You are wise , for your age , and yes it is Sad that young people are only intrested in Sex ! Looking back on my own teenage years : yes I wanted sex but also to find my love and marriage! I'd found a young Lady and we dated for almost 3 years; then I went to college and it fell apart! Long story!
As for soulmates; I know we have soulmates, but it's a different kind of connection; more universal than a love connection! Meaning, we're connected through our tribe or sign or what family we were born into: ie: water, fire, earth, or air... etc !
There's like minded people out there, just few and farther between . Stay the course and you'll find yours, just dont compromise your own beliefs and feelings something you think might be right... you've got to KNOW! They're the right One!
I do not believe that there is but one True Love, instead you will likely have several relationships over your lifetime that seem transcendent. You will find in those people elements of yourself that you never knew existed; they will bring out the best in you. They will make you feel more deeply than you have before or in ways that you did not think possible; there will be a profound sense of well-being when you are with them.
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A guy told me something in University and I still remember it now - "I think God gives you opportunities and you decide what to do with them." I believe God can sometimes play match maker - but God considers what you want and what he wants or what she wants (if your a guy) and he considers the future while helping you by blessing the person you choose and the person who chooses you - so its a combination of destiny and personal choice too. Its like God might bless your marriage but only after you agree before God to bless your relationship and to marry that person and if you had chosen somebody else - God would have blessed that other relationship too.
I don't believe in soulmates, but do agree with everything else you said.
Don't compromise what you want just because it feels like so much of society is changing. More superficiality, more self-indulgence is not best for people, or the world, in the end. Being conscious, and aware of one's decisions, and how one's actions affect others is more important, and meaningful.
I believe that there are multiple people for everyone, and it depends on where you are in the world and how your are physically, mentally, and emotionally in that moment.
I never used to, until i found mine. Thing about soul mates though, is most people don't find theirs their whole lives, and it's not something you can search for. If you both cross paths, you will end up in each others lives like two ends of a magnet and not even realise what you have possibly until years later.
With mine we were just friends that lived 3 hours away that met on Facebook, that became close, then started having a bit of fun while we were both on the rebound. And we found out we really liked each other the more intimate we got, finding something we hadn't found in anyone else. After 3 months we found ourselves in a relationship, just naturally.
And yet i resisted at every single stage in the process, because we were only friends and i was still heart broken over the last woman i loved.
After a year and some serious hardship that put a strain on our relationship, i dumped her and didn't see her for a year and a half until i got back in contact with her. In all that time, neither one of us forgot, stopped thinking about each other or moved on with someone else.
When we did get back together, and i started accepting my feelings for her, our relationship got serious but ran in to new serious problems that made both of us want to break up repeatedly, and yet neither one of us could genuinely pull away. After enough times of trying to break up but couldn't, we accepted we have no choice but to deal with our irreconcilable differences for sharing a life together, and after many headaches and arguments, we did.
That's why i don't believe in "irreconcilable differences"; that's just an excuse for "i can do better".
That's when you know you've found your soul mate; when you mutually understand each other on a level more than you've ever known, and you mutually can't pull away from each other no matter how much you both try or how much you've hurt each other.
That's when you know.
So, just relax.
Stop searching and just focus on you, make you the best you that you can be and just live your life. With a bit like luck, you might cross paths with your one day, even if that's 20 years from now.
Be yourself = as if you'll change yourself for others to like you (just normal liking) like/admire who and what you want to like even if it means nothing or just normal to others if you have "fish eyes" sharp face maybe someone out there likes sharp faces -you never know-, it comes then. I know of a close friend, where she never believed she would ever believe in it.
Don't wait it, if it comes that should be good, -maybe bad, idk- and if it doesn't who cares, did you ask for it anyway? You should have some real friend around anyway [Check the spark phrase below 😄]
There will be a clear difference between who IS interested, who is half-interested, and who is just interested.
[This is the spark 😛 part] 💫Deal equally and calmly with people, that should make real things show up💥.
