Do differences in height and weight bother you in dating?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I've never given it much thought honestly - even though I'm 162cm tall and the shortest woman I've dated was still a couple cms taller than me; while on the weight we usually are the same (around 50kg) or she weights a little more due to her height.
What about you?

[MCheetah]

I'm short too, although not as short as OP. For the most part, I would say no, they don't both me, but I get rejected by women mostly due to them telling me I'm not tall enough (the other reasons are related to my looks, race, lack of ego, and in rare cases, weight). So now, I'm kind of paranoid about it, and hate my height. I don't want to be part of a "short couple" not because I have a problem with shorter girls (5'6"/165 cm and under), but because it just feels like settling for "the best I can get now" and doesn't feel genuine. I am now so paranoid, I feel like I HAVE to be with a tall girl, if anyone, just to know she truly loves me, and isn't just "holding out for a tall guy, but I guess you'll do."

So, in principle, no, it wouldn't bother me. But due to me being less than six feet tall and not attractive because of it (or more likely, "in addition to it"), I don't trust short women, and am more prone to go after tall women, because I know they'd be "downgrading" by dating a short guy, which is enough to convince me their affection is real.

[Sarahr123]

It doesn’t matter. I’m just under 5’7 and I prefer men to be taller than me tbh like at least 5’8. My boyfriend is 6’ and that’s the only boyfriend I have ever had and will probably be the only one ever because we’ve been together for years and hears.

His weight has fluctuated. When we met nearly seven years ago he was a good weight like normal/average. He didn’t have any belly and I think he was his best in terms of physique back then. In between he was really slender and that looked good too because I am slender so we matched well. Now he has gained weight but he is not wide. You can’t tell he has weight because of his height but he has a belly.

I have been really skinny like a store mannequin my whole life on the other hand and I have seen my boyfriend through many weight fluctuations. I don’t think it matters as long as you love the person.

I am on the comfort level with him that I can tell him not to gain too much weight where it gets unhealthy. I don’t want him to compromise his health but I also don’t want him not to have a healthy relationship with food and enjoy it.

[AlienParasite]

I'm 164cm tall. My ex and my boyfriend are around 172-175cm tall. When it comes to weight my weight varies along the year between 50-55kg and my ex's and boyfriend's have been between 60 and 75 kg.

I've never minded if a guy is shorter or taller as long as he isn't dramatically shorter. I remember having a big crush on a friend that was 160cm tall when I was 19-20. Also I've never minded too much about a guy beign muscular and I can tolerate a guy beign unfit, but I do care about him not beign overweight.

[AFellowWeeb]

''Also I've never minded too much about a guy beign muscular and I can tolerate a guy beign unfit, but I do care about him not beign overweight''
thats how i view women too, i dont mind if she's not totally athletic of fit, just not over weight

[AFellowWeeb]

or fit*

[TomGarand]

Well, my only minimum for height is that the girl is 5'0/152 cm. I don't think I have a limit regarding how tall the woman is. In fact, her being tall would be a plus because she'd be physically stronger than short girl with the same physique. Probably heavier and tougher, too.

As for weight, I don't care if the girl is heavier than me, as long as it's due to her having a stocky, athletic, or muscular build. A lot of the other men here are gonna disagree with me, but I just love a girl who's got some muscle on her.

[Cait_Lyn]

I don't really mind a guy being rather short in height, but I suppose that may be because I'm fairly short (161/5'3) and I very few men are shorter than me. Even so, I don't think it would be a deal breaker for me. Height can be attractive (I think 180-185 is pretty perfect) but definitely not important in comparison to other things like personality.

Weight is more tricky... I wouldn't like a guy to weigh less than me. Not in terms of initial attraction (as long as someone isn't crazy underweight) but it would probably make me feel weird. I tend to feel insecure about my weight and being heavier than him would make that worse. I'm not super heavy (65 kg - yes I feel uncomfortable sharing that, but I know none of you personally, so what the hell) but it's quite a fair amount for my height. Again, not necessarily a deal breaker, but cause for pause ;)

[Blabster]

Weight isn't that important to me. A guy can be a bit over or a bit underweight and it wouldn't be a dealbreaker. I would hope the same goes for them hahahha.
Height however would be quite a big problem because im your height (162cm) so already really short. If a guy is shorter than me or my height that would be unfortunate because i wouldn't be able to wear heels hahaha. Personally i like taller men ( 175-195) but not toooo tall either. I think with most things in life you will find someone perfect just for you and height won't be an issue at all if you have that right person.

