What Are Your Deal Breakers?

Question

Mine Smoking, Cheating, no sense of humor, being a drunk.

Bratsondanielle · Accepted Answer

I'm right there with you. Smoking drinking drugs cheating and if he generally treats me bad ( except in bed he can be rough) and also excessively religious stuff I mean like if he is crazy with it like I don't care if he believe in the invisible man above the clouds who watch me screw my boyfriend out of wedlock every night although he's powerful enough to create universe and earth and life but like if he has to teach me a little bit constantly and stuff

lanadelrey25 · Accepted Answer

Yours are pretty similar to mine. cheating, no humor, being weak and bad hygiene

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

In no particular order (Warning: this is a long list):

No smoking or excessive drinking
No criminal record (I don't mean something minor such as a speeding ticket)
No drug usage
No "bad boys"
No ex drama
No cheaters or-
Poly/open relationships
Racist, judgmental, closed minded guys... actually anyone, male or female. I avoid those kinds of people
Has an issue with me having platonic guy friends/is overly jealous
No excessive drama. If his life is like a soap opera, that's too much for me
He isn't working or trying to better himself (ie: he's in school or college)
Unable to support himself; isn't independent. If he cannot support himself, what makes him think he can take care of a partner?
No ambition or drive
Has little to no self esteem
Grossly obese/out of shape- before anyone judges me, keep in mind I'm very active and like to stay in shape. So ideally I would like a guy that can keep up with me and I can be healthy with. I do not have an issue with someone that is slightly overweight- trust me, all my exes and crushes were somewhat overweight, so I don't discriminate! However, if he cannot keep up with me or just wants to sit on the couch all day and eat junk food? That won't work for me.

Yes, that's... a lot of deal breakers. I realize that. But it's called being realistic and having standards. Now I know what type of guys I am not interested in and can avoid when looking for a partner.

ManOnFire · Answer

Bisexuality. Wanting to be in an open relationship. Smoking. Atheism. Tattoos all down her arms, chest, or back. Nasty, entitled behavior towards people in customer service.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Alcoholic/drug user/smoker:

Not doing any of that is ideal, but if you want to drink or something, then fine, but control yourself and don't drink drive or act like an idiot because you can't control yourself.

Crazy:

We all get angry from time to time, but if you're violent, insanely, mentally abusive or feel the need to break or ruin some else's things, just because you're angry, then that's a massive deal breaker and I can't stand it in a person, because things matter to people and I'm not having anyone break or ruin something that's I've worked on for ages in a fit of rage.

Disrespectful/Rude:

I don't like that in a person in general, stay within line, you can respectfully disagree with someone without being a judgmental dick.

Ignorance:

Stereotyping people based on their race, religious identity, gender, sexuality, political identity, occupation, instead of understanding that we're all individuals.

Intolerance towards others:
You don't have to agree with everyone's way of live, but you need to understand that some things are private and don't force your way upon others.

Not being loyal:

Unless we have an open relationship, which could happen overtime, but we would discuss things beforehand.

No empathy:
If you don't feel bad for people and/or don't care for other's issue, then it's not going to happen, the least you can do is try to understand and care.

Not a nice person:

Not much to say about this, it pretty much applies in all relationships.

Religious:

I don't follow any, so I'd rather they don't either, so we don't have to restrict ourselves like that. If they were perfectly fine to live a lifestyle against their own book, then fine, but there's no certainty I'd be okay with that and I definitely wouldn't like to pressure them into going against something that's precious to them.

Unattractive body:

Crazy amount of tattoo, overly fat or overly shredded/muscular. I'm fine with most body types.

Wanting kids:

I don't want any, so it wouldn't really make any sense for me to be with someone who does, though I could change my mind in the future.

scott04sa22 · Answer

1. Cheating

2. lying

3. Stealing someone's interests, girlfriend or wifey

4. Stupidity

5. Keeps talking about their ex's or new guys she's seeing.

6. Keeps threatening to leave me for someone else.

7. No respect towards others

8. Karen types

9. Career lovers. Mostly lives at work then being at home

10. Poly / open relationships

11. Coming out of the closet all the very sudden. Sorry.

12. Parties all the time

13. Having too many ex's

14. Too many cock counts

15. Bad Drug use history but I'm 420 friendly

Probably more but it depends on her history.

Msgaïj · Answer

1. Alcoholic
1,5. Smoking too much. One at a time don't bother me
2. Feminism and other close-minded things like LGBTQ*
3. Authority
4. trends of depression (I've seen enough)

*yes, I really think that progressivism is a close-minded reflection. You just need to see how they deal with their opponents to understand my thoughts.

Wisdom-Strength-Love · Answer

1.
Too much presence on social media
2.
Lack of having goals or direction
3.
Too many guy friends.(

(I get ladies dont get along, but if you werent friends wit a guy before you got with me, then that friendship needs to be terminated unless he got some discount perks from a job.

