Girls, why do girls on dating sites have "Don't waste my time" or "I'm not here to play games" listed on their profiles?

[Jjpayne]

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How would guys waste their time and what are the games both specifically because it is too non specific to tell what that means.. Anything could waste a girls time and games could take on any form. What ways are girls wasting time the most with guys and what games are they specifically referring to. Because it does not make face value sense to me.

[btbc92]

Because they're tired of guys who want sex, ask for nudes and have no desire for real things like marriage, children and a family. Always flirting, not a lot waiting for marriage anymore, the whole list. Or ghost you for no logical reason instead of saying their not interested anymore.

I'm not on those crazy sites thank God. But I think those words are just pretty self-explanatory. The biggest waste is not being compatible with somebody you say you want t9 get to know knowing you don't want the same thing. And they definalye like another user said, no hookups, friends with benefits etc. You in or out? That's what they around we women as a whole are saying.

[Daniela1982]

Oh, you are on a crazy sit alright, GAG!

[btbc92]

We know here is crazy, but it's up to is to allow it to drive us crazy. Dating sites posses enough anxiety.

[FictionalCharacter]

This is time wasted:

This is game playing:

False hopes

[likelyOK]

wow I can't believe someone sent you the first one what a complete PERV, sometimes I wish you send the screenshots to their family

[FictionalCharacter]

@likelyOK

These screenshots are not me. They’re just examples of what girls go through in response to the post.

[AmandaYVR]

It means don't hit me up for just sex.

[Anonymous]

I dnt think its hostile, i just think its too forthcoming. Guys on those sitrs still pretend , like in real life, to want to marry you and have a family or even just to want to date you exclusively and some will go as far as flaunting information such as that they are supposedly a virgin and say they want to save it for marriage. Which in all cases i have talked to guys on sites who were very admant about letting me know that, they were all perverts or complete trollish jackasses who go figure wasted my time. I recall the first time it happened the guy was 30 and early on kept pushing the sex topic and begged for nude photos of me and sent me nude pics of other women. Wtf? Yet in the same breath both in our convos and on his profile would state that he was a virgin, never even been in a relationship, wanted a to be serious and have no hookups etc.

The latest guy was also 30 and he was a troll: racist, misogynist, asking me if i was raped out of the blue yet in the same breath and on his profile made a big hopla and deal about how sex is only for marriage and how he is a virgin.

If that isn't wasting a womans time I don't know what is.

[Opinion Owner]

My point is that guys irl and online will waste your time so just prepare and EXPECT it from each and every one of them. To say "dont waste my time" is pointless. If a man is willing to lie about how wants to marry you or in general and add all thrse details to convince you like that he's a virgin with no relationship experience... why do you think "dont waste my time" is going to deter them? You have to keep your eyes open because today you cannot expect anyone to protect you as a lot of guys that do this are themselves dads and brothers. by the way this happened to me and was how i lost my virignity: a guy lying that he was going to marry me, he planned the wedding details and ring, and after a few times of intercourse he was happy to disappear from my life and didn't give a shiit how much i was hurt by his leaving.

[Jjpayne]

Now that totally makes sense! Those too phases to me, are just too vague to make sense

[vintagegirl90]

Every girl wants a guy to be on a dating app for genuine reasons. She doesn’t want to be played by a guy deceiving and lying to her to get into her pants. They want someone who is honest and not afraid of commitment, if you say you’re ready for relationship, then mean it, otherwise don’t waste the girl’s time.

The games are lying, deception and ghosting, no girl who has enough respect for herself will want a guy who constantly lies about wanting a relationship and deceives her into believing he wants the same things that she wants. Then you’ve got ghosting where the guy is genuinely enjoying your company that out of no where stops replying and ignores you completely, is completely cold.

[xburrowbuntx]

Girls with this kind of sentence on their bio actually are on dating sites for dates or serious relationships. Not that kind of one night stand kinda thing. It could also be some guys on the dating app whom they have talked to several months for or gone out a few times and the girl developed feelings for them but turn out, they are actually players.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Life shouldn't be taken too seriously and should be fun, but I think they're going for "I'm looking for a real relationship" or "I don't want to just be there for sex". I don't know, I don't get it, if you're on a real site, not tinder or grinder or whatever, then it should be expected that everyone is looking for a real relationship. We all apparently communicate badly lol

[Daniela1982]

Tinder? Grinder? Real relationship? Ah ha ha ha! Those are hook up sites. The only thing they are looking for is one night stands.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

@Daniela1982 believe me, I know, but my best friend insists on using them as a dating app. So unfortunately I include them for the naive, such as my friend.

[AzureGirl]

I’ve never been on a dating site (no need) but I’ve seen many messages, both online and via friends on dating sites, who have guys message them immediately with sex requests, cheesy lines to attempt to get sex, or guys who make pleasant talk for a small amount of time only to revert back to requesting sex or sexual related things. Which isn’t really wanted if you’re on the dating site to find someone to date and potentially be in a relationship with.