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Otherwise if you're not objective enough in your life, everything in subjectivity can be the best -where "best" here could be your inquiry here.
"Eye of satisfaction is blind on every defect // And Eye of discontent highlights them "defects").
Be objective, it may help.
Hmm, does it makes sense to you? I hope it does, teenager.
I hear what your saying...
Unfortunately, most people your age don't look beyond the superficial.
My advice...
Go to school, get a job, save money, help others and perhaps you, like me, will find a like minded, good mate while going through this life's journey.
But allow me to point out the dangers to the whole soulmate idea.
The first is that there is this ONE person that will make your life complete.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. – Genesis 2:24
So, you might infer that since two become one, you’re only half a person as a single person. However, according to Colossians 2:10 “…. in Him you have been made complete…”
So, the Christian is already whole in Christ.
However, the one who hasn’t given his live to Christ has a “God shaped” hole in his life.
The other danger is in looking back…
Someone who is married might say “I’m married, but this guy at work thinks just like I do, looks exactly like my dream man and we get along so well. I missed my soulmate!” They don’t see the flaws in the new guy, but even if he were “flawless”, it doesn’t justify breaking a marriage vow.
All that said, I’d say my own wife is literally one in a million (or at least 100,000). There are few women that are as intelligent, and of the same mind as me on spiritual matters, finances, child rearing, etc.. She has the “nerdy” look I find attractive and the things she lacks aren’t that big a deal to me. On top of everything she puts up with me! (ha ha)
So, while I don’t believe in a soulmates, there are probably only a few dozen people in a 20 mile radius that would meet fit with me like my wife.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing – Proverbs 18.22a
I asked a rather similar question just a few days ago! I feel many fall short to see that a relationship is a growing process that goes two ways in what both have to offer in keeping the flame and building one another up. I have so many friends that date for less than a year cause they simply get "bored" or learn and nit-pick at too many "flaws" after a few months and call it quits, forgetting why they were attracted to eachother in the first place. Then they both end up feeling broken and unwanted... leaving them in a spiraling stage of not caring for themself and forgetting that one needs to get their act together and love themself before loving others, and re-evaluating their worth. I feel the shame in dating nowadays is that we don't have the time and luxury to meet and actually date diffrent people to find someone who compliments us due to life's busy schedule and expectations. Dating is hard, and finding a well rounded person isn't easy. But once you find and love someone, putting in the love and effort to grow together actually comes naturally when you see the person is worth your love.
A big NO! Though I'm no master when it comes to relationships, but I feel I've enough experience to write this one. I don't believe that someday you're gonna meet the girl of your dreams and everything would fall in place by itself. I believe that every relationship requires hope and hard work. Expecting to find a soulmate is similar to preparing for only a few topics before the exams and hoping that all the questions would come from there itself. Rather I believe in hard work, preparing for any question that can come. We gain experience from every relationship, now matter how much we failed in it. Losing someone, might seem like there might never be another one. WRONG! Have the will to hope and the will to work hard in your next relationship, hopefully not repeating the past mistakes. The benchmark your ex set was something that was several years of work in progress. Find someone who respects you for who you're, who's willing to work as hard and fearlessly as you want to. I don't expect I'll just meet someone and in the next moment, I'll fall head over heels for her. Yes, I do admit I'd done some serious mistakes in the past. But I want to work hard in every one I find myself in. Relationship are not as utopic as are seen in the movies. If things don't work out, be happy for what you had and have the will to hope and work hard for next one.
Yes as a matter if fact I do, I marries my Soulmate in July 1984 & we were very happily married until her death in August 2015. though our ages were 20 years apart, we were almost inseparable ' Where ever I went she always was at my side. we took care of each other & nursed each other to health, after some serious operations. People ask if you go for s day with kissing is the relationship on trouble. My answer is no, sometimes a touch on the arm, a touch on the back of the hand are just as intimate as a kiss. other times a smile, a certain look were just as if more intimate to me then the a kiss I would tell her "I love you more today then yesterday but not as much as tomorrow." & she would give me hersly shy smile. I would go take of what I needed to do. I would come back & she would take my hands & look me in the face & say " But I love you more."We had a rule we never went to bed angry & what ever problems we had we always settled as soon as possible & never with an angry word. That worked for us for Thirty One years. When she died, I was totall alone my world & reason for life was gone. I hid for a while people asked me what was wrong & I told them and they stuffed full of pills that made me sleep all the time. The pills did no good because the pain & emptiness was and still is bad.. I tell you losing youe soulmate isn't something I wish on my worst enemy.
