I'm right there with you. Smoking drinking drugs cheating and if he generally treats me bad ( except in bed he can be rough) and also excessively religious stuff I mean like if he is crazy with it like I don't care if he believe in the invisible man above the clouds who watch me screw my boyfriend out of wedlock every night although he's powerful enough to create universe and earth and life but like if he has to teach me a little bit constantly and stuff
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Yours are pretty similar to mine. cheating, no humor, being weak and bad hygiene
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In no particular order (Warning: this is a long list):
- No smoking or excessive drinking
- No criminal record (I don't mean something minor such as a speeding ticket)
- No drug usage
- No "bad boys"
- No ex drama
- No cheaters or-
- Poly/open relationships
- Racist, judgmental, closed minded guys... actually anyone, male or female. I avoid those kinds of people
- Has an issue with me having platonic guy friends/is overly jealous
- No excessive drama. If his life is like a soap opera, that's too much for me
- He isn't working or trying to better himself (ie: he's in school or college)
- Unable to support himself; isn't independent. If he cannot support himself, what makes him think he can take care of a partner?
- No ambition or drive
- Has little to no self esteem
- Grossly obese/out of shape- before anyone judges me, keep in mind I'm very active and like to stay in shape. So ideally I would like a guy that can keep up with me and I can be healthy with. I do not have an issue with someone that is slightly overweight- trust me, all my exes and crushes were somewhat overweight, so I don't discriminate! However, if he cannot keep up with me or just wants to sit on the couch all day and eat junk food? That won't work for me.
Yes, that's... a lot of deal breakers. I realize that. But it's called being realistic and having standards. Now I know what type of guys I am not interested in and can avoid when looking for a partner.
Bisexuality.
Wanting to be in an open relationship.
Smoking.
Atheism.
Tattoos all down her arms, chest, or back.
Nasty, entitled behavior towards people in customer service.Alcoholic/drug user/smoker:
Not doing any of that is ideal, but if you want to drink or something, then fine, but control yourself and don't drink drive or act like an idiot because you can't control yourself.
Crazy:
We all get angry from time to time, but if you're violent, insanely, mentally abusive or feel the need to break or ruin some else's things, just because you're angry, then that's a massive deal breaker and I can't stand it in a person, because things matter to people and I'm not having anyone break or ruin something that's I've worked on for ages in a fit of rage.
Disrespectful/Rude:
I don't like that in a person in general, stay within line, you can respectfully disagree with someone without being a judgmental dick.
Ignorance:
Stereotyping people based on their race, religious identity, gender, sexuality, political identity, occupation, instead of understanding that we're all individuals.
Intolerance towards others:
You don't have to agree with everyone's way of live, but you need to understand that some things are private and don't force your way upon others.
Not being loyal:
Unless we have an open relationship, which could happen overtime, but we would discuss things beforehand.
No empathy:
If you don't feel bad for people and/or don't care for other's issue, then it's not going to happen, the least you can do is try to understand and care.
Not a nice person:
Not much to say about this, it pretty much applies in all relationships.
Religious:
I don't follow any, so I'd rather they don't either, so we don't have to restrict ourselves like that. If they were perfectly fine to live a lifestyle against their own book, then fine, but there's no certainty I'd be okay with that and I definitely wouldn't like to pressure them into going against something that's precious to them.
Unattractive body:
Crazy amount of tattoo, overly fat or overly shredded/muscular. I'm fine with most body types.
Wanting kids:
I don't want any, so it wouldn't really make any sense for me to be with someone who does, though I could change my mind in the future.1. Cheating
2. lying
3. Stealing someone's interests, girlfriend or wifey
4. Stupidity
5. Keeps talking about their ex's or new guys she's seeing.
6. Keeps threatening to leave me for someone else.
7. No respect towards others
8. Karen types
9. Career lovers. Mostly lives at work then being at home
10. Poly / open relationships
11. Coming out of the closet all the very sudden. Sorry.
12. Parties all the time
13. Having too many ex's
14. Too many cock counts
15. Bad Drug use history but I'm 420 friendly
Probably more but it depends on her history.1. Alcoholic
1,5. Smoking too much. One at a time don't bother me
2. Feminism and other close-minded things like LGBTQ*
3. Authority
4. trends of depression (I've seen enough)
*yes, I really think that progressivism is a close-minded reflection. You just need to see how they deal with their opponents to understand my thoughts.1.
Too much presence on social media
2.
Lack of having goals or direction
3.
Too many guy friends.(
(I get ladies dont get along, but if you werent friends wit a guy before you got with me, then that friendship needs to be terminated unless he got some discount perks from a job.
For those guy besties and day 1 who knew my girl before me. He better respect me like I'm his brother, if he callin my girlfriend sis. And even then, I would expect limited guy friends.Being religious in anyway
Having sex with another person with my approval
Smoking drinking or useing marijuana in non appropriate situations
Not being able to run farm equipment/ 18 wheelers or at a minimum extremely willing to learn
Not liking/ being able to handle large animals
Not liking/being able to handle my kidsBeing uptight about pick up lines (saying things like "make it interesting"), having incredible amounts of things she wants from a prospective partner, when its entirely impossible to land someone who fits that in an online dating site. Loooooves social justice and will wave it in your face at every given opportunity, 90% of her profile is just rants, etc.
- Male feminist
- flimsy, weak boi
- not adhering to gender roles
- atheist
- materialistic
- childfree
- liberal
- smoker, drugs, heavy alcohol use
- No passion
- No compassion
- Abuses drugs
- No sense of humor
- Impulsive
- Overly lazy
- Being unhealthy
- We have barely any similar interestsAlcoholic, Drug User, Sarcastic, Cheating
Deal Breakers:
Asexual
Smoking
Tattoos (one small and not visible doesn't count)
Piercings (ear rings doesn't count)
Disrespectful or liar/manipulative/double standards/abusive
Too dominant and feminist
Cheating (or keeping orbiters)
Bad hygiene and teeth
Ultra religious
Begging money
Cock carousel
Lack of self confidence
(girls' nights out and rejecting men for fun or sharing her butt on social media)Smoking, cheating, excessive drinking, excessive partying, no sense of humor, dry personality, too arrogant, racist or homophobic.
I don't drink, don't smoke, wouldn't cheat. I have a sense of humor, but I'm terrible with jokes.
So I wouldn't be compatible with people who do the first three, and would hope someone could handle my bad jokes.
As for other deal breakers. Don't want a completely submissive pushover of a partner, but not a overly clingy woman either. I like someone with some spunk, but easy to get along with.Of course I hate addictive person and a disloyal person... look for me deal breakers are the reasons I know I can't ever deal with...
No drugs, no alcohol, no smoking, no cheating and no arrogance
Carelessness, having unhealthy addictions, lying, cheating, being selfish, putting on too much weight.
My deal-breakers are:
- Lack of self confidence, being passive/submissive, lacking initiative;
- Unattractive face, obesity, too much makeup;
- Cheating;
- Religious freak, rigid nationalist, ethnic extremist and/or racist;
- Excessive smoking, heavy alcoholism and/or taking drugs.
Drugs, alcohol abuse, arrogance are deal breakers. Mental health issues are concerning I've been there and I don't think I'm strong enough to be in a relationship with someone who has mental health issues again.
Promiscuous past or present, or having taken part in hookup culture in any way, shape, or form (in the past or present).
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