Why do some men never commit and just waste a woman's time?

[Anonymous]

I know this subject may seem confronting to you but at the end of the day, I just date men and not women so I don't have the data to compare.

But can men please give me insight as to why you don't commit to a woman and make her happy if she wants marriage? And how come you waste her time?

Not an attack, just what it looks like to me that is all.

[jacobsim]

I'm only 23 so I can't comment on marriage but I can scale up from my own experiences and hopefully that will help

I find it hard to commit due to a lot of reasons. Past trauma, mental health issues, not feeling like you are up to standard etc etc I think it's more someone's personal problems then a problem with you.

Try find someone healthy and ready to be on the same level you are when it come to commitment. It sounds like you have maybe dated some guys with undiagnosed issues and that is holding them back.

[Wdh765]

Thanks man, you're about the only other man that answered her. These dudes need to man up and quit attacking clearly good women who are just fed up with the way they KNOW most men act. That's probably why they get defensive. They feel called out.

[jgokgotit]

Marriage is extremely risky to men financially. Men lose way more than women when they get married, especially in the divorce process. The only reason women need marriage is to lock in access to a man's financials. Why get married and take that risk when you can raise a family, share property and do almost everything married couples do WITHOUT getting married. The only thing you CAN'T do when married is the woman can't take half his income when the relationship ends. As for children, even without marriage she can and probably will get child support. There are still men who will take the risk, but a smart man will not.

[bamesjond0069]

Because men want relationships but not with hos. I've done this in the past to girls. They might be good enough to date but they aren't good enough to stand in front of family and friends and say this is the one forever.

Personally i get along with lots of girls but i feel sick to my stomach thinking about marrying any of them. The only girls who didn't make me feel disgusting were really good girls that hardly even exist... but they made me feel proud to be with them.

In my opinion a man has to be a complete moron to marry a woman who isn't a virgin so basically thats the bar for me anyways. there's plenty of pretty girls who would love to be with me and not demand i marry them so unless a girl has a real incentive to marry her its a no go for me.

[Wdh765]

Since no one is truly answering your question. They feel guilty and deflect. I'LL answer. Society has made men have this over inflated sense of self. Men have hardly EVER had to take responsibility for our actions. When we do, you see awful reactions from other males. We're "simps" etc but I digress. The reason they waste your time is because they're not done playing. They know you're a good woman, but they're not ready to be a good man. So they waste your time and mess around so you can't find anyone OR they want to affect your self esteem because THEIRS is low. My word of advice? Whatever the reason, GET OUT. don't allow them to waste your time. Keep your standards high. Better to be alone than unhappy. Keep your head up, ladies. A FEW of us are trying. We created the problem, so SOME of us are trying to fix it by being better men.

[Thatsamazing]

Because we don't want to.

"and make her happy if she wants marriage" ummm sis, how is it that you're under the incorrect impression that you think our job in life, as males, is merely to give you what you want, possibly at our own expense? You sound thrilling.

[Asker]

OK but why is it her job to make YOU happy by having sex with you and cook, clean up after you, practically doing wife stuff for you if you are living with her in a civil partnership?

[Thatsamazing]

Um... presumably sis, you enjoy sex too. Like what are you even talking about? As far as those other things you mentioned go, if you don't want to do those other things, then *don't freaking do them.*
The idiocy of complaining that "he only wants sex!" ↗

[Asker]

Yes, everyone enjoys sex. But my question is "why do you feel the need to string someone along" when you know that they want to settle down and get married?

[Thatsamazing]

I think you somehow missed what I wrote in my last comment. You have already agreed with me and apparently are unaware of it. That was the end of the conversation.

[0112358]

I mean I got married young so I’m saying what I see.

they don’t want to commit. They just want to have fun. They don’t see that as “wasting time” they see it as exactly what they want to be doing so it’s not really intuitive to them that they are “wasting your time”

[Browneye57]

Are YOU worthy of committing to?
What work have you done to become so?
Have you chosen well in your prospect?
What do you bring that would be considered high value to a relationship?
Do you understand that you need to be able to articulate this? Because a high-value guy will expect it.