[Atrocity]

Hmm i do think tall girls are really sexy and i am not that tall myself (about 170cm), so i used to date girls that were sometimes a few inches taller than me and if they wear high heals the difference was sometimes huge. But when dating I was feeling embarrassed, maybe by the looks of others, when my date was towering above me. An most of them were really athletic and I am rather skinny... The tallest girl I dated with was like wearing hig hels of 8 cm and already was 185 cm high, so that made 193 cm tot 170 cm, she had eventually to pick me up when we wanted to kiss... She kind a liked me, but I found it really embarrassing maybe mostly by the looks and comments we got of other people.

[Don-__-Don]

Weight can bother me, because I don't like the feeling of excess fat on the persons body. I don't even like it on myself, so I keep myself in shape. As long as a women isn't on the deep end of being overweight and/or obese then I think I can be physically attracted to her. I like the curves on a women, not the rolls.


Height doesn't really bother me that much, but I probably wouldn't date anyone taller than me anyways due to how much emphasis on height in the dating scene. I just don't want to end up dating someone taller and have her feel influenced by others only her be insecure about dating me because she's taller than me.

[flamiE]

I’ve dated a guy half my weight and a guy double my weight lol at different weight obviously but I guess it’s safe to say I don’t care about weight. As of height, I like taller men but I’m down for short men too as long as they’re not shorter than me and I’m 5’5 on a good day so that’s not even hard.

[poneglyphs]

Rip me I'm 5'2

[Old_Golden]

I've learned through my experiences of who I'm attracted to that the Rule of Two-Thirds is pretty darn consistent for me. That meaning that I generally go for girls around 2/3 my weight, which works out because I apparently prefer girls who are at least 4" shorter than me. Height really isn't a huge issue for me, I really just prefer people who look proportionally similar to me, on the thinner side.

[DizzyDesii]

Im 5’2 and prefer he be 5’7-6’0. Weight wise, i like em kinda lean to average

[AFellowWeeb]

this guy is not average in any way

[DizzyDesii]

@AFellowWeeb he's slim with no abs. Having toned arms, anyone can have that. he's not buff or overexaggerated. Just in shape with a nice chest. No veins or nothing crazy

[AFellowWeeb]

Girl HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, that man is NOT average, ho boy, you are going to be dreadful if you think that man is average
''Having toned arms, anyone can have that''
This, this is why i say that women are more demanding than men, but the girls get offended when guys say that we dont like overweight women, like wtf, yes, having tones arms is hard, u have no idea, i've noticed my arms are skinnier now, bc i stopped doing exercise for real especially due to the pandemic

[DizzyDesii]

@AFellowWeeb i said lean to average. The guy above is skinny muscular (more lean). I didn't post what i consider average which is this but hopefully no chest hair

[AFellowWeeb]

that guy, once again, it's more average, but he's not unfit by any mean, the problem is that women can't accept the fact that guys dont HAVE A PREFERENCE for overweight girls, its way easier for you to find a fit guy dating a chubby girl, then it is for you to find a fit girl dating a chubby guy, you see what i mean?

this girl will be able to date more men than an average guy like this

women are more judgmental than men in looks, but then dont even want us to have preferences, or call us pigs for having them

[DizzyDesii]

@AFellowWeeb I've never considered average unfit. Unfit to me is a dad bod. And i base average on body. The guy you posted has an average body. But his face is not cute.

[AFellowWeeb]

the problem is that women can be lazy and still get boyfriends, but men can't, and if a guy calls this problem out, he gets labeled as judgmental, pig, misogynist, incel, loser by women.
This is unfair

[DizzyDesii]

@AFellowWeeb well i never said all that. I can't control how other women are. I can only speak for myself and what i personally find attractive

[Dinklex3]

I think his body is average from what I personally see from black males and Hispanics.
I don't see many white guys like this.

[DizzyDesii]

@Dinklex3 a lot of white guys here are shaped like the first guy i posted. but it was mainly the shape of guys back when in HS or guys in early 20s. I call it the soccer/basketball boy body. Footballers aren't shaped lean like that

[Dinklex3]

Ahh, a lot of the white guys from my hometown/college were more skinny fat than toned. Interesting to see what's common for others

[DizzyDesii]

@Dinklex3 i live in a college town so the majority are active but a few in mid twenties have beer bellies

[Sarahr123]

I agree that he is by no means average. Most men do not look like him so he is well above average. To call him average is like calling a girl with mannequin measurements average which is very damaging.

