Is it sexist not to date someone because they are the wrong gender?

[Anonymous]

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For those screaming troll, this is a serious question. The world has gotten to the point everything can be labeled as sexist.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

What the actual f? I really hope this is a sarcastic question cuz otherwise it's just utterly ridiculous.. So if you're not gay, lesbian, or bi you're sexist? And that thinking right there is what's wrong with the world and society today, and the mass stupidity facing America I mentioned in another post🤷🏼‍♀️Not shaming people for being gay or lesbian is one thing. But to go so far as to now shame or say it's sexist if you're not, is way too over the top🤦🏼‍♀️

[Heartache0405]

The poll question sounds like something a feminist today would say.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Heartache0405 oh bull, if you read from the user, it came from a guy, so guess you wrong there

[Heartache0405]

Unfortunately there are male feminists out there

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Heartache0405 oh stop putting everything on feminists... There's a lot of stupid people that aren't feminists🤣 like people that constantly make assumptions based off gender, race, or affiliation🤷🏼‍♀️ be carefu sol you don't come off sounding like one of those stupid people🤣

[CheeseMonster]

No. If you're attracted to someone is never sexist. How you approach/deny them can be I guess, but just whether you're attracted or not can't.

If I'm not attracted to women that's not sexist. That's just me. If I say they're inferior to men or it's bad that they're women because I don't find them attractive, that's probably sexist.

If a man is not attracted to me that's not sexist either. If a gay man isn't attracted to me, still not sexist. Not transphobic. It's just him. Only if he says it's because I'm wrong or I'm inferior or something like that does it become a problem.

People are allowed to exist without being compatible. Demanding he act against his attraction would be no better than demanding I act against mine. For any reason, that's still disrespectful. And pointless.

[Shortman70]

Call me what you want. I don't believe in all this "I identify as this BS!" A man should be with a woman, that's how life continues and grows. We are animals, that's how it works period. I'm not saying that you can't call yourself what ever you want. That's your choice. If you wanna marry a man, woman, goat, fish whatever, I could give a shit. If you have a dick, that shoots demand, you're a male period. If you have eggs, that are fertilized by sperm, you're a female period. That's science, period. I don't give a shit what you wanna be or who you wanna be with, but science doesn't change. I'm not sexiest, racist, genderphobic or whatever. I'm a realist, respect my view, I respect your view to be whatever. We don't have to agree and we won't, we just have to respect the other person.

[Daniela1982]

They say roll because these sexist questions are getting out of hand. There must be at least 5 questions asked a day if something is sexist. So no, choosing one brand of whiskey or if smoking a particular color pit is sexist doesn't make it so, and I think a lot of idiots asking these questions know it. Don't you think so Dave?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

No? You don’t have to be attracted or date someone who is the same or opposite sex. It isn’t sexist.

[AndrésC64]

There's a guy on YouTube that claims to be a lesbian. He claims that if guys won't date him that they are transphobic because he's really a girl.

[Gal67]

@AndrésC64 Men can't be lesbians. He was joking.

[Kaneki05]

If a man wants to be a woman, and becomes so then is into girls they are a lesbian transwoman. And men not wanting to date them would have 0 impact on them because she don't want a guy anyway so that seems a pointless gambit to complain about.

[AndrésC64]

@Gal67 unfortunately, he is absolutely serious.

[cookiecrusher]

Username answers this question perfectly

[KieranByrne]

No, I had taken a few times of reading this to understand!

And for any females that have 'Given' me an opportunity to get to know them, whether this is talking or keeping company while life gets back on track. I thank them and apologise.

Being I have met females who have changed their sexuality and slept with the opposite gender and bitterly told me they "Got tired of waiting". Never tell a person you are gay when the reality is pure selfishness of wanting the 'perfect' partner!

I have also met males that go around stating they are gay to females, in order to get them into bed!

My advice, work on yourself and only yourself!

[MCheetah]

No it's not sexist to not be gay. I'm sure this was likely inspired by some bi or queer weirdo being an asshole to OP about people not wanting to date them.