For those guy besties and day 1 who knew my girl before me. He better respect me like I'm his brother, if he callin my girlfriend sis. And even then, I would expect limited guy friends.

codyccc · Answer

Being religious in anyway
Having sex with another person with my approval
Smoking drinking or useing marijuana in non appropriate situations
Not being able to run farm equipment/ 18 wheelers or at a minimum extremely willing to learn
Not liking/ being able to handle large animals
Not liking/being able to handle my kids

Jltakk · Answer

Being uptight about pick up lines (saying things like "make it interesting"), having incredible amounts of things she wants from a prospective partner, when its entirely impossible to land someone who fits that in an online dating site. Loooooves social justice and will wave it in your face at every given opportunity, 90% of her profile is just rants, etc.

modelUN242 · Answer

Male feminist flimsy, weak boi not adhering to gender roles atheist  materialistic childfree  liberal smoker, drugs, heavy alcohol use

AaronKrieger · Answer

- No passion - No compassion - Abuses drugs - No sense of humor - Impulsive - Overly lazy - Being unhealthy - We have barely any similar interests

NordicNerdLover · Answer

Deal Breakers:
Asexual
Smoking
Tattoos (one small and not visible doesn't count)
Piercings (ear rings doesn't count)
Disrespectful or liar/manipulative/double standards/abusive
Too dominant and feminist
Cheating (or keeping orbiters)
Bad hygiene and teeth
Ultra religious
Begging money
Cock carousel
Lack of self confidence
(girls' nights out and rejecting men for fun or sharing her butt on social media)

scarlett774 · Answer

Smoking, cheating, excessive drinking, excessive partying, no sense of humor, dry personality, too arrogant, racist or homophobic.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't drink, don't smoke, wouldn't cheat. I have a sense of humor, but I'm terrible with jokes.

So I wouldn't be compatible with people who do the first three, and would hope someone could handle my bad jokes.

As for other deal breakers. Don't want a completely submissive pushover of a partner, but not a overly clingy woman either. I like someone with some spunk, but easy to get along with.

Wild_princess · Answer

Of course I hate addictive person and a disloyal person... look for me deal breakers are the reasons I know I can't ever deal with...

Brian___1731 · Answer

No drugs, no alcohol, no smoking, no cheating and no arrogance

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

Carelessness, having unhealthy addictions, lying, cheating, being selfish, putting on too much weight.

Anonymous · Answer

My deal-breakers are:

Lack of self confidence, being passive/submissive, lacking initiative;
Unattractive face, obesity, too much makeup;
Cheating;
Religious freak, rigid nationalist, ethnic extremist and/or racist;
Excessive smoking, heavy alcoholism and/or taking drugs.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Alcoholic, Drug User, Sarcastic, Cheating

padreflint · Answer

Drugs, alcohol abuse, arrogance are deal breakers. Mental health issues are concerning I've been there and I don't think I'm strong enough to be in a relationship with someone who has mental health issues again.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Promiscuous past or present, or having taken part in hookup culture in any way, shape, or form (in the past or present).

JackSmy · Answer

Not trustworthy Smoking Addicted to drugs Alcoholic Irresponsible, like taking unnecessary risks with her life Judgmental Dumbocrat Unstable-Mental issues Not loving dogs! :)

apple24 · Answer

Smoking, drinking every day or every week, drug user, not from a happy family, doesn't love his family... etc because that a sign of how he thinks relationship might be. UNLESS he goes to therapy every week and same cuz of my dad

yamajazaki · Answer

Cheating Clingy Liar Gambling Drugs Abusive Alcoholic Curses too much

chapawapa · Answer

Smoking, drinking , high standards, self absorbed, broke and no career

TeddyGotT · Answer

Doing any kind of illegal drugs, doesn't like kids, too dramatic, hates video games, no sense of humor, domestically challenged

winterfox10 · Answer

Indecision and lying. Do not lie to me. I always know, even if I don't say anything about it.

Emanon_18 · Answer

Smoking, Cheating, no sense of humor, being a drunk

Thecrazylucaone · Answer

Alcoholics  Liars Cheaters wanting sex and just sex  Being Unemployed  Being a Racist And the list goes on...

admles · Answer

Smoking Cheating Snooping / demanding passwords Religious Double standards Drug use Mind games

beefy40 · Answer

Tattoos, feminism, being overweight, being part of Antifa.

KingJared24 · Answer

Smoking and drinking 24/7 like you could smoke and drink but don’t do it every second, cheating, texting and you reply back hours later... if I wanted to wait I’d just write a letter, if a girl talks about seeing me but loves to make excuses

SjE78 · Answer

dishonesty, hatefulness, cheating, judgmental natures/closed minded

Ayo_pixieee · Answer

Talking with food in their mouth.. no sense of humor.. being overbearing... cheating.. dishonesty

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Slut Fat Not sweet or caring Liberal/feminist etc Too focused on career or education Materialistic

Marco10 · Answer

Someone who disrespects my family. It wouldn’t just be a deal breaker, I’ll rip their heart out.

hatim_tai · Answer

smoking, including weed! may be getting drunk! being able to swear

dandiecandie · Answer

Dishonesty, and incompatible personality.

Anonymous · Answer

Drugs Smoking Cheating Extremist political activism Bisexuality

Tiffyk · Answer

A pulse. I like em dead

reptocarl2 · Answer

Cheating, Drugs, lying

Myk13 · Answer

Jealousy, lack of trust and self insecurities

Anonymous · Answer

Having long finger/toe nails

namelessking1 · Answer

Comon girl drunk is part of funn

Iron_Man · Answer

Smoking always on your cell and cheating

mrgspoter · Answer

Don't know the normal stuff I suppose

CMajor7 · Answer

Can't handle alcohol and drugs. Racists

chriscdi · Answer

unloyalty

JamesBlackDragon · Answer

Cheating being addicted to any substance

allenwants2 · Answer

I'll second that emotion

Jack-mayhoff · Answer

Smoking.  high maintenance

Anonymous · Answer

Boyfriend smokes 👿

Gedaria · Answer

Smoking, drugs,

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