If you're in a relationship, do you still try to have frequent (once a week/month) "Date Nights"?

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NyceGuyFinishingLast · Accepted Answer

Date Nights are especially important for people in relationships. It keeps things from getting stale. Have a date night on different nights. Always try to find me things to do while keeping both of your favorites. A relationship without Date Nights is more or less just hanging out with with someone you know. Going out on a date keeps things fresh and away from the house. Your heart and mind have to be into it, like you have to feel free and you gotta act like you are still trying to win the other person over. If you just go out because it is Date Night then it becomes more of a scheduled chore. It should be the one night where you can go wherever, talk about whatever, and just do whatever.

ArrowheadSW · Accepted Answer

I haven't been in a relationship for awhile, but when I was, there were enough evenings when we did things together so we didn't have to "set time aside" for it. However, married couples with children are more apt to schedule date nights just to make sure they schedule in their time together.

Off topic but I know a married couple who were having problems so they do this. I ran into them in a restaurant recently and the husband looked bored to tears. I hope it was just a fluke because from the look on him he didn't seem into it at all. I felt sad.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

If you're with the right person, isn't anytime you're with a partner like a date night?

I mean I'll be honest, going out on dates is okay. But if I'm with someone, I'm fine with us just spending time eating breakfast, lunch, or dinner together. And cuddling together while watching tv or playing a game together... you know, simple things most people do on a daily basis, but don't really think about? Yeah...

loves2learn · Accepted Answer

Yup. Before covid the kids alternated sleeping over at my parents and his parents so we could have date night and a whole night to ourselves every month. We started that when my youngest was around 2 years old. He would sleep through the night for grandparents but not for me. 😒

coachTanthony · Answer

Date night is a great tool to use if you been in a relationship for some time. Couples tend to lose focus on what got you there which is the courting process. Therapists I know use this tool and it works great.

Good question.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am in a relationship and I try to take her out to dinner, to meet friends for a drink, we go to the beach. Relationships are like gardens; they need constant attention if you want them to be fruitful.

MasseurDeMojo · Answer

If you are in a real relationship, you need to have a date night as often as you both can meet up. The key is to have it in such a way, that it is special, and keeps the love flames always going!

Your date nights are the times that are considered super special as it is alone time for you both, and you can talk about anything and everything, freely! This is where your friendship grows, and he become even closer.

Keep this up at all stages in your relationship, and you will never want to part!!!

Leavesbound · Answer

Romance is not a one and done thing. You don't just date until you move in together or until you are married. All couples need to take time and spend romantic time together whether you want to call it a date or just some romantic time together alone. It can be a "date" or a vacation or just hiding the car in the garage and shutting off the lights and phones and just being together without the world interfering. But having periodic "date nights" is a very good way to accomplish this.

JosephPit · Answer

I got to learn the hard way that it's very important to keep doing this. It's important to keep doing fun stuff together and get away from the rest of the world a bit. It's good to have fun times together and devide your attention to each other on date night. It also takes you out of your routine to keep things excited

JackSmy · Answer

For the single, non-moms, it is a lot easier, and yeah, maybe at least 3-4 nights, together, even just cooking together, at her place, or mine.
For the ones with kids, it's more complicated, especially when she is reluctant to let me meet her kids, in case it doesn't work. Date nights are rare, and usually when the "ex" has the kids, but a lot of guys are losers and deadbeat pricks, when divorced, and have kids, especially ones that are too young to leave alone!
A few times, some "accidental dates" when the deadbeat dad failed, again!! Not her first choice, but meeting the kids, and saying I work with their mom, and we have some work to do, but I bring pizza, or whatever the kids love, at the last minute!!

TurboKid · Answer

We did routinely every weekend before COVID although my wife and I are both quite extroverted (she's technically an introvert but an unusually sociable one) and enjoy hanging out with friends. So what we typically did is that we'd invite some friends to join us for dinner out like on a Friday night (sometimes like a "double date" with another husband and wife), then after dinner, we'd split up and my wife and I would spend the remaining time privately together, like at a bar, or karaoke box (just the two of us), or watching a show, or something like that.

poneglyphs · Answer

Well, hopefully right? When I do get my first relationship I will ask for frequent dates, cuddles, kisses, sex and naps. For me I want to go on dates and have fun with someone else :^)
Could be just an idealization of ny girlfriend but I could be wrong? Who, knows right until I date?

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

At this point in our marriage with two young kids a date night consists of the kids actually going to bed on time without fighting and us being able to sleep in the next morning. It isn't sexy, but by God is it the best feeling.

Citizenkirk · Answer

With the person your still in a relationship with? I'd hope so, if not more frequent than that. If I'm living under the same roof, sleeping in the same bed, sharing the same dinner table and shower space with her, than something fun and intimate every evening and morning is the expected norm for us.
I'd hope it would be for you and your special someone, too.🤗

electromagnetic · Answer

We used to have date day every Friday since we both didn’t work Fridays. Once covid hit, it became nearly impossible to get Friday’s off. No we have date night whenever we can

slatyb · Answer

We've been together 13 years, married 5. We go out once or twice a week. We were out Thursday (jazz piano bar) and will be out on Sunday (classic rock cover band).

JosyJosy · Answer

I never thought of it as date night or anything like that once I got in a relationship, I just see it as quality time with the boyfriend. Apart from trips away for the weekend, we don't plan things, it just happens :)

HawkPerception · Answer

Once a week is a bit much. That usually only happens in that honeymoon phase in the beginning. Once a month at least keeps the fire going and gives you enough of a break in between to be grateful and cherish each experience.

katiesmuff · Answer

After 8 years of marriage we still make sure we have at least 2 date nights each month and have never (not once) gone to bed without a good night kiss.

exitseven · Answer

We did this for many years. Over time they got less frequent and we really do not do it anymore. I cannot even remember the last time we went out on a real date.

Mark987 · Answer

Ya for sure it is very important to keep things interesting. It is easy for things to get boring.. even sometimes have a getaway.. or have a date night and a hotel room after to have something to look forward too

Wiredone · Answer

Someone else asked a very similar question. Are you going senile like me and copying other people's questions again? Only kidding.
We used to have date night once a week. Since I started my business it was cut down to once a month.
We usually go out to dinner then go to the beach and just cuddling in the sand or in my truck having a nice conversation.

HairyPoppins · Answer

Don't ever stop dating your wife and don't ever stop flirting with your husband. If I am in a relationship we are having fun as much as we can. I prefer weekend getaways on my boat or somewhere in the Catskills.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Sure miss brains muffins, the housewife needs some fun time with her king too 😁

I won't take her to a restaurant or somewhere where they don't make muffins ☻

I have to feel like i'm at home, the muffins arround me 😂😂

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