Why do *some* men get offended when a woman offers to pay? (Page 2)
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They are afflicted with SDE
I'll only refuse a grand gesture I couldn't repay such as my ex offering to buy me a £5,000 watch
sde? I would have refused it too, It's waay too expensive and I don't even wear watches
Small dick energy... I had only just bought my TAG Heuer at the time, now given it is wearing out I'd probably accept the gift
I think they get offended because they want to be the dominant one that’s taking care of you.
I think so too, it only gets me mad tho
Yes I would, because it shows to me, that´s she´s polite and not only for a free meal or drink. I think partners should be able to pay. For some guys it´s part of their upbringing that the men are paying the bills.
Probs because they assume she's a feminazi and gets all butt hurt. Also, maybe it's dueto them thinking they can't say she owes him something
I've actually had women, usually 35 + years or older freak out because I wanted to split it or with younger women get angry at me for wanting to pay. It's probably a generational element as well.
@Inbox It is a generational thing indeed because the definitions of "masculine" and "feminine" keep changing along with the gender expectations. In most cases it's "inherited" from an elder relative or role model until we discover on our own that certain traditions don't make much sense
I quite like it. It makes a nice change and shows she is not just wanting a free lunch.
Also who does not like being treated by someone they like?
Opposite here if we’re out on a first date and she don’t offer at least half there won’t be a second. True I’ll tell her to put her wallet away but if you don’t offer then fuck that
I don't get offended. Its just a bill. No need to make a fuss over it. Atmost i'll be like no its fine or offer a split. If she's really insisting on paying, i'll let her since why waste the energy on fighting? Its not about affordability at all.
It's funny. Men say that women need to lower their standards and split, and once she does men don't like it?
Men want to feel needed and manly in a relationship. All that talk is bullshit.
Whenever I asked guys out or gave them money like a strong black women, they treated me like shit and normally left me for another girl.
So...
Too bad. So sad. Eventually you'll find a man of his own words.
They just dont want to bother you... they just want to show you that they are capable and would love to pay...
The second reason is THE SOCIETY..
They will think that what others and friends will think if the girl pays..
THANK YOU 👉👈😊
Some men might feel that it emasculates them to not have to pay for anything, or feel challenged in their role as provider. That's just my guessing though.
I do not mind if a woman offers to pay, but I would not let her on the first date. The first date is the man's best chance to show he can provide. However, it does not offend me if she asks and any date after the first one it can go however.
Why do you have to show that you can provide? I keep reading this. Why not show her that you're a strong independent man and that you respect her by letting her do whatever she wants with her money like say paying for her own coffee
Some men are not confident in their masculinity, so they believe if a woman pays, they seem less like a man and it hurts them deeply. I offer to pay, but if she wants to split or insists on paying, I let it happen.
If they really want to. Usually I pay with little to no fuss from my girl or we do a swap of I pay you pay.
You might be confusing my shocked expression with taking offence.
Haha no, I swear men used to take my money off the table on dates and my boyfriend didn't want me to take him on vacation (and I'm not a spender)
Spoil me suger momma! 😝
we dont get offende we just feel bad that the other person is spliting ther money with you and they want u to keep it
But why? I feel bad because I'm not giving anything in return (on a first date)
In a relationship it's about giving and taking, I was truly hurt because my boyfriend kept on declining and he does so much for me already
my dad does the same thing we just think its wrong we feel like we are the ones who should give
I have notice this too. Most young modern men under 30 have absolutely no problem with letting the woman pay for her own food on a date. It is usually the guys over 30 who have a huge problem with it.
Good observation 😊
I think it comes down to the historic past dating as far back as earlyman Nature through life it's self shows the male of the ( in the majority of species )
Cont couple the macho side and the provider So going back to the human race the instinct of the male feels the bill on a night out cones down to the provider the male
It's not instinct, our early male ancestors were hunters and the female were gatherers. Meaning they both provided. The men's role as a sole provider is a cultural thing, it came along with the agricultural improvements 🤔
I feel that... Now, it's not really offensive for me, instead, it's more of a "No, no! Keep your Money, Babe! I'm sure there are things you've been saving up for!"
It would depend deeply on the situation. One might be offended if there was talk of how he can't support himself and he wants to, but a lady twists the knife by insisting to pay. Others feel obligated due to upbringing or respect to the lady and sometimes it's just ego
Because to many women it's a shit test. Will you argue or will you not be traditional and insist on paying. I personally dont give a shit and will let you pay but that has lead to not having a second date.
The short answer is that *some* women get offended if you accept going dutch.