How do people react when you tell them you are in an interracial relationship?

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fisher · Accepted Answer

It's like a mixed bag of nuts—some are sweet, some are salty, and occasionally, you find one that's a bit hard to crack.

Most folks I've encountered are super chill about it. They're like, "Cool, you guys look cute together!" or they're just interested in knowing more about our cultures and how we blend them. It's pretty awesome when people focus on the love and connection rather than the differences.

But then, there are those moments when you run into someone whose eyebrows shoot up so high, you'd think they're trying to escape their face. Sometimes, it's not even what they say; it's the look—a mix of surprise, curiosity, or, sadly, disapproval. It's as if their brain is trying to process a software update in real time. 😅

I've also had those deep conversations where people are genuinely curious and ask questions. They want to understand the experiences, the cultural nuances, and sometimes the challenges.

And, oh boy, the "interesting" comments about how "exotic" or "unique" our future kids would look. It's meant as a compliment, I guess, but it's a weird reminder that some folks still view relationships through a very old-fashioned lens.

On the flip side, there's been a handful of outright negative reactions. Those can be tough. It's like a splash of cold water when someone shows disapproval or makes a thoughtless comment. We've learned to navigate those moments together, using them as opportunities to educate, or sometimes, just to lean on each other and move on.

Love, respect, and understanding are what matter most, and everything else is just background noise. 🌍💑

smne35 · Accepted Answer

If I was in an interracial relationship and someone asked me if I was, I would say yes and that'll be the end of it because it shouldn't even be an issue who I'm with or what race the person is that I'm with. It's not like she's an animal or an alien. She's a human being like any other human. And if someone has issues with it I don't give a damn because I'm not here to be with anybody to please anyone but myself and we really need to get past this interracial stuff. I mean we're all humans. The bottom line and somebody wants to label you. Classify you that's ignorant to me and I mean no offense to anyone out there but we need to stop all this division, as I keep saying no one on this earth is better than the next. So we need to stop classifying and putting people in this box and that box and come on now come on. it's time to end all that, need to stop looking at people as race, culture , but humans which is what we all are unless we got some Martians an venetians and jupitarians or whatever people from Jupiter are called lol. Running around out here but I haven't seen any lately have you. All I see is humans around the rest of the world , not Chinese. Korean Arab black but a human being just like you

RingOfFire · Accepted Answer

When I was dating a black girl, everyone in my circle (and they are all white) was either cool with it or too respectful to say anything... but in her world? A completely different story. She was constantly harassed by black guys including even being called a whore and worse in public by strangers shouting out racist comments for being with a white guy as we walked down city streets holding hands. They were "keepin' it real" I guess. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ There was a lot of racism coming out of her black community and they weren't shy about expressing it. Luckily her family wasn't part of that.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I am Caucasian and my fiancée is Chinese, so that is an interracial relationship, but I never get any reaction at all about that aspect of our relationship. The only question I get is whether she is already an American citizen; obviously, some people are skeptical and think she might be using me to get her permanent resident alien status. Actually, she became a US citizen about 15 years ago.

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

My ex was white.
Both our families were quite accepting and for the most part, nothing was really an issue. Except when we went to high end restaurants.
I’ll never forget the day we were having our Christmas dinner at some fancy French place. I don’t celebrate Christmas but it’s still family dinner.
I said I’d meet them at the restaurant cause I wanted to spend the day with my family first.
I remember walking into that restaurant and the host said ‘sorry are you in the right building. We are having a private function’ I told her I was part of that private function. I ended up being the only black person which is fine. It’s never been an issue but the states throughout the night were quite obvious.
Those sorta issues. But this was 2007-09 times. I’m sure it’s gotten better (hopefully)

DreamCrescent · Accepted Answer

it happens. even in the most urban areas

i went on a date with a black man and felt sooo self conscious. heads were turning it almost got uncomfortable. he didn’t seem to notice. we were drinking coffee at an outdoor seating and walked a little through downtown

when i went on a date with a latino, a lot less glances. but i did notice a few and it was only guys look at me and then look at him like it’s strange : / he passes for white, though but even then, still interracial

i don’t think i get curious glances when i’m alone. i mostly look people in the eye anyways and say hi.
and when i was with my ex, zero looks, same race couple no one batted an eye

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

I have only had interracial relationships and married twice to men who are not my background…we share most of the family values even though we look different. It has never been a problem… all our friends and our kids are mixed… that’s normal … we are one race - human.
people? I don’t care.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Surprised,  Some men get jealous, they think only they deserve you and someone from another race doesn’t have a right of having you.

