What’s worse paying for sex or just having a sex from tinder or any app?

[Anonymous]

I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me all this time. I found his pinger account with a different number where he would call or text Females to meet up and have sex. I really feel disappointed in him what’s worst is he had let females inside his house just to fuck. I don’t live with him but we had plans in the future to find an apartment. I’m 24 and he is 28 been together for 8 years now and I can’t believe I have wasted my time like this. I don’t have a ugly body at all but I guess that’s not what really matter. With this whole quarantine I haven’t seen him and he told me that I finally grew some balls to end this because I haven’t seen him and realize I don’t need him but that he knows I want this also tells me how he doesn’t want ruin this anymore and hasn’t done this but I don’t believe him at all. He keeps calling me almost 100 calls a day.

[Mollynotgemma]

Both are awful!! Pay for it and you are just incapable of getting it naturally and obviously don’t get what sex is about! How can you pay for it and walk into a room and know what’s about to happen! Nothing sexy about that!
Also just to use a dating website for sex’! Have some respect and get a personality and go out and get it!

[jayden888]

How long has that calling the girls over been going on?

If it was for a while and many times, he's probably a pathological liar. If it was some time when you were away, it more forgivable.

The best option is to start afresh and delete him for this behavior. But I know how difficult that can be too.

[Madhatter920]

Paying for sex is worse. Means you aren't able to get it on your own merits. Plus, you'd be out that money. If you can get it for free, all the better. That being said, if I were you, I wouldn't waste any more time than you already have. He made his choice. Repeatedly, by the sounds of it.

[Anonymous]

Do you know for sure he's had sex with them? Any other proof? Because him being on those sites prove nothing other than he was on those site. Granted that means something, but not proof he slept with anyone. For most guys those sites/app are a complete waste of time and we barely get anyone to talk to us, never mind meet or anything else. Between women on them ONLY looking for attention (some have admitted this), to fake accounts, there are very few real women looking for anything on them.

[Obtuse]

In your context, cheating is cheating as I see it. I don't see the need to draw any nuanced distinctions with such a high number of incidents and such a carefully-coordinated series of deceptions.

[Obtuse]

As for the general question, typically I think someone who pays is more desperate for whatever reason.

[Obtuse]

I don't know if that is "better" or "worse" and how you'd define it.

[Obtuse]

Someone who doesn't pay is typically going to have to plan and coordinate more carefully. That might be "worse" in some perspectives.

[blkgold33]

I think finding out they paying for sex is worst. At least you not dealing with him anymore hopefully

[Anonymous]

agree its time to end that relationship , its obviously not going anywhere and does not have much potential at this point in my view

[reptocarl2]

Shame on you for not blocking him. As to your question paying a street hooker is worse in my opinion

[Asker]

Only reason why I’m haven’t blocked him is for him to suffer and know I won’t be answering his calls or text.

[reptocarl2]

That’s a juvenile game you’re playing

[Asker]

What you mean?

[reptocarl2]

Which word do you not understand?

[Asker]

How is this a juvenile game?

[reptocarl2]

Wanting him to suffer rather than just blocking him and moving on

[Asker]

You’re right I will eventually block him.

[reptocarl2]

Eventually? Why not start now?

[chooche]

Girl listen. I've watched fucking men and women dobthis for awhile. please staybaway frohimhes a piece of shit and if youneed some help call me. its notbworth wasting your life

[Gedaria]

It sounds logical. Pay for what you need. I like your idea...

[willisg]

Welcome to the true high tech world.

[Cryptic-Game]

Paying for sex because it is illegal.