Guys, Can you afford a girlfriend?

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SoloTraveler · Accepted Answer

If the word “afford” is used here with the financial sense, then I think we should not populate its usage or normalize its meaning.

Women shouldn’t be seeking men to pay them for their companionship. Instead, they should think of themselves as humans worthy of mutual love, care, and respect in a relationship.

Young girls should be taught how unhealthy and unbalanced a relationship can be if they choose to trade their bodies for money, but rather they should be as valuable and contributing to the relationship as the man.

They should work on themselves and improve their lives and be able to make their own money.

To build a healthy relationship, both partners should be responsible and financially independent and willing to contribute to their life together.

There’re, of course, cases in which women can’t or don’t need to be financially independent because of health issues, or taking care of little kids, etc. But in normal circumstances, why she would choose to stay dependent on her partner and think that he’s supposed to provide her with all she needs. That’s not healthy and so is the word “afford”, which objectifies women.

ryoru · Accepted Answer

Sort of offended that this question is asked... It seems more like trading companionship for money... Then again, having heard from my guy friends that their girlfriend expect an allowance from them🤦🏻‍♀️ well to each their own...
in my opinion the allowance part only makes sense if your are married and it's a given that the husband will give the wife an allowance for her own perusal.

in my opinion both party should be able to afford to pay for 2. Both of us are working adults, have bills to pay, definitely should be able to afford taking turns to pay for dining out. If he's coming by my area for our date, I'd definitely pay for the meal while he gets us desserts as he takes GRAB from/to his place to/from mine. Vice versa. If we are going to town, I'll get the meal and he covers movie and desserts. If we are going for walks, I'll get us ice creams at the end of it.
I won't think twice about spending $100 on people I care about, but I definitely will think twice about getting that $50 shoes for myself😆😆

Buttface82828 · Accepted Answer

Maybe, cos u know with my ugly face the only way I could get near a girl is if i pay her for sex or go on a date with me...
so yeah maybe,
i get 600 quid a month n only spend like 380 a month,

so then i would have 220 quid left each months to buy a few dates and fucking services with a girl... so i would see her about once a week... that could be enough to maintain a relationship i think,
i dont want to have to put any girl under the suffering of acting like my girlfriend for money tho

id feel too harsh, no one deserves to have to suffer being with a ugly fuck like me

so i will jus stay to porn

Jjpayne · Accepted Answer

So... I'd really depends on her expectations. But I will say it's all about sacrifice. Look at it this way, a rich man can give a girl a brand new pair of flip flops but that's garbage compared to what he currently has however, a guy that currently does not have a job and is making by little money, buying her flip flops is very significant. Even a man of currently no money can share his time and availablity with her. It's all that he can give and sacrifice to her. Think of how aladdin the street rat with flys coming out of his packet shared with jasmine before the genie. It's about sharing what you have

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Afford in a financial sense? Yes. Otherwise? Stay tuned!

lumos · Answer

I think the mindset that you have to (financially) be at a certain place in order to "afford" a girlfriend is kinda fucked up. Sure, going to the movies, eating out, travelling etc are fun and expensive things to do with your partner. However, none of things are actually necessary in a relationship. There are tons of things that are super cheap that you can do with someone. And I'd even argue that most of the truly important experiences in a relationship are 100% free. Not to mention that the girl should also pay for herself.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I think Savage Garden said it best. "Ooo i want you i don't know if i need you but Ooo i'm dying to find out".
This is what guys feel when they meet a woman that strikes their fancy. The truth is most women are losing propositions. You almost always put more energy in then you ever get back. They take your money, your time, and if you're not careful, your sanity. There are a few guys who manage to nail down the good eggs and will actually spend their life with them. But for most it's a rocky road.
So to answer your question. I would say it's all up to the guy. It's certainly not logical.

Saturnxox · Answer

What do you mean by afford?
Money?
A girlfriend isn't like buying a dog you have to feed, give water, buy toys or go to the vets with 😂
A girl can work just fine for her own money. It isn't the guys responsibility to financially take care of his girlfriend.

JackSmy · Answer

A REAL, TRUE LOVE, and honest lady, loves a man for who he is, and not his money, or car, house or status. Likewise, he loves her because of who she is, and her personality, and how they relate, and feel with each other.
Anyone wondering if he can 'afford' her is probably a gold-digger looking to use a man and just get what she can from him.
Tell me there is another way to interpret that?

