This question is mainly for women to answer but I’ll open it up fir everyone. These two videos explain that when men are just brutally raw honest all the time women tend to find that irresistible. The woman below says that women all secretly know this but never tell guys that because it’s just that powerful. By raw brutal honesty we mean the kind where you don’t give a shit at all about how anyone feels or think about their unfiltered opinions. Saying what you want and stopping at nothing to get it. These two are saying this is extremely attractive particularly to women.
but what do you think? Is brutal raw honesty attractive to you? If so then how much?
Yes I find it irresistible
Yes it’s very attractive
It’s attractive but not that attractive
It’s a good trait to have but I don’t think it’s attractive or unattractive
I think it’s unattractive
Brutal honesty is overrated
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Do you find Brutal Honesty attractive or even sexy in a person?
I respect anyone that can be brutally honest. People mistake what brutally honest means. It doesn't mean mean or rude or insults like people think it does. So for those that don't understand, here's the definition of Brutal Honesty: The point of brutal honesty is to be completely honest and let the truth speak for itself. It's about not holding anything back — about not telling white lies to make a person feel better, or withholding information they might find hurtful... I'll take that over lies any day!!!
I don't think that alone affects attractiveness, but can definitely affect quality of relationship... It's a quality I would want, from someone, but I wouldn't say attraction
Yes, it is attractive but not irresistible. You can be a blunt jerk for sure. The best relationships I had were with men who were very honest and blunt. I like to get to know some bad sides early on. Better to know what I am dealing with than getting to know someone superficially. However, I have yet to meet a man that was blunt about wanting a serious relationship with me, so it have been casual relationships instead.
Though, one thing I cannot deal with is what the man is saying in the first video. The 'I am not interested in a relationship right now...'. The 'right now' is a get away for me, it seems like he wants to keep a door open for someone not very strong minded to still go for sleeping with him in hope of it evolving into a relationship. Just leave out that statement, because you have no idea when it will change. The important thing is that you do not want a relationship, what happens in the future you can let me know then.
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I'm brutally honest, but only when asked. Some people hate me for it, some love me for it. "Do I look fat in this?" "You look fat because you are fat. What you're wearing doesn't change it" "you're an asshole" "you already knew that, but you asked anyway. That's on you" "But I was really asking if this outfit makes me look less fat" "No, you were asking me to help you feel better about being fat by saying you don't look fat. I may be an asshole, but I'm not stupid" "I don't know why I ever ask you anything" "me either"
Option D. I'm neutral to it. I don't mind brutal honesty; in fact, I appreciate it. However, tact or the lack of it, is the issue. You can be brutally honest without being an asshole. It's not easy for some people, but it's possible. It's HOW you say it, not what you say. But yeah, it's neither attractive nor unattractive.
I do. It’s assuming you need to tell a white lie to be honest and that’s not the case.
Do you find me attractive?
1. You’re the ugliest thing I’ve ever seen in my life 2. You’re appearance isn’t personally to my taste so no, I don’t find you attractive but I’m sure there are people you would appeal to
#2 isn’t a lie, it’s honest without being an asshole
Calling it 'brutal honesty' implies there will be some pain to it. But it's all in the delivery. You can tell people the truth without it having to be mean. But don't always expect the receiver to be pleased, but they shouldn't feel hostile. I like brutal honesty. I think it's a better way. I have been trying more of it and it seems more positive, there is no misunderstanding on where you stand. But boy it's hard not to ever tell a lie. It's instinctual. Someone askes, "How are you?" I say 'good' or 'fine' or whatever to move on. Its automatic. Lying is everywhere all the time.
I think that many times someone saying they're brutually honest is an excuse for being an asshole. Okay, if someone asks for your honest opinion then there is no problem but not to go randomly insulting anyone I can't find this appealing.
F by a long shot. Honesty is good. "Brutal honesty" means being a bad communicator who can't actually get the truth across bedside they deliver it so abrasively.
other people aren't robots. If all they hear emotionally is an attack the "honesty" you spoke is almost irrelevant.
She seems to be defining it as simply honesty. Honesty is a good thing.
What's not good is people who use "I'm brutally honest" as a coping mechanism for their own lack of ability to use emotional intelligence to deliver hard to hear information in a way that's effective. It's good that they are willing to have difficult conversations, but being "brutal" about it and thinking "if other people don't like hearing the truth it's their problem" is actually just an excuse for not growing.
I used to think that being brutally honest is a good thing even if you sound mean, but with time I learned that you can be completely honest without being an asshole.
Since then, I am a bit wary of people who describe themselves as brutally honest. I am not getting turned on by someone being mean and acting like it is ok because they are just telling the bitter truth.
There is no excuse for being mean. I don't think that that is what called brutal honesty means. If someone was ever mean to you and used brutal honesty as an excuse, they are not being honest.
"Brutal" honesty, to me, is something used as an excuse to be rude and bad mannered. "I'm just telling it like it is." "I'm just being honest." etc. All excuses for bad manners and aggression. A cultured, polite, well-mannered person would think about the other persons feelings.
Honesty is attractive, someone who can say the hard but more meaningful stuff. However being inconsiderate of others feelings and lacking that tactile social etiquette is the opposite of attractive. Someone who hurts others to get what they want is repulsive. But someone who works hard to achieve what they want despite challenges is very attractive. In other words, doing the right but hard things are attractive, ie integrity.
the "brutal" part has a negative connotation, it might be attractive at first for some, maybe, just like a fire, but once it explodes on your face and you feel the true heat of it, that's when most people will want to back out.
Yeah I’d rather them be brutally honest than be passive aggressive or not speak up when they feel something. The latter is annoying in any kind of relationship
Honesty is good but brutal honesty just shows a narcissist lack of consideration for other people.
If you are just as brutally honest to them, they tend not to like their own medicine.
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There’s no purpose in being brutal with the truth if you want others to accept it.. other than being brutal. “No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care.” - I don’t remember who said that.
I don't find it attractive or sexy but it is something I value as I always want my partner to be honest with me even if I don't like what they have to say.
It's mean and hurtful. It's not what you say it's how you say it. I'm not saying lie, I'm not saying sugar coat everything. You can always be kind and honest about everything.
I think it really depends on the topic. Every issues needs to be dealt with in a different way. Not every issue can be resolved with the same hammer. There are times when it can be attractive, and other times when it just comes off as ugly
