I would never suggest lying. Why start a relationship based on lies? That will not be a healthy relationship.
Now do you just openly say 'oh hey I slept with xxxx number of men.
No I am not saying you should do that either.
Now a few people attempted the moral hugh ground saying you are a skank or no knight in shining armor would choose you. I'm paraphrasing and combining like 10 replies.
But judgements are like assholes, everyone has one.
I think what you need to take away from this is sleeping with 1 guy or 100 guys doesn't make you a bad person or a good person.
I can almost guarantee that anyone who is passing judgement on you has some thing or things in their last that would not look so hot if they had a group of peers looking 'downo on them judging your past.
You slept with this many guys? You fucking whore! As I sit and hide behind the line and drink my 5th shot of whiskey and telly wife to shut up!
No if someone pulls the moral high ground guess what, they shouldn't belittle you for decisions you made simply because they may choose differently.
In a majority of states 16 is the legal age of consent. Where I live it is 18. My morality is based on 18 as the legal age, but if you live where it is 16 then you could argue that my morality is flawed.
The worst thing about people who pass judgment on others is that they tend to act morally superior, as if they're in a position to judge the actions of other people. In fact, the original meaning of pass judgment is a courtroom judge making a legal decision, or — literally — judging. The source of this term is judgment, originally "action of trying at law," from the Latin iudicare, "to examine officially."
So what makes them the authority having jurisdiction? NO ONE but themselves. They aren't judges and this isn't a court of law.
Anyway back to the subject. Some guys may have an issue with how many people you slept with and others may not.
If a guy jerks off he is disgusting and can't know how to truly love a woman because he only loves himself and fucks his hand... how sick!
Well some people think that, others don't see a problem with it.
How do YOU feel about how many guys you slept with? A porn star may suggest you at least get paid, while a nun may see it completely opposite and not understand how you could do it?
Who is right?
People are so quick to point the finger, in the end, figure out what you are comfortable doing.
Do you want a guy who will love you for who YOU are? Well your past IS why you are who you are.
You do get to choose how much of your past you share, or DONT share, but I would not lie. Just say you are not comfortable discussing it.
Are you fucking serious?
You're a slut!
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This is my slut/manwhore equation regarding "body count" - a very obnoxious and revolting phrase but, considering that the people who use it are typically manwhores and sluts anyway, what should I expect?
I use a formula for both males and females:
Let Y = cumulative number of distinct sexual intercourse partners
(that is, the "body count")
Let X = age-appropriate maximum number of distinct sexual intercourse partners
X = ROUND_UP [ 1.5 * (AGE - 15) ]
So:
Age = 15, X = 0.
Age = 16, X = 2.
Age = 17, X = 3.
Age = 18, X = 5.
Age = 19, X = 6.
Age = 20, X = 8.
Age = 21, X = 9.
Age = 22, X = 11.
If Y > MINIMUM (X, 10), then "Slut/Manwhore" else "Age appropriate".
Basically, what this is saying is:
1. "Don't fuck until you are at least 16."
2. "Only fuck in committed relationships; up to 3 committed relationships per every 2 years."
3. "If you need more than 10 committed relationships by the time you are 22, then something is wrong with you or you're a slut/manwhore who is fucking too often just for fun."
More than 10 guys is really too much.
Most guys would be rather uncomfortable competing against such a lengthy history because the probability of his being the best you ever had (or having the biggest dick you've ever had) seriously goes down. He wants to be memorable and important to you and "not just another lay".
Nor does he want a pussy with "a lot of miles on it" because, frankly, they are considerably looser so the experience isn't as good for him (although it is still mighty fine!).
So, bottom line; more than 10 guys is too much for the majority of men.
For the record, my Y ("body count") is 5 and it wasn't 2 until I was almost 26!
Body 1: 21 y 09 m
Body 2: 25 y 11 m
Body 3: 26 y 02 m
Body 4: 32 y 10 m
Body 5: 36 y 10 m
RESPONSE TO UPDATE:
"I will tell my new boyfriend that in the past I only slept with a man."
Sure, go ahead and lie. That's a really good way to start a relationship.
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING A MAN WANTS IS LOYALTY AND TRUSTWORTHINESS.
You being a liar is WORSE than being a slut.
And, I have news for you - we KNOW when you are lying about how many men you slept with. The looseness of your pussy can't lie for you.