Avicenna · Answer

It's not as big a deal as it was years ago. I don't tell anyone that a relationship is interracial and my friends and family wouldn't care anyway.

1User12345 · Answer

I'm German Norwegian Bavarian ever heard of the Tower of Bael Nimrod the confounding of language dissepiment of the accordingly different language to regions of their own one race so the people will not be as one on this present form the Great I'm said stay within your race so as not to disrupt His reason. Also Jesus say's your present life is hard enough without drawing un necessarily attention also it is divisive and leads to cultural collapse but you have the choice. I do not judge or condemn for I had a beautiful Jewish Hebrew girlfriend. My Queen My Wife My Love this is Sparta.

TenderFantasy · Answer

Depends in who's looking but more importantly I don't really care what they think. If I (an Asian woman) ever decided to have sex, date, marry and have kids with a white dude, then why should they care? It's MY life, I will do what I please as long as it's not illegal or punishable by law.

Drew-1990 · Answer

I'm not talking about dating a girl that currently lives in a different country but one that lives in the US already I would have zero issues and honestly would love it. I find a lot of foreign women to great woman to get to know and start dating

bobalife · Answer

I guess in my 20s, friends and family were surprise because they’re used to the type of men I date from the same race relationships to interracial relationships lol. But now, nah, everyone knows my current types lol. Diversity is beautiful. Interracial babies are super cute. Mixed people are super good looking jus sayin lolz. And it’s nice to see everyone being more open to one another in the world :)

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I don’t “tell” people but it’s come up in conversation or they meet her. I’ve never had a “reaction” per se but it often becomes a point of conversation since there are some really funny points to the culture clash when we first met. Also, I live in Southern California (which is nothing to brag about for sure) but it’s very diverse here and I know as many interracial couples as I do couples who are within their own race.

MsBell2018 · Answer

I don't mention his race because it doesn't matter. I speak about his good qualities & character. If they get to meet him, they'll see for themselves. The amount of (or lack of) melanin in a person's skin should never be an issue. Love is age & color blind

molonski2 · Answer

Well , I'm an Aussie , pretty much every relationship would be interracial , now I'm in Thailand , same same , so if you told me that , my reaction would be " Yep sure am " , on the assumption that I was in a relationship which I'm currently not. #SobSob :)

5555 - For various reasons. But , I'd hardly think its a big deal these days.

msc545 · Answer

I have dated many Latin women and have been significantly involved with several and interestingly, nobody has ever said a derogatory word about it At least to my face. This may have a lot to do with the fact that I live in California and fortunately the majority of the population in California is Hispanic. They have a terrific culture and they are wonderful people.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

To be honest? In the two interracial relationships I've been in, neither were a problem, either from her side or mine.

I find the way to overcome prejudice (one of the lowest forms of ignorance) If I find it, is to confront it head on.

RavVid · Answer

I'm not but if I was so what? Different if I was in an inter-species relationship. I mean a romantic inter-species relationship because a pet dog or cat would qualify as a inter-species relationship when I think about it

Anonymous · Answer

I can't say I've ever told anyone "I'm in an interracial relationship!" even though that's almost always been the case. It's just a really, REALLY odd thing to bring up out of the blue. Unless you're just obsessed with race. Which just strikes me as retarded. So I've never done that before.

DizzyDesii · Answer

The usual. “Whats wrong with dating your own kind?” “It must’ve been big?” “What do your family and friends think about you two getting together?” “He’s probably fetishizing”.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Some react with racism, others think it's normal and don't react any differently than if it was the same race. Luckily I haven't experienced anything too aggressive or uncomfortable.

