After how many days of talking to each other should you ask the girl to meet up? How do you know what is she looking for? Advice for of my convos?

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I want to know why I don't get any hookups. I get 100 matches per month, only 40-50 of which talks, and none of them meetups with me. I'm a good looking guy but tinder doesn't work for me?

After how many days of talking to each other should you ask the girl to meet up? How do you know what is she looking for? Advice for of my convos?

Answer 1

coachTanthony | 1.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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You talk about too much dumb stuff man. I would round all these chicks up and send them all the same message.

Hey look... I am going to be at the "insert bar" tomorrow night at 8pm you should come hang out.

Send that to 7 or 8 women at the same time... then go to the bar and enjoy yourself.

If 4 or 5 show up great introduce them to each other and go with it.

Stop trying to work each girl like it's your last.

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How does one handle 4-5 chicks at once, what if two girls showed up one is good looking and other is ugly, the one gonna leave because now she knows what my standards for attraction are? You are so on point with "each girl like it's my last one", I do have a big scarcity mindset, I think I would come across hot chick who's interested in me only once in every 3 year. I'm not a bad looking guy.. I'm short 5'7" but I think it's something else... That doesn't let me attract high quality women.. Could I have an advice?
coachTanthony

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Are you really worried about who is what and who is going to show up? Wow what a terrible problem to have LOL. Why don't you try it and see what happens.
Asker

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I get so anxious. I usually take advice from these books, have you heard about them? Alpha Male Strategies: Dating Techniques In The Social Media Age www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_5opeEbNG8Q6TY Concise Art of Seduction www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_OlpeEbDGB41C6 The Rational Male www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_jlpeEbY14Z0K7 The 48 Laws of Power www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_XlpeEbS04KTMR No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_dlpeEbVH9ZYYQ How to Be a 3% Man, Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_0kpeEbF6F4T64 The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (20th Anniversary Edition) www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_vRpeEb5J8MWNG
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Asker

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I have bad social anxiety and I'm mentioning about who is going to show up because I match with girls who are not so good looking and who are real hot, I wouldn't wanna lose the hot one because of the other one (being little shallow but we're talking tinder here so).
coachTanthony

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I know Corey Wayne and Rollo Tamasi... both have really good books... not familiar with the rest though. All I can say is... Keep it simple. Start planning a night out and inviting as many as you can to come hang out. They either show up or they don't... it's better then getting ghosted. ... at least end the conversation with an invite.
coachTanthony

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Then don't invite that one. Invite all the hot ones. You are making this too complicated man.
Asker

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And how do I introduce them to each other and which one I take home? How do I know which one is interested in me? I don't do well on a one to one date, this can be intimidating?
Asker

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How would you have handled it? Invite all of them and they show up, lets say 5 of them if invited 7-8, saying in going to be at this bar tomorow night 8pm, you should come hang out, wouldn't the girl suspect who that woman is, and what if she asks her who did you guys meet? And then the same woman asks the other 4, and thimk we've all just met him first time, and think of me like I'm a player, and leave. And who is going to pay for the drinks for 5 people?
coachTanthony

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It's not a one on one date.. . that is why i said... tell them you will be at the bar and they should come hang out... it's not formal.. it's not a date.. . it's just hey come hang out... no pressure. You can't have everything planned out.. you have to jump in the deep end of the pool if you want to learn how to swim... somethings are better left as an adventure.
Asker

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You're a great coach! The only question that stays - how do I introduce them to each other and if I decide to choose one of 5, I should just say "hey..., do you wanna come to this Meetup with me?" how do I go for the good looking one in the end? women can be bitchy if they're not being chosen and are rejected because of another woman.
coachTanthony

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First of all wouldn't that be an awesome problem to have? Look most girls who are serious will confirm that they will be there... if these girls just randomly show up and don't tell you they are coming then oh well.. how were you supposed to know? Don't worry about it. Your goal is to get ONE to confirm.
coachTanthony

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Hit me up on my website.

http://coachtanthony.mystrikingly.com

Answer 2

Asker

How does one handle 4-5 chicks at once, what if two girls showed up one is good looking and other is ugly, the one gonna leave because now she knows what my standards for attraction are? You are so on point with "each girl like it's my last one", I do have a big scarcity mindset, I think I would come across hot chick who's interested in me only once in every 3 year. I'm not a bad looking guy.. I'm short 5'7" but I think it's something else... That doesn't let me attract high quality women.. Could I have an advice?

Answer 3

coachTanthony

Are you really worried about who is what and who is going to show up? Wow what a terrible problem to have LOL. Why don't you try it and see what happens.

