Boyfriend gets anxious when I’m with my girlfriends? I’m BI?

[Anonymous]

Is it cause he thinks I’ll fuck them or whatever? He texts constantly and calls when im out with my girlfriends and says gets suspicious each time that I take longer to reply.

[friendzoned4life]

He doesn't trust you did you ever cheat him before? If not he probably been cheated on by his last girlfriend.

Talk about it with him maybe hang out sometime with him and some of the Girls so he can see it's Just friendship.

I got cheated on in the past I lost faith in all of humanity didn't trust anyone anymore. The girl portrayed herself as a sweet lovable girl. Marriage material in my eyes. She cheated on me with the guy she had rejected 20 times before.

I had never been anything but loyal to her it was a long distance relationship she had a Christmass Ball at school i was 3 years older and had an internship. So I couldn't come to the Ball when she asked the guy kissed her and she went along with it. A friend of hers had to pull her off. she was the only thing keeping from suïcide what I was thinking of a lot thanks to bullies so my whole world collapsed when she cheated.

Maybe he has had a similair experience with a previous girl maybe he has or had bullies. Maybe you are the only thing in his life keeping him from going insane.

So my advice Just talk to him about it. He maybe doesn't even realise he does it.
a lot of men are broken these days.
Male suicide rates are going up so Just talk about it. I Can see from your question he is really afraid of losing you if you can find the reason you can find the cure.

[TheSpaceGnome]

It's probably that he thinks you will fuck them, it's a valid fear, but one that would only exist if you gave him reason to think you wanted to fuck your friends (like it or not, getting along with them, them being single, and you being bi is usually enough reason) and on top of that he didn't want in on it or was afraid of std risk with people he doesn't know well.

Tbh dating bi women is difficult, a guy is always left thinking "what if she dumps me to date a woman so she doesn't have to worry about unplanned pregnancy?" after that the guy is left with either trying to find another woman among her friends that you both like so it's a sustainable threesome (ie having both girls as his gfs so they can also screw eachother without dumping him - instead of losing a girlfriend to the other girl), or deciding to leave and be with someone who only wants him.

People want to feel secure in relationships. He doesn't feel secure, so is there anything you can do or say to change that?

[Asker]

I’m bi but that doesn’t mean I can’t control myself around other women, especially friends. He has no reason to distrust me and he knows I’m the loyal type, but I do see myself going back to women should we decide to end things, but right now we’re good if only he would stop being paranoid!!

[TheSpaceGnome]

Your last sentence about going back to women is why he is paranoid, I'm not suggesting you aren't loyal, but you do need to prove that to him and it will take some time.

Just let him be nervous for a bit, comfort him when he is suspicious and try to not take it personally as if it were an insult of some kind. Take it as him being genuinly worried he will lose you because he loves you.

People act dumb when they are scared. If you expect complete trust early on, no man or woman will ever please you.

[Asker]

I try doing the right thing and he knows that I’m trustworthy.

[BlacklightShade]

Do your girlfriends carry guns and are part of some violent militias?

[JosyJosy]

Talk to him about it, find out why it worries him so much

[The_Maphio]

Did you ever have behaviours that gave him the idea that you could be entertaining some "extra couple relationships"?
If no, he's just paranoid. But you'll never hear the end of it.
If yes, he's paranoid, and rightfully so.
You need to have a long, meaningful chat about the matter. Alone. In person.

[WesBrewer]

He’s clingy and thinks you’ll cheat while your out.

[Asker]

No shit lol

[lpoots]

this a rhetorical question

[Asker]

Nope.

[fred_durst]

dump him , he doesn't deserve you

[jonnyjhb]

Find out why he feels insecure