How does one handle 4-5 chicks at once, what if two girls showed up one is good looking and other is ugly, the one gonna leave because now she knows what my standards for attraction are? You are so on point with "each girl like it's my last one", I do have a big scarcity mindset, I think I would come across hot chick who's interested in me only once in every 3 year. I'm not a bad looking guy.. I'm short 5'7" but I think it's something else... That doesn't let me attract high quality women.. Could I have an advice?
Are you really worried about who is what and who is going to show up? Wow what a terrible problem to have LOL. Why don't you try it and see what happens.
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I have bad social anxiety and I'm mentioning about who is going to show up because I match with girls who are not so good looking and who are real hot, I wouldn't wanna lose the hot one because of the other one (being little shallow but we're talking tinder here so).
I know Corey Wayne and Rollo Tamasi... both have really good books... not familiar with the rest though. All I can say is... Keep it simple. Start planning a night out and inviting as many as you can to come hang out. They either show up or they don't... it's better then getting ghosted. ... at least end the conversation with an invite.
Then don't invite that one. Invite all the hot ones. You are making this too complicated man.
And how do I introduce them to each other and which one I take home? How do I know which one is interested in me? I don't do well on a one to one date, this can be intimidating?
How would you have handled it? Invite all of them and they show up, lets say 5 of them if invited 7-8, saying in going to be at this bar tomorow night 8pm, you should come hang out, wouldn't the girl suspect who that woman is, and what if she asks her who did you guys meet? And then the same woman asks the other 4, and thimk we've all just met him first time, and think of me like I'm a player, and leave. And who is going to pay for the drinks for 5 people?
It's not a one on one date.. . that is why i said... tell them you will be at the bar and they should come hang out... it's not formal.. it's not a date.. . it's just hey come hang out... no pressure. You can't have everything planned out.. you have to jump in the deep end of the pool if you want to learn how to swim... somethings are better left as an adventure.
You're a great coach! The only question that stays - how do I introduce them to each other and if I decide to choose one of 5, I should just say "hey..., do you wanna come to this Meetup with me?" how do I go for the good looking one in the end? women can be bitchy if they're not being chosen and are rejected because of another woman.
First of all wouldn't that be an awesome problem to have? Look most girls who are serious will confirm that they will be there... if these girls just randomly show up and don't tell you they are coming then oh well.. how were you supposed to know? Don't worry about it. Your goal is to get ONE to confirm.
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What would you say you're doing? Could you please share? And about meeting in person, I consider myself a good looking guy fit person but I have had sex with people who I was not very attracted to..
You could say you're getting off work, but you're getting dressed for your biking session, or the gym, or gardening. Something different than, I'm eating. Talk about WHAT you're eating. You're cooking. What are you cooking. Make it interesting. Don't have sex with people you aren't attracted to just cause you're horny. That's as unfair to you as it is to them. Again, it borders on the dull. If you're not enthusiastic about what you're doing or what you're saying... if you're not being creative, that will come across.
Another thing. Cut down on how many women you're talking to. Forty a month! You're worn out. Out of that forty, cut it in half. Then you can concentrate on quality texts, THEN conversations, then meetings. If you text with 20 women a month, you should be meeting about four. That would be success.
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