Avicenna · Answer

On theory, anyone should be able to since there are plenty of fun low-cost or free thugs you can do. In practice, there will always be some financial expectations.

Its rare, but some women have plenty of money and just want a guy fior companionship and don't care what he can afford

Rory_Pants · Answer

Most men go straight to money with this question.. Currency is needed and will always be needed for goods and trade, that's not even the hard part.

Affording her your time, emotions and attention will bring more worth to your life then making 100k. But she has also got to afford you the same or it'll never workout the way you need.

LearnFromThePast · Answer

There are exceptions to the rule but almost everyone that limits their relationships based on wealth or status is shallow. They eventually die alone and cold, the same way they lived. I'm sorry but I see it every day, money doesn't buy love... it destroys it every time if you dont understand how to keep them separate. I feel sorry for woman that think this question is more than a reflection of what and who they are, not the man because they will never love a person more than an object until they learn how lonely they are even when they have everything they ever wanted... it cost them everything they always needed.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Not one of the newer models, no, but the local Girlfriend store is having a clearance on Claires right now, so I might pick one up. Gotta be careful, though; last time I thought they were announcing a "Claire-ance" I bought without checking, and Clarence was not happy about it...

CoctailKrill · Answer

Well, if that’s the language we’re using…

Women who’ve turned themselves into commodities might be affordable by some and not by others. Personally, I’d rather have a woman who knows she’s not a commodity and has multiple “value adds”. The question of financial affordability falls to the wayside when you support one another to build something together.

Adam1978 · Answer

I can afford one, the question is rather is she worth the price, a woman that has a high maintenance is usually not. I rather take one that is a better deal or skip it all together. I should also have a value to her and it should mean she should cover her own costs.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

Not sure in what sense you mean.

If she wants money, or at least wants it spent on her then she’s not worth having as a girlfriend, regardless of whether you have the money to afford it. So problem solved, let some other dude simp for her if that’s how she’s going to be.

purplepoppy · Answer

3 guys approach a girl, a lawyer a doctor and a burgerflipper, guess which one is most likely to get rejected. It's not a case id affording a girlfriend it's can you afford to compete with other men

Gravit1 · Answer

Depends where and how much. A place like California, No, a lower cost of living like where I am now, sure. People have different expectations, some are paying for a body, but for me it's time centered. I spend money for time, not body. People not on the marriage path, spend it for body. Some of the women I only spend time with, but if I make it more official then I'll spend more money.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

I don’t need to “afford” a girlfriend... if she is wants to be with me. She will have to pull her on weight.. I can spoil her at times if she is extraordinary as a girlfriend then yes... but I don’t need to be able to afford her. If any woman says that, I’d rather be single... cause 8 times out of 10 you won’t get a return back from your investment into a female

sawno · Answer

Right now i can't, i can't spend the energy she deserves. Which is why i am not looking for a girl until i am healed.

dmgstarfleet · Answer

HA! Finally it comes-of course I can. I just don't let them get out of hand-entitled expectations do not earn her the coveted "girlfriend" status. I WON'T afford a diva or a princess who expects her every whim satisfied. Not "can't".

venomhbk1313 · Answer

no I can't but I don't I think that being able to afford a girlfriend is that important to me right now because for one it's not about money but it's about what I do when I'm not punching a Time Clock I'm a paranormal investigator and my life is basically like the show Supernatural with Sam and Dean Winchester do not have relationships or girlfriends but they might have a little fun here and there but the job is going to get in the way

djmzes · Answer

Simple

MCheetah · Answer

If you need money to be with her, she's not really your girlfriend, she's your sugar baby. But hey,  most  men "bribe" their way into a woman's heart and/or pants. Not me, though. I ain't playing that Sucka's Game.

CashMoneyElias · Answer

If the girl you are with is purchaseable she's not your girlfriend. She's like an escort. When you pay her she's with you and if someone else comes and pays her more she is with them.

Oric5 · Answer

I dont get this question. Females think they can do anything and feel empowered to lead everything but even it comes to money you as a female feel empowered to make a guy carry your weight? Im what way should a girlfriend or wife or any other form of relationship cost anything. isn't cost relative to the value you bring to the situation? Clarify the question more.