@MzAsh
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@MzAsh
1. I didn't lie.
2. I never said that I can tell a specific number. But, I know when I am being lied to.
Look, I am going to mute this conversation now.
I have moved on.
We agree that lying is bad for a relationship.
We disagree (slightly) about one partner's right to know the truth about another partner's "body count" (I hate that phrase.)
Unfortunately, I do agree that some men can't handle the truth. That's their problem, not the woman's. But, you also said that men won't believe whatever number is given. That's false because, frankly, men don't want liars at all. We usually give you the benefit of the doubt but we will eventually learn the truth if you lie... But you and I agree that lying is wrong, right? So, it is best to just state the truth up-front. Not telling him is not an option if he asks and you want to be with him.
Never lie that's not good at all. Live by one of my favourite quotes John Green. I may be young and inexperienced but from all the failed relationships I've observed it's because people lied and weren't completely honest and kept things to themselves. Many believe that doubts are normal and they shouldn't be shared. Many are under the impression you must keep things to yourself when you have an issue. I have successfully predicted every single relationships demise without interfering. I warn people about keeping insecurities and issues to themselves and that was always a big part of the reason the relationships end. Doubts issues unresolved fights things swept under the rug fester until they explode into chaotic madness. Love is blind and when my time comes I too shall be blind. Personally if I were to be mentally unstable, under a lot of stress have unresolved personal issues, little to no self respect, terrible body image suffered a recent loss I would not get into a relationship. If I were in one I'd break it off it were quite new (0-6 months) to learn my self worth and to heal again I have always tried to be direct honest and clear when I had concerns and lay them out logically and explain to them calmly. The people who don't understand that or leave or get weirded out weren't for me. Shortly after they left I'd come to find they were talking behind my back so it's ok. My personal philosophy for dealing with all natures of relationships has worked for the past 15 years.
Love yourself 100% respect yourself 100% and depend on yourself 100% before getting involved with other romantic relationships. Be secure on your own before letting someone else into your life.
Great quote
Haha 20 isn't even that much. I think I had sex with about 20 guys as well, but if I'd count the number of guys I've just blown, that number would definitely be tripled. I once told a boyfriend too much details and he left me for it. Now I just don't talk in numbers to my current boyfriend. We often run into guys I've had my lips around and if he doesn't know, it's not a problem. Don't know if it would be drama if he knew those guys had me on my knees doing them a favour before. Let sleeping dogs lie...
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This guy obviously believes in the double standard that men can and should be experienced and promiscuous (whatever that number is for him) and that women should be pure virgins. Don't let it worry you that he's gone, good riddance to him. He probably would have held it against you for the rest of your life if he had stuck around and probably also believes in the virgin/whore dichotomy which, depending on what he believed you to be, would also have led to an imbalanced relationship. If he thought that you were a slut (which it sounds like he did) he wouldn't have thought that you were going to make a good wife. Conversely, if he thought that you were the "good girl" he would probably never have been able to explore with you sexually, would have thought that certain things were "dirty" and off limits, that you would not and should not ever enjoy yourself during sex, and that he would, therefore, naturally have to go to a hooker to have his own fantasies fulfilled.
Don't let it bother you for one second that you dodged that bullet. I doubt you would ever have been happy with him, not to mention sexually satisfied. Just be true to yourself. Also, I wouldn't lie just to keep a man. If he's that messed up that he believes that crap you probably won't ever get good sex out of him, or even be respected as an equal. Not every guy out there is so sexually repressed, don't be afraid to be honest with a guy, learn to ask for what you want, and you'll find the guy that can provide it for you. The rest can fall by the wayside.
This didn't all happen in the same night did it? Cause I could see his point then. Not that pointing the finger helps but it will stretch my finger so anyway
Was he asking you relentlessly about wanting to find out the truth -usually with the promise that he won't hold it against you if you momentarily left your chastity unlocked and were slutty enough to have sex with someone who wasn't him? Despite not knowing him, not knowing you will ever meet him but in case, remain celibate because other wise you may hurt the feelings some guy you might meet some day. If that's the way it went down it shades the matter one way or, alternatively, the disussion started after you were inadvertantly thinking out loud stuff like " jesus will this guy get his tongue into the right zip code - I wonder if he's ever done this before? Oh, and he got this habit like Bob, no Paul, I think it was both and maybe Henri as well , yeah they all made the same grunt when they think they're getting me ready to scream in primal ecstasy. Shit, look at that, he's got a bald spot and he's 28. He
s probably gonna look like one of the Marx Bros in 5 years - not even that kinda funny one Gronko or some such shit. U know, the one that wasn't in most of the movies, Zeppo, I think. Sure I want to date some guy who's going to be balder the Uncle Fester in 2 years. I got to remember to erase all my contact info from his phone before I leave If you hear yourself actually saying those things loud enough for him to hear and he really oversentisitive it could bother him On the other hand, if he's going down on you; you're nand you're talkinly locked tight and if hadn't come around you'd still be wearing itkept asking
OMG, you think she slept with the whole team, AND the opposing team too in one night?
