Are women in their mid 20s classified as “expired”?

Question

I’m 24, 25 this year. I have no boyfriend and never actually had one, at least not an official one. I’ve had a few guys stick around for a few years but just completely broke me but I’ve moved on!
I’m quite traditional, I want to get married, have kids and all that. I’m extremely honest and straightforward, a lot of people are usually intimidated by me especially if they don’t know me (so I’ve been told)
I speak up when something isn’t right and im always trying to help people etc.

I just don’t understand why no one wants me.
Today I heard a guy at work say I’m “expired”.
Humiliated and just depressing to hear honestly.

I can’t even date because guys just want to sleep with me and that’s all. And not to be up myself, I have a great body/shape which I can’t help but feel like it’s actually a disadvantage for me because I just get sexualised.

I just can’t grasp what’s wrong. I literally live with everything in me…

I bake for the guys I like, I’m always so into their hobbies, I give so much so they feel loved and cared about.

Now, I just have guys from my past, and their friends, constantly stalking me on social media…

I almost just feel like not only giving up looking for a romantic relationship but just giving up on life itself. I’ve been beyond broken by men and renting they say… like this especially. What’s the point I try if I’m seen as expired…

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

I originally assumed this was somebody asking this to be a jerk. This was not what I was expecting to read. I'm so sorry things have been so hard for you dating and finding the right guy.

It's absurd to think a woman expires in their mid 20's. There is no decent guy in the world who believes that. Its ridiculous.

It seem to really have gotten to you. It's just some stupid bullshit.

You sound like a wonderful person, and like you would be an amazing girlfriend and wife for the right guy.

I will say that there's one thing that stood out to me (well several things, but this one slapped me).

"I bake for the guys I like, I’m always so into their hobbies, I give so much so they feel loved and cared about."

Do those guys do the same for you?

(forget the baking, the other two).

Please don't give up. You sound like a great catch for the right guy. You need them to be willing to work as hard as you do to make the other person happy. 🙂

BarryLiverstone · Accepted Answer

If you act expired. How often do you go out with your friends?

Finchie40 · Answer

You’re in your prime , so you are just falling for the wrong guys’ and that’s why you are having issues in the dating world , try to think outside your box and try meeting a guy that is different then what you are use to , Have you ever dated someone older than you? Like a guy in his late 30’s or mid 40’s? Most older guys’ want to settle down and meet a beautiful younger girl that values relationships, Guys’ your age are mainly just thinking with their dicks and nothing else , I was that age once and I know how I was and other guys’ my age were at that age as well. So you are probably better off finding yourself an older guy that is looking for a girl to settle down with. I am 47 and I dated girls’ your age because they loved how I treated them and respected them and most importantly listened to them. Most Guys’ your age aren’t listening to you , they are just trying to get into your pants period and if they don’t get into your pants they run to someone else. Most of us older guys’ not all but most don’t do that to a girl that we want by our side

DishLady · Answer

Wow. So instead of thinking that this ONE GUY was a POS you presumed you're expired? Are you a grapefruit or canned good? No. Come on...

Lliam · Answer

Expired? LOL. That's absurd.
I remember when I was your age and thought that people over 30 were old. Then I grew up.
Before I got married, the two best girlfriends I ever had were in their early 30s.

I was 40 and my wife was 37 when we met. She was definitely not expired.

Some women are hot af all the way into their 50s. To prove it, look up hot female celebrities over 40
https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-body/pictures/hottest-celebs-over-40-20121511/

And guys who think a woman has to be between 18 and 23 to have babies, are immature imbeciles who actually just want a woman with no sexual experience and no life experience. They want to mold her and control her.

According many experts, the ideal age for women to have babies in between the ages of 27 and their early 30s.

I was born in 1954 when my mom was 30. She had my sister three years later.
There is a lady here on GAG who is 45 and 8 months pregnant.

Know this. Most guys your age aren't ready for marriage.
I had long-term, infatuated relationships with girlfriends from the time I was 16. But I had no interest in marriage or kids. The relationships were wonderful, I wouldn't trade them for the world, but I would have made a terrible husband.

