Is it demanding to ask for Saturday date nights?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating a guy exclusively for 2 months now. He is working a 9am to 6pm job. For our dates, I like to suggest Saturday late afternoon to nights, because there is very short period of time we can spend together if its Sunday- Thursday nights and he might be tired after work on Friday nights. Therefore, I like to use Saturday evenings as date nights. However, his friends also like to make plans on Saturday evenings and sometimes make the plans even earlier than me (on Tuesday) for that Saturday. Is it demanding of me to require Saturday date nights?

[Anonymous]

If you demand it, yes. If you expect him to choose you every Saturday over his friends, yes. But I think you can find something specific you want to do on a Saturday night a couple weeks from now and ask him if he wants to go.

Also, it might be too early in the relationship for him to invite you to meet his friends. Maybe down the road, he will include you in his weekend plans with his friends, but you'll have to let that one play out. My opinion on all things men is this... watch what they do voluntarily without being asked or nagged or scolded. When a guy CHOOSES to spend his Saturday nights with you or CHOOSES to introduce you to his friend group, that means so much more than him agreeing to it because he felt like he had to.

[Asker]

I did not demand, but I said "I prefer Saturdays".

[Opinion Owner]

Ok, but that makes it sound like you want all of his Saturdays. Maybe that's what you meant, maybe it isn't, but that's kind of the way it comes across. How did he respond to that?

[Asker]

Last week and the previous week we went out on Saturdays. This week its only Wednesday and he already has plans for this Saturday. Also I'm probably going to sleep with him this week because it has been a few weeks since we had sex. So its like, I'm not sure if I'm being petty that he is not cancelling his plans on Saturday since he is literally going to get sex.

[Opinion Owner]

Then yes, it does sound petty to me. He wants to see his friends. That shouldn't be a big deal. And sex isn't supposed to be transactional like that, like "if you hang out with me on Saturday, I'll have sex with you." I know you probably didn't say that, but even that thought process isn't good. If you want to have sex with him, have sex with him. If you don't want to, then don't. If he hung out with you the past two Saturdays, I think asking for this Saturday too when he already has plans comes off very demanding.

[MannMitAntworten]

2 months and you are going to ask him to choose you or his friends, eh? You might win in the beginning but that might not last. If you want this to last you might want to find some forms of compromise. You don’t want to make enemies of the friends or foster any resentment in him towards you.

[scholastic_vibez]

I wish I had your schedule problem; it’s difficult in my retail job to not have to work late Saturday’s without going through a lot of red tape to get the time off, and it’s been hell on my relationship for 3 years.

[Iron_Man]

Saturday nights are a great night to go out and do things. Now your boyfriend will have to decide who gets the prime time spot his friends or you

[Asker]

That is why I suggested Saturday night, because that's when fun things happen in our city.

[Iron_Man]

In Miami Florida to that’s my city

[michael1469]

Yes, incredibly to demanding. Thats not dating thats a prison term.

[Lolz1005]

Ever heard of group dating?

[Asker]

He has not introduced me to his friends yet and I don't want to force him to

[Lolz1005]

Well maybe just ask who he usually interacts with. It's not forcing it, but it's bringing it up.