Is it sexist to reject a woman because she's not feminine enough for my taste?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Lol I am extremely feminine. I wouldn’t be caught dead in trainers, I only and only wear dresses - again, I wouldn’t be caught dead in jeans or trousers. I have a really girly almost childish giggle, I sit, eat talk and act like a girly girl. My voice is very girly and feminine. I even love pink, I love flowers (red roses are my favourite), I always love to smell good and I have immaculate hygiene.

I also don’t like boisterous activities like when they throw paint at each other and boxing or competitive sports however I always loved gymnastics. I like to work out, I’m not lazy I just don’t like the boyish sports.

I like dressing up, shopping, buying jewellery and clothes and shoes, reading Vogue, reading wedding magazines, watching Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show. I like my kitty parties with girls and even the older women where we can dress up and talk about boys and matching people together so they can court and potentially get married. I can be a little gossip too lol which is considered a girly trait aswell.

I am basically everything one would typically associate with femininity. I even have a heart shaped face, narrow jaw, big eyes and an hourglass frame.

I’m very old fashioned and traditional and I believe men and women have different roles. I also love babies and children and I have changed nappies literally since I was nine...

So yeah when it comes to femininity and being feminine, I am probably the epitome of femininity.

Most boys didn’t like me when I was little, they used to pick on me a lot and be mean to me until I met my boyfriend I met at age 14 who I have been with since. He was older than me and initially we just knew of each other but started talking more when I was 16 and he was 21 and then we began a courtship when I was 17 and a half. This December it will be five years of being in a relationship, and the April that has past was seven years of knowing each other!

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Depends on how you think about it.

It's one thing to think like "A woman can be whatever she wants to be but my kind are the feminine ones" and "all woman should be feminine and women who aren't feminine are evil"

godfatherfan · Accepted Answer

Of course not. The reason we date is to find out if we fit with the other person. If you get married and don't want a divorce, that is a long haul. So best not to be with someone that doesn't fit your needs. That isn't to say they have to fit every piece. Having some differences are good in my opinion. But not drastic. Feminine is super hot. That doesn't mean she can't wear jeans. But if she always wears pants or jeans and never ever a dress, then meh...

DiscomfortZone · Accepted Answer

You know what? Yes, yes it is. Stupid questions deserve stupid answers.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

No, everyone has preferences and is entitled to them. You're under no obligation to date anyone you're not attracted to for any reason.

ManOnFire · Answer

Not at all. You have chicks out there rejecting decent guys who have traditional masculine focuses of work and school, while they run after a fool in the streets who they think is more masculine just because he acts like a badass, when the dude will just knock her up and leave her behind.

I doubt your tastes for a more feminine woman are anywhere near as toxic as a lot of women's ideas of what a 'more masculine' man is.

JadePony · Answer

No it’s not wrong but I wouldn’t use that for your reasoning when you explain it to her as it can be hurtful being told you’re not “woman enough”. I’d find other things that make you incomparable personality or interest wise and let her know that way 🙂

KatherineJ · Answer

No. But don’t be disappointed when the feminine girl rejects you because you aren’t masculine enough.

Kaneki05 · Answer

No? that just means you don't like there personailty which cannot be sexist since sexist is just thinking bad of someone just cause there female. without getting to actaul know them.

if you get to know someone and don't like them that ain't sexist.

ShortCircuit · Answer

It would only be sexist if you were to suggest that she was any less of a woman for not being as feminine as you prefer.

However, simply stating that she doesn't meet your personal preferences (whatever they might be), and thus you don't want to date her, is in no way sexist.

Massageman · Answer

Your taste in women is just that - simply a preference.

I grow SOOOO weary of having someone's preference for/against women, money, hair color (or a bald girl :- ) , breast/penis size, religion, favorite ice cream flavor, etc, being turned into some sort of an "ist", be it sexist, colorist, gonadist, apologeticist, 31Baskinist or any other "ist". (with apologies to Merriam Webster)

If someone has a preference, so be it!