ChocoBrownieMonster · Answer

It doesn't work does it, guys are saving for a house and girls just spend all their money and expect a guy to match it. An affordable girl is rare these days lol

errorgoodnameunfound · Answer

I don't know, gfs can be a bit pricy... internet in comparison seems like a good value and hands are often free xD

Reaperbot666 · Answer

depends on her maintenance level. but if you want love, respect, kindness, honestly and loyalty from your S. O. you need to treat them the same.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Afford a girlfriend... as in they are selling them at the corner market? Full warranty included? Any lease options for the sort timers?

_SOARER · Answer

I have been single for a little over a month and have saved a bunch of money 😂
Right now, I don't want the extra expense. The trips to pick her up, meals, time, energy, etc. I am saving a lot!

I can't afford the woman I want right now.

TomBham · Answer

Gold digger no.

girlfriend who not here for my wallet content and makes same effort in paying, hard to find.

After all that feminist BS women only want good bits, but paying equaly in relationship is not often on their list...

VanillaSalt · Answer

Lmao... affording a girlfriend like it’s a bill is what’s wrong with relationships

Unit1 · Answer

Depends. How much does she need or cost? I can pay with love and quality time and acts of services.

HappyAccident · Answer

What like take care of her dam... My life must've stunk a new low jp yea I Ik I'm able to do that now I'm already in a good position so sweeeeet😆

Nigjt · Answer

I'll say this I really don't know but I am willing to do my very best by her as long as she's not being material because their anit nothing wrong with wanting stuff as long as its stuff that u can afford.
God Bless

ChelsiChu · Answer

I'd say that at least for me, I'd not be spending my man's money, but his time.

rubbaj · Answer

I'll never afford a girl cause if I get into a relationship it's fifty fifty not this man pays for everything sexist bullshit

CaptainOverthink · Answer

I live in sweden. So, I expect everyone to be selfsustaining. They don't need me for my money.

saint_reezy · Answer

You mean emotionally or financially? Emotionally? No.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Well, I'm on disability income so I would hope she considers that and I can understand if she couldn't do it

LogicBomber · Answer

I afford MYSELF. A girl can do the same. I am not a bank account. Her time is no more special than mine.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Mentally yes, Financially i dunno that depends how much they keep up there end.

genericname85 · Answer

can you "afford" a girlfriend? wtf. a girlfriend isn't a toy or a pet. she can make her own money. i don't need to pay for shit just to be with her.

xXMidknightXx · Answer

Depends on the demands of the girlfriend. I'd like to think that not all women are high maintenance. I'm practically zero maintenance so I expect the same from my partner.

MDF_ANJ · Answer

No, woman are exspensive, both monotarily and emotionally

Jupiter1 · Answer

Yes. Even high maintenance ones but I wouldn’t want them. I can afford several at the same time but I wouldn’t wanna do that. 😇

tartaarsaus · Answer

Yes. Do I want to spend significant money on dates and that sort of stuff at least until February? No.

jamesgoldman · Answer

No... just one reason for my single life on top of how much time I need to throw into my business affairs

JSmuve · Answer

Afford? You make it sound like women are commodities that you buy. Wait, you may be on to something...

youknowbetter · Answer

We buy hookers not girlfriends.  If you expect a man to “buy” you than what does that make you?

blkgold33 · Answer

Sure but can they afford me is the real question

Paul09 · Answer

So a girlfriend is a object you can buy at a store? Is she a pet you have to take dare of? Or a whore who does it for money? Maybe it's pure lazyness, selfishness? Princess syndrome?

NewZion · Answer

Yes. But I like money a whole lot more than sex or companionship.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

If I have to be able to afford a girlfriend, I don't want one and I'd rather stay by myself.

EyesOfGod · Answer

If you have to buy a girlfriend then they ain't worth it in the first place.

Don-_-Don · Answer

When you put it that way you just make women sound like a product.

Jacked_Jones · Answer

can you afford a boyfriend with your attitute? dont forget you will start to wrinkle middle 30. a men can get a woman even with 90.

KyleC19 · Answer

Financially yes but I should not have to support her. Emotionally yes but if she is like my coworker and upset and dramatic all the time then no.

zagor · Answer

Sure. Of course I have to do a cost-benefit analysis on whether it is advantageous over a middling whore...

shortster · Answer

I am single; so I have no girlfriend fees. Though I do think I could afford those fees if I found one.

Mossberg500 · Answer

Any woman that isn't affordable isn't worth having in the first place.

StickStickity13 · Answer

Technically, but it's not a smart financial decision for me since it will hold me back.

Browneye57 · Answer

You would be nuts to date a dead-broke guy. Period.

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