[DizzyDesii]

@Sarahr123 i didn't call him average. I said i like lean TO average. I consider him slim muscular aka lean. Read through the rest of my post and you’ll see what i defined as average TO ME. Its no different from what guys consider skinny and fat

[Paul09]

I'm not sure. I'm mostly I to shorter women. I know some tall attractive women. I just might. But then there the heels that can make her too tall.
I also do not get how this couple works, to me it makes no sense.

No offense, but does sex work lol. And kissing lol.

[Sarahr123]

That’s crazy man. The ideal height difference is seven inches. So if a woman is 5’6 then the man should be 6’1.

[CakesNCream]

I wouldn't date someone that's considered overweight because I'm not attracted to that. That's out of the question.

Height does bother me. I wouldn't like to date a really tall man because I'm 5'2, and it does make me uncomfortable when a partner is so much taller.

[Wade8888]

I'm not afraid of height differences, but I dislike weight differences. I wouldn't be able to perform for an obese woman or something like that, because it just wouldn't turn me on.

But I like women of all height ranges, so that's not a problem at all.

[WesBrewer]

yes, if my girl is taller I wouldn't be able to have a happy relationship most likely, but I'm 6' 3" so I should be fine, I don't care if she is lighter than me and I prefer her to be shorter, regarding if she is heavier than me, as long as she isn't fat its fine, but I would prefer lighter so that I could pick her up.

[Kurαȷ]

Well, yes.
It's not about "bother me", it's about I simply have a range that I find attractive, and the rest I don't.

A should weigh (a lot) less than me, and shouldn't be

[Kurαȷ]

... shouldn't be more than 2 inches/5 cm taller than me.

Screw this website and its retarded chat box.

[SARAH22222]

Well after all it really doesn't bother me
But i always had a preference on tall guys lol
After i fell in love with my boyfriend who isn't actually tall he's more like average
That's when i became to it doesn't mean anything like it's just a plus.

[jamesgoldman]

Height no but at 86 inches I can't really complain

Weight maybe given my medical issues make attempts at procreation difficult or shall we say leads to my inability to be an active participant in the process

[electromagnetic]

I dated a guy who was shorter than me. Nothing really was weird of strange about it. But I do prefer taller men simply because I’m tall too I guess.

[Liam_Hayden]

I'm 6'2 and around 195, but my best male friend is around your height (5'4) and close to your weight. He has dated women a lot taller who easily outweigh him, so he like you doesn't care and is so much happier because of it.

[orangecherry]

Nothing against short guys but I am 5'6" and I like to wear heels... I don't really want to tower over the guy so he has to be at least a little on the tall side.

[Paul09]

Heels are nice and all, but I'll never get how you wear them all day or night. Don't you get pains?

[orangecherry]

@Paul09 My feet can get sore after a long time. esp dancing in a club or something. but not too bad. I guess I am used to heels now? I also have high arches that helps

[Sarahr123]

I’m the same as you. Thankfully my boyfriend is 6’

[orangecherry]

@Sarahr123 thats a good height for a guy

[Petra150]

How can s height be good, no physical feature is so insignificant as height, and it's very horribel to rate especially guys on there height. I too here if guys were hung up on the fact I'm 204 cm tall. The last 14 years I'd been I a relationship with a wonderful guy who's 181 cm tall , so he's way shorter than me and definitely under you so called 6' feet mesure, so in your mind he isn't perfect, I'd never thought of our height difference as somthing to worry about, to your info all my boyfriend's have been much shorter than me, and I'd never search for guys especially tall, find tall men awkward and wouldn't really be attracted to a guy if he were my height, it will feel as a fixed relationship if a girl my insane height suddenly were with a guy over two meter tall, and a guy don't need to be tall at all

[Sarahr123]

@Petra150 6’ in cm is 182cm so your boyfriend was basically pretty much 6’ however with yourself measuring eight inches taller there would have been a bug difference. There is no such thing as a perfect height because it is subjective just like beauty of facial features or the body/physique. We all have individual preferences and that is fine. It is fine for men to be under 6’ and it is fine for women to be over 6’. We all find someone who finds us perfect the way we are.

[lightbulb27]

not so much. I'm shorter, I don't mind a few inches up or down. And girls as you know, are adjustable by about 3" or so...:)

[Levin]

I prefer smaller girls cause I like to dominate!

Petite girls <3

I'm 5' 11 but pretty thin bone structure.

[utterlyconfused11]

doesn't bother me unless its extreme. I don't want a girl who's a midget and I also don't want a giant. I also don't want someone who looks anorexic or someone who is 300lbs
there's got to be a happy medium