It wasn't until my early 30s that I started thinking about finding a life-long partner and settling down. Even then, I had a couple more long-term relationships and even lived with one woman for almost two years before I found the person I felt I could spend the rest of my life with.

Instead of eating your heart out, wasting your life, and feeling lonely and unwanted, I advise you to go on dates. When you find a guy who wants a relationship and not just a hook up, go for it. Indulge in infatuation and ecstatic sex. Learn about life.
If he doesn't turn out to be the guy you can spend the rest of your life with, rinse and repeat until you do find the right guy. And you WILL find the right guy eventually.

It's like, you have to live in some apartments at first, even if they are not your dream house. You may eventually get your dream house but, in the meantime, you need to learn to live on your own, learn to like yourself, and have fun living life.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Interesting read. No, mid 20’s women are not expired. From a reproductive context you are or already have crest your reproductive zenith but that is where that story ends. You are certainly still fertile for quite a bit longer. It just means the ease by which you can become pregnant lessens moving forward.

The under 25 crowd who spend their days in front of their digital devices seem to believe anyone older is ancient. Because who they follow online tells them so … their brains are tractable. Meaning, they are easily influenced by what they watch online. This goes for both men and women. The online world both exist within seems to make them bitter brats. Mean while, those of us who have a live beyond our digital device and actually engage face to face with actual humans outside of our homes tend to be far more socially grounded. You also notice that what is being claimed online isn’t necessarily accurate when going outside into the world. I live and work in a small tourist town surrounded by a few very large metropolitan areas and see all sorts of couples and dynamics which fly in the face of what is claimed to never happen or exist when couples dynamics are talked about online. Online is a goofy world. Those guys in your sphere seem to spend a lot of time watching the content about women to make themselves feel better about their lousy relationship success (no taking accountability on their part) and because you are likely their lone accessible target, they dump their rhetoric on you. I have seen the content floating around from both sides. I’ll be candid, some is amusing and some has merit. However, a large portion of it from both sexes is purely divisional hate rhetoric. Personally, I’d sever ties with those guys you mentioned. It isn’t doing your spirits any good. The biggest extreme that helps some people is moving away entirely and finding some place else to feels more suiting to your being. Frankly I think that is why my little mountain town is so popular … it definitely draws in a broad spectrum of people from various walks of life who feel a lot more at home here.

Point is, you are not expired.

FreyaRed · Answer

That's a belittling tactic that should hurt your ego. It's male version of suggesting a boy he might have a small PP. Of course it's BS but if there is a small fluke in insecurity this will cause doubts and this is the reason behind such hostile suggestions.
There is certain type of feminine beauty that fades out in 20ties, this is the type of teen Lolita. It's attractive for males with pedophile tendencies, majority of girls don't have this specific type or appearance. With "great body" you could have a face of a old witch and you will find guys who will follow you like hungry dogs a juicy ham. That's why this expiration theory of some guys who want hurt your ego is completely not sustainable as long as you don't physically neglect yourself or you don't abuse substances like heroin which will make you appear 50 year old in two months.

Personally it think you're projecting lack of having a good relationships with guys on your personal appearance. Such projection goes often that far, people who are attractive see themselves as ugly. But then they notice a cognitive dissonance between their self estimated physical value and reaction of third persons on their appearience. Like it seems you do.
Listen, quality of your partners isn't in any mean a measurement for your quality in the same way like lack of a partner doesn't mean lack of your quality.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

"it’s actually a disadvantage for me because I just get sexualised." It clearly is a disadvantage, I've seen this case before, or put differently, it gives you an incentive or should I say duty to select people much more fiercely than on average. Which is tedious, but necessary. Necessary for all of us anyway, but even more in your case "I bake for the guys I like, I’m always so into their hobbies, I give so much so they feel loved and cared about. And that is related to the duty to select I talked about above :  Your understanding of reciprocity matters more than your involvement here. Reciprocity. Bake for them when they bake for you, be into their hobbies when they are into yours. Love and care for someone who loves and cares for you. Without this proportionate reciprocity, you can only burn yourself. With you reciprocating fairly and proportionately, people you'll meet and engage with will be different, definitely more rare, but much more pleasant. And with a bit of luck, fulfilling.  Good luck 🍀

lightbulb27 · Answer

No. Be careful of one idiot wounding you with his senseless projection. I've seen women married first time in 30's, 40's, 50's. And have kids well into 40's. No, you are not expired you aren't even at your prime yet.

