Do you speak carefully when entering an interracial relationship or do the things you say not really cross your mind? (Page 2)

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I know Most wouldn't want to walk around on eggshells, but I feel more interracial relationships would be successful if people would just think before they speak. But I for example, say the N word a lot and have to speak carefully when with someone who isn't black, because yes i’d look at them sideways if they repeated the word back. I hate my first ex ever got me into the bad habit of saying that word because my fam is against it. Anyways, I also dont like when nonblack guys constantly bring up my skintone and compare it chocolate. I’m all caramel baby 🙌 lmao but either way just try not to bring up skintone so much. I admit tho, i like when nonblack guys have a really good tan from the sun so I have to speak carefully and not compliment them so much on it 😂 Either way, i do prefer to date within my race or someone mixed with black just because of the things that i’m afraid someone nonblack will actually say... but then again this has never stopped me from still giving interracial relationships a try. #FeelFreeToList #InterracialDating

Anonymous · Answer

I just didn't care about it I was born in country where we had 1 black person as it is small country and VERY cold in winter, and when I left it was still recovering from USSR collapse...

Only when I ended up in UK I felt that invisible boxes think and black people making bad name for themselves, by letting all the stupid ones to mess all reputation...

I would not mind to have black or partial black girlfriend...

And fun fact in Russia it was very big deal (in a good way as it was not common) to have halve black girlfriend with caramel skin tone at some point or maybe even now.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

If you are dating someone interracial you are bound to make mistakes because there is already prefed notions in your mind broadcasted by telivision you see certain people in certain ways due the way they were projected to you sometimes its funny you both can share laughs by seeing the cultural difference but sometimes it might get offensive but it depends on how the other person takes it

lcooks88 · Answer

Unfortunately I have no filter, at my job I was trained to think out loud which I do now all the time, which isn't necessarily A bad thing but for some people it comes off strange. Actually I think it's the people that think it's strange that are strange. They pretty much are socially accepted in our society that's has to be politically correct and say the right thing at the right time.

Ziggystar · Answer

I was raised very racist I am a full-fledged redneck if you look up the word redneck up and then dictionary you're probably see a picture of my face underneath but as I got older and got out into the world and learn and discover things for myself I would love to be with an ebony woman color is only skin deep

lucas262 · Answer

Well iv little to no filter,
You can say the N word.

And you can really say the N word.

people call me things like this,
Always as a joke.

Would I call my SO that? Likely not because it isn't what they are they are so and so.

But i wouldn't walk on eggshells.

bananathunder · Answer

I don't filter myself around anyone who isn't in charge of some aspect of my life (boss, co-worker)... also I would be fine with dating someone outside my ethnicity. I do know a white girl who married a black man and she calls him the N word all the time. I told her that I didn't think that was cool (drives me nuts for some reason) and she just blew it off. I hate hearing white people toss that word around

Metallsturm · Answer

I'm not in favor of interracial relations, strongly believe every race has it's own continent where they belong and especially against interracial breeding.
To use blunt slurs when discussing it, such as calling someone n**, chink, wetback or such? Nah, not really my style. I prefer stating blunt facts if asked on the matter or if such discussion arises. I don't really mind being called a racist at all -- I know I'm a healthy racist and I see absolutely nothing wrong with that.

90degrees · Answer

I'm a black/irsh mixed and am married to a latina/white mixed woman. I do not hold back on racial jokes, but I make 100.5% sure it can't be taken as anything other than a joke.
It's all in the context as well.

Sarahr123 · Answer

My boyfriend is the same race as me. I’m not attracted to boys who aren’t my race so it wouldn’t have happened anyway. I personally wouldn’t even if I were attracted to someone because I think it’s best to stick to our own kind.

Walrus_au · Answer

I think I should explain my vote. While I say that speaking 'carefully' in a relationship is not required. I see worlds of difference between speaking 'on eggshells' and being respectful.

I do not see there being any words 'off limits' especially in a loving relationship. But the baggage and usage of some words must be kept in mind.

If people cannot trust each other to be respectful, then it's not much of a relationship.

nirveek · Answer

Just being yourself around anyone regardless of their race is the best thing in my opinion. Although, you do have to be able to filter out certain words if you're in a habit of saying them. 👍

TheWhiteGorilla · Answer

I've never had a interracial relationship, I've sleeper with several girls of different races. I'm not racist so I don't have to filter much. Usually both of us speak rather bluntly in private but filter in public. Never getting rude with it, more playing with mutual respect. Kinda hard to explain, you'd just have to take part in the situation first to understand..

BCA6010 · Answer

Uh, if I feel like I'm tiptoeing on glass, that relationship is going nowhere. If it doesn't feel natural, it's not off to a good start.

R_ūshī · Answer

I wouldn't say offensive things but I'd like to br able to joke with them freely.

Like when I was with my ex who's muslim I told him to have a blast when he was catching his plane (Pun intended). He didn't feel bad and we both laughed.

SjE78 · Answer

I speak my mine no matter who i'm with, if i dated someone of a different ethnicity then way i see it... they are still humour... if they couldn't appreciate me even after knowing who i am then clearly it won't work out, and vice versa

jskaashu · Answer

Yes.. and it's definitely effect as we know first impression is last. Speak carefully and listening capacity should be high to understand what they really want or also it's easy to know, what we think about that relationship

TremorJay · Answer

It's something I am open to, but I do see it as a challenge. I would be careful about what I say until we're comfortable

Littlemissbrat · Answer

Idgaf if my guy makes Mexican, taco, illegal jokes I laugh too. People are too sensitive nowadays. I miss the times before people were PC. Smh.

mrwhite333 · Answer

Personally I don't worry about it cause I'm not racist. I realize I may say something once in a while that reeks of white privilege but I want that brought to my attention so I can be more self aware and continue to become a better person.

TheFirstMan · Answer

Of course carefully, whoever we were having a conversation, we don't want to marked as rude or less manner. So I choose to love everything and it make sense, I didn't find it was a hard. I like to be a good person. Try it

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