Is my boyfriend racist?

[Anonymous]

I'm from Cyprus (Turkish) and my boyfriend is from Italy.
My boyfriend has a white skin with dark brown hair and I have a light olive skin.
Recently, I have seen my boyfriend putting likes for posts like ( Italians don't look like Turkish, and Italians look more like North Europeans). He seems like to want to be far from my ethnicity or I felt like he got offended for being mistaken as turkish. I really cannot understand and I don't know how can I open this issue with him because it's just a like not something he posts. Does that mean he is racist toward my ethnicity and I shouldn't have dated him from the first place? Am i being sensitive?
He also talks about how bad ottomans were ! and how Turkish people invaded greece!
I'm really confused , and I don't understand what's going on in his mind. He says he loves me and he wants to marry me but?

Yes, your boyfriend is racist. Break up with him

No, it doesn't mean he is racist.

Neutral. He is racist but it shouldn't lead to break up

[bluetoblack99]

There is no such thing as being an absolute racist vs not being racist. Our brains automatically categorize people and situations whether we like it or not. We are all prejudice about something.

What matters more is how you deal with a prejudice thought and ask yourself if you are being judgmental. If you just indulge and act on your prejudice thought then you are a “racist”. If you take a step back and think it through you are not.

I’m so sick of leftist hypocrites trying to oversimplify everything.

[JimboGB]

Is this truly what concerns you? I have noticed most Turkish people have an identity crisis of one kind or another. I feel you are pushing your insecurities onto your partner.

To be frank with you, so what? He liked a factual statement and here you're concerned about racism. This generation is so pathetic.

[uselessname]

What kind of identity crisis you talk about? Because usually foreigners are not even educated enough to know that Turks are not Arabs nor native to middle east. It’s not a identity crisis or a factual statement. It’s mostly your ignorance cause problems

[msss98]

I mean italians don't look turkish, unless he makes racist coments i don't see an issue with it

[Anonymous]

I accidentally clicked B while scrolling. But I'm not sure what my opinion is on the topic.

[wankiam]

italy does have many far right factions and a populist government so maybe its normal to him or maybe he is indeed racist but you would have to ask him i think

[ThanasisGR]

its obvious with what turkey is doing nowdays , paying jihadists to fight in armenia , invading countries , threating EU and offensive rhetorics, all these things has made him to think like that

[Tea-Spaghetti]

He sounds a little bit I know Italy can be like that sometimes but I like Italian culture so I don't know hope it gets clearer.

[RingOfFire]

You are being too sensitive. It doesn't matter how he feels about other people. All that matters is how he feels about YOU.

[Anonymous]

Maybe some one wants him to be against your ethnicity and he/she is leading his thoughts towards being racist. He might ask you to change your ethnicity if you date him for a long time and develop habits of being with him. I will suggest you to talk to him freely and normally. If he is really thinking negetive about your ethnicity, he will leave you. Again if you talk to him and if he loves you, he will change his thoughts for you.
(Note- sorry for bad English)

[MarryMeLoba]

Italians look like mulatos. Even North Africans have a lighter skin

[Anonymous]

No, it's not racist to know history or anything. If he actually starts insulting other races, then worry. Otherwise, no.

[bklynbadboy1]

I don't know what it is but I didn't like what he did what would he be offended some thought he was Turkish

[marie2302]

Bence evet