Guys, Can you afford a girlfriend?

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Lol i know this sounds crazy but i just read similar stuffs on internet whether a man can afford a girlfriend..

[SoloTraveler]

If the word “afford” is used here with the financial sense, then I think we should not populate its usage or normalize its meaning.


Women shouldn’t be seeking men to pay them for their companionship. Instead, they should think of themselves as humans worthy of mutual love, care, and respect in a relationship.


Young girls should be taught how unhealthy and unbalanced a relationship can be if they choose to trade their bodies for money, but rather they should be as valuable and contributing to the relationship as the man.


They should work on themselves and improve their lives and be able to make their own money.


To build a healthy relationship, both partners should be responsible and financially independent and willing to contribute to their life together.


There’re, of course, cases in which women can’t or don’t need to be financially independent because of health issues, or taking care of little kids, etc. But in normal circumstances, why she would choose to stay dependent on her partner and think that he’s supposed to provide her with all she needs. That’s not healthy and so is the word “afford”, which objectifies women.

[ryoru]

Sort of offended that this question is asked... It seems more like trading companionship for money... Then again, having heard from my guy friends that their girlfriend expect an allowance from them🤦🏻‍♀️ well to each their own...
in my opinion the allowance part only makes sense if your are married and it's a given that the husband will give the wife an allowance for her own perusal.

in my opinion both party should be able to afford to pay for 2. Both of us are working adults, have bills to pay, definitely should be able to afford taking turns to pay for dining out. If he's coming by my area for our date, I'd definitely pay for the meal while he gets us desserts as he takes GRAB from/to his place to/from mine. Vice versa. If we are going to town, I'll get the meal and he covers movie and desserts. If we are going for walks, I'll get us ice creams at the end of it.
I won't think twice about spending $100 on people I care about, but I definitely will think twice about getting that $50 shoes for myself😆😆

[Buttface82828]

Maybe, cos u know with my ugly face the only way I could get near a girl is if i pay her for sex or go on a date with me...
so yeah maybe,
i get 600 quid a month n only spend like 380 a month,

so then i would have 220 quid left each months to buy a few dates and fucking services with a girl... so i would see her about once a week... that could be enough to maintain a relationship i think,
i dont want to have to put any girl under the suffering of acting like my girlfriend for money tho

id feel too harsh, no one deserves to have to suffer being with a ugly fuck like me

so i will jus stay to porn

[Buttface82828]

My social anxiety and low self esteem is too extreme anyway,
I dont think being with a girl would even work for me

Itd be too awkward
I dont even have the courage to look a girl in the eye or say something to her

[Jjpayne]

So... I'd really depends on her expectations. But I will say it's all about sacrifice. Look at it this way, a rich man can give a girl a brand new pair of flip flops but that's garbage compared to what he currently has however, a guy that currently does not have a job and is making by little money, buying her flip flops is very significant. Even a man of currently no money can share his time and availablity with her. It's all that he can give and sacrifice to her. Think of how aladdin the street rat with flys coming out of his packet shared with jasmine before the genie. It's about sharing what you have

[OlderAndWiser]

Afford in a financial sense? Yes. Otherwise? Stay tuned!

[lumos]

I think the mindset that you have to (financially) be at a certain place in order to "afford" a girlfriend is kinda fucked up. Sure, going to the movies, eating out, travelling etc are fun and expensive things to do with your partner. However, none of things are actually necessary in a relationship. There are tons of things that are super cheap that you can do with someone. And I'd even argue that most of the truly important experiences in a relationship are 100% free. Not to mention that the girl should also pay for herself.

[StickStickity13]

Have you seen how some women react if you ask to do a cheap date?

[lumos]

@StickStickity13 are those women worth dating?

[StickStickity13]

Then the majority of women are undateable, if that's the case.

[msc545]

@StickStickity13 so TRUE brother!

[ChiTown33]

I think Savage Garden said it best. "Ooo i want you i don't know if i need you but Ooo i'm dying to find out".
This is what guys feel when they meet a woman that strikes their fancy. The truth is most women are losing propositions. You almost always put more energy in then you ever get back. They take your money, your time, and if you're not careful, your sanity. There are a few guys who manage to nail down the good eggs and will actually spend their life with them. But for most it's a rocky road.
So to answer your question. I would say it's all up to the guy. It's certainly not logical.

[Saturnxox]

What do you mean by afford?
Money?
A girlfriend isn't like buying a dog you have to feed, give water, buy toys or go to the vets with 😂
A girl can work just fine for her own money. It isn't the guys responsibility to financially take care of his girlfriend.

[Matieux]

For you maybe but some girl thinks they are a kind of princess that you need to take care of and give anythings they need

[Saturnxox]

But that doesn't sit right with me.
You can't depend on someone else to take care of you.
We are just normal girls and not princesses.
In this world you have to work if you want something in your life.