He left you because you aren't good enough for him. 20 men means that you are immature and immoral and he's not going to let you have your cake and eat it to.
I hate to be the bearer of harsh news, but just like women, men have the exact same right to pick a high quality woman to settle down with. Women who get naked and randomly give themselves completely to several men, are not high quality women and most of the time, will not make a good spouse. The true high quality “knights in shining armor” are going to bypass those types and pick the women who did not randomly give themselves out.
There’s not one quality man stating (what you want to believe), which is that it is okay for a woman to be as promiscuous as she wants and then still have the God-given entitlement and right to pick any high-status, high-quality man she chooses.
Most modern women have this complete entitlement mentality about sex, dating and relationships, which leads them to eventual ruin. You see it here. It is constantly buttressed by their fellow women who use their positions as relationship “experts”, therapists and advice columnists. They NEVER challenge them on their behavior or look at the man’s point of view. They just use their platforms to say, “You go, girl!”
Be honest. If you had two equal men to pick from and one had only a few partners and the other was pushing a high double digit body count with a lot of one night stands, which one would you pick? The same goes for men.
Why, because women who don’t screw around show that they possess greater maturity level and moral integrity. Feminists try to use the modern phrases like “sex positive”, but it really is just a euphemism for age-old phrase, “skank”. In reality, they are not experimental, adventurous or liberated, they are immature, insecure and immoral.
This is utter bullshit, your a slut and he left you because you've had more men go through you than the jersey tunnel
If people cannot be judged by their past then why are there so many murderers in jail, because they got judged on their past.
If you have a problem with him leaving you because you have a higher body count than a terminator film might I suggest a few things
Don't sleep with so many people.
Understand that as long as you have a choice to sleep with as many as you want men have the choice to accept it or not
Don't use bullshit arguments to justify your shitty whoring behaviour, you chose to sleep around for free not him
20 isn't even a big number tho, if you think about how much times is in your lifetime, how many seconds, hrs, day... 20 fucks is nothing,
you probably masturbated 200000x more times than she fucked a guy anyway, whats the difference between that and fucking? theyre both pretty much the same thing, both jus a pleasureable feeliing where u orgasm... its jus 1 u cum in hand and by urself,
and other u cum in condom with someone else,
but if u also masturbated 10000000 times, how can u judge her and say she's a slutty skank when u also had 1000000 sexual desires? but jus masturbated instead? cos that really ain't much different to me... so that is very hypocritical... i think the mega skank here is u... she may not have even masturbated ever and jius had those 20 fucks... then she would be way more less disgusting and more respectable than ur wanking ass
u call her a slut for having a sexual desire 20 times, but then what is a male slut? cos guys have 100000000000 sexual desires, when u think of the amount of times we jerk off... if ur gonna call her a slut for that, then call urself and all guys mega sluts too... jus to be fair
A male slut is a slut simple as that. What do you seriously expect me to hold men to a Duffy standard than women, no I won't do that, I hold everyone to the same standards.
As for masturbating then your playing a dangerous game here because your then saying that women don't masturbate and don't have the same sexual desires that men do, that's very s cost of you but masturbating is different to sex, you see while you may only have dreamed about it, I'm talking from a much greater level of experience and can say that sex is more than scratching the itch. If your going sleep with that number then you have no right to get upset when the person your with walks away it's related that simple but if you being the child that you are want to sleep with somebody who been used more times that a public walkway then have at it.
lol sorry im jus very irratated and get annoyed by pretty much any comment i read lol
You can be judged for your past.
Maybe he is looking for a girl to marry and doesn't want a slut as a wife.
Lying is the worst thing.
You are going to have to find a man that has the SAME SEXUAL VALUE SYSTEM as you... someone you are compatible with.
