What type of women do men marry?

[Anonymous]

I often wonder what kind of women do men want in a lifetime mate. What qualities needed to qualify a women? Because I’m single and I’m dating in search of a relationship that would eventually grow into marriage. I’ve been in a long relationship that went nowhere, I don’t want to make the same mistake. My goal is love, real love.

[Reaperbot666]

• real love often means either person puts their partners needs and desires before their own in all aspects of a relationship.
• ideally a good relationship requires 4 key pillars to last the test of time.
• physical attraction, mental attraction, emotional attraction and sexual attraction.
• which all need to remain in sync with each other.
• if anyone of them fall out of alignment. the rest of the relationship could follow. if you don't address it together and course correct the matter.
• I tend to go for women who dresses in a more modest style. so little or no skin showing from the more private area. enjoy when they wear a dress or blouse/skirt combo with some hosiery. however don't might pants/jeans either if she is more comfortable in them.
• because a woman can still look sexy in a figure flattering outfit. without having to revel to everyone around her what happens to be underneath her clothes.
• that privilege should be reserved solely for her lover to see and enjoy.
• every female has the natural ability to be truly beautiful. if she learns how to embrace and harness her natural beauty and natural feminine side.
• it's not just only about wearing trendy makeup, trendy jewelry or trendy clothing. more about finding a style she likes and highlights her own natural beauty.
• while having self love, being secure with how she looks and enjoying how she looks in a mirror. all of which can help her to find someone who also enjoys how she looks.
• however does help if she tries to maintain herself best she can. by eating heathier options and working out when able.
• for long term relationships personality, attitude and character matter the most. no point in dating a attractive person. if they act like a stuck up prude more often.
• having traits like caring, supportive, honest, loyal, encouraging, loving, smart, sweet, respectful, kind, trustworthily, funny, tend to help
• I like to wait for sexual encounters until in a exclusive relationship with a women. because I don't engage in modern hookup culture. tend to prefer dating women with a lower sexual partner history. because once they hit double digits many seem to be a lost cause for a long term relationship.

[Anonymous]

I'll tell you the way I see it and you can take it for what it's worth. I believe the things that are attractive to heterosexual women are the same traits that make a man a good protector, provider and father. That's why women are attracted to intelligence and confidence, and they find taller men more attractive, because women instinctively know that a bigger, stronger, smarter man is more capable of protecting and providing for her and her children. Those physical traits are not as important today as they were in the past, but women are still attracted to them because it's coded in their DNA.

Likewise, men are attracted to the same traits in women that have always made them good mothers. Physically, that means young, healthy and attractive. And it means kind, nurturing and loving. It also means being having priorities that are consistent with being a good mother. That's why men are less attracted to highly educated and career focused women we know instinctively that those women are less likely to make good mothers and wives. I know that's a politically incorrect thing to say but it's a fact.

That's kind of an indirect answer to your question. In summary, I think most men want to marry a woman who who will make a good mother, even if they don't think of it in those terms. It's in our DNA.

[Opinion Owner]

By the way, if you're looking for accurate answers to your question I suggest ignoring most of what @MzAsh writes. She has been parroting the same advice on GAG for years to promote her business and convince women to pay her money to "coach" them to become more "strong and independent" women and find men who are doormats like her husband. What she is really teaching women is how to make themselves less valuable and attractive to the type of men most women are seeking.

[MzAsh]

Which items in my list are bad?

[Opinion Owner]

@MzAsh Your core list is always self worth, high standards and firm boundaries, and anyone who understand what quality men actually want in a woman knows those are hardly high on their list of qualities. To varying degrees you typically also include some other blatantly obvious attributes to soften your message but the core of what you preach is always about controlling men and putting them in their place, and obviously that is counter to what most quality men are looking for in a woman. And to be clear, the men I'm talking about here are the high value men most women are looking for, not the ones like your husband who have few options so they settle for a less than ideal woman.

The women you target with this message are the ones who are struggling in dating and having trouble attracting good men. The advice you give them only makes them less desirable to men, so I feel compelled to say something about it. You are taking money from these women and in exchange giving them bad advice.