[Matieux]

I like your mentality, unfortunately most girls are not like you they don't think like that

[Saturnxox]

Maybe it's my age?
I just grew up in a more feminist world.
Also my father is a stay at home dad because he had a heart disease and my mother has worked her whole life.
And just because I feel bad if someone else pays for me all the time.
On dates I always want to split the first few and if I'm in a relationship I like to switch. Guy pays one, I pay the one after that.
And I like to do surprise dates, I also pay for those.

[Matieux]

I just can say one thing you're awesome

[Oric5]

Best answer.. i think she worded it wrong

[JackSmy]

A REAL, TRUE LOVE, and honest lady, loves a man for who he is, and not his money, or car, house or status. Likewise, he loves her because of who she is, and her personality, and how they relate, and feel with each other.
Anyone wondering if he can 'afford' her is probably a gold-digger looking to use a man and just get what she can from him.
Tell me there is another way to interpret that?

[Avicenna]

On theory, anyone should be able to since there are plenty of fun low-cost or free thugs you can do. In practice, there will always be some financial expectations.

Its rare, but some women have plenty of money and just want a guy fior companionship and don't care what he can afford

[Rory_Pants]

Most men go straight to money with this question.. Currency is needed and will always be needed for goods and trade, that's not even the hard part.

Affording her your time, emotions and attention will bring more worth to your life then making 100k. But she has also got to afford you the same or it'll never workout the way you need.

[LearnFromThePast]

There are exceptions to the rule but almost everyone that limits their relationships based on wealth or status is shallow. They eventually die alone and cold, the same way they lived. I'm sorry but I see it every day, money doesn't buy love... it destroys it every time if you dont understand how to keep them separate. I feel sorry for woman that think this question is more than a reflection of what and who they are, not the man because they will never love a person more than an object until they learn how lonely they are even when they have everything they ever wanted... it cost them everything they always needed.

[NamerOfStars]

Not one of the newer models, no, but the local Girlfriend store is having a clearance on Claires right now, so I might pick one up. Gotta be careful, though; last time I thought they were announcing a "Claire-ance" I bought without checking, and Clarence was not happy about it...

[CoctailKrill]

Well, if that’s the language we’re using…

Women who’ve turned themselves into commodities might be affordable by some and not by others. Personally, I’d rather have a woman who knows she’s not a commodity and has multiple “value adds”. The question of financial affordability falls to the wayside when you support one another to build something together.

[Adam1978]

I can afford one, the question is rather is she worth the price, a woman that has a high maintenance is usually not. I rather take one that is a better deal or skip it all together. I should also have a value to her and it should mean she should cover her own costs.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

Not sure in what sense you mean.


If she wants money, or at least wants it spent on her then she’s not worth having as a girlfriend, regardless of whether you have the money to afford it. So problem solved, let some other dude simp for her if that’s how she’s going to be.

[purplepoppy]

3 guys approach a girl, a lawyer a doctor and a burgerflipper, guess which one is most likely to get rejected. It's not a case id affording a girlfriend it's can you afford to compete with other men

[luciferk8719]

Obviously the layer and doctor

[FictionalCharacter]

@purplepoppy

Definitely reject the lawyer. The doctor it depends, if they’re a nutritionist cool. But a general doctor, no. Too many lost patients.

A burgerflipper, that’s road trip money wooo! 🤘🏻😆🤘🏻

[Gravit1]

Depends where and how much. A place like California, No, a lower cost of living like where I am now, sure. People have different expectations, some are paying for a body, but for me it's time centered. I spend money for time, not body. People not on the marriage path, spend it for body. Some of the women I only spend time with, but if I make it more official then I'll spend more money.

[motownplayer2000]

I don’t need to “afford” a girlfriend... if she is wants to be with me. She will have to pull her on weight.. I can spoil her at times if she is extraordinary as a girlfriend then yes... but I don’t need to be able to afford her. If any woman says that, I’d rather be single... cause 8 times out of 10 you won’t get a return back from your investment into a female

[sawno]

Right now i can't, i can't spend the energy she deserves. Which is why i am not looking for a girl until i am healed.

[dmgstarfleet]

HA! Finally it comes-of course I can. I just don't let them get out of hand-entitled expectations do not earn her the coveted "girlfriend" status. I WON'T afford a diva or a princess who expects her every whim satisfied. Not "can't".

[venomhbk1313]

no I can't but I don't I think that being able to afford a girlfriend is that important to me right now because for one it's not about money but it's about what I do when I'm not punching a Time Clock I'm a paranormal investigator and my life is basically like the show Supernatural with Sam and Dean Winchester do not have relationships or girlfriends but they might have a little fun here and there but the job is going to get in the way

[djmzes]

Simple

[MCheetah]

If you need money to be with her, she's not really your girlfriend, she's your sugar baby. But hey, most men "bribe" their way into a woman's heart and/or pants. Not me, though. I ain't playing that Sucka's Game.