How to cope with being an ugly Asian girl?

[sarahemilyyy]

I'm specifically saying Asian cause at least "below average" caucasian girls in west world will be deemed as still attractive in many parts of Asia (caucasian = european descent, middle eastern, arab, indians, etc..) Provided that they aren't obese or overweight. Aesthetically being an Asian, South east Asian, is difficult. Your facial features aren't as pretty. It's conventional to think that Asian girls aren't as attractive. Being an already unattractive Asian girl means I'm below average in Europe or west world altogether. Probably in whole wide world. I'm not overweight, not obese, have a bit of a curvy body, I'm skinny, but my face is still not attractive... Believe me an average caucasian girl is prettier than me... I feel so pathetic knowing why I'm always single


To those who say that look doesn't matter, you're wrong. Look does matter. In my case, in Asian countries people worship caucasian people because of beauty.

[MCheetah]

1. You're not unattractive. Not even ugly.
2. You can easily look "hot." It's called makeup.
3. There's not much you need to change to the way you want to look. Your only real "flaw" are your eyebrows, and they're easily fixable.
4. Save up some money and go to a beauty salon and get a makeover.
5. I know you're not Western, so you're basing your opinions on the pop culture media and social media. Real white girls aren't as automatically pretty as you think.
6. There's also less "not obese or overweight" girls than you think. (Not that I have an issue with that; just saying.)
7. There's more than men pay attention to than just a woman's face, even of you want to just stick to looks. If you're really desperate, a $2,000 boob job would change your life.
8. Speaking of personality, that also means a lot. Plenty of girls aren't "hot" but still get laid a lot based on their personality.
9. Even a 5 out of 10 girl will have hundreds of times more luck with dating than a 7 out of 10 guy. No woman alive who doesn't look like a man or disfigured, can ever "always be single" not by choice.
10. Finally, you're basing your standards on BS *OTHER* people have put in your head. I literally spent my whole twenties doing that. I'm only 180 cm in height; that literally makes me un-f*cking-dateable where I'm from. Being short is the Kiss of Death for men where I'm from. That's not even taking into account I'm dark skinned, which is almost as bad. I was depressed for a while because of it until I realized that people are assholes, and the world we live in sucks. YOUR happiness should not be dependent on others. Just saying; I learned this the hard way.

[sarahemilyyy]

180cm is considered tall worldwide unless you're in the netherland.

I'm very emotional... I just think that globally there's no justice for Asian women who are born with generic Asian features to be in beauty..

[MCheetah]

No; it's short as f*ck in the US and most of northern Europe, especially The Netherlands. Even if people don't use that word, it's still not at all attractive to most women from those places. Probably like 90% of them. Women don't want men their height, close to it, or under it. Like I said.

As I suggested to you, you just need a very basic makeover. Have you tried makeup yet? You can't call in the towel if you haven't even tried it. And you can't say there are no models that are Asian, because lots of Asian models exist out there. In fact, realistically speaking, only China (and North Korea), Thailand, and Malaysia have the kind of "unattractive" beauty standards you're implying. South Koreans and Japanese girls are considered hot around the world.

[sarahemilyyy]

Wow if you're short i must be a midget... Is 180cm common there for men and women?

[Andres77]

And in the west many adore the Asian women.
You gripe about white girls, white girls gripe about you.
Straight haired girls want curls, curly haired girls want straight hair... whining and bitching non stop... c'mon!
Can't you just TRY to be satisfied with what you can't really change or at least accept it and focus on changing what you CAN affect?
You're a pretty girl. Just because the people around you don't appreciate you does not justify accosting women from other cultures around the world.
Your appearance, though pretty, it's common where you're from. It's nobody's fault.
If you take a room full of beautiful women and tell someone to rate them against each other... someone is going to come in first and also last place... even though they're all beautiful. Not fair... welcome to life. Get over it.

Be a better you first!
If your first thing to do is attack others because you don't get what you want... intellectually LAZY and ARROGANT!
you're saying that you don't have to change because it's everyone else's fault.

You're smarter than that but you're listening to people who are filling your head with lies.

