Yes, it can be. Promiscuity is a definite deal-breaker for me, as is violence or a criminal record. People who have had a history of substance abuse or of certain types of mental health issues should not be dating at all, if they have not first gotten and benefited from needed professional help.
What about substances less harmful alcohol and weed where addiction nearly impossible like shrooms and lsd. As long she has less bodys then me, doesn't drink, is down to trip, and is kind i like her
@israelisevil "substance abuse", for me, includes a history of drunkenness and of the smoking of weed or tobacco. All these are deal-breakers for me. I would date only girls that do none of these things.
Yah I’m saying shrooms and psychedelics that don’t build patters alcohol is hard drug weed and tobacco are still addictive despite not being hard shrooms you can’t even do twice in week or second tome nothing happens
Wow, so many judgmental people on this site.. As if you're perfect and haven't done any mistakes They key word is "past" You’re with them now. In the present. Sorry to be this blunt, but it's absurd, that you would have a girlfriend/boyfriend and be hurt by what happened before you. What happened before you has nothing to do with you or the present. What matters more are his/her current actions and communicating between you
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nope, would be a hypocrite if i did. i'm a litteral degen myself. like i have a high body count for my age, love drugs, love alcohol, am a drop out, do reckless shit, went to juvie before, exc.. so lol, i really don't care. i actually prefer if you're like that too
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A few months ago the younger brother of a guy who I had interest in (mutual, ill-timing made it not happen) tried his luck. Wasn't interested.
The deal breaker was he had a reputation of treating women like shit. Fast forward to nowadays he is in a relationship with a meek/weak woman. One he spoke of very poorly when starting out. She was brunette when I last saw her. She is now a gaudy bleached/dyed blonde cause he with his affixation on blondes would have made her do it.
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It heavily depends on how much of that past they're still dragging along. Since it's hard to figure out quickly just how it affected the person, some people might not want to invest the time searching for some landmine and just leave.
The past itself doesn't matter, it's the fear it what it made you. (obviously not promiscuity, unless it borders on some 20 people orgy on video, but that's a whole other thing )
It depends on what it was and what the chances are they they would be able to refrain from doing it today. Real change is tough and it doesn't always last. But, I don't automatically reject someone for making mistakes. We all make mistakes
Past doesn't make who you are today. There Are wonderful judges N lawyers who tell me. Once when they were in college they were Awful people. Smoking dope, getting arrested, and even being in jail. They turn their lives around and are a model citizens today who mentor kids and youth in gangs. Could we just sayi forget now. You are still horrible being in your past so shall you be judged. No. I think people CAN CHANGE IF THEY ARE WILLING AND WANT TOO.
I wouldn’t want a woman who has cheated because it’s been done to me and it sucks. Also wouldn’t want any drug users or alcoholics. It’s usually too much unnecessary drama. The number of partners doesn’t bother me at all. I don’t care if it 1 or 100 as long as you didn’t cheat on any of them.
Obviously yes but it would naturally depend on what it is. If someone is a known adulterer I likely won't be in for it. Likewise if someone is or was a violent criminal I am not likely to take that chance.
Most things wouldn’t. But hurting other people would. Rape and murder are definitely deal breakers. And probably some other types of violence as well. Depending on the severity and how long ago it was.
Yes for sure I mean you want to know who your going out with but if you know and thing negative about them. , and I mean you know for fact who they are and with there all about why go there it's not worth it most of the time
How many people are actually truthful about their past? No girl ever told me anything other than she never cheated before. Amazing how many times I was their first in that area. It's statistically impossible, they lied.
I think baggage is also a term for it... I think I could as long as they could put their bad past behind them and try their best to move forward fresh.
yes primarily if there a real criminal, or had a meth addiction meth makes people nuts even when there off it. if they had an abortion i may disagree with the decision I wouldn't hold it against them
Past behaviour is the most reliable indicator of future behaviour. I am willing to discuss most things, but there are a few non-negotiable deal breakers.
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Yes, it can be. Promiscuity is a definite deal-breaker for me, as is violence or a criminal record. People who have had a history of substance abuse or of certain types of mental health issues should not be dating at all, if they have not first gotten and benefited from needed professional help.