I mean it doesn't exist physically (in the universe). It exists in your mind, it exists if you want it to exist. There is someone in this world you might really like, the question is will you ever find him? Probably not. But worry not you can find someone who maybe isn't perfect but in your mind he/she might as well be and that is better (brains have a habit of wishful thinking and if we like someone we tend to ignore all the evidence in the opposite, if you play it wisely it will work out). In time you might notice his/her flaws but they are yours so you build each other up. If you find it never let it go, I repeat never let it go. My experience wasn't the best ever or maybe I am just too ignorant to notice but life is what you make it. Some get a lovely partner and some get scared for life, it's a good Idea to never play games. If you have to play the game you have already lost.
Okay I might have an unpopular opinion but I am gonna try my best.
'Love' and 'soulmate' are two different things.
Soulmate, as cheesy as it sounds, if it really exists, then I don't think it should necessarily be a romantic partner. It should depend more on the soul than the kind of relationship a person has - a family member, a close friend or a partner.
Thing about love is, it exists but you need to develop it on the way. A lot aspects come into consideration, looks is one of them. Love needs proper communication, support, understanding, a click of compatibility between two people and certain amount of attraction with the person in order to at least develop an interest to see them potentially in a romantic manner. Looks may or may not be one of the aspects depending on the person in consideration.
@Aislin9 yeah people expect too much from one such relationship.
I do believe they exist, but i also believe not everyone has them.
I found mine, and their is no other girl in this world that can come close to her. Its just not the same. Thats how i know. No matter how far we go apart we always found our way back to eachother.. .. Since we were kids
and now its forever, and stronger than ever before.
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Some people have them others dont,
keep looking, Or just wait til it falls in your lap.
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Some times it’s even right there in your face under your nose.
But when you find them. You will know
the universe will tell you one way or another
I do believe in the idea of soulmates,
but expanding on that I do believe that we have more than one soulmates.
Some are here to teach us things bound to us by a soul contract in this life but they aren't meant to stay. This explains about your exes whom are here to meet together in this life to teach each other lessons about life and relationships.
And few are actually here to stay, those are the ones you ended up marry and live together.
I think what movies does is it sells us the concept of having "the only one" I don't believe that there are only one soulmate, that's kind of absurd. The entire human population, there can't be only one that you are compatible with. I'm just not buying it. But this is the concept that we all like to believe because it feels safe, it gives us hope that in this entire world there's this one person out there meant for us.
Often on here you say to someone that "Your time will come" or "The right person will come along". A hundred guys could approach you and do the wrong thing but it only takes one. Despite all the advice and strategy laid out here falling in love is pure good luck, you and your future SO are in the right place, at the right time , in the right situation and the right outlook. You meet , something way down beneath the surface happens, you click and it leads to a relationship.
All these guys feel wrong because they are wrong for you and there is nothing wrong about that. We all have needs, your needs are possibly more spiritual than others again it is just the way you are but I promise you there are guys out there who feel like you, I know it can feel a little lonely waiting but hang on it will be worth for you.
Yes!! I do believe in soulmates. I had a relationship with a girl for almost 5 years. we were just perfect but due to some tragedy, I lost her forever. The tragedy was her death in a car accident. It's been almost 2 years since her death and I still miss her a lot and never had a relationship with anyone since she's gone.
No, I don't believe in that. People are compatible with tons of people across the world, and often someone they feel as their 'true love' might be less suited to them than someone else they've never met. I'm not saying that their relationship isn't good, but its unrealistic that out of the 8 billion people in the world you just so happen to run into the person that best fits you and also engage enough with them to go out on a date and enter a committed relationship.