[Asker]

Was inspired by everything being labeled as sexist.

[Heartache0405]

You can thank the feminist movement for that, @Asker

[Asker]

@Heartache0405 I thank modern feminist movement. Modern feminist are drastically different from feminist 50+ years ago.

[MCheetah]

@Asker
Second wave feminists had understandable goals, but besides that, it's pretty much always been a bad movement that's despised men. Look up Susan B Anthony and Millicent Fawcett at the Seneca Falls Convention if you doubt me. First wave feminists were the BLM of their time.

[Arias]

I'm not sure if that's an empty troll statement or are you truly trying to ask a question.

No, it's not sexist. It's also maybe, possibly homophobic depending on how you're asking.

[Asker]

truly asking, with everything being labeled sexist, not too unrealistic to be labeled sexist for not being attracted to a certain gender.

[Arias]

I personally "in this day in age" wouldn't let gender get between what you feel is going well. If you're concerned about what society sees in you and whoever person you're with, it will take time to move through life with it. Otherwise it and you will secluded yourself from everyone you could potentially feel anything for. Trust me and the statistics when I say, it's not easy but it takes time and comfort within yourself.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I dont understand the question and i also think you may be a rightist troll. If you are serious, then it is perfectly ok and not sexist because you can't control your feelings and sexuality. Whatever i dont believe that the asker is serious

[Asker]

I am being serious, with everything being labeled sexist, next step is labeling someone sexist for not wanting to date a certain gender.

[Gal67]

Um, what? Could you repeat that? The first time I read your question it didn't make any damn sense, and I thought you were asking if it's "sexist" to not be attracted to either of the two genders (or something).

[Asker]

Does it make one sexist to not date a certain gender.

[Gal67]

No, of course not. I would never go out on a date with a man, because I'm not weird like that.

[Kaamraj]

Attraction cannot be negotiated with; the gender, race of a person you are attracted to is completely upto you. Racism or sexism or anti LGBTQ comes into play when you oppose other adults from exercising their options.

[Citizenkirk]

What? If you are wired to be attracted to a heterosexual or a homosexual, than you shouldn't fight your sexual orientation. If you are not attracted to someone, than there is no foundation too build a relationship model on.

[sqquizzy44321]

two words.. Personal preference. if u choose this bc of your own personal preference it’s no problem but if your like this bc of who that person identifies as then that’s a red flag

[AdithyaR]

Not dating someone is fine, you can't force yourself to like someone. Although you might not wanna use the term wrong gender, just sounds bad, there is no wrong gender. It's just that you're attracted to them.

[AdithyaR]

*not attracted

[TwinkleLily5]

No it’s not sexist, Please don’t be a people pleaser. You choose who you want to date regardless of how it makes someone else feel.

[dodobord]

You don't have to date anyone you don't want to, for any reason at all.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I don't understand how this is sexist? Being sexist is discrimination against the opposite gender not being attractive to them isn't being sexist.

[Kaneki05]

Gender and Sex are different things. Therefore you cannot be sexist when it comes Gender. Would have to be Genderist.

[AndrésC64]

No. The question just shows how insane the world has become. I'm not attracted to dicks. That doesn't mean that I'm sexist.

[Outofthegrey]

This is the dumbest thing I've ever heard, and I argue with insurance companies for a living

[Sbsbsbdnd]

no, or else it would be sexist to force me to be gay when i only find born woman attractive, do you hate the fact im only attracted to born females? that sounds like your "straight-ist" you hate straight people, i am offended

[Sbsbsbdnd]

lol joke

[whosnumber1]

are u fucking kidding me? this is an actual question that you needed answered? because I won't turn gay and date a guy I'm sexist- towards what exactly? my own gender. haha

[petitnuage]

If you have feelings for Someone you shouldn't consider his gender ! I was straight before and then felt in love with a guy. Now people say I'm gay. I am not. I'm just in love. Love doesn't have gender.

[Deserter]

I have standards and preferences, I can reject someone on whatever grounds I want, idc who it upsets.