Do differences in height and weight bother you in dating?

[MCheetah]

I'm short too, although not as short as OP. For the most part, I would say no, they don't both me, but I get rejected by women mostly due to them telling me I'm not tall enough (the other reasons are related to my looks, race, lack of ego, and in rare cases, weight). So now, I'm kind of paranoid about it, and hate my height. I don't want to be part of a "short couple" not because I have a problem with shorter girls (5'6"/165 cm and under), but because it just feels like settling for "the best I can get now" and doesn't feel genuine. I am now so paranoid, I feel like I HAVE to be with a tall girl, if anyone, just to know she truly loves me, and isn't just "holding out for a tall guy, but I guess you'll do."

So, in principle, no, it wouldn't bother me. But due to me being less than six feet tall and not attractive because of it (or more likely, "in addition to it"), I don't trust short women, and am more prone to go after tall women, because I know they'd be "downgrading" by dating a short guy, which is enough to convince me their affection is real.

[Sarahr123]

It doesn’t matter. I’m just under 5’7 and I prefer men to be taller than me tbh like at least 5’8. My boyfriend is 6’ and that’s the only boyfriend I have ever had and will probably be the only one ever because we’ve been together for years and hears.

His weight has fluctuated. When we met nearly seven years ago he was a good weight like normal/average. He didn’t have any belly and I think he was his best in terms of physique back then. In between he was really slender and that looked good too because I am slender so we matched well. Now he has gained weight but he is not wide. You can’t tell he has weight because of his height but he has a belly.

I have been really skinny like a store mannequin my whole life on the other hand and I have seen my boyfriend through many weight fluctuations. I don’t think it matters as long as you love the person.

I am on the comfort level with him that I can tell him not to gain too much weight where it gets unhealthy. I don’t want him to compromise his health but I also don’t want him not to have a healthy relationship with food and enjoy it.

[AlienParasite]

I'm 164cm tall. My ex and my boyfriend are around 172-175cm tall. When it comes to weight my weight varies along the year between 50-55kg and my ex's and boyfriend's have been between 60 and 75 kg.

I've never minded if a guy is shorter or taller as long as he isn't dramatically shorter. I remember having a big crush on a friend that was 160cm tall when I was 19-20. Also I've never minded too much about a guy beign muscular and I can tolerate a guy beign unfit, but I do care about him not beign overweight.

[TomGarand]

Well, my only minimum for height is that the girl is 5'0/152 cm. I don't think I have a limit regarding how tall the woman is. In fact, her being tall would be a plus because she'd be physically stronger than short girl with the same physique. Probably heavier and tougher, too.

As for weight, I don't care if the girl is heavier than me, as long as it's due to her having a stocky, athletic, or muscular build. A lot of the other men here are gonna disagree with me, but I just love a girl who's got some muscle on her.

[Cait_Lyn]

I don't really mind a guy being rather short in height, but I suppose that may be because I'm fairly short (161/5'3) and I very few men are shorter than me. Even so, I don't think it would be a deal breaker for me. Height can be attractive (I think 180-185 is pretty perfect) but definitely not important in comparison to other things like personality.

Weight is more tricky... I wouldn't like a guy to weigh less than me. Not in terms of initial attraction (as long as someone isn't crazy underweight) but it would probably make me feel weird. I tend to feel insecure about my weight and being heavier than him would make that worse. I'm not super heavy (65 kg - yes I feel uncomfortable sharing that, but I know none of you personally, so what the hell) but it's quite a fair amount for my height. Again, not necessarily a deal breaker, but cause for pause ;)

[Don-__-Don]

Weight can bother me, because I don't like the feeling of excess fat on the persons body. I don't even like it on myself, so I keep myself in shape. As long as a women isn't on the deep end of being overweight and/or obese then I think I can be physically attracted to her. I like the curves on a women, not the rolls.


Height doesn't really bother me that much, but I probably wouldn't date anyone taller than me anyways due to how much emphasis on height in the dating scene. I just don't want to end up dating someone taller and have her feel influenced by others only her be insecure about dating me because she's taller than me.

[Blabster]

Weight isn't that important to me. A guy can be a bit over or a bit underweight and it wouldn't be a dealbreaker. I would hope the same goes for them hahahha.
Height however would be quite a big problem because im your height (162cm) so already really short. If a guy is shorter than me or my height that would be unfortunate because i wouldn't be able to wear heels hahaha. Personally i like taller men ( 175-195) but not toooo tall either. I think with most things in life you will find someone perfect just for you and height won't be an issue at all if you have that right person.

