Is my boyfriend a racist?

[Anonymous]

I think my boyfriend is a racist but I'm not sure. I know he laughs when stereotypes are true and I do too, they can be funny. He's educated and like 90% of his friends are white, which doesn't say much I guess since that was what he grew up with mostly. The other day he noticed my lotion was of a vanilla scent, but I told him no it was cocoa butter. He asked me why I wore that and I said because I like the way it feels better than the others. Then he said that I smell like an old black lady and it's giving him a headache so he asked me to stop wearing it. Also, whenever there are black people being loud he shakes his head and says black people. I get annoyed too, not because they're black but because they are being loud. What do you guys think?

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Update: He just admitted he was a racist because he strongly believes in stereotypes and he didn't care. He said white people are always number 1. What's ironic is that I am not white and I thought it was funny.

[scanson]

Everyone's a bit racist. It's not worth the hype. I live in a state where the demographic is completely reversed. White kids are a minority and they are constantly made fun of by everyone--teenagers and adults alike. I wouldn't say that this judgmental nature is completely wrought by immaturity or age, it's just the kind of society that we live in. People have been stereotyping and demeaning others because of their race dating back to before America existed. The lotion, this next part may be sexist on my part but it is based on my observations of the vast majority of women at my high school, is a very female sort of thing. If it aids dry skin, great. Does the smell seriously matter? To some, maybe, but it shouldn't be a big deal. Yes, his comments were incorrect and a bit insensitive. Next time, he should have a better quip prepared than its poor predecessor. Don't worry about it; it's nothing serious.

[whattothink]

Yeah sounds kinda racist to me. Though I do get the smell thing. I am the least racist person you will meet (and I love cocoa butter lotion), but it seems that African Americans like strong loud perfumes. This one chick in my class at college used to stink up the ENTIRE room and I have a lot of people the same nationality that dine at my restaurant and it seems to be the same way. Not stereotyping necessarily I think it's their personality:) However it might smell better without bathing in it lol.

[XNicholex3]

I find that really rude. Yeah I am not going to say he is, but he is definitely acting like one.

Plus, he is crazy the smell of cocoa butter is amazing.

[Anonymous]

Just judgemental. Everyone on the planet is to some degree. If I picked at everything a person did I am sure I can find some possible racist undertones to anything. We all know what racism is there is no doubts about it. I think we have questioned racism, sexism, and any form of discrimination there is so much that we can't even go about are day without having to question something.

Every person I have known well at one point or another has either made a generalization or race joke at one time or another and I have a lot of friends of every race and I can say they all have done this in my presence. People are gonna say stuff now and then just read through the lines do they really hate this race or is it just a bunch of crap or some off hand joke.

[WoIIie]

He's just openly insensitive towards people with different skin colors. Yeah, he might be racist at the core. You can take it or leave it.

I'd be uncomfortable being around someone who thought that way. It's not very pleasant and I don't want to be associated with his/her ignorant comments.

[InstantBeta]

Probably. But I think everyone stereotypes people. Sometimes they don't even know it. If I were you id just ignore it unless he started lynching people or starts finding places where they sell kkk outfits

[Asker]

Yes I do stereotype too and I admit it but there is a difference. I don't judge people negatively for the stereotypes I just laugh because people that fit them are aware of their stereotype so they have fun with it. It bothers me because I have a lot of friends that are of different cultures and ethnicities and I myself am not white. He's said comments about my culture and I laugh because there is truth but there are times where I draw the line and it bothers me.

[Camilus]

I think he is an average dude.

Also, I can't stand the stink of cocoa butter either, but that's probably because it reminds me of a time I got a severe sunburn.

[Alpha93]

I think he's a regular guy and you are being too sensitive

[beer3]

He has his own opinion on cocoa butter nothing wrong that he likes it

[temptationfalls]

I would not tolerate those comments myself.

[Anonymous]

yes he's racist & ignorant smh