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think it's sexist?
I mean my best friend is quite a masculine woman, but she is a lesbian 😂
It's important to be attracted to a person's personality more than their appearance. No one can force you to be attracted to something you're not, such as I don't find Channing Tatum attractive he's too muscular... I get the appeal but he doesn't do anything for me

I once asked if it was racist to not be attracted to black men, because I'm not and I was made to feel bad for not being attracted to them like it was a hate crime in itself to not sleep with black men?
It doesn't mean to say they aren't attractive just not attracted to them, myself and I have friends from different backgrounds who say "I would sleep with an Asian" or "my mum would kill me if I brought a white girl home"

Anonymous · Answer

It’s sad that you are worrying about that being “sexist”.

Women reject men ALL the time for anything and everything. Could you see one of them posting a question saying “is it sexist to reject a man because he’s not masculine enough?” Of course fucking not. They do it automatically by friendzoning guys like that with zero regrets.

They must be brainwashing you hard at college. Quit apologizing for being a MAN.

Mikeilito · Answer

Man it’s just wrong to reject anyone for thier quirks when we all got em and worse than others! Is it really that bad or worse than yours yiu can’t learn to live with ! I mean if she was bringing Lady friends around asking you to join then in a 3 some she would be lady enough 4 you yes, easy if you wait may
be worth your wild!!!

nelly83 · Answer

No but understand that looks or money is not what’s gonna make your marriage happier. It is the personality that will determine how happy you will be. You might not understand cus you’re too young right now but give it a few years

SaraSmithishere · Answer

I'd say that more based on your personal preferences. I'd had some really soft men come onto me and I wasn't interested because I lean towards more traditional gender roles and I don't want a guy who's going to be more "in touch" with his emotions than me.

normalice · Answer

Maybe, but it also doesn't matter. Romantic rejection is the one thing that is absolutely acceptable for any or no reason.

jmfillin1 · Answer

Nope. It's just not what you're into. I'm not a huge fan of extra femine women, I don't like high maintenance and sitting around waiting. I've dated super feminine women in the past, and it was nonstop makeup, selfies, primping, nail appointments, hair, etc, I just don't have the patience for that mess. To each their own, but it's not sexist if you want a girl to act like a princess, there's plenty of girls out there that want to be princesses.

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

No. You don't need justification for what you are and aren't attracted to. You should however be tactful in your rejection.

SarahsSummer · Answer

sex·ism /ˈsekˌsizəm/  noun prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex.

Aaron_Stone · Answer

No you can have preference.
Society will always impose ideals on you what you should like and not like but you have only one life. You are the one living your own life not other people.
So only you know what's best for you. Always strive for best for you.
Just stop chase after you're married cause this chase will never end...

Anonymous · Answer

No absolutely not. Modern feminism and liberalism/ SJWs have ruined relationships and romance with their stupid aversion to everything. So as a man you are totally allowed to not desire a woman because she isn’t feminine enough. And no matter what anyone says that’s not a sexist or offensive statement to make. Everyone is just so sensitive now a days.

xANGEx · Answer

no, not at all. it's just your preferences. why would it be sexist?

skrewd · Answer

Nope. If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, must be a duck. If she isn't woman enough to turn you on, it'll never happen then. If you don't like it that's your business. If she don't like it that you don't like it, that is her problem.

MangoB83 · Answer

It’s only sexist if it’s not acceptable for girls to turn down guys for not being masculine enough. You don’t have to have a valid, airtight case for not being attracted to someone.

StephenCF · Answer

I hope not. That’s the most common reason I’ve rejected women 😅 I’m attracted to women for their feminine traits which differ from my masculinity. If I was into tomboy/masculine characteristics, I’d just settle for the real deal and become gay 🤣

swashdeadlove · Answer

Nope , it’s your taste we’re talking about if you feel she doesn’t suit you then what’s the problem, and believe me there are men who like women in this category, it’s better for her to find someone who genuinely likes her the way she is

DevikaButts95 · Answer

You are no under obligation to date anyone, no matter how stupid the reason. (And that reason is not stupid either.)