I do fully agree with the physical standards on things though, lots of people go for people with obvious redflags that they try and ignore because of clouded judgement. But relationships like that are also how people learn what they enjoy and what's better for them.
I do believe in soulmates. Souls that are connected from former lives. That’s why we feel certain connections with some people. I also think that people my age are more focused on physical appearance and about being in “short relationships”. I’m not saying we shouldn’t normalize short relationships but I feel like everyone’s goal should be to understand that love and lust are completely different. I’ve never been in love, so I can’t say if true love is real for me.
No, I don't believe in soulmates, I think a relationship is always going to take hard work. Even if you could be a perfect fit for someone in every way, you're going to change and that person is going to change, and it takes effort to change together and communicate and make sure you're changing in a way you both find acceptable.
Soulmates isn't even mathematically possible. For every 10 straight women there are more than 11 straight men, so even if women were willing to date all men (they aren't, not by a long-shot) there would still be 1 out of 11 left out.
what's your reasoning when you think a man is approaching you only wants physically? What are the things that make you think so?
Another one Why do you think your body is separate from you?
Would you date someone whom you're not physically attracted to?
Do you want partner not to be sexually attracted to you and only loves personality? i. e Not much intersted in sex.
Give honest answer of above Question to yourself.
See if you missed some other facts thinking person only loved your body.
www.talkaboutmarriage.com/.../
She hated men who were sexually attracted to her. She wanted someone who loved her. She got what she wanted. See her response.
Speaking of soulmates Everyone wishes they find one. But all we can do is find someone who loves us.
By doing small things for each other and deepening the relationship so that person becomes our True Love/soulmate
I think soulmate is a complicated term.
There will always be people who you click with and enjoy their company straight away but soulmate?
I believe in true love, but I also believe there are a couple of people out there who you can experience that with. If you go out believing there is one person for you in the entire world I think that would cause more damage.
But love is very real. That is the thing you have to search for... and if you end up believing that person is your soulmate.. then I am very happy for you because that means you have felt true love
i dont believe in soulmates. i dont think there is one person meant for you, i just think that you are more compatible with certain people and also are on the same path in life as certain people that helps narrow done who you fall in love with. with that in mind i still want a monogamous relationship with "true love"
I don’t believe in soul mates and stuff. There are billions of people on this planet and I think there are potentially thousands of people that I could fall in love with. But for now I’m just glad that I met the person I’m with and I get to be with him right now. Maybe we won’t last forever. Maybe will. I don’t know. I just know that if you find love you should treasure it.
I do, i believe we have multiple soulmates, people can put in the effort in a relationship to Make it last, but if it doesn't work out, then there is another person out there, sometimes love isn't enough. Its about compatibility, some people will make it, but I don't think there's a limit to any 1 person as far as a long lasting, real, consuming, passionate love
"If you can't handle me at my worst, then you dont deserve me at my best"
I do! True Love is something I had been looking for a quite awhile and found it with help my of Boyfriend whom I truly Love! In my opinion True Love comes to those who wait and randomly at that. it even sometimes comes when you least expect it. I'm sure you'll find True Love someday 😊
For heaven's sakes - 17? You're barely past childhood.
No, there's no such thing as a 'soulmate', or 'the one'. True love is something else - you're just not ready.
No, these are platitudes for the weak-minded. There are any number of prospects that would make for a worthwhile mate. And why we DATE. So date a lot, just don't have sex with them all. You'll gain sufficient experience to actually be able to discern whether they're worthy, whether they're a match.
Yes because everything has a purpose and time. I do believe that two people can be meant to be together, and they are compatible and feel the way they feel about each other for that reason. Does everybody have many options, and can they make it work with anybody? Yes. But the soulmate is the one whom you actually love in the end
Also believe that with that "purpose" comes this: he has strengths that accompany her weaknesses, and vice versa. They were placed in each other's lives for a reason.