The image you paint online of yourself and what you believe women "should be" is about as unfeminine, unattractive and off putting to good men as any I can imagine. I am speaking from the perspective of the many hundreds of posts you've made here on GAG over the years. People who are not familiar with you and see your individual posts may not have that context so I thought I would help them out.

[MzAsh]

How is any of the items on my list here in the way of “controlling men?” In fact, I don’t believe women should control men at all. They should instead get a man that aligns with what they want in a partner. That way, they don’t have to control them.

Everyone should have high standards and firm boundaries. Only low quality individuals are going to have a problem with that.

Most of the advice i give online is free. No one is forced to take my advice or listen to me if they don’t want to.

[MzAsh]

Men want to marry a woman who has:
- Self worth
- High standards
- Firm boundaries
- Level headed
- Reasonable
- Maturity
- Basic life skills
- A true interest in him
- An interesting personality
- Independence
- Good communication and being direct
- Loyalty
- The ability to maintain a fit body

[Anonymous]

Loyalty ranks huge. In a long marriage sexual desire waxes and wanes for both parties, and not always at the same time for both. The one thing that infuriates men is a inconstant woman! My ex wife also let me know in so many ways that her love was conditional while I was supposed to be 100% behind her in any crisis. I was and pulled her shit out of the fire many times. Anytime I had trouble (job, etc.) I was fighting a backfire at home. I cared for her when she was sick-when I got ill she actually became mean to me (she explained it later that I was supposed to be strong and protective and being ill made me appear "weak" - and that she knew it was absurd but "couldn't help it". When our kid went to college I went to court. Be loyal and make him feel appreciated is the best advice I could give.

[Angelo75]

Tough one.
More mature men will tend to differ in tastes.
It's more like... "what kinda woman are you?"
If you're dominant, try to find a more easy-going guy.
If you're more of a follower, try to find a guy who is more self assured.

The extremely hard part is to find a man that realizes that relationship is about how much a person can "give". Not how much a person can "get".

[TheFlak38]

It doesn't matter. Men have no choice or say when it comes to marriage. Society is gynocentric and it's women who have all the options today. A woman will only marry a man who she can control. That man will only accept the offer because he's a beta loser without options.

[BleuNiles]

There's no specific type of women because there is no specific type of men or rather people that marry. Their motives for considering marriage is just as diverse as
the understanding of what a marriage is
supposed to be and the expectations they
might have.

[sumant11]

I think psychologically we search the love and care provided by our moms in our partner.
The perfect relationship of our parents is the best example out there which we see daily and observe
And that's the girl i would like to marry to

[Caunsos]

The kind they like. But that pretty vague so i will give my preference.

Gamer that smart can argue with but keep talking creative and make laugh and most importantly wants children.

[Avicenna]

A woman who respects him and he’s want to start a family with. A woman that has her life together.

[havingfun101]

Young and fertile. (-30)

[DCSTVT]

If I’m in a long lasting relationship and me and her are truly in love then yeah I’d marry her. You just gotta find the one which is very arbitrary but it’s all I can think of.

[temp292]

around 24 to 32, understanding, considerate, responsible woman

[townhouse]

Any type that will accept me for me and love me till I die lol

[OddBeMe]

i dont think there's a simple "marrying type". people just try other people on like clothes. if it fits go for it.

[KrakenAttackin]

If you are a 40 year old female just asking this question, you need more help than GAG.

[Anonymous]

Feminine, supportive, kind hearted, genuine, nurturing, sexually compatible, honest, family focused, knows how to cook (very hard to find these days).

[Anonymous]

• Beautiful and fertile women who can carry his baby and is a nice person.

• Who is not abusive and emasculating and also not a liberal feminazi.

• Who respect every human of both the genders.

[mrgspoter]

Ones with mind and hart and a body and stuff it's soo coool

[Gripper1970]

Women that you can share things with and have things in common.

[Anonymous]

Dominant.