
Is going to Disneyland for the second date too much?


I mean hey, if it's not too expensive because one of y'all has connections, I think it works out! If it's like how I remember, there are lots of long lines, so that gives y'all chances to interact with each other too.
One downside is that if y'all find out you don't really get along with each other, you're basically stuck for the full day. It's not like a coffee date where you can easily just close the check and get out of there asap while saving face. That's why I likely wouldn't do it for the first date. If you can be decently sure that you at least get along with each other though, even if not romantically, I say go for it.
The other downside is that amusement parks (Disneyworld/Disneyland in particular) in my opinion can be a bit frustrating at times. After all, you're outside all day in possibly hot weather, you're exhausted from standing/fighting through the herds of people, everything seemingly has a long queue, and people tend to have different approaches to amusement parks in general.
There are plenty of upsides though. Firstly, it's fun-- especially since I know you love Disney. Psychologically speaking, there is also actually data to support that attraction can be built when two people are put together through situations that are scary... like walking on a sketchy suspension bridge, or, in this case, going on a crazy rollercoaster.
I mean, I can understand how you’re feeling but depending on the man’s budget I think it might be perfectly normal or fine for him. Also, aside from budget, perhaps he wants to be original and doesn’t want to take you out to places where he might be categorized among the other partners in your life that may have the same thing. I don’t think Disneyland is too much for a second date because it doesn’t seem anymore intimate or personal as opposed to going to a dinner at a nice place. Now, of course it would be more expensive, which is probably why you’re asking if it’s too much because it may not be normal for a lot of money to be spent on the second date when two people are still just getting to know each other. Honestly, for me, I know how much i want to spend and how I feel about a woman just from the first date if I ask the write questions. After this, I don’t mind spending a lot of money to do something unique and fun that we’ll both enjoy.
If it was me I wouldn't, Disneyland is a guaranteed all day thing and I know that I wouldn't want to spend the whole day out with someone I've only gone on one date with. Maybe like a 5th or 6th date okay. By that time I would know more about them and if our personalities gel well enough to spend the whole day together.
See, that’s how I feel about it. This nails it right on the head for me.
@Máiiréad thanks for the MHG 😊
Did you just meet him or have you known him a long time? How far are you from Disney? It is definitely over the top, but could be romantic. If you do not live in the same state as Disney and will have to travel then, while it would be fun, it also would be an expensive and overly dramatic date.
Well I live like an hour or so away from it. I just met him yesterday... and since he knows people that work there he could get in for free... I don't know I feel weird about it. 😐
Nahh don't feel weird. he is offering and he even said it's free soooo go have fun enjoy the day and even if he turns out to be nfg or just friend material then at least you made a good Disney connection. :) Positive vibes All the way. :)
What part makes you feel weird? Is he weird?
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ok my first thought was - is this guy trying to buy you? is he like some rich dude throwing money around? but then i went quickly through the comments and you are about an hour away and he knows people and can get you guys in for free? oh this guy is waaay toooo much fun! oh go for it! oh like so go for it? what's the worst that can happen? you'll be in disneyland for the love of all that is holy! and you liked him enough to bother with a 2nd date? oh go for it! i mean really throw your heart into it! bahahahah! oh and please come back and tell us all about it! i wish the best for both of you!
Why do you feel weird about this?
Look no one can tell you what you personally should or should not find weird, there are a few exceptions, where something is weird, but those are usually "red flag" situations, this is not one of those exceptions...
So the question really is why do you feel weird about this, most of the time it is something else bothering you that makes this specific scenario feel weird to you, whether you are aware of what that something actually is or not is another case though...
Disclaimer, this is a statement of what applies in most cases and this is based of off the assumption that your specific scenario fits into the framework of most cases...
It costs a shitload, so, unless you have the money, I would say "Yes, it's too much." Furthermore, it has to be something of a shitty date because you spend HOURS on lines waiting for rides and are otherwise walking around all day.
Better date: Go out to dinner at home... Spend the money on making a fabulous meal at home. First, go out shopping together to get the food and any necessary accessories and then, when you get home, prepare the meal together and talk - just talk - while it is cooking. When the cooking is done, eat a great meal with nice dishes and flatware... candlelight... maybe some nice music on a stereo (you know what a stereo is?). Then, when done, who knows what's going to happen...
Cool!! I'd love to go there for a date. I never thought about going there. Other than the fact i don't leave near Anaheim. Is it true they have annual passes? 😗
Yeah they are REALLY expensive though.
But if you do get them. Does that allow to go in as many times as you want?
Depends on the level you bought and the black out dates.
Ooo see i did not know that. 😗
It’s the thought that counts, the question is what is the thought. First I assume you live near Disney so this is not an overnight trip. Since you live in that area it is an icon of where you live. That sounds reasonable to me. It may be expensive but it is very public and not a lot more than a really nice dinner for two. If the cost is a concern, offer to by lunch at the park to even the score. If your first date was fun, make this one fun too!