[yucychan]

Actually, what they are trying to say is that they are looking for someone to start a serious relationship with, maybe even with the ultimate goal of marriage. They are not looking for someone to have a fling or non-commitant relationship nor just looking for a platonic friendships.

[SarahsSummer]

I believe they are stating, if you are just looking for a casual hookup or friends with benefits sex, move along. They are stating they are on that dating app to look for a partner, and hoping to cut through the crap to find men who are also looking for a partner.

[DragonRider18]

I've been one of those girls, and when I say that I mean I want someone who's mature enough to want to pursue something serious with me. When I say I don't want games, I don't want to have petty arguments about things, I want communication. I also agree with what other girls were saying here, about how I'm not looking to hookup with someone and then they're free to hook up with whoever they please.

[DanaeAdam5]

Cause there are many guys that ask for nudes or send dick pics to girls on dating sites.
But I really think that no matter what you will write in your profile, it just won't matter.
Why? Cause like it or not the best you will get from a sites like that is a date, no "real love" or (succesful) relationships come out of dating sites/apps 🤷‍♀️

[Daniela1982]

Your pic is the first thing they look at on a dating site. If there is no attraction there they don't care what you say on your profile.

[DanaeAdam5]

Exactly

[Anonymous]

Guys say this on their profiles too, so definitely not just a girl thing. For me though, playing games would be things like chatting online/texting for a long time but never agreeing to meet in person, stringing someone along, ghosting, pursuing a person when you already know you want different things (i. e. her profile says she wants a serious relationship and the guy just wants to hook up), etc.

[Moonchild714]

They only wsnt Guys who are serious about a Relationship not Fuckboys or guys just looking for friends with benefits... In other words only the Serious Reply that's how it was stated in the Newspaper Print Singles Ads back in the day

[TacocaT6969]

Because they’re sick and tired of men who waste their time and play games clearly. 🤷‍♂️

[Jjpayne]

How would guys waste their time and what are the games?

[TacocaT6969]

There are so many answers to that it’s ridiculous.

Simple basic answers.

You could waste her time by not being serious.

You could play games by keeping her wondering if you’re interested or not.

[Jjpayne]

That makes sense, thank you

[Daniela1982]

Because they were probably there to hook up and wanted quick meetup and action, not to talk back and forth for a week. To her that would be a waste of time.

[beebella]

Because a lot of guys these days just want to waste our time and play games.

[Jjpayne]

I'm looking for the reasons because it seems a little vague to me to understand what that means. What is "wasting time" or what are "games"

[beebella]

Well, giving time and attention (flirting and maybe more intimate things) to someone that you don't really intend on dating/being in a relationship with is the best way that I can put it.

[Secret6620]

For those guys who don't even bother asking your name but seems to want to sext... Instant blocked on those dating sites... They don't play lol (◍•ᴗ•◍)

[Anonymous]

That’s a bit hostile to post “don’t waste my time” in a bio😂
They probably just mean that they are on the dating site strictly to find someone to potentially be in a relationship with and nothing less. There are a lot of people on dating sites that are only looking for people to hook up with and aren’t honest about that until meeting up. That could be frustrating to people who are genuinely searching for a partner.

[Anonymous]

It’s because most guys will ghost us after some time or will just straight up disappear and reappear out of no where. I think they are saying that they’re looking for something serious that’s here to stay.

[Yads_Is_Back]

Never been on a dating site, but I'd say that's her way of saying "Be up-front and honest with me or don't mess with me."

[Anonymous]

Because they don’t want a guy who’s going to waste their time or play games. Pretty obvious... They mean what they say.

[Jjpayne]

How would guys waste their time and what are the games?

[Opinion Owner]

Lie, not be honest about their intentions/what they’re looking for, lead her on, date multiple people at the same time and not being open and honest about it, already have apartner, play hard to get, negging, manipulate. Things like that.

[Jjpayne]

Thank you, that helps a little bit

[Gina96]

I've never been on a dating site, but I'm assuming they mean "just a heads up, I'm not on here to send nudes or see picks of your dick" 🤷‍♀️

[likelyOK]

I think they have kinda had it, it may not sound good on their profile but I can understand where they are coming from.

[DizzyDesii]

Cause guys need to know we’re not just looking for a hookup

[Cherokeehp]

They’re looking for serious relationships. NOT short flings. NOT meaningless sex.

[neurolove]

Games as in not serious about wanting a relationship.

[Poppymarie]

Girls who don’t want to just hook up and want an actual relationship say this

[R_ūshī]

because they want serious relationships.

Writing those things is useless imo😅

[lolilola]

Because they dont want childish f boys pretending to be serious grown men. It is a waste of time for someone who's looking for a serious relationship. Also if they're not responsive.

[gretchenmarie86]

Don't waste my time, meaning, I'm not here looking for a booty call so if that's what the intentions (games) are don't bother. If I wanted a booty call I would of said that.

[aly34]

May be they are looking for a serious relationship and they are not looking for guys who are just interested in flirting