Focus on being the best you possible

[Andres77]

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[suisuiola]

The first issue with this is that you lack confidence, because of this, you will always nitpick at yourself and others won't find you as attractive. Judging from your pictures, you're really pretty and there isn't much you can do to change about yourself except things like style, make up, posture... Those are all there to give you a boost. Beauty standards is different everywhere you don't have to rely on South East Asian or East Asian standards to be beautiful.

[ShinYuna]

Why is what people say to you so important?

[ShinYuna]

You are not ugly, you are beautiful.

[ShinYuna]

Look mate, what I'm writing right now might sound absurd but you come to the world once and don't live your life to please others. So don't care what other people think of you.

[RingOfFire]

I have seen you write about this before. You are right, looks do matter. And if you look anything like your picture, you are not even close to ugly. In fact I think you are extremely pretty.

I am always amazed at pretty girls who see themselves as ugly. What it taught me is that looks are about self perception more than objective reason. It isn't your looks you need to worry about or change, it's your perception of yourself.

Lack of self confidence and insecurity are not pretty traits. I think you have more of a problem with this than with your looks.

[TurboKid]

Looks very pretty to me. I am from Japan. I do not know Malaysia that well although I spent a few years living in Singapore. But I keep thinking social qualities and your overall mindset are just as important as looks. I think it is worse to be shy or insecure than anything else if people want friends and dates.

[midnightmoon05]

I am Asian, never had a problem dating/married.
work on your self esteem.
lots of pretty girls get dumped.

[ohshee]

Just stop thinking that,, because your not ugly,,,, you better be carefull because if you say it and think it enough time. You might just talk your self in believing it

[Anonymous]

Yiu aren't ugly at all, but you should smile more, you have a pic where you're slightly smiling and you look gorgeous.
I think the camera makes your skin look much paler that it actually is, if that's not the case and you really wanna look extremely gorgeous, maybe some skin care would be your best choice, take it from me

[Ironic_Method]

Looks do matter, but judging by your pfp you have nothing to worry about.

On a completely unrelated note I want to visit your country so I can be worshipped for no good reason.

[sarahemilyyy]

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[Anonymous]

You are assuming the fact that ass caucasian guys are good looking. Not all caucasian girls are good looking too (as per societal standard ) , now a days many white men marry Asian women as many of them are in good jobs , earing much... Vice versa for men... there are so many people in our world you will get someone , and ugly guys have to struggle too...

[boggboss]

The true problem is in your mind I live in London you dont look below average lol you are truly delusional

[DianaWest]

why did you have to make this about white girls? why is everyone on the internet so obsessed with white women?

[Jesus_is_the_guey]

You get a thousand compliments per day I don’t think you think you’re ugly and I still don’t get your obsession with whites plenty of people here have said they prefer other races to whites

[Waldoe]

sorry... I prefer Asian girls, so I cannot understand why you say this... LOOKS do matter, I will choose Asian every time

[Bellatris]

Judging by your profile photo, you are not ugly! Don't say that, don't even think it.

[Anonymous]

A lot of white guys have an Asian fetish. You'll be fine.

[slatyb]

You look lovely, totally kissable, bright and sweet.

[TurkishGirl_]

But you are not ugly, on the contrary, you are a very beautiful girl.

[genericname85]

how any ugly person would cope with being ugly: don't make your character about "being ugly". find something your character is about that you like.

[Avicenna]

Well, there are lots of Caucasian guys that find Asian women very attractive

[soe11]

Don't compare with other, be a confident on yourself, optimistic, constructive, hope will gain your goal.

[Slimpickins]

Everyone has their cup of tea. Don’t worry you’re not alone. 29yrs 4,7inches single and white. :)

[Anonymous]

I think that you are above average looking.

Why does your society view white women that way? Is it taught/learned or just a natural deviation from the norm in your country?

[sarahemilyyy]

In Asian societies, people of european/caucasian /western descent are seen as the most beautiful... I guess from colonization? I don't know... Its just that people see caucasian features as prettier...

[Opinion Owner]

Before the English or any whites came to India where the light skinned Indians viewed as more attractive?

[sarahemilyyy]

No no I'm not from india I'm from malaysia. Completely different. Before westerners came to malaysia, fair skin was still considered more attractive

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the insight. Don't be so hard on yourself you are above average looking