Do differences in height and weight bother you in dating?

Question

I've never given it much thought honestly - even though I'm 162cm tall and the shortest woman I've dated was still a couple cms taller than me; while on the weight we usually are the same (around 50kg) or she weights a little more due to her height.
What about you?

Sarahr123 · Accepted Answer

It doesn’t matter. I’m just under 5’7 and I prefer men to be taller than me tbh like at least 5’8. My boyfriend is 6’ and that’s the only boyfriend I have ever had and will probably be the only one ever because we’ve been together for years and hears.

His weight has fluctuated. When we met nearly seven years ago he was a good weight like normal/average. He didn’t have any belly and I think he was his best in terms of physique back then. In between he was really slender and that looked good too because I am slender so we matched well. Now he has gained weight but he is not wide. You can’t tell he has weight because of his height but he has a belly.

I have been really skinny like a store mannequin my whole life on the other hand and I have seen my boyfriend through many weight fluctuations. I don’t think it matters as long as you love the person.

I am on the comfort level with him that I can tell him not to gain too much weight where it gets unhealthy. I don’t want him to compromise his health but I also don’t want him not to have a healthy relationship with food and enjoy it.

AlienParasite · Accepted Answer

I'm 164cm tall. My ex and my boyfriend are around 172-175cm tall. When it comes to weight my weight varies along the year between 50-55kg and my ex's and boyfriend's have been between 60 and 75 kg.

I've never minded if a guy is shorter or taller as long as he isn't dramatically shorter. I remember having a big crush on a friend that was 160cm tall when I was 19-20. Also I've never minded too much about a guy beign muscular and I can tolerate a guy beign unfit, but I do care about him not beign overweight.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I'm short too, although not as short as OP. For the most part, I would say no, they don't both me, but I get rejected by women mostly due to them telling me I'm not tall enough (the other reasons are related to my looks, race, lack of ego, and in rare cases, weight). So now, I'm kind of paranoid about it, and hate my height. I don't want to be part of a "short couple" not because I have a problem with shorter girls (5'6"/165 cm and under), but because it just feels like settling for "the best I can get now" and doesn't feel genuine. I am now so paranoid, I feel like I HAVE to be with a tall girl, if anyone, just to know she truly loves me, and isn't just "holding out for a tall guy, but I guess you'll do."

So, in principle, no, it wouldn't bother me. But due to me being less than six feet tall and not attractive because of it (or more likely, "in addition to it"), I don't trust short women, and am more prone to go after tall women, because I know they'd be "downgrading" by dating a short guy, which is enough to convince me their affection is real.

TomGarand · Accepted Answer

Well, my only minimum for height is that the girl is 5'0/152 cm. I don't think I have a limit regarding how tall the woman is. In fact, her being tall would be a plus because she'd be physically stronger than short girl with the same physique. Probably heavier and tougher, too.

As for weight, I don't care if the girl is heavier than me, as long as it's due to her having a stocky, athletic, or muscular build. A lot of the other men here are gonna disagree with me, but I just love a girl who's got some muscle on her.

Cait_Lyn · Answer

I don't really mind a guy being rather short in height, but I suppose that may be because I'm fairly short (161/5'3) and I very few men are shorter than me. Even so, I don't think it would be a deal breaker for me. Height can be attractive (I think 180-185 is pretty perfect) but definitely not important in comparison to other things like personality.

Weight is more tricky... I wouldn't like a guy to weigh less than me. Not in terms of initial attraction (as long as someone isn't crazy underweight) but it would probably make me feel weird. I tend to feel insecure about my weight and being heavier than him would make that worse. I'm not super heavy (65 kg - yes I feel uncomfortable sharing that, but I know none of you personally, so what the hell) but it's quite a fair amount for my height. Again, not necessarily a deal breaker, but cause for pause ;)

Blabster · Answer

Weight isn't that important to me. A guy can be a bit over or a bit underweight and it wouldn't be a dealbreaker. I would hope the same goes for them hahahha.
Height however would be quite a big problem because im your height (162cm) so already really short. If a guy is shorter than me or my height that would be unfortunate because i wouldn't be able to wear heels hahaha. Personally i like taller men ( 175-195) but not toooo tall either. I think with most things in life you will find someone perfect just for you and height won't be an issue at all if you have that right person.

Atrocity · Answer

Hmm i do think tall girls are really sexy and i am not that tall myself (about 170cm), so i used to date girls that were sometimes a few inches taller than me and if they wear high heals the difference was sometimes huge. But when dating I was feeling embarrassed, maybe by the looks of others, when my date was towering above me. An most of them were really athletic and I am rather skinny... The tallest girl I dated with was like wearing hig hels of 8 cm and already was 185 cm high, so that made 193 cm tot 170 cm, she had eventually to pick me up when we wanted to kiss... She kind a liked me, but I found it really embarrassing maybe mostly by the looks and comments we got of other people.

