How can I attract a bougie guy? (Page 2)
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You would have to go places where theses men are and develop hobbies they enjoy I ain’t bougie I a boogie lol so I don’t know perhaps a wine tasting at a vineyard, a ski resort, a exclusive vip party try that
Yea I agree. Develop yourself in that direction and shell met someone in that area.
Maybe thanks to feminism and that government didn't cared much to mens education in my country almost 80 per cent of women have higher education and men care less about studies so there for there is much less with university or master degrees men. So you attract what is out there i guess around you the good value men get taken really fast
Salary? Why would you be after someone who works for someone else and earns a salary? How is that classy? That's not class. That's peasantry regardless of the amount of income. At least 1/3 of your waking hours will be given to the will of someone else. That's not at all classy. I am sorry. It is nothing short of a complete self-disrespect. At the outset, if you do not respect yourself, how could others possibly do the same?
By being a classy, educated and average to above salary earning woman
Well, I’m doing all of that but only attract the wrong kinds of guys.
Find out where these types spend their free time, or try a dating app. That way, you can narrow down the pickings and hopefully meet with a few likeminded individuals.
Thanks for clarifying your definition of the word.
Meetups?
I personally wouldn't look for this in a man as a start, though for the long term, it is important so I'm not very sure.
take what you can get in a man for - beggars can not be choosers - ! thanks
I thought a bougie boy was one who picked his nose to get out those bougies.
Seriously that word is a 100% turn off that should never be used
Like this guy?
https://www.youtube.com/embed/TgKJsKIcNncHere's a thought:
Why dont you stop evaluating human beings based on how many resources you can extract from them?
I’m not trying to extract anything from them. I have my own resources. Why is it so wrong to want to date someone in the same socioeconomic status/ background as you?
Men dont evaluate women based on the amount of resources they have.
I think its pretty disgusting that women do this.
Yes, because they are mainly into beauty which is just as shallow (if not more).
Oh so now you want to tell me that what a man looks like is not part of your selection criteria?
Maybe you just think you're high-class 😂
@shivvy123 I never said I was high class, but I do carry myself with some level of class and decorum.
Everyone wants someone who is somewhat visually appealing to them.
Right, so your argument is garbage, thats what that means.
Im not sure what you aren't getting about this whole thing, maybe you should take a moment and think it through?
How is my argument garbage? People tend prefer to date someone in the same socioeconomic status as them. What is wrong about that?
Well we have established that both men and women care about looks, so one cancels the other.
Your claim that everyone selects based on socioeconomic status is just plain wrong, women select on this criteria, men do not.
I am answering the question you just dont like the answer.
So using your logic, a female millionaire should be willing to date a guy who earns $8/hr simply because he’s nice and is handsome even though their lifestyles may not be compatible? I feel like you’re ignoring the fact that lifestyle compatibility and finances do in fact play a part in relationships.
Well, yes.
If you have money, why would you need your partner to have money?
YOUR MALE PEERS ARE NOT SCREENING THEIR PARTNERS BASED ON MONEY.
Your competition does not need to have your money and if anything your career is a negative not a positive for those males.
Because they already have money and they dont care about your money, it isn't an issue for them.
I’m glad you are having realistic standards. In my experience women have higher standards for the men they dare then they do for themselves.
Well put yourself out there make yourself look presentable, make yourself like a happy, mature person who can be a good wife i really don't know sometimes looks has something to do with
Learn to talk about wealth... worked with my wealthy associates and friends
tbh u just gotta ignore the trashy ones and expand your social circle
That's because Your social circle on includes those types of men.
Just be urself nothing extra. Classy men should see the beauty in that. No reason to go the extra mile when ur beautiful at the soul 😍.
Bud she doesn't want a classy guy she wants money b/c she's a gold digger.
Ur prolly right. But u never know🤷, I try to hope for the best but plan for the worst.
Ok, so would you consider a guy thay makes $120k per year as a software developer, a "bougie"? Lol
Also this guy doesn't have a college degree, he is pretty much self-made.
Is that off-putting or is that impressive?
I honestly don't think there is anything wrong with you wanting a high-class guy, because I myself want a high-class girl.
Don't listen to people who say you are asking for too much.
There has to be your type of guy out there if you have a desire for him, or else you wouldn't have that desire.
As for how to attract that type of guy, honestly I couldn't tell you really.
I just know personally, I'm not attracted to every classy girl either, but I know when I like a girl, and when there is attraction there between us.
I can't speak for her, but I can say that is impressive. So bravo. Plenty of people are intellectual and self-educated, which is rare but even more impressive. At least for me, that would be the first layer, I'd hope our values were similarly aligned.
@chapawapa. Well that makes sense.
Thanks for sharing your perspective👍🙂
Just keep being you, and don't settle for less than you're worth. It'll take time, but that's alright.
oh so basically being a gold digger. here's a newsflash I don't work for minimum wage I used to a long time ago not anymore I mostly work for myself doing 5 or 6 side hustling jobs and I use that money to invest
try wearing skimpier clothing i guess and putting on your dating profile 'must make at least 100K a year'