You can only find someone compatible when you are honest... not when you lie.
What if some guy feels sex is for marriage? Your past will affect you being the one. Of course the past can matter.
He did not want to be special number 21.
She also says she will tell the next guy she only slept with one. Lying is a poor way to start a new relationship.
The number of past relationships that you have had would be irrelevant to a man who truly loves you. If he left you because of this then he will probably leave his next girlfriend and the next and the next. Believe me, it is his issue, not yours. I do highly recommend that you not lie about your past relationships. You don't have to volunteer the information either, but if it comes up be honest. And don't be afraid to tell the story of this guy leaving you. Most men will understand how ridiculous it would be to leave someone for that reason.
you sound like a dishonest person.. I'm sure your boyfriend didn't end things because of what you did, but because of what it says about your character. Promiscuous sex or even serial monogamy, is a sign of many personality disorders, merely by the fact that you are not able to intuit this, suggests that you might have one of these disorders, or at the very easy, some red flags. Combine this with callous rationalising about "your past cannot be judged" (who made you the authoritarian dictator of morality), which judging from your brief description, wasn't accompanied by any adequate explanation or account of why or how you were prolific in your sexual excapades, and why or how you are fundamentally different from what your history suggests.
You have a. lotmof sexual experience with a lot of guys... That probably made him insecure about his sexual performance since i his head he would be compared to a lot of guys. Also he may be worried that after you have changed so many partners he might easily be replaced like they were, I don't know know about your relationships with those people and neither does he, but these are the assumptions he made. If I were on his place I dontl't know if I would have dumped you immediately, but Inwould definitely have the same worries.
Don't lie about how many people you've slept with. The fact that he left you for that or cares about it all says he's immature and sees women as men's property, not partners. A guy who loves and respects you wouldn't care about your sex life before the relationship
Unfortunately it was probably a deal breaker for him, he may be insecure, or uncomfortable about it. But this is also a blessing in disguise because you don’t wanna be with someone who can’t accept your past, present, and future.
Honesty is always so important in a relationship. Don’t let this be a reason to lie to your future partner. We should NOT be ashamed of these type of things. It’s normal. I’m sure a great and understanding guy will make it work next time :)
I am a very shy and reserved individual but I was a musician playing in clubs and bars. For most guys, being with 20 women would be no big deal, unless they never went out anywhere I suppose. How did your boyfriend find out? His attitude is very typical of the double standard world we live in.
If your previous boyfriend left you for that... well be glad, says a lot about him. You don't want to be with that guy. And to be honest, your new boyfriend does deserve the truth, he shouldn't be punished because of your previous boyfriend. If you have to lie about stuff like this... your relationship isn't good. And to be frank: if you lie to him, he deserves better than you. (I say this with respect towards you and to get my point across, not to offend you)
You can be judged for anything. Some guys / gals don't want to be teamed up with someone who goes hopping from bed to bed. Simple as that.
Your ex is a twit. Your lucky to be rid of him. In my entire life, I never asked a girlfriend about her body count. I don't care. And nobody ever asked mine. Only an immature, jealous, possessive person would do that. If they ever do, it's time to leave them and find a grown up.
Either because of his lack of experience or because the two of you were just raised different. I believe it may come from jeleousy. As long as a woman stays faithful to her man there should be no problem. Move on love.
Own up your past. Date someone who's comfortable with that. You don't own up theirs, they don't own up yours. Mutual comfort with each other's past is necessary for a relationship to work out.
If you wanna lie to your next one about your past, then by all means, but don't turn more bitter if he somehow gets to know about your past by himself and ditches you.
What do you mean "a person cannot be judge by his past?" First of all, if that's true, what WOULD you judge a person on? And secondly, if that's true, why on EARTH would you lie to your new boyfriend about your past and say you only slept with one man? Wouldn't the better idea be to tell the next guy on the first date that you've slept with 21 men already? Then you'll be able to quickly weed out the guys for whom that's an issue. Heck, maybe even put that on your Tinder profile.
Definitely!
"A person cannot be judged by his past."
Really? Only 20? You have a long way to go to catch up with your peers...
Maybe he doesn't want to compete?
there are some guys who still operate in the 1950s mentality where a woman cannot have casual sex with someone unless she is in a committed relationship or marriage. Very few of these guys still around though.
Never tell a man your number.