Don-__-Don · Answer

Weight can bother me, because I don't like the feeling of excess fat on the persons body. I don't even like it on myself, so I keep myself in shape. As long as a women isn't on the deep end of being overweight and/or obese then I think I can be physically attracted to her. I like the curves on a women, not the rolls.

Height doesn't really bother me that much, but I probably wouldn't date anyone taller than me anyways due to how much emphasis on height in the dating scene. I just don't want to end up dating someone taller and have her feel influenced by others only her be insecure about dating me because she's taller than me.

flamiE · Answer

I’ve dated a guy half my weight and a guy double my weight lol at different weight obviously but I guess it’s safe to say I don’t care about weight. As of height, I like taller men but I’m down for short men too as long as they’re not shorter than me and I’m 5’5 on a good day so that’s not even hard.

Old_Golden · Answer

I've learned through my experiences of who I'm attracted to that the Rule of Two-Thirds is pretty darn consistent for me. That meaning that I generally go for girls around 2/3 my weight, which works out because I apparently prefer girls who are at least 4" shorter than me. Height really isn't a huge issue for me, I really just prefer people who look proportionally similar to me, on the thinner side.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Im 5’2 and prefer he be 5’7-6’0. Weight wise, i like em kinda lean to average

Paul09 · Answer

I'm not sure. I'm mostly I to shorter women. I know some tall attractive women. I just might. But then there the heels that can make her too tall.
I also do not get how this couple works, to me it makes no sense.

No offense, but does sex work lol. And kissing lol.

CakesNCream · Answer

I wouldn't date someone that's considered overweight because I'm not attracted to that. That's out of the question.

Height does bother me. I wouldn't like to date a really tall man because I'm 5'2, and it does make me uncomfortable when a partner is so much taller.

Wade8888 · Answer

I'm not afraid of height differences, but I dislike weight differences. I wouldn't be able to perform for an obese woman or something like that, because it just wouldn't turn me on.

But I like women of all height ranges, so that's not a problem at all.

WesBrewer · Answer

yes, if my girl is taller I wouldn't be able to have a happy relationship most likely, but I'm 6' 3" so I should be fine, I don't care if she is lighter than me and I prefer her to be shorter, regarding if she is heavier than me, as long as she isn't fat its fine, but I would prefer lighter so that I could pick her up.

Kurαȷ · Answer

Well, yes. It's not about "bother me", it's about I simply have a range that I find attractive, and the rest I don't. A should weigh (a lot) less than me, and shouldn't be

SARAH22222 · Answer

Well after all it really doesn't bother me
But i always had a preference on tall guys lol
After i fell in love with my boyfriend who isn't actually tall he's more like average
That's when i became to it doesn't mean anything like it's just a plus.

electromagnetic · Answer

I dated a guy who was shorter than me. Nothing really was weird of strange about it. But I do prefer taller men simply because I’m tall too I guess.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Height no but at 86 inches I can't really complain

Weight maybe given my medical issues make attempts at procreation difficult or shall we say leads to my inability to be an active participant in the process

Liam_Hayden · Answer

I'm 6'2 and around 195, but my best male friend is around your height (5'4) and close to your weight. He has dated women a lot taller who easily outweigh him, so he like you doesn't care and is so much happier because of it.

orangecherry · Answer

Nothing against short guys but I am 5'6" and I like to wear heels... I don't really want to tower over the guy so he has to be at least a little on the tall side.

lightbulb27 · Answer

not so much. I'm shorter, I don't mind a few inches up or down. And girls as you know, are adjustable by about 3" or so...:)

Levin · Answer

I prefer smaller girls cause I like to dominate! Petite girls <3 I'm 5' 11 but pretty thin bone structure.

Shamalien · Answer

Like most men, I want a woman who is smaller than me in both weight and height. I think most women want a man that is larger in both weight and height.

There are exceptions, but these are the rules, and there's nothing wrong with it. Men and women are never going to be judged by the same standards in all regards, nor should we be, apples and oranges.

utterlyconfused11 · Answer

doesn't bother me unless its extreme. I don't want a girl who's a midget and I also don't want a giant. I also don't want someone who looks anorexic or someone who is 300lbs
there's got to be a happy medium

Avicenna · Answer

No, although I’d rather that she not be much shorter than me

BruceJender · Answer

I'm 1m94, 230lbs. I'm lucky in the sense that it's incredibly rare to come across a woman my height, and pretty much impossible for a girl taller than me.