What about substances less harmful alcohol and weed where addiction nearly impossible like shrooms and lsd. As long she has less bodys then me, doesn't drink, is down to trip, and is kind i like her
@israelisevil "substance abuse", for me, includes a history of drunkenness and of the smoking of weed or tobacco. All these are deal-breakers for me. I would date only girls that do none of these things.
Yah I’m saying shrooms and psychedelics that don’t build patters alcohol is hard drug weed and tobacco are still addictive despite not being hard shrooms you can’t even do twice in week or second tome nothing happens
Wow, so many judgmental people on this site..
As if you're perfect and haven't done any mistakes
They key word is "past"
You’re with them now. In the present.
Sorry to be this blunt, but it's absurd, that you would have a girlfriend/boyfriend and be hurt by what happened before you. What happened before you has nothing to do with you or the present. What matters more are his/her current actions and communicating between you
nope, would be a hypocrite if i did. i'm a litteral degen myself. like i have a high body count for my age, love drugs, love alcohol, am a drop out, do reckless shit, went to juvie before, exc.. so lol, i really don't care. i actually prefer if you're like that too
A few months ago the younger brother of a guy who I had interest in (mutual, ill-timing made it not happen) tried his luck. Wasn't interested.
The deal breaker was he had a reputation of treating women like shit. Fast forward to nowadays he is in a relationship with a meek/weak woman. One he spoke of very poorly when starting out. She was brunette when I last saw her. She is now a gaudy bleached/dyed blonde cause he with his affixation on blondes would have made her do it.
It heavily depends on how much of that past they're still dragging along. Since it's hard to figure out quickly just how it affected the person, some people might not want to invest the time searching for some landmine and just leave.
The past itself doesn't matter, it's the fear it what it made you. (obviously not promiscuity, unless it borders on some 20 people orgy on video, but that's a whole other thing )
Maybe,
It depends on what it was and what the chances are they they would be able to refrain from doing it today. Real change is tough and it doesn't always last. But, I don't automatically reject someone for making mistakes. We all make mistakes
Past doesn't make who you are today. There Are wonderful judges N lawyers who tell me. Once when they were in college they were Awful people. Smoking dope, getting arrested, and even being in jail. They turn their lives around and are a model citizens today who mentor kids and youth in gangs. Could we just sayi forget now. You are still horrible being in your past so shall you be judged. No. I think people CAN CHANGE IF THEY ARE WILLING AND WANT TOO.
I would be lying if I said no just to sound politically correct, the way politics have been as of lately. So my answer is definitely, yes.
However that would be hypocritical of myself
to hold another's past choices against them
without a valid and relevant reason when it pertains to me.
I wouldn’t want a woman who has cheated because it’s been done to me and it sucks. Also wouldn’t want any drug users or alcoholics. It’s usually too much unnecessary drama. The number of partners doesn’t bother me at all. I don’t care if it 1 or 100 as long as you didn’t cheat on any of them.
Obviously yes but it would naturally depend on what it is. If someone is a known adulterer I likely won't be in for it. Likewise if someone is or was a violent criminal I am not likely to take that chance.
Most things wouldn’t. But hurting other people would. Rape and murder are definitely deal breakers. And probably some other types of violence as well. Depending on the severity and how long ago it was.
Yes for sure I mean you want to know who your going out with but if you know and thing negative about them. , and I mean you know for fact who they are and with there all about why go there it's not worth it most of the time
How many people are actually truthful about their past? No girl ever told me anything other than she never cheated before. Amazing how many times I was their first in that area. It's statistically impossible, they lied.
I think baggage is also a term for it... I think I could as long as they could put their bad past behind them and try their best to move forward fresh.
Yes. A persons past can tell you a lot about who they are as a person. It let's you know their potential; what they're capable of.
I'll look past some things, but not others.
yes primarily if there a real criminal, or had a meth addiction meth makes people nuts even when there off it. if they had an abortion i may disagree with the decision I wouldn't hold it against them
Past behaviour is the most reliable indicator of future behaviour.
I am willing to discuss most things, but there are a few non-negotiable deal breakers.
I refuse to judge. Unless it has something to do with me. Everyone is different as well as their interactions.
his passed means a lot to me ! if he has had sex then this tells me whether it will work between us or not ! thanks
i assume you mean if he didn't you woudlnt. who likes virgins lol
Absolutely. Each section has a difference in importance to me.