Kinda hard. You're never a priority, they don't have time or freedom. And even if it works somehow, you still have to get along with the kid, because if you don't it's over anyway. And on the other hand, you could get attached to the kid but it doesn't work with the parent, and you wouldn't be able to see the kid anymore. Would I still try? Probably. But I know it's not easy.
When I was single... late teens, early to mid twenties and I had never been married before. No. I wouldn't never date a woman with kids from another man. I never would have dated a woman that had been married before either.
I am now married with a child. If I divorced or became a widower I'd now be a single dad who has been married before. I would now date one with kids.
No way. The last thing I want is being forced to deal with kids that aren’t mine. It doesn’t matter how he makes me feel as long as his ex will always keep coming back to destroy the relationship we have out of jealousy or by using the kids for that. If I ever become a single mom I’d date a single dad only if our kids become close friends but otherwise no thanks!
As I get older, I start to notice that that the amount of single women without kids around my age decreases. Right now I'd much rather and probably never date a girl that has kids. But in 10 years down the road when I'm 37, I'll probably have no choice and would get used to the concept in my head.
@t-8900 as a female, I wouldn't really have that option. I'm 25 now with no kids and will have my own business and home by the time I'm 28. Guys around that age already have kids usually.
I know it makes me sound like a jerk but I just don't want to be in a relationship where a kid (s) would be front and center. I think at this stage of my life I am entitled to be a little selfish.
Yes. And I did. Granted I was a single parent too. It's just a little more complicated because you have to make sure you all connect together instead of just the one connection.
Nope I'm not interested in hearing from an EX man who ditched her because she was crazy. No because in order... this is how it works... Baby 1st and it's not yours, 2nd her, 3rd food, 4th money and last 5th you. You are dead last.
Probably not, because I feel like I'm going to have to play a part in raising the kids, which isn't something I'd want to do, especially as I don't want my own either.
Neither do I want kids nor am I capable of looking after kids. Dating someone with kids then becomes a no for me. Moreover, once I'm in a relationship with this person there's the added pressure of whether the kids like or not; also if we break up it's also affecting the kids. Too much work for me.
Well, being divorced is a much bigger red flag than having kids. And her having kids is more of an inconvenience (for the guy) than a red flag.
Still, I would not date a woman who has kids. Because I don't even know if I want kids. And if I do, I'll make my own.
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I'm dating a guy that has 3 kids from a previous marriage. (She cheated on him multiple times.) He's everything I've ever wanted in a guy and I know I'd be a good step mom. 😂 I love kids.
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So no I have no problem dating a single dad. Shit happens, people have kids. Doesn't mean them or their kids are undeserving of the right kind of love.
its true! men valued a woman's virginity, still do. Why are their millionaires that pay hundreds of thousands or even millions of dollars for a virgin woman? Why does nobody commit to the average non-virgin girl these days? Lets face it, most guys deep down hold a resentment towards their women for getting smashed at night clubs.
Not a fukkin chance. For a LOT of reasons, but primarily cuz YOU will NEVER be their priority. The kids, their ex, their parents, and their job, will ALWAYS come before YOU.
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Kinda hard.
You're never a priority, they don't have time or freedom.
And even if it works somehow, you still have to get along with the kid, because if you don't it's over anyway.
And on the other hand, you could get attached to the kid but it doesn't work with the parent, and you wouldn't be able to see the kid anymore.
Would I still try? Probably. But I know it's not easy.
When I was single... late teens, early to mid twenties and I had never been married before. No. I wouldn't never date a woman with kids from another man. I never would have dated a woman that had been married before either.
I am now married with a child. If I divorced or became a widower I'd now be a single dad who has been married before. I would now date one with kids.
No way. The last thing I want is being forced to deal with kids that aren’t mine. It doesn’t matter how he makes me feel as long as his ex will always keep coming back to destroy the relationship we have out of jealousy or by using the kids for that. If I ever become a single mom I’d date a single dad only if our kids become close friends but otherwise no thanks!
Depends. Is the dad still active? Is he giving her issues?
The relationship side of things, and the kid (s) are rarely the issue. It's normally the baggage that is the issue.
As I get older, I start to notice that that the amount of single women without kids around my age decreases. Right now I'd much rather and probably never date a girl that has kids. But in 10 years down the road when I'm 37, I'll probably have no choice and would get used to the concept in my head.
no sir, build your fortune, save your money, build up your confidence, and you can find 23 year olds that would still take you.
@t-8900 as a female, I wouldn't really have that option. I'm 25 now with no kids and will have my own business and home by the time I'm 28. Guys around that age already have kids usually.
I know it makes me sound like a jerk but I just don't want to be in a relationship where a kid (s) would be front and center. I think at this stage of my life I am entitled to be a little selfish.
Yes. And I did. Granted I was a single parent too. It's just a little more complicated because you have to make sure you all connect together instead of just the one connection.
Nope I'm not interested in hearing from an EX man who ditched her because she was crazy. No because in order... this is how it works... Baby 1st and it's not yours, 2nd her, 3rd food, 4th money and last 5th you. You are dead last.
Some women's exs die or leave them bc they're bad people, not problems with her.
Probably not, because I feel like I'm going to have to play a part in raising the kids, which isn't something I'd want to do, especially as I don't want my own either.
Probably not, I don’t want to deal with their kids nor will I want to be seen as a mother figure.
Neither do I want kids nor am I capable of looking after kids.
Dating someone with kids then becomes a no for me. Moreover, once I'm in a relationship with this person there's the added pressure of whether the kids like or not; also if we break up it's also affecting the kids.
Too much work for me.
Depends.
Would mostly be a big minus, and a No usually.
Another guy will always be part of the relationship, and his parents. Rightfully so in many cases.
In these situations the guy will always come after the kid or kids. Understandable but unwanted in a long term relationship.
Well, being divorced is a much bigger red flag than having kids.
And her having kids is more of an inconvenience (for the guy) than a red flag.
Still, I would not date a woman who has kids. Because I don't even know if I want kids. And if I do, I'll make my own.
I'm dating a guy that has 3 kids from a previous marriage. (She cheated on him multiple times.) He's everything I've ever wanted in a guy and I know I'd be a good step mom. 😂 I love kids.
So no I have no problem dating a single dad. Shit happens, people have kids. Doesn't mean them or their kids are undeserving of the right kind of love.
Exactly
she obviously can't pick a good man or can't keep him or make good decisions. Also I don't want to be her next child support check.
Waiting for all the hate from women who can't accept reality, lol
its true! men valued a woman's virginity, still do. Why are their millionaires that pay hundreds of thousands or even millions of dollars for a virgin woman? Why does nobody commit to the average non-virgin girl these days? Lets face it, most guys deep down hold a resentment towards their women for getting smashed at night clubs.
Generally , if the person is young, then they won't be interested. But if the person is old such as 40+, they would be much more open minded to it.
A woman with kids still has her ex in her life. I have no need to deal with her kids daddy.
Plus, often kids resent a new man in their mother's life.
not true the dad may have died like mine.
@Lacianbmaci I'm sorry for your loss. But you are correct.
Not a fukkin chance. For a LOT of reasons, but primarily cuz YOU will NEVER be their priority. The kids, their ex, their parents, and their job, will ALWAYS come before YOU.
I dated single mothers before I had a kid. I still would. No kids is easier, but I always enjoyed the idea of a family, even if imjusta newcomer.
Honestly no Id get annoyed every time the mom was around honestly and they need to communicate so out of respect no kids I don’t want to deal with it.