Are women still single by age 35 "damaged goods"?

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Asking a question is not an opinion. Its just a question. Answer and stop being triggered.

Ladies pay close attention to guy responses. These are the guys choosing you on tinder and other dating apps. So dont attack me. This is an honest question and discussion that most women are not clued into. Do you as a woman have any clue what guys are saying to their buddies? Any idea why they are REALLY swiping left or right? Take notes ladies!

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Why am I not surprised by some of these comments on here? I started not to comment because I already know I'm going to get downvoted by men-

Nonetheless, I am going to answer this question in a mature, "non-triggered" manner.

So I'm 35, soon to be 36, and still single. I have been for over 12 years now. Mostly due to bad luck with guys and dating apps in the past, and living in a small town where dating sucks and there's no social scene... when I say no social scene, people's idea of "going out" in my city is going to Walmart! Yeah.

However when I tell people I'm still single, they instantly assume the problem is with ME, rather than looking at other potential factors.
Let's see: a 35 year old female with no kids, no ex drama, no disabilities or mental issues, is athletic and takes care of her body. Geeky, but can hold a conversation. Easy to get along with.

Yet she's single?

Guy logic: something must wrong with her, or she's ugly! 🙄

I'm not saying I'm a 10, but I think I'm "dateable." However, after years of trying and dealing with nonsense, I stopped trying. I'm not damaged. I just realized the older I get, the less tolerance I have for indecisive boys, not men, that don't want me.

Guys- stop being so presumptuous and going by a woman's age. My gosh, I'm 35 but could easily pass for my late 20s; early 30s!
A woman can be 35 and older and still VERY attractive and dateable! Rather than make assumptions, why not talk or get to know her first? Then you can judge why a woman... or anyone really, is single.

I'm not asking y'all to like or agree with me; I'm just stating my opinion on the matter based on my experience. Take from it what you will.

modelUN242 · Accepted Answer

Yes, in most cultures, women should be married by 25. If not, we assume something is wrong with them.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

As a guy, this is similar to the type of question we chat about in the pub etc ( when we could get in one)

the pretty much unanimous result over I don’t know 10 years or so, is not one really cares about the age of a woman.

everyone very much cares about how she is as a person, how she acts, her personality etc.

this is reflected by the numbers of women sorting careers first, ones where they actually have careers without a guy holding them back.

apart from that when out for a night out and you spot a lovely looking woman, you check her finger for a ring, then try and see an opening to chat to her. At no point do you do an age check, she could be anywhere between 25 and 45.

as a guy do we really get concerned if she’s lovely fun to chat to and she’s 30, 35 or even heaven for bid 40.

nope it’s the person that counts.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

So I checked the comments and there's about seven pieces of shit that of course subscribe to your bullshit ideas, and that should be no surprise really, and that is consistent with the current rate of the poll which is less than 30%

So again, these are just seven people, that do not represent the whole GaG community and certainly not the men as a whole... just seven, certified pieces of compost like yourself, and it's almost a given that they are not the men choosing women either, they're the easily discarded masses of waste on any app, I am sure, and life too.

So take notes Apope, this is your crowd, this what you attract and this is what you cater to... the lowest of the scum among those who call themselves, men.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

You're 33 and single, so you must be damaged goods by your own standards then, right🤣...
And see, this the problem with dating, treating people like goods with an expiration date instead of just people...
And funny, you say this is how guys feel but my divorced oldest sister (54) just started dating someone within the last 6 months and they're currently in the process of moving in together, so🤔I guess not ALL guys prescribe to that theory...
Oh and FYI-people aren't triggered just because they don't agree with you or share your beliefs, that's not the definition of triggered🤷🏼‍♀️
But you'll say I'm "triggered"🤣

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

Not sure how they're considered damaged. If you say it's by looks, well I am not sure that holds true 100% of the time. I am 41 and I still consistently get clocked to be between 25-30.