I'm open to dating skinny and curvy girls, but no one overweight.

Vetis · Answer

The fact men have skeletons adapted to be athletic should tell you why short height disturbs women. It's an incongruency... They've selected the most athletic males available for thousands of years of evolution. Being short is going to bother that little voice in their head guiding them on who is supposed to arouse them. in my opinion!

sheikalana · Answer

Weight doesn't bother me. Height it's a whole different story.

EaterPeter · Answer

I have been with tall and physically strong woman. Not taller than me though. Not fun for different reason. I think it would be fun with tall women, lot easier to suck on nipples and be able to have intercourse at the same time without bending much or at all depends on height different between us. If size matters it may bring in some other kind of challenges.

harmon · Answer

Just the height tbh, there should be a 15 - 20 cm gap. I'm 1.63 m

Redstang88 · Answer

Not super important, dated girls a taller than me but prefer a bit shorter. And as long as she’s lighter than me I’m not too picky

Anonymous · Answer

I am short and all I ask is for him to be taller than me by at lest 7". I am 5ft tall so 5ft 7in is fine to me.

Unit1 · Answer

As much as poverty bothers the voluntarily poor - not at all.

imfreeze95 · Answer

Not really I’m pretty tall especially for a Hispanic man so I’d be hard pressed To find a woman taller than me

JamJam1 · Answer

I dated a taller girl once, she had it all and loved me like crazy. I just couldn't handle the difference. I'm generally short, she is like model length

similartoyou · Answer

My girlfriend is 60cm shorter than me and we're equally Happy

Dbach · Answer

I honestly don’t care about height. I’m short so I just accepted it.

Anonymous · Answer

Height bothers me more. She cannot be shorter than 170cm for me. Ideally 180

JHNS98 · Answer

So I'm six feet tall. I'd feel confortable dating a 5'8" girl, but not a 5'4" or shorter. It would just be awkward when we'd [try to] hug each other, or let alone me on top of her in bed.

Saitama2k2k · Answer

I don't think that should affect the relationship, I personally don't know any reasons why it would affect it. Assuming that both are in a relationship of some sort

Nick568 · Answer

tbh I'd feel weird dating a girl taller than me but I'm 6'2" so there's not many girls talker than me anyways. As long as she's my height or shorter idrc about height.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

None of this bothers me
1. If they are shorter than I am.
2. If they are the same height as I am.
3. If they are taller than I am.
4. If they weigh less than I do.
5. If they weigh the same as I do
6. If they weigh more than me.

GoldenTulip · Answer

It depends... aslong as he's not too short, it will be ok to me. I date quite short men and never had a problem with it. I am 165.. my exes where 168 and 172. No problem at all... but also probably because i am not fond off high heels.

Citizenkirk · Answer

If she is a different height in the evening (high heals) than in the morning (barefoot) than I might be 😠.

Darcy23 · Answer

I am usually attracted to men from 185 to 200cm and I prefer them little overweighted rather than underweighted.

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

The older I get, the less it matters but I still consider it.

JamesTorquay · Answer

I'm 5,8 and not keen when a girl is taller but I know it shouldn't matter it's my preference, weight not bothered I'm fortunate not to have no fat, if she is overweight no problem if she's happy but she must know the health issues

Anonymous · Answer

I only date short women who are not fat. So height bothers me.

Dsg1193 · Answer

Yeah height is kind of a deal breaker for me

TeeBar · Answer

No, a nice personality, intelligence, and a firm rack overcome basic physical attributes.

Wysardi · Answer

Sometimes I have back problems and it’s hurts to bend over to kiss a shorter girl

gemgem · Answer

Height doesn't matter. Weight matters a lot. I dont like obese girls

more_than_a_guy · Answer

Weight - not fat, not anorexic. Height - shorter to up to few cm taller than me. much taller is not comfortable.

Wowboi · Answer

Yeah i kind of find chicks between 5"5 -5"7 attractive especially if they're slim with meat in the right places

Dinklex3 · Answer

Weight matters.  Height, not so much.

themythos · Answer

Yes for both. Too short is a turn offf because they look like a child and too fat is well too fat

Anonymous · Answer

Weight differences matter much more than height. They are not interchangeable.

NoblesseObligeKK · Answer

If I can't pick you up, we're never going to date.

madisonk · Answer

Yes. I wouldn't want a guy shorter than me.

EthenKirkwood · Answer

I'd date a shorter/taller person with no problem (provided they had a good personality)

blonde_firecracker · Answer

I wouldn't date a guy who was shorter than me

Eleni079 · Answer

Tallest woman 6’0 or 185 cm shorts 4’9” or 149 m.

msc545 · Answer

Weight, yes. Height, no.

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