1. He won’t believe you.
2. He can’t handle the truth.
It doesn’t matter if it’s 1 or 100. Do not tell him ever. And drop any guy who asks.
@MzAsh
I didn't make my point clear but I will now.
DO NOT give advice like what you gave.
Do not lie to your man.
It's a matter of time before he discovers the truth - he always does.
And when that happens, that is worse than a slutty past.
If the man can't deal with her past, then he shouldn't be with her.
This is best for his sake AND her sake.
Lying in a situation like this is, frankly, a form of rape. Legally, it's called "rape by deception".
But, besides that, lying and manipulating situations is standard practice for many women.
It is a practice that we discover and this is why many men, in the long run, will not remain in relationships with women. I am not saying they become asshole MGTOWs, but they simply don't like being victims of fraud and, again, the most important thing in the universe to a man is to know that he can trust his woman. Loyalty and trustworthiness are, by far, #1 to men - much more than a sexual past although a long résumé in that department doesn't help because a man senses she is unstable and won't be with him long.
Do you understand what I am trying to say?
Don't lie or manipulate men.
We WILL find out the truth and what will happen after will be worse than having just told the truth all along.
dont worry about him, it is perfectly healthy to have sexual desires and 20 is a pretty reasonable number if u ask me... its jus most guys think like that are jerks and slut shame... fuck them... theyre just dumb simple minded pigs... u need to get with a more intellectual and less judgmental more reserved kinda guy... someone who like me who doesn't judge and infact encourages that kinda behaviour... lol
Simple
Because his number was less than that and he feels jealous of and threatened by your experiences.
He is too young to understand that every one of those guys was better than him in bed that you would still rather share your life with him because sex isn't everything and that actually probably a lot those experiences were considerably less than perfect.
even if every one*
He thinks of u as a slut. Personally I don’t care how many people someone has been with. None of my business and it should be none of theirs.
He's a jealous idiot with unrealistic expectations of women. That's why.
You shouldn't lie about your sexual history (or anything if you want a relationship based on trust).
Besides, if he can't handle that you've had sex, then imagine how jealous a boyfriend he would be.. he's sexually immature. Find someone better.
20 men.. That's a red flag to me.. It might seem OK with you, but most men I know see that as eigjer someone who will likely cheat on them, has a high chance of catching a disease from, or someone that does value sex as something you do with someone you love..
I don't blame him for leaving.. I would have as well..
And yes a person can and should be judged by their past.. The past is what defines you as a person...
I never even counted... honestly I dont care who he has slept with before.. I dont ask how many gfs or anything like that his past is his past.. yours is yours.. sometimes things are better off unknown..
For your update its lying abd thats wrong too.. if he doesn't ask dont tell... if he asks you say how many women have you slept with? Dont wait for him to respond just say its the past what matters is here and now with you
Because sadly to us men you're considered tainted. In our minds it's ok if we nail a bus full of chicks, but if you get nailed by a bunch of dudes it's a no no in most cases. Like I said you're tainted, double-standard I know but that's how most men's minds think.
not mine, thats jus the dumb men, smart guys like me who think a lot... we realise there's nothing wrong with 20 experiences, its totally natural to have secxual desires and for a whole lifetime (fucking long time)
20 isn't even nowhere near much to me.. considering the amount of seconds are in just 20years... i know I've masturbated at least 99999999999x more than she has had an experience with a guy... so i dont see how the fuck most guys think she's a slut for that... 20 is a petty number if u ask me
i thought girls was the only 1s that emotions let them control them, but if guys are getting mad about this without really thinking about it ,.. and calling her a slut... they need to calmn down n think if its really bad or not lol
If you hadn't been straightforward with him from the getgo, then to be fair you could hardly blame him; I'm a virgin, and I would have done the same. If you were straightforward with him from the start, and he himself had a bit of a past before he met you, then you would have a stronger argument.
Typical, people don't wanna be held accountable for their actions because they're cowards.
Just accept your damn past and accept that it'll always be a part of you whatever you do, your actions have consequences, own them and stop running away and lying to yourself.
It's good he left if that is the reason. He is a loser! Did you ask him how girls he had had sex with? 20 isn't really that many.
why would you tell him that. that is toooo many man to be tell someone that for sure.
you could have kept that to yourself?
why are you guy discussing the past that so childish and uncall for.
I agree that's a high number but very childish to discuss body counts.