KaylaJoy · Answer

No it’s not sexist. It’s just a matter of preference. You’re simply not attracted to women who aren’t “feminine.”

summerbreezee · Answer

Nope women do they same exact thing to men it's not your fault if your not attracted to sombody for a certain reason dosnt matter your sexual preference lesbians aren't attracted to guys because they are Male so whys it any different

jaybee281 · Answer

Nope i did that too it's always better to be honest than to kiss ass out of fear of hurting other people's feelings maybe not immediately but on the long run she'll be thankful

Lauren-green · Answer

No not at all. Everyone has their own tastes and types, if you prefer a more feminine woman, that's fine.

mamasan · Answer

No, that's not sexist. I like manly guys - guys who like cars and sports and fixing things lol. We all have our own preferences.

kev_alpha · Answer

Nope.. men are intended by nature to get attracted to feminine girls. If u feel u r not attracted then it's it's just human hard wiring.. Nothing you can take responsibility of.

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all. Girly girls get rejected all the time for being too feminine.” What’s good for one is good for the other.” The good thing about feminine women is we tend to put more effort into our appearances.

emmily2396 · Answer

As long as you're ok with her rejecting you for not being manly enough for her. Lol. She doesn't have to know why.

cute_short_nerd · Answer

I mean everyone has there own taste, for instance, I like sensitive men, but not crybabies, that’s just eww...

serious · Answer

No, I think that is a fair reason provided the guy gives importance and has standards for a woman being feminine.

CherryRoseChampange · Answer

No, I don't think so anyway. I think it's just a preference thing. You like feminine women lol. Nothing bad about that.

311WasAnInsideJam · Answer

No, your preference is your preference. I do the same. Think I wanna wake up to a bulldyke with a bowl cut? Absolutely not.

MildleyHotSauce · Answer

Nope. It's a type, and you shouldn't feel pressured into accepting everyone because it's "sexist". I wouldn't take it personal at all.

pleasestopthis · Answer

You are entitled to have your own preferences. It is wrong to date someone just to please others.

HerLucidNightt · Answer

No lol I think you need to brush up on your vocab, my friend.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Women will reject men for any reason or no reason at all.  Do whatever you want. Everybody else always will.

esssmeralda · Answer

No, if she's not your type you have a right to reject her. You don't wanna be with someone if you're not happy.

slatyb · Answer

Date whoever you like. No one has a right to date you or anyone. If you only like women from Mars, Pennsylvania that’s ok.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

Nah. Just your preference but it's useless to worry about this thing, some people will judge you no matter what.

Mystic_Nova · Answer

No, you're not obligated to go out with anyone you dont want to

JosyJosy · Answer

No, it's just a personal preference. I'm a tomboy, so we wouldn't work out. And that's okay, we all have a preference.

Unit1 · Answer

You like what you like. I like what I like. I don't like housewives. I like practicability & feasibility. Modern survival is all about the  money ! $$$

joeblow123 · Answer

No. You have to right to decide what you find acceptable. Women reject men who they deem less than masculine. You have the right to reject women who are less than feminine.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

No. Its not strange that a man is attracted to a woman. *facepalm* im sorry people these days are so confused. I don't know if its considered sexist or not nor do i care. Its natural and thats just how most men are.

ded13 · Answer

I think you should see more than the outside of a woman but its ok if u have a prototipe I don't know

LoU_Hades · Answer

No. If she doesn't fulfill your preferences it's okay to say no.

Cherokeehp · Answer

No. You dont have to date everyone that approaches you.

QueenOfBaku · Answer

It's your taste. Some people like coffee, some like tea, some like both, some don't like either of them and so on

stuntbrain · Answer

Good question. I would think yes, but modern acceptance culture would also mandate that sexual preference isn't to be shamed. Quite the progressive paradox

Miristheiss · Answer

All can reject anyone for any reason we choose. No one has to approve.

foxygirl4ever · Answer

No everyone gets rejected for all kinds of things. We aren't all into the same kind of people..

MackToday · Answer

No and who cares what's "sexist" its just a word some commies made up to pander to women.

worldscolide · Answer

No. Its a preference. Only idiots would tell you otherwise.

girlinthemirror · Answer

absolutely not, as well as some girl can reject u, bcoz u not her type... its just freedome of choice

Bman4907 · Answer

Everybody has a personal taste when it comes to dating someone. It's only wrong if you give her an ultimatum to make her change.

Thatsamazing · Answer

Uh... no. If you're not attracted to her, then you're not attracted to her.

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