It was frustrating for me at that age as well, you not only one... and I was hot as heck. Just kidding... I wasn't.

You sound like a good person and similar to my wife, but that makes you an oddball... not playing the "feminine" manipulation and coercion games so many others play.

You'll have to go looking in other areas for a quality guy, finding the few mature ones or ones you are willing to work with to help mature.

Welcome to the frustration of the western mating world.

Working on you emotionally: I gave up dating in my 20's as you are thinking and just enjoyed life. In reality, I was avoiding dealing with my deepest issues. In hindsight, I'd have tried, sufferred, gone into therapy and worked out the "demons early, so I could be freeer sooner. Live and learn. Ignoring your own problems and growth is a strategy of avoidance. there's a lot you can and will have to learn to find mate, raise kids, and grow in life. might as well keep learning. But heal up first and do some work.

Stotch · Answer

Okay, so just from reading your story and comments I am 75% sure that you are an young Asian woman living in New Zealand are you not?

And your question does not seem to be 'Am I expired', but, how do I find a partner when I have high standards and seemingly they do too?

What you need to do is know yourself and find the complement to that so you'll know what kind of man to look for.

Almost everything I read about you screams multiple passive personalities without seeing much active ones, if any, very feminine, so you must be looking for a manly man.

If you are the type of woman who almost always look at the bright side of life, then those mean men you have met are for you, so that you two would balance things out, but so far you don't seem to be that type of woman?

If you often need the touch of a man then those men who constantly try talking sex are for you, but you don't seem to be that type of woman?

If you're always into a man's hobbies then I'm going to think that you are a curious woman and the complement of that is a wise man. So if you look for men online and put up a dating profile, say that you like men who like to be a bit of a know-it-all and who likes to be the person one would seek for guidance.

If you're extremely honest and straightforward... you could be attracted to humorous persons, since they often are dishonest for a second, but in a harmless way, so find a man who has a good sense of humor as well.

Then you say that you are looking for a romantic relationship, so write down that he must be romantic as well and that you are a comforting and caring person.

Of those three that stand out from just your text, you must figure out what you are the most and I'm going to assume that you are a caring person first, so a romantic man is what you are looking for first and foremost and the type of man that will make you happy.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Your not expired , not until your dust in the wind or 6ft under.. at least from my perspective.

From how you describe yourself I honestly feel a little lost at why you’re NOT in a relationship , not that there is anything wrong with choosing to be single, with the choice of cretin you seem to have I can perfectly understand you choosing such.

What troubles me a little is how or why you have taken their stupid , insensitive and thoughtless comments to heart ?

Simply put , if you choose to feel defeated then you are ! .. go out and seek the “man” you want , I assure you he does exist. Just ignore these porn addicted self obsessed monkey-brained cretins and all their opinions and be kind to yourself.

You ! , are enough and like more besides. Don’t give up !

ZephyrFluer · Answer

Yeah they're expired, yuck 🤢.

Im kidding! Of course not.

Girls in their 20s to 50s are my personal range of potential partners to find in a romantic date. As I am a young adult, I find girls older than me much more attractive than the ones my age.

As a traditional man, I really feel you. Last girlfriend of mine was turned off when she knew I was having a relationship to marry. I was hurt and demeaned of what I stand for.

I am also pretty good at the work I do, and a former swimming athlete, so I have a pretty great bod. But since my last girlfriend, I never seem to find another girl.

So yeah, you just have to find the right guy through effort and luck.

natured · Answer

Don't be so hard on yourself, I'm 10 years older than you and I'm DEFENETLY not expired, We will never expire how do people even use that on a person...
It's embarrasing honestly...
You focus on yourself, love yourself more that is the only love that will matter in your life, and you will attract the best Man that is out there.. but in the meantime, love yourself and enjoy life.
YOU ARE NOT EXPIRED !!! Those Eggs in my shelves are expired hear me? NOT YOU NOT ME none of us

Vevv123 · Answer

That's horrible. You are absolutely not "expired." I'm sorry you had to go through that. You have the right mindset, many people are more inclined to pursue their own lustful desires rather than seek out someone they are compatible with and want to spend the rest of their lives with. I understand your disappointment, but believe me sometimes the best outcomes won't have the easiest paths.