[Daniel3035]

Gosh, I wonder why men who are now 30+ and in an advantageous position are not committing and wasting women's time could it be they're giving women a taste of their own medicine from when girls in their 20's did exactly the same? Nah doubt it course what was I thinking? Silly me.

[YHL6965]

You only waste your time if you don't learn lessons from your experiences. I'm sorry but part of dating is also recognizing these bad apples and not picking them. Your question is way to broad to give a definitive answer as there are many reasons why a man would not commit.

[slatyb]

Why do you let them waste your time? You should be discussing this on the first date. And you said be dating more than one person at a time so you have a chance to meet someone suitable within a year or so.

[Anonymous]

Women do this far more often with the friendzone and other bullshit games. I have zero sympathy if men are doing the same. In fact men should do this way more often. Women are not worth the effort anyway when a false accusation can ruin a man's life or when women can terminate the marriage and win tons of money doing so while manipulating our kids to hate us.

Women are not worth it. Waste their time and live free.

[Wdh765]

Men should do it more often. Men did this to begin with and friendzone is in your head. Men need to own up and start doing better then maybe we wouldn't have city girl, Cardi B types. This is why nothing changes. "Boys will be boys" when are we going to start acting like MEN bro?

[godfatherfan]

I have women usually are the ones that never want to commit to anything. Most guys do, esp by the time they get around your age.

[Wdh765]

Lmao that's funny. You know damn well...

[plate]

Some guys just don't want to be in a serious relationship. And as long as they tell their partner that, I don't see anything wrong with it.

[JamesBlackDragon]

I'm not into marriage don't plan on doing it ever but if I'm with you for 50 years how is that not commitment

Which do you think is better a 10 year marriage or a 50 year relationship without marriage

[Wdh765]

That's not the question and she's not trying to date you.

[Shamalien]

most dudes, most people really these days aren’t looking for anything real, they just wanna get off in the moment, enjoy the moment, they aren’t thinking about tomorrow

[winterfox10]

That usually happens when the woman just isn't all that interesting. There's nothing exciting to form an attachment to.

[discotony]

I don't know bout other guys but my commitment is unyielding

[MrTaboo]

Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?

[Asker]

A very honest answer

[StickStickity13]

We don't want to marry, there's no need for us anymore.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why some women never commit and just waste a man's time.

[Machiavellio]

To keep you on your toes. Or you might just have been a side chick

[Slim57]

Why do women always go after these men and never the ones who don't do this

[Anonymous]

For the same reason women will date a guy for free shit and never put out.

[Wdh765]

What does that even mean? I can't stand when people don't answer a question. They just deflect (because they're usually guilty of said behavior) and turn it around without making much sense or answering the question.

[Opinion Owner]

@Wdh765 hEr mEeR gErD. i dOn’T uNdErStAnD

Women use men for free shit and attention
Men use women for sex
People use people for things they want

Sorry that doesn’t make sense to you.

Women have no problem using men when it suits them and then when they burn through all the assholes and “badboys” and see the wall coming at them around 30, want a simp asshat to settle and get their overused expired ass through the ugly years.
Men don’t want expired over used trash and learn that they get the sexual power at 30 and start treating women the way women treated them for 20 years.

and yes, I am guilty of that behaviour, I have been used by shallow parasite females and now that I have the power, I will never get married, I will never commit, I will do what it takes to sleep with and use females and have no care otherwise.
If women want men to treat them better, they need to stop treating is like shit from 16-30

[COMMODOREII]

I ask that about some women. 😎

[In_Trance]

It's not a waste of time if you learn from it

[coffeewithcream]

Fear. :)

[Fuentes]

Marriage is a joke