Answer 4

Asker

I get so anxious. I usually take advice from these books, have you heard about them? Alpha Male Strategies: Dating Techniques In The Social Media Age www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_5opeEbNG8Q6TY Concise Art of Seduction www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_OlpeEbDGB41C6 The Rational Male www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_jlpeEbY14Z0K7 The 48 Laws of Power www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_XlpeEbS04KTMR No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_dlpeEbVH9ZYYQ How to Be a 3% Man, Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_0kpeEbF6F4T64 The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (20th Anniversary Edition) www.amazon.com/.../ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_vRpeEb5J8MWNG

Answer 5

Asker

I have bad social anxiety and I'm mentioning about who is going to show up because I match with girls who are not so good looking and who are real hot, I wouldn't wanna lose the hot one because of the other one (being little shallow but we're talking tinder here so).

Answer 6

coachTanthony

I know Corey Wayne and Rollo Tamasi... both have really good books... not familiar with the rest though. All I can say is... Keep it simple. Start planning a night out and inviting as many as you can to come hang out. They either show up or they don't... it's better then getting ghosted. ... at least end the conversation with an invite.

Answer 7

coachTanthony

Then don't invite that one. Invite all the hot ones. You are making this too complicated man.

Answer 8

Asker

And how do I introduce them to each other and which one I take home? How do I know which one is interested in me? I don't do well on a one to one date, this can be intimidating?

Answer 9

Asker

How would you have handled it? Invite all of them and they show up, lets say 5 of them if invited 7-8, saying in going to be at this bar tomorow night 8pm, you should come hang out, wouldn't the girl suspect who that woman is, and what if she asks her who did you guys meet? And then the same woman asks the other 4, and thimk we've all just met him first time, and think of me like I'm a player, and leave. And who is going to pay for the drinks for 5 people?

Answer 10

coachTanthony

It's not a one on one date.. . that is why i said... tell them you will be at the bar and they should come hang out... it's not formal.. it's not a date.. . it's just hey come hang out... no pressure. You can't have everything planned out.. you have to jump in the deep end of the pool if you want to learn how to swim... somethings are better left as an adventure.

Answer 11

Asker

You're a great coach! The only question that stays - how do I introduce them to each other and if I decide to choose one of 5, I should just say "hey..., do you wanna come to this Meetup with me?" how do I go for the good looking one in the end? women can be bitchy if they're not being chosen and are rejected because of another woman.

Answer 12

coachTanthony

First of all wouldn't that be an awesome problem to have? Look most girls who are serious will confirm that they will be there... if these girls just randomly show up and don't tell you they are coming then oh well.. how were you supposed to know? Don't worry about it. Your goal is to get ONE to confirm.

Answer 13

coachTanthony

Hit me up on my website.

http://coachtanthony.mystrikingly.com

Answer 14

nathanp97 | 192 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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From my experience I'd ask them out after a few good messages. A few word answers and no question asked back doesn't count as a good message. Once you finish the initial conversation don't wait. The women seem to get board quickly, and won't message back.

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Screenwriter | 1.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Think it's a bit too crude and forward to converse about a woman's hunger for "dick." I'd be more subtle. Wait until you meet to find out if you even like the person IN person. Those are generic conversations. Can you ask something more specific than what are you doing. I'm getting off from work.. This is dull stuff. Talk about something interesting you're doing or you're about to do.

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What would you say you're doing? Could you please share? And about meeting in person, I consider myself a good looking guy fit person but I have had sex with people who I was not very attracted to..
Screenwriter

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You could say you're getting off work, but you're getting dressed for your biking session, or the gym, or gardening. Something different than, I'm eating. Talk about WHAT you're eating. You're cooking. What are you cooking. Make it interesting. Don't have sex with people you aren't attracted to just cause you're horny. That's as unfair to you as it is to them. Again, it borders on the dull. If you're not enthusiastic about what you're doing or what you're saying... if you're not being creative, that will come across.
Screenwriter

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Another thing. Cut down on how many women you're talking to. Forty a month! You're worn out. Out of that forty, cut it in half. Then you can concentrate on quality texts, THEN conversations, then meetings. If you text with 20 women a month, you should be meeting about four. That would be success.

Answer 16

Asker

What would you say you're doing? Could you please share? And about meeting in person, I consider myself a good looking guy fit person but I have had sex with people who I was not very attracted to..

Answer 17

Screenwriter

You could say you're getting off work, but you're getting dressed for your biking session, or the gym, or gardening. Something different than, I'm eating. Talk about WHAT you're eating. You're cooking. What are you cooking. Make it interesting. Don't have sex with people you aren't attracted to just cause you're horny. That's as unfair to you as it is to them. Again, it borders on the dull. If you're not enthusiastic about what you're doing or what you're saying... if you're not being creative, that will come across.

Answer 18

Screenwriter

Another thing. Cut down on how many women you're talking to. Forty a month! You're worn out. Out of that forty, cut it in half. Then you can concentrate on quality texts, THEN conversations, then meetings. If you text with 20 women a month, you should be meeting about four. That would be success.

Answer 19

Tyler131 | 97 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Lol now I don't feel bad about only getting 3-5 matches... you get 100s and still no luck. I get basically nothing on any of the apps. Garbage.

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