Also, you keep worrying about being "expired", however the right man will not ever think of you as expired regardless of your age. The guy who said that will come to face the harsh reality of his own skewed, narrow-minded perspective soon if that's the way he thinks about women and people in general.

silvermoon84 · Answer

Wait until you get to be my age, you get called all sorts of things: old, used up, expired, worthless, damaged goods, to name a few. It’s true fertility does declined at a certain age for women (usually in your 30’s), but it doesn’t make you “expired” at all. You just lose your ability to have kids, but you don’t have to have kids to find love.

And also love doesn’t have an age limit. So many of my friends didn’t actually find their true love until they were 35 and over.

Unfortunately men who think like that guy are out there and many will go out of their way to make sure we know what they think of us, but we don’t to agree with them. When you encounter men like that, ignore it. There are plenty of guys out there who will date you.

Miristheiss · Answer

No. I expect the good ones, the wise ones, the feminine ones to already be in relationships. If she is 25/26 and still single I'm going assume she's had a lot of sex, prioritizes career over family and is a feminist (women are "oppressed, pro sexual revolution and sexual empowerment, career first, live it up, casual sex, party, travel, I'll settle down close to age 30).

If she is even remotely attractive and wants a family, doesn't have sex with guys before they'll marry her... she would already be married or in a long term relationship.

Basically, the feminist lies are the overwhelming accepted blueprint in the west and 90% of the women probably follow its teachings.

Shiprex · Answer

Sorry to hear that you feel devalued by some obnoxious twit you work with.

I can assure you, you're not expired (that fool's opinion should be though) only stuck in a rut of being seen only as a conquest for boys. Look for men who've made something to be worthy of you and your time. It's a time of selfishness these days and connection isn't high on too many folks priorities

There are men out there who share your life goals and aspirations. It's not intimidating but can be challenging for men to be with outspoken women. Maybe stopping yourself and be reserved so your true personality isn't so in their face could net you someone who will make you want to be able to flourish with you.

Staximus · Answer

First of all you need to relax and chill the fuck out with all this overthinking nonsense. You're still young. Stop listening to idiots and just live your life. You're thinking too much about a bunch of bullshit that doesn't matter. Stop living inside your own head. Relax and stop putting too much mustard on the goddamned hot dog of life. Find a good guy that wants to do more with you than just have sex. It's not going to happen magically, it's going to take time. You're going to have to filter through some fuck boys.

NoDecision · Answer

Well if you are "expired", then you are in good company with me. My advice is to take a breather and work on yourself. Go on a fast from any dating and get your head on straight and all your ducks in a row first. If all this stuff going on is making you bummed out, it is not worth continuing with it, at least for the time being.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I'm 25 & I wouldn't even consider myself as being old. I feel young & still am young. Even at 30 I'd say that's young, maybe not as young, but still young.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

not my experience... men still hit on me... :D

glennos89 · Answer

You aren't expired at all! The guy who said that was a jerk and you shouldn't believe him at all.

But I do wanne let you know that you should avoid waiting for many more years because being a woman, the best chances of getting a healthy child born is when you do that before age 35

molonski2 · Answer

25 is hardly expired , its prime..

You want to face expiry wait till menopause , or early perimenopause..

Just focus on yourself , your diet , your fitness , you are young , get out there guys will come and go , keep it selfish , and focus on health.

jshm2 · Answer

He means your "trad girl" ideals are expired at their level.

You just need to get a better taste in men, is all. You're going for "ghetto bro's," "White trailer trash" and "beaner sabos" among other dregs of make society.

You need to aim better to get better.