Always be honest. In my opinion, he never cared much for you if he left you for this. The past is the past. If he had insecurities because of it, then he should have talked with you about them, not just leave and end it. I think he did you a favor honestly because it would tell me they don't care enough about you or the relationship to stay and work on it.
Some guys are like this. I don't understand why you told him - it was none of his business, but you should have anticipated a bad reaction given the you presumably knew him pretty well. I'm not saying you should have lied, but you could have told him you really didn't want to talk about it.
I advice you to always tell the person you like everything before getting into a relationship with him. This way he'll get to choose between you for you or you for your past. It's a win win for everyone. And please don't lie because if they discover later on it'd be even worse.
It depends...
Have you tell him before you guys came closer and were in serious relationship.! Or you hide it purposefully and after some time you told him...
Both situation give a different impact on the psychology of the guy.
So make sure your next move.
Just tell him the truth. Many guys will be okay with it, I guess. Better not to lie. The guilty conscience will kinda eat you at night and the worry if someone else tells him.
This is not "only 20". This is actually a lot. I wouldn't date someone who's been with more than 10 partners. I think we wouldn't have the same system of values and it couldn't work.
Some guys feel inferior when their girlfriend has more experience than them. If you need to lie about it then it is not worth it. The right guy for you will accept you for who you are regardless of your past.
Because he's insecure and judgmental. The guy wasn't a good fit for you anyways, you should be happy you found out now, instead of wasting even more time with the guy
Sounds insucure, who knows... That's crazy tho. Did u lie? Mabe he had other plans all along who knows. Weird
He shouldn't be mad! I don't know why guys even do that. To me sex is scared. I only sleep with the woman that I'm in love with, but you have the right to live your life as you wish as well.
Tell them the truth. If you lie, once they find out they will likely leave you even if they could have accepted that number because they would know they couldn't trust you if you lied to them.
Male ego. Well if he loved you he would have stayed.. past is past if you learn from it.. then you are a better person.. but he must have thought like.. he is the 21st guy.. and maybe not the last. Or he must be insecure about his performance.. so he just rage quits..( it's my opinion)
20 is a lot. This is that happens when you can’t close your legs.
Judging by your profile pic your count is 20 per year.
Don't tell your new boyfriend that you only slept with one guy. Any boyfriend worth your while should be able to accept that you've slept with x number of people. You'd do yourself a disservice otherwise, in my opinion.
A person can be judged by their past as it shows their character. Your ex didn't think there could be a future with a promiscuous woman.
Because you're used up and you are damaged goods. This also shows that you have absolute ZERO self-discipline and that you are a slave to your sexual sensations. You lack moral character overall. Any sane man would leave you after finding out such a fact.
And please tell your next boyfriend the truth about your lay count so he can leave you too.
Don’t lie to your new boyfriend. Your recent ex is just an insecure little boy, you can do better.
If the amount of people you've been with is a deal breaker for him, then let him be on his way. It's his right to feel that way. You can't change your past and you shouldn't lie about it. stay true to yourself and the right person will come along.
You should just be honest. There are guys that’ll go for a reformed ho.
Man that has standards = You must be insecure, judgmental, afraid, an asshole, and a wimp. You don't deserve her!!
Woman that has standards = You GOO GRRLLLLL!!!
Maybe because he realised, the difference is to gross! You slept with just twenty man and he did it with 100 women 😂🤣 Who knows?
He is grossed out simple as that..
You tell such things.. Right after you have banged a guy's brains out..
At that point we cannot think anything
u Troll!
Yes he indeed learned the truth. You're a slut. Why on earth would he waste his time with the local prostitute?
He's an ass and you're better off without him, he can't even cope with his insecurities.
Good man. What a skank. I would have dumped you too. And fyi if you lie you most likely will get caught unless you only date really dumb men. And then they will be double mad and probably tell everyone you're a lying whore.
why does it matter if she fucked 20 guys?
i dont understand why ur shaming the nature human nature of having sexual desires,
i bet you probably masturbated 2000000 times, whats the difference between that and sex?
its jus 1 is with the hand and 1 is with another person, so in a way, you are actually more than a skank than she is,
and also sadder than she is too. cos someone who can only make love to their hand is pathetic,
at least she can get real human experiences to share unlike your lonely sad ass
Well we live in a very hypothetical n judgmental society n its very unfortunate
This should never be a subject. Sadly, you are better off without him.
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