HawkPerception · Answer

I'm extremely mixed and people really don't react at all. I've dated an Indian, a Mexican, an Italian, an English, and a Bengali girl. I'm open to dating anyone I click with and find attractive.

sage2021 · Answer

Interracial relationships are so old I don't think you'll get very many reaction anymore. Honest, no one cares!

catsmemoir · Answer

White Women: Oh How lovely! (Talked mad shit behind our backs) White Men: Cool. Hispanic Men: Oh, What? We're not good enough for you? You want a White Boy? Hispanic Women: Niiice

miana · Answer

Well so far I've only gotten good reactions or jokes made about stereotypes but either then that nothing really

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

I was once endec up divorce Ido not recommended it. Beforebyou lable me as a racist. I have myreasons he was the problem not me.

Katie1964 · Answer

Well I haven't tried that but I would assume they would react with a puzzled look, since we are not interracial?

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Nobody's ever reacted because nobody cares. I also don't just go around saying it because why the F would I? That'd be racist AF.

LazerBean · Answer

I have never had a reason to verbally advertise that we are not both completely white. But I don't think I have ever known anyone who has ever cared.

WhiteSteve · Answer

I don’t really tell people that. I actually kind of forget I’m in one, to be totally honest😂

MrMore1 · Answer

I don't see what's wrong with interracial couples. As long as they love each other. Think about the black Americans. They never existed to begin with. They were Africans, had interracial marriage and the black American was born.

Kylie_Bug · Answer

Never been in one but I wouldn't have a reaction to people that are in one. No big deal.

rosemilk · Answer

they don't react. no one really ever cared as far as i know.

PetLover24 · Answer

I've only ever dated 2 men, both Christian Egyptians. Most people say nothing.

jorfan3 · Answer

They stare or raise eyebrows XD It's really funny. I'm Chinese, and he's black/mixed.

KarinMcDonald · Answer

I don't tell other people because I don't want it to get out and hurt my husbands feelings.

strateguy632 · Answer

now i am white with a white. when i say i have a girl friend they do not ASK if interracial.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Depends. Woke people think I'm less or more racist, and normal people don't give a shit.

Radiate143 · Answer

Who even says "I'm in an interracial relationship"? They just say the person's name.

NathanDavis · Answer

I didn't get them... but, for the most part... it's just normal around here

DJB72 · Answer

I don't tell them. If they react they're not my friends.

butterly248 · Answer

My mother wasn't happy lol. She said she would not have any blonde hair blue eyed, grandchildren. Everyone else was fine 😂

Alex-Snow · Answer

I have not been in one yet. But it should not matter to people and I do not see why it should be an issue at all.

SolitarySolace · Answer

It shouldn’t be called an interracial relationship. It should just be considered a relationship. Leaves room open for racism.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I’ve mostly dated people who were a different ethnicity. The reaction has always been normal but I also don’t go announcing it lol.

LemonJuicee · Answer

The only people who really care about the races you date are racist bigots  Who tf cares as long as they're treating each other well

Phoenix98 · Answer

They don't care because it's not a big deal.

Anonymous · Answer

Never really brought it up unless we were talking about things like that, people were usually surprised when I said my wife was black, we were married 17 years though but we divorced years ago and had nothing to do with race

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't see the point in describing my relationship that way. I'm not virtue signalling.

LiamJHayden · Answer

None of my friends has ever cared. Don't GAF what random strangers think.

boobliker · Answer

O and move away from me so I stoped telling them

Guido · Answer

No reaction. I don't care either way what people do.

OddBeMe · Answer

Firstly I don’t. I make my wife pretend she’s white. Damn Paraguayans.

Carly2005 · Answer

For me no big deal. I’m in a same sex relationship.

legalboxers · Answer

I get told "Stick with your own color"

Anonymous · Answer

I mean I don’t tell people i am in an interracial relationship cause who cares

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

THAT WOULD NEVER HAPPEN BECAUSE I WOULD NEVER DO THAT

Anonymous · Answer

Well they usually think we’re joking since we are both Caucasian.

Lynx122 · Answer

Nobody reacted negatively to me.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

It shouldn't be an issue.

sheikalana · Answer

Not surprised since I'm mixed raced myself.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I have no clue, I have never been in one.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I'm not in an interracial relationship

Anonymous · Answer

"influencer"  LMAO

JayBones · Answer

"Does your wife know?"

dudeinohio · Answer

Never had any problems

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