies fell apart

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

"greatest culture that's ever existed"

OwO daddy been brainwashed.

[Shamalien]

Oh do remind me what other culture freed the slaves, ensured the highest average standard of living of any society in earth’s history, and became the envy of the world attracting more immigrants than anywhere else? I think you may be the brainwashed one kiddo. So sad to watch us descend into disgusting hedonist trash as we fall apart with fools like you cheering on the sidelines

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

You think American "culture" did any of that? I'm pretty sure most of the freedom we enjoy in this country came from people who rebelled against the outdated ways of thinking. That's how change happens.

Who freed the slaves? Probably the people who wanted the slaves freed against the will of the people who DIDN'T want the slaves freed. All of those people are still Americans. American "culture" was pretty divided.

[Shamalien]

By what you just said, it's clear that you overwhelmingly agree with me, so I don't feel the need to waste too much more time here, but to be clear, American Culture is Rebellion. 1776.

Sure it's a big melting pot now, but back when America was born, even before the freeing of the slaves, there was one thing everyone came to agree upon at a certain point. FUCK OUR RULERS, WE ARE REBELLING, FREEDOM PEACE AND PROSPERITY!!!

1776 is American culture.

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

You sound like Alex Jones.

[Shamalien]

Is that your idea of an argument? Okay, you think I sound like Alex Jones, a man who has studied the American Revolution more than you or I. I guess seeing as we are discussing American Revolutionary Culture, and you are calling me the name of someone well read in that area, it's a compliment?

Or did you think your army of talking heads and retarded buzzfeed articles is gunna somehow back this up for you?

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

UwU mmm. Yummy Alex Jones balls. Daddy loves those jonesy-wonesy bawsy-wawsy. OwO no gay frogs for daddy.

[Shamalien]

*windows is shutting down noise*

[slatyb]

Because my wife doesn’t want to share.

[nashvillain]

Non monogamous, polyamorous here

[NovissimumVirorum]

I am and were it in mine power I would strictly enforce monogamous only relationships

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

You'd probably enjoy this place called Pakistan.

[NovissimumVirorum]

I would not

[Gavyn]

Then you are fucking gross.

[Massageman]

Yes. Yes. Because a vow is a vow.

[Matt57]

Just not interested in it🤷🏻‍♂️

[bamesjond0069]

I'm mainly monogamous but I'd try polygyny.

[Brian87]

Nope not me it will always lead to failure

[Z06Guy]

Were swingers and enjoy the lifestyle.

[MEWHITEMANMEBAD]

I don’t date period