I think you also need to take into consideration the age of the other person looking. I know guys tend to have fantasies about being with the young college co-ed but the reality is that is most likely not going to happen if they are looking on a dating app already. If it does happen, then that guy is either incredibly handsome or is easy to part with money.

If a guy is legit looking for a relationship and not just a sex buddy then he is only doing himself a disservice by limiting his pool that way.

crazyish · Answer

'Damaged goods' don't get damaged by themselves, you arleady know that and are too old to play the ignorant card.

Honestly this is all compleyely and utterly disturbing. The fact that both men and women have genuinely been trying to rationalize and explain why this is true or not is what is wrong with society. Not one person found the real absurdity of this question, the fact that we as a society have based a female's worth off of her relationship status to a man. And going even further to say that a woman is damaged in anyway because a man is missing from her life by the time she is 35. Which in turn is also her fault because women desperately need men, so it stands to reason that it's because no man wants her due to something being wrong with her. Like what in the actual fuck?

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

A woman shouldn’t be concerned about whether thousands of men view her as damaged good or not. It’s all about coming across one genuine man who will set the record straight that he values her time and who she is as a person. Damaged goods to me is a man who slept/sleeps with multiple women and identifies himself as an alpha male or “high value”.

DevilsAdvocator · Answer

Pretty much everyone in this world's going to be 'damaged goods' by the age of 35, regardless of their gender or relationship status.

Because unless you're incredibly privileged and sheltered, there's no way that you won't have experienced or witnessed some bad shit by that age, stuff that'll have damaged your soul/psyche in some way. And if you're as sheltered and over-privileged as that, then all that entitlement and naivety's gonna be deeply ingrained enough for you to be guaranteed to be damaged goods anyway, just in a different way. That's just the human condition- no escaping it.

queenish_ · Answer

No it could simply mean she was probably focused on building up herself or she just hasn't meant the right one yet or she's independent and doesn't see the need for an intimate relationship💁🏾‍♀️

dandiecandie · Answer

Before you ask a question as such you should define what damaged goods means to you. I think everyone has a different perception of damaged goods. I dont think the age is an indication of damaged goods I think the age is an indication that her egg count may decrease and she's most likely looking for sm serious. Whether or not she is damaged or just hasn't met her match its something that needs to be explored by the individual. At the end of the day no body in this world is perfect so we are all damaged. I think it depends on the compatibility rather than the weaknesses of a person.

Craftsman · Answer

The idea of "damaged" is by far too negative for me to consider. It implies that something is wrong, something is missing. In my experience women, and men for that matter, who are single after any arbitrary age are single for a reason, and often that reason is well thought out, and the result of some choices.
Women who have placed a career as more important than a relationship have every right to do decide that. It is not a sign of damage. Rather, it is stating a choice that is made to fulfil a dream, a hope, or a life plan. I've known women who simply do not place that much value on relationships, and avoid them as being too demanding, burdensome, and often don't fill the need for self-actualization. There are other reasons for single-ness, and I'll leave those for others who have a better grasp on them than do I.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I personally don’t think so.

I think the last two years I’ve preferred to date women who are a bit older than me because more likely to be more mature than younger or my age. I don’t think they are damaged in the sense like undesirable or something.

I prefer to evaluate why the person is single at the moment as if after certain age we should just grab any person who is okay and just commit their lives to them immediately. I think it’s a matter of understanding than assumption.

Perhaps she just got out of a relationship, been focusing on her career and personal goals, didn’t have much luck in the dating department, limited by the population, etc. I can go on and on.

I prefer to get the answer from a conversation, people usually tell you about themselves whether they know it or not, it’s about paying attention to things and asking questions then making a decision.

StephanieL · Answer

There are so many different reasons why women are still single at 35 so to me this is again way too one sided how you state this question. I have been single for a very long time until recently. I never felt like damaged goods because emotionally I felt better staying single and having fun. Some women I know forced themselves into staying in a relationship that while they were clearly not ready for it.