[Atrocity]

Hmm i do think tall girls are really sexy and i am not that tall myself (about 170cm), so i used to date girls that were sometimes a few inches taller than me and if they wear high heals the difference was sometimes huge. But when dating I was feeling embarrassed, maybe by the looks of others, when my date was towering above me. An most of them were really athletic and I am rather skinny... The tallest girl I dated with was like wearing hig hels of 8 cm and already was 185 cm high, so that made 193 cm tot 170 cm, she had eventually to pick me up when we wanted to kiss... She kind a liked me, but I found it really embarrassing maybe mostly by the looks and comments we got of other people.

[Wade8888]

I'm not afraid of height differences, but I dislike weight differences. I wouldn't be able to perform for an obese woman or something like that, because it just wouldn't turn me on.

But I like women of all height ranges, so that's not a problem at all.

[WesBrewer]

yes, if my girl is taller I wouldn't be able to have a happy relationship most likely, but I'm 6' 3" so I should be fine, I don't care if she is lighter than me and I prefer her to be shorter, regarding if she is heavier than me, as long as she isn't fat its fine, but I would prefer lighter so that I could pick her up.

[flamiE]

I’ve dated a guy half my weight and a guy double my weight lol at different weight obviously but I guess it’s safe to say I don’t care about weight. As of height, I like taller men but I’m down for short men too as long as they’re not shorter than me and I’m 5’5 on a good day so that’s not even hard.

[Old_Golden]

I've learned through my experiences of who I'm attracted to that the Rule of Two-Thirds is pretty darn consistent for me. That meaning that I generally go for girls around 2/3 my weight, which works out because I apparently prefer girls who are at least 4" shorter than me. Height really isn't a huge issue for me, I really just prefer people who look proportionally similar to me, on the thinner side.

[Vetis]

The fact men have skeletons adapted to be athletic should tell you why short height disturbs women. It's an incongruency... They've selected the most athletic males available for thousands of years of evolution. Being short is going to bother that little voice in their head guiding them on who is supposed to arouse them. in my opinion!

[EaterPeter]

I have been with tall and physically strong woman. Not taller than me though. Not fun for different reason. I think it would be fun with tall women, lot easier to suck on nipples and be able to have intercourse at the same time without bending much or at all depends on height different between us. If size matters it may bring in some other kind of challenges.

[Paul09]

I'm not sure. I'm mostly I to shorter women. I know some tall attractive women. I just might. But then there the heels that can make her too tall.
I also do not get how this couple works, to me it makes no sense. No offense, but does sex work lol. And kissing lol.

[CakesNCream]

I wouldn't date someone that's considered overweight because I'm not attracted to that. That's out of the question.

Height does bother me. I wouldn't like to date a really tall man because I'm 5'2, and it does make me uncomfortable when a partner is so much taller.

[jamesgoldman]

Height no but at 86 inches I can't really complain

Weight maybe given my medical issues make attempts at procreation difficult or shall we say leads to my inability to be an active participant in the process

[DizzyDesii]

Im 5’2 and prefer he be 5’7-6’0. Weight wise, i like em kinda lean to average

[Kurαȷ]

Well, yes.
It's not about "bother me", it's about I simply have a range that I find attractive, and the rest I don't.

A should weigh (a lot) less than me, and shouldn't be

[SARAH22222]

Well after all it really doesn't bother me
But i always had a preference on tall guys lol
After i fell in love with my boyfriend who isn't actually tall he's more like average
That's when i became to it doesn't mean anything like it's just a plus.

[electromagnetic]

I dated a guy who was shorter than me. Nothing really was weird of strange about it. But I do prefer taller men simply because I’m tall too I guess.

[Citizenkirk]

If she is a different height in the evening (high heals) than in the morning (barefoot) than I might be 😠.

[Saitama2k2k]

I don't think that should affect the relationship, I personally don't know any reasons why it would affect it. Assuming that both are in a relationship of some sort

[Nick568]

tbh I'd feel weird dating a girl taller than me but I'm 6'2" so there's not many girls talker than me anyways. As long as she's my height or shorter idrc about height.