Guys make confessions by majority, expectations are high on both sides, it is hard for a guy to confess and a lot of the time he will be shut down for not being the type.
Not only do guys get rejected, the rejection causes emotional scarring for a long time and like with everything, guys don't have the same emotional support as girls do nor are guys allowed to show their emotions as much, it is considered weak to do so, in fact if a guy were to cry for being rejected in public and others saw him, he would immediately be cutting off every chance of ever getting someone in that area of people that knew him because they would make a mockery of him for it.
Girls on the other hand if they got rejected, which by the way, is highly unlikely since they RARELY make any moves or confess, they would unlikely get rejected since guys are more desperate for a relationship than a girl and find it harder to get one, and if by some blood moon occurrence she does get rejected, she has all her friends that will console her and talk badly about him and ruin his reputation.
I have actually only seen one girl who confessed to a guy, and every school I went to was riddled with girls, but the only time I saw a girl confess was in college and he said he was currently not looking for a relationship but that he also was not saying no, just that he is not ready for one at the moment, so she took it really well and I congratulated her and said I was proud of her for being brave to confess :)
Since guys do most of "the asking," when a guy gets rejected, he asks a girl and she gives him an excuse or just says no.
When a girl gets rejected, the guy usually checks her out, decides to not pursue it, and she never realizes that he made that decision. She is still sitting there waiting for him to approach when he has already decide to not approach.
So, how can you validly compare the rate of rejection for guys and girls?
By personal experience.. we got 2 guys who have 100% of the time been the askers. Not enough data but I bet if you keep asking you’ll get more data. But yeah the method of rejection isn’t the way you describe either.. she can say worse then no... she can say ew. The risk is the exact same for both and women just don’t want to take it.
@OlderAndWiser youve basically said youve never been asked out. but you think guys have seen a girl before he's approached, this has never been the case. I've been approached in surprise every time. I've lost count, it's definetly over 15times. Every time i wasn't looking and always from behind me, the girls act like predators. I've been approached up a glass window stair case, when going to a mini library next to a girls residence, clubs when i was in an unsual spot, a library groundfloor with a balcony, a mall with a balcony. Every time this happened id freak out. We reject because caught by element of surprise and haven't even evaluated her. And by the way all of these girls were sexy and aggressive.
Guys get rejected more because they are mainly doing the pursuing and even though its becoming a thing for women to also pursue, men still get rejected more than women do.
Saturday i saw a woman got rejected from a guy she felt bad but hey thats how guys feel too. I bet she have rejected guys as well.
Even if some men would want women to make the first move, I unfortunately will never make the first move.
Guys because they literally propose thousands of girls so the rejection is more. These same guys complain that xyz rejected me and then move on to the next girl and keeps trying until some dork girl accepts their desperate ass. Girls are selective and guys are happy with any good looking girl because they want to get inside her underwear. Girls on the other hand care more about long term goals.
I hope every day that some women would make the first move... but shit in hand hand and wish in the other and see which one fills up first.
Double standards, double standards EVERYWHERE.
I still can't get over that first approach speed bump, I've tried so hard... but it's not gonna happen.
My anxiety always gets me, The only thing that fixes it is a drink, but I can't do medically do that anymore, ugh. I couldn't engage in small to literally save my life.
I wish I knew why it was so damn hard... I can land a plane but I can't talk to women... wtf
Women, of planet earth there are men out there who are screaming in their "Please say something!"
There's no way I'm alone in that thought, it's odds wise impossible.
Guys get rejected more, unequivocally. It's just statistical since guys do most of the approaching.
I don't think this question can be answered effectively though. Males do not have the benefit of the experience females have and vice versa and can only rely on anecdotal evidence/testimony.
And regarding 'first move', I don't think many guys would have a problem with this unless they're bound by some cultural or traditional ideologies. I would not be against a girl making the first move.
Guys do 99.9% of the asking out, so are going to get most of the rejections. And yes, women should DEFINITELY make the first move more, especially in today's day and age where asking a girl out can get you a 911 call and accusation of being a rapist (especially if you're brown). I think women would also empathize MUCH more with men if they had to go through what it was like to put yourself out there, only for some dude to shit on them and humiliate them for daring to speak to them outside of their preferred level of attractiveness. The only thing that sucks more than getting rejected is being alone forever.
Guys, for the simple fact that they are the ones making the move the majority of the time, which is almost always. Not saying women never do, and respect to those women, but almost always, it's the guy making the move, therefore they are getting rejected the most. You can't be rejected if you don't do anything.
I would like women to make a movie, because it's idiotic to expect me to make a move when YOU feel some type of way. Sometimes a person doesn't notice you until you approach them. I've been told by girls that they liked me years after, but in that moment, they never said or did anything.
I think guys are far and away more rejected because they ask more often, and girls are more selective, with good reason.
Girls reject more than guys because: 1. Having a nasty kid is usually worse for the woman. 2. Men are more capable of harming women physically than visa versa. 3. If you want to be a mom and work less, you'll need an extra wealthy/high status guy to support you financially.