Welcome to this era. I believe a lot of people look for casual when they find out how really really difficult is to find your soulmate (and worse, he or she has to be available, in the correct place in his/her life, etc).
You have to persevere, though.
I know exactly how you feel. I want a deep connection beyond the physical appearance. And it's hard because at this point dating looks more like speed dating. I'm still liking for my soulmate but in the meantime I'm going to try and improve myself for my benefit. The right person will come around when you last expect.
yes i met my soul mate... she dont like me in that way :(
but the good news is i think i found another soul mate... a different girl who is very similar to her (possibily better)
so the good news is i think more than 1 person can be ur soul mate
its true, the world is like this, till u get 25-30 age group, u will find men like this only and there are lot more chances for later patchup, relationship problem or even divorce. . . so try to understand the world and choose the best accorging to human behaviour, richness, self confidence and self stand and more importantly one women men and human Values and integrity is a complimentary
Well it depends. How long are you willing to wait for said soul mate? You are 17? If so you may have a few years before you are able to get married. But would you wait for 2-5 years for Mr. Right, or do like the rest of them, subsist on hookups and jump from one bed to the next like they are playing musical chairs?
Lol people aren’t changing either. Men my age are exactly the same way. I have found very few men in my life the past few years who want more than a quick bang out with no strings attached. I feel people don’t value other people anymore and you are not alone in feeling like commitment has gone out the window. My advice, sit back and live your life. When you love yourself, set healthy boundaries and dont settle, that’s when you open the door to the kind of men that you want.
Maybe if you valued yourself enough to wait before having sex then maybe you'd be married by now. You complain about how people don't value love and lack committment, yet you don't seem very committed to the idea of getting married. Are you actually upset that people lack commitment, or is that something you just say to shame men? If you are unsure then ask yourself this: "Would you be okay with getting married if divorce was illegal/impossible?", if your answer is no then clearly you don't actually care about commitment.
So if I love myself, set healthy boundaries, and dont settle, then I deserve to marry an amazing woman?
Believing in soul mates and living with soulmate/true love 24/7 for whole life is different thing. Nowdays majority people just get bored in relationships and want new things to spice up so like hook up and cheating comes in picture. Find a person who want to have good and stable long relationship with you. Also lol physical appearance have nothing to do.
No I don't believe in the term "soulmate"
love yes but not fairy tale love.
For me it's more about having a good connection, respect and understanding of each other.
Now if the sex life is good then that's smthng else.
But the first part matters to me more.
I think we all have many soulmates but we don't get to meet all of them. I think soulmate is someone you click with, someone who you can feel what they're feeling, someone who you can be completely comfortable around. I think soulmates don't often have to be romantic even, but I do feel that everyone has that special person. It just takes time to find the right person! :)
I did research about it as per my limited intelligence I had came across some facts that there are like soulmate and twin souls almost same sometimes when you meet them it's pure magic and in dome cases it'd pure chaos believing it or not is something else but meeting and getting them and spending life has only 1% of chance that too for few
I do and once you find that person you still have to work at a relationship you can still get a long great have the same intrests and everything but you will still have arguments you still need to pay attention to the other person everything takes time and yoy can meet someone who you just feel is the one for you but any relationship takes a lot of work
I feel you, dear Scarlett. You're only 17 and people around you may want to explore bodies before heart. True love does exist for some, and does not exist for some. It depends what your destiny holds for you.
Just go with the flow and enjoy life. Take everything that comes your way with the occassional filter to weed out nasty stuff.
Kind of.
I believe the idea of true love can be created between members of an already existing relationship. In eventuality, they can subconsciously think of each other as soulmates.
However, I don't believe there is one specific person out there who is destined to be one's soulmate/ true love.
That hook up culture thing will continue well after college. I don't like to use the term soulmate because it's rather idealistic for my liking. I think you can just focus on building yourself and growing as a person because if you meet the right person but you are in the wrong headspace, it won't work. There is a lot that can change about you in 3 years. Take your time.