OneViewpoint · Answer

LOL, no you are not expired. Not even close. You're hanging around the wrong men. Stop caring what other people think. Know your value. Stick to your principles.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m 31 no boyfriend/ never had one either. Girl you’re fine. Some girls actually prefer being single.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Expired at 25 😂 You’re barely legal Stop stressing about it  It will all sound ridiculous in 10 years, and in 20, and in 30

kaucky1 · Answer

Just be ageless not let numbers overpower you there's only coule good numbers 69& 420

Manuelwe · Answer

By then she is like a second or hundred hand car. The good ones have only one owner. Some are rentals. But most looking for a new owner.
As for the state of the pussy it used be ready for good work. Like the rest of her body, if she is free and looking for new owner

DrPepper12 · Answer

First You are not expired!

Second, take a break. Walk away. Do you. Be you. Time to shake things up and try new things solo or with the girls. Get uncomfortable. Be vulnerable to new experiences. You'll thank yourself.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Thats ridiculous.

I'm almost 40 and I'm still in my prime, why the hell would you be expired when in your mid twenties?

Finding love is just hard because compatibility matters, goals matter, preferences in looks vary, etc.

Gwendoline · Answer

No but you are at the age where you should be thinking about finding a guy to settle down with

MrChinaski · Answer

I know nothing about you at all other than you are an excellent baker. But women's dating capital peaks around 24-25, according to fairly unscientific surveys, and remains high into their 30s. You are very, very far from being expired.

slatyb · Answer

No, that's ridiculous. Plenty of men would be happy to date you, but there are certain groups like evangelical Christians where the 20-something men prefer teenagers because they don't talk back.

Surely · Answer

You sound like a very desirable woman. You must be getting friend zoned by the guys that you date. As for being expired. You are Not!

abutaher · Answer

Just wait. Something greater is just about to happen in your life...

DryGermanGuy · Answer

You probably need a change of scenery. If you do all you wrote you do and this is the result, I doubt it’s getting better by itself. 🤔

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nah, that is just getting started.

HighlyQuestionable · Answer

You are most definitely not "expired', no one is until they completely give up on finding love. But, some people have age-range interests when starting a relationship.

justarandomperson_55 · Answer

"Expired?" I have heard it before somewhere, and I then and now feel the same about this naming; it's disrespectful, and if someone tells this to someone, I would expect them to just punch the one who is saying it.

Anonymous · Answer

I will also be turning 26, and unfortunately, we are now in the category of women whose expiration date has passed for men. 😏

oldpigg · Answer

Women completely expire at 30, although at 25 they no longer have half the value they had at 18.

Becky93 · Answer

That just one way for men to control women through fear.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Lol surely it's after 30 or definitely by 35-38 surely?

Tstrbrainer · Answer

No, they are not. You are still young and if you want to get married, it's a great time, provided you have everything else like education or career taken care of.

Just look for men seeking marriage like in matrimony apps

LiamS95 · Answer

You sound pretty perfect to me and definitely not expired.

Twalli · Answer

I've heard that single girls are desirable until they pass 30. 25 is new, I think they're lying. I don't have an age limit, but then I don't want kids, so age is not an issue for me.

blackeagle007 · Answer

Face it, we are past the days of traditional living. Costs of living is sky high everywhere. It’s 50-50 now. I personally don’t want to be a bread winner, let alone want kids

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Expired goods can be recycled. Where's the problem?

exitseven · Answer

No, they are just starting to get interesting.

Anonymous · Answer

You're not "expired". You're in your prime. And it sounds like you are an amazing catch for a good man. I think you've just had a string of bad luck. Don't stop trying.

zagor · Answer

Keep yourself healthy and fit. A lot of women look good way past their 20's. Others drink and smoke and eat themselves ugly by 25.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Women don’t ever “expire.” The people who say things like that are just stupid assholes

Danael31 · Answer

Nah, you're not "expired" at all. And don't feel ashamed or anything for not having a boyfriend. Just wait and eventually you will meet the right people.

OddBeMe · Answer

Uh no. You’re focused on the wrong stat. Skills, intellect being funny, meeting people.

jahaims · Answer

You are bad at reading people so you select incompatible guys

Anonymous · Answer

I know exactly how you feel Scarlet Johansson won't give me the time of day. We're in the same situation hun.

fish5505_87 · Answer

Jesus, I hope not, what the hell is my wife!

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

No. I'd say it begins about the mid-forties.

sawno · Answer

No, 25 is still your prime.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

You sound perfect.

Avicenna · Answer

LMAO, NO!

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