I do notice the typical dudes at the bar talking about me like 'damaged goods'. The only reason they can find for calling me that is always the same: I've been single yet sexually active for more years which means more cocks have been inside me. It would hurt their ego too much to have a relationship with a girl more guys fucked then they would like, yet it didn't hold them back from also putting their meat in me. I'll never get this but some guys make a really big deal about a number of cocks. It's a little pathetic honestly.

hydralicride · Answer

Life focuses have changed. There was a time when a females focus was marriage and children. That is no longer the case. Women are seeking careers and financial control of their lives. Monogamy appears to be a thing of the past. How many of us have told our daughters to get an education and a good job before taking a mate. So, I don't think of females in the 35 age bracket as damaged goods. More than likely, marriage has been put on the back burner until now. They are probably just not as interested in a permanent commitment as women have been in the past.

HawkPerception · Answer

Good question man and the poll results are a good indicator of what guys really think in my opinion. I myself would date even a 40 year old if she had the traits I like in a girl. Age does affect your appearance quite a bit, but you can still be very attractive. The main thing that draws men to women is ALWAYS their personality. As long as you are average looking, you could still be a 10 in being "desired" for most men if you have a great personality.

Women are only damaged goods if everyone has easy access in between their legs. Everyone makes mistakes. As long as the girl has the intention for a lasting relationship in all or most of her relationships, she has solid enough values for me to respect.

monkeynutts · Answer

My age bracket is about 33 to 45, it would take something very unusual to date a woman outside this target group, but unfortunately women in these groups not all of them have been damaged, and often it’s by men, and often poor choices, drugs and alcohol, or influenced by others to make them not very compatible with me, or just fucking crazy. Which I’m not a big fan of anymore either. I think the key problem is expectation, people have a narrow view of what they want, so that’s why dating is difficult.

MzAsh · Answer

Ladies. Consider the sources on this one and keep a very critical eye on what men say vs what they’ll actually do.

The_Maphio · Answer

If they are 35 years virgins they are either extremely religious (dodge) or their heads belong in Disneyland with its Blue Princes and whatnot (dodge).
If they have had experiences and are single at 35, they might be emotionally scarred and NEVER lose a chance to make you know (dodge) or have extra weight attached (children or debts from previous stories, dodge), or just being plain insufferable (obviously dodge).
If they are political activists, dodge even if they are 20.

Tukindz · Answer

"damaged goods", no not unless they have trauma they STILL haven't dealt with.
If they have kids. Have never had a serious relationship. Or have slept with too many people.

It's not so much the age it's the experiences she's chosen in those years that is damaging.

I will say though, at 35 if a man is looking to have kids, a stable home, and a wife that will give him peace at home, he's not going to be looking at 35 year olds. 25 sure.

exitseven · Answer

A lot of women put career ahead of relationships until they are older. By the time they are 35 they have a lot of experience in a lot of different things and are past all the games and stupid shit that girls do when they are young. They are not damaged goods.

Justneedtokno · Answer

No I don’t think women are damaged goods for not being married or having kids by 35. We get looked at as being damaged good. I have heard a guy say that if she don’t have any kids or is it Married by 30 something isn’t right with her.
It’s never about the woman getting herself together Financially or focusing on herself Because she’s been through something Or making herself better to become a good wife or mother one day.

JSmuve · Answer

No, I wouldn't say they're damaged goods. There could be a lot of reasons why she's single at 35 that doesn't have to do with a damaged personality. Just like there's lots of reasons why a woman with a damaged personality is in a relationship. I don't think age defines whether someone is damaged.

Ace_Chidorigafuchi · Answer

No way. If she doesn't lie about having a kid or two when you meet, then experience is nothing but good baby girl!

A man can handle a woman with experience and curves. A boy typically will be self-conscious of his cock size if he thinks she's experienced.

This is the critical difference. Esteem & Respect. But that respect aside, getting nasty in the bedroom is appreciated probably by both sides. Feel each other out.

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