Yeah, that's why many girls look for guys over 30. You have to be careful of them too. It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with sex, it's just priorities. You have to find out what they want, and don't just believe them when they say a relationship, because half of them are just trying to get into your pants in the first place.
Yes I do, but I believe you have to be whole and truly yourself, before you find your soulmate, otherwise you’ll keep ending up with the wrong people wondering why you keep repeating the same cycle of failed relationships, that leaves you with that same gnawing, empty feeling. You’ve gotta have a good relationship with yourself before you can have one with another person, long story short.
Love is scientifically proven to be real but it is actually just the way your hormones react with theirs and vice versa. Like some woman straight her whole life but could just find another girl and fall "in love" so yes technically love is real.
I don't believe in soulmates. But because of probability it is highly likley there will always be someone out there for you.
Probably because the only teens who don't want you for your looks only are the weirdo kids.
I don't really believe in it, but I do like the idea of a budding romantic relationship.
I actually kind of hate this hook up, swipe left/right online dating culture we have now because it can feel so superficial and even shallow.
I never believed in soulmates.
What if your soulmate died? Are you then screwed?
What if your soulmate is a devout Jew and you are a devout Muslim?
What if your soulmate is already married with kids?
I definitely feel this same way... I’m not meant for this hook up culture.
I’ve been in love so know what that feels like so I believe in true love. Which also means I will not settle for anything less.
I agree to disagree. I believe soulmates are hard to find but are real. True love is a real thing and, personally for me, I have yet to find the person that fits into my life. And I would like to get to know you if there is ever a way to. I have yet to want someone for their appearance and not their personality. Im not the coolest guy either, just putting that out there
You've got it right. All of those people are missing out on the true meaning of love. Hold tight to your ideals and don't ever compromise. Don't let them drag you down.
Once upon a time i was very fond of true love , that soul mae thing, as the way she walks, thw way she talks, her mesmerizing dress, but when she left i didn't believe in all this, i think hookup is the only best just do flirting fucking whatever u want. its good.
Soulmate doesn't mean you'll get married and. be together forever. It just means you have the same soul. You can mret to teach each other lessons. So in the 3rd you can have a toxic relationship with your soulmate
The concept of soulmate is not very popular but it is a very heartfelt concept. I still believe in soulmates because i think their always someone for someone
I want to find true love. I'm 18 and pray that God gives me a good wife. but tbh some of us men are scared. I've been told bad things and even I'm afraid of love. but I want a long lasting marriage with the right woman. but yes I do believe that love can last. and not all guys are after just sex. i want companionship. my ideal marriage is one that last until death do us part. a kind-hearted generous but also strong willed woman. but I'm fearful I'll never find that. but yes love exist.
I didn't believe there was any girl who believed in the same thing I did (true love, finding your soulmate) but here you are!
I always wanted my soul mate. But after getting cheated on by 2 guys i decided to stay single till i have a career and all.
But about the one night stand i honestly WISHED TO HAVE IT WITH one person - MY CRUSH. My love changed into lust because he was hot and not a one woman man. BUT i never did it because AGAIN, i was afraid to fall in love with him and wanting him to be my life partner, so i never EVEN TALKED WITH HIM.
Nah. I do believe that there are people compatible with you but a specif "soulmate"? That's a fairytail, it isn't real.
MOst of the time yes, but then you hear or read stories and wonder if its true, but i do hear enough stories about true love to think that it is real
It's a fairy tale that rarely if ever exists. Everyone want to be the only one, but they never really are. Look at the current divorce rates not counting the ones who have been married 20+ years.
I feel you, same happens with me, but I never lose hopes. I feel I’m that deserving to get my soulmate in this world full of bodymates!!!
True love exists in the never ending lust world, but yay don’t give up..
i do... i just don't know how easy they are to find... or how to know you've got the RIGHT ONE... the hookup culture of the last 30 years is absolutely REPULSIVE... and them hoes is all like "bOdY cOuNt Is JuSt A nUmBeR"... yeah, cuz y'all're hoes...
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