Unless you live next to it (and it is like a regular thing for you) I would say that it can be too much for a second date with someone you just met.
If you're like lifelong friends that know develop more feelings for each other, then I think it's ok.
There's this girl I've been talking to for a couple weeks. It;s way too soon for me to be doing this but I bought her like a $70 outfit for her new job. Which is too much. But I don't really care. I just wanted to get this thing for her because I thought she could use it and appreciate it.
Maybe thats how this guy feels. Maybe it't the intention we need to focus on
Oooo did someone finally ask you out?
Ehhh probably would be a bit much for a 2nd date lol. Unless you've known the guy forever or it's more down the line dating wise I wouldn't. Not with someone you've only just met/got to know.
If you feel weird about it don't do it.
I knew one of the women I dated likes theme parks. So, I took her to Magic Mountain on our first date. The next weekend, I took her to Knots Berry Farm. Disneyland was on the following weekend. They were all good choices and a lot of fun for us both but they cost me a lot of money, tbh.
It's bold and definitely one way to impress. If it's your thing then enjoy it. Clearly looking promising if they wanna make this good of an impression.
It's unique so props to that. It's also expensive and for average people, would be stupid and desperate. So, if he is rich, right on, nice catch. If he isn't super wealthy, he's got other issues that need work.
Isn't that where you'd like to go, despite ostensibly being an adult?
So he's your perfect match, and you're going to throw this away...
Just because he can get me into disneyland for free does not mean he is my “perfect match”.
Not at all it could be a awesone experience never saw no to doing fun adventures you dont wanna wake up at 30 like me and wonder why life isn't what I could have been
Nope. If someone wanted to take me there for a first date... I'd be down 🙋
Any opportunity to go to Disneyland and I am in🤣
Date or no date hahaha
But it's cool just go with the flow and enjoy it.
It seems a bit much, but it depends a bit on from where. If you both live locally and have annual passes it might be ok. If you live in Dublin, then whisking you off to the states for a second date is impressive, but a bit 50 shades.
If you can afford it then why not. Sounds like a fun date.
You live near me lol. Yeah, it’s too much. It will be awkward waiting in long lines together, and it will be a long ass day. You’ll be stuck with him for a while.
Sounds like a fun date. Just don't over spend becuase Disney is expensive on everything...
That's a bit too expensive as well as expansive for a second date. Try something smaller and less expensive.
For me, that would be a great 2nd date! Why do you feel weird about it?
It will be best to visit so you will know how you feel
Depends on how close you live to the place. If you're local it would be equal to going to a fancy dinner with wine, and if not it might be too much.
It seems like a lot of fun. I'd try and see if there is anything special you can romantically do
Disneyland is the dreamland and every one is trying to do as special as possible for his date so enjoy the show,
Nah dude, if you're close by go for it, let your inner child loose, Disney land is fun for everyone!
Disney land is a ridiculous place i dont know why people go there. I would save this money and go hiking in a natural reserve
Second date? Wayyy too much! What if you decided he wasn’t worth it. You just wasted hundreds of dollars. Go get Mexican or something, that’s so much cheaper and risk is worth it.
If you dont mind spending a lot of money and walking around all day it's not. I would think that more of a relationship trip
That’s what I think. More of a relationship trip rather than a second date. This feels so weird 😐
too late now. That sucker's closed! yes I know this is an old question. lol. But no, it would be fun but I'd hope that we split the costs if it's only a second date. That's a lot to spend on a person that early.
Disneyland for any date - at least for me - is weird. Not a Disney fan...
Could buy a lot of expensive wine for the cost of that trip...
No as its big day out also comitment you will never forget
You will find out if it's a small small world if you go...
Unless you are both season pass holders and meet there, yes.
Its always an amazing place to spend time with your loved ones.
That's very expensive and somebody's really trying to impress you.
Too much for second date. You’ll spend all day together. This freak will want to marry you soon
hey Minnie mouse wants a second date ... i get freaky wid it twice. ..
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It depends on how long you known them but it can be nice
Yes! Spending $200 per person... plus parking... and everything else is WAY TOO MUCH for a 2nd date!!!
Probably, I don't know it's a lot of expenses and it's a lifetime experience
I would even go to Disneyland, but I have many things to do in my house.
I don't know bcz i didn't go to Disneyland even once🥺🥺
that is intensely magical, girl.
It's Disneyland, not a chapel.
If you have any reservations, don't do it.
Bot if he works there. 😂
No
As long as u r having fun. its ok
That sounds like a trap
who cares just enjoy it lol
If you're comfortable with it why not?
I'd wait for like a later date though. To make sure you feel comfortable with the person
Wth, since when Disney is for grown ups?
Yeah I heard it went up to 200 bucks
Do you live in Orange county? Or la?
Let me just say it's Mickey Much 🤣
It’s an interesting 2nd date
I'd even go there for the first date.
Maybe too much money but not too much to hope for.
Hella yea I will go to Disneyland
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