I say girls should not make the first move. As it takes character for a guy to overcome his nerves and express his feelings. If a girl makes the first move, she might not get to see if he has that character before she's gotten feelings for him
I will freely admit that it is likely men that get rejected more. It has been a traditional gender role that men pursue women. This is something that I try and break free of but I will say I am not used to approaching men but when I see someone I desire and get impatient I have been known to approach. I have been rejected and it sucks so kudos to you fellas for doing the chasing, it is appreciated.
I think we need to break free more of gender roles.
I got rejected many times and i don't think the ladies do get rejected as much as the guys do, the ladies do get rejected don't get me wrong but not as much. It's different times and for the last few years there is always ladies hitting on me and i like that but i am already taken so i do reject them but i do tell them why and i offer them a conversation and very few i became just friends with them.
guys easily by far, the burden of initiating or beginning an interaction, making the first move or asking someone out, has always been and probably will forever remain one-sided, i highly doubt we will ever live in a century or millenium in which women start making the first move or asking guys out in droves, masses, or just doing it just as much as guys, men do.
Obviously guys. Girls feel rejected if a guy doesn't get her passive hints, but you can't actually get rejected until you make a move and verbally ask someone out. So based on the insistence of girls wanting guys to ask them out, then statistically guys will be rejected more often than girls.
Guys definitely get rejected more and of course it would be great if more women would start the first conversation but for me it's not a big deal either way but I don't like a loud or pushy woman just the same as most women don't like guys that are too much
Well think about it. Guys traditionally ask women out. So guys probably ask women out 10 to 100 times more than women. So it's severely lopsided. But when you consider that women's standards are so much higher than guys. Guys probably accept percentage wise far more than women. So i'd say it's not even close guys get rejected tremendously more.
Guys are rejected more ofc... And I'd really like if a girl had the guts to ask. My ex herself asked me instead of me and i was really confused for some time but then i accepted and it lasted for some 4 years while we r still bffs... That's one of the things she taught me... Guts to do some things without overthinking
Guys get rejected far more because they make almost all of the first moves. Girls get 100 approaches for every 1 a guy gets no matter who he is. Just look at any social media site and see the hundreds of comments girl's pics get compared to guys.
As far as wanting to be approached. Not for me. I have never been attracted to any of the women who approached me. I'd rather choose who to approach.
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When I was a kid I asked two guys, both rejected me. When I was in high school, I tried my best to flirt and start conversations that didn't end anywhere or work out well.
I wasn't really hit on or approached by guys either.
Most of the guys that have given me attention have been those I have ended up dating.
Guys really because we do the asking when it comes to dates or relationships all girls have to decide is, if they will accept the guys offer to be there's or reject them in like anyway they choose but I will admit it they don't really reject harshly unless they were cruel or vicious
Pretty sure it's impossible to answer a question like that unless you "know it all" and in that case I won't even listen to you.
As for the other question, yes, it would be nice if women were more direct when they're interested in men, because when they start to drop hints it's often hard to understand whether they want to be more than friends or just friends, in my opinion.
Of course guys get rejected more, also on a percentage basis of all attempts. Women are welcome to make the first move. However, in my experience, many of them who do aren’t used to doing it and are clumsy about it
Guys, of course, because they initiate contact and ask girls out almost all the time. Girls don't really ask out guys nor initiate conversations nearly as much.
It use to be guys till guys realized they are the actual minority. And as of 2019 to present it's now guys who pick the other half. As there's like almost 3 to 4 women for every one man XD.
I did make the first move by writing a letter to ask one of my crush out in high school but I got rejects and one of my ask boyfriend ask me out but I rejected him since he was a cheater.
Do girls even approach to guys? :D You should ask this question first, %90 of women I know at least where I am living don't approach guys. Mostly men approach women and ask out, so ofcourse usually men gets rejected not women.
It has to be guys and by a massive margin. Guys are the ones who are most frequently tasked with approaching girls. I wonder what the ratio is 20:1 50:1 ?
Guys get rejected more, because they're (expected to be ) more active and ask a lot of girls to find one who say yes. Girls have more opportunities to choose from.
Its guys hands down. Girls always get the pick of the litter, that's why guys have to play the numbers game. The more girls they ask, the better the odds one girl will say yes.
I think guys get rejected way more than women. Traditionally men are the ones who ask women out. If that changes qje women start to ask guys out then things might even out.
Guys definitely get rejected more than women but I’m fine with women making the first move I always miss those passive, koi , subtle hints you girls give so I usually never make the first move
Is this a serious question? Men by a factor of a million. Yes, we like it when women ask us out.
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White guys get rejected the most by white girls going statistically despite cooking for them and being the ultimate sissies that could ever exist on the earth.
Green purple yellow blue hair, nose lip piercings, tattoos, gender studies degree, 450lbs, oppressed victim of some sort. Did I get any of those wrong? I had a good laugh from the comment though.
Girls are already chasing. Just not any guy. Rather the top 0,000001% of men on the planet. If girls started chasing the guy next door two things would sky-rocket: 1. instagram slut suicide rate and 2. Incelibate men getting sex.
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