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As a woman is it wrong to work on yourself before getting in a relationship? (Page 2)
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As anyone, your own life should be in order before you attempt to do any dating. Now, there are rare occurrences that a new SO can help said person better themselves.
So, Think about it. What don’t you want in any relationship? Unnecessary drama. That leads to fights about stupid sh*t. Am I right? How many times have we gotten into a huge argument over some stupid sh*t? If you have nothing negative in your life happening, their is less of a chance you will be unhappy.
Now, I’m not saying your own problems should deter you from dating, I’m saying it has a greater percentage of something to go wrong.
There's nothing wrong with working on yourself. But you're never done working on yourself. So don't be afraid to take an opportunity if/when one arrives.
I guess it stop me from really personally to do anything with guys because I didn’t have anything to offer. And not just sexMen like conversations as well
You just gotta look for the right types of men. I'm sure you have plenty to talk about, to the right guys. Like I'd have nothing to talk about with a preppy or party girl, but give me a geek and we'll talk all night long. You just gotta look for someone with similar interests.
Very true
I agree that people should be the best version of themselves they can be at the time so that they can love another person fully. The way you treat yourself and love yourself is the way you will treat others.
The only thing that matters is that you're working on the qualities that good men desire. Cooking, communicating, agreeing to disagree, getting in shape, and giving him a sense of peace. If you're chasing the bag, stop wasting time. Successful men dont care about your money. Theyre going to be more interested in how you maintain a household and your appearance
It is NEEDED. The moment in which you find somebody that interests you, one of the ways to ensure the beginning of a relationship is to fix your bad habits. The thing should be mutual, of course, but those very habits are cause of break ups more often than not.
Thank you for sharing and being honest
Good luck 👍
Of course not. That's what I'm doing
If men don't like that they can move on.
Means they aren't the one for me anyways
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Not interested in arguing with feminists who think men and women are the same, female fertility is fleeting and men want to marry younger women, like under 28 generally, so for a woman it’s more important to focus on finding her husband and making the right choice in that department
I’m not a feminist.
Then that comment doesn’t apply to you
@Shamalien - and in today's economy when two incomes are oftentimes needed what are they supposed to do when there is a family? Live under a bridge? Pray for money to fall from the sky?
A woman should be supportive. Even if she works she should always prioritize the marriage & family before her job. A woman without a job can be taken care of but a man without a job is a big big responsibility.
Men who lose their jobs not only lose their source of income but also get their ego hurt badly & with this they end up spiraling down with loss of confidence, loss of erection, loss of willpower & so on...
A job is an absolute must for a man whereas a job is an option, a choice for a woman.
Men & Women are different, they are not the same!
@Xyglo27 In today's economy having two incomes is intelligent. You little boys trapped in adult bodies cause you're definitely not mature seem to think that a working woman can't be a good mother or wife.
@SomeBlondeChick lol under a bridge. The cost of living is definitely higher that back then.
@SomeBlondeChick
I do want a working woman but like I said I want her to prioritize the marriage & the family before her job. I also want her to be a support earner not the actual breadwinner of the family.
I'm a bit of a traditional guy & I can adjust a little bit, but having a wife being a full on breadwinner is a deal breaker for me.
@Xyglo27 Well I’m glad you explained it better instead of it being I wanna wife barefoot and pregnant doing household work all the time. As long as you’re also prioritizing the marriage as well and it’s not one-sided
@SomeBlondeChick i am a capable man who can provide for his family, I don’t need another income, period. I’d rather have my children raised by their mother instead of some daycare or shitty education system than have a little extra cash.
@Shamalien can provide for them but how well can you provide. In many cities nowadays one income is barely enough to pay the rent/mortgage and the bills depending on the industry
@SomeBlondeChick
Please grow up!
@Shamalien has a different way of seeing the world than your. Please stop forcing your worldview on others.
The world is a big place with a lot of people with their own unique ways of seeing reality. Let people live their lives their way!!
@SomeBlondeChick one income? What kind of income? Why do you think so little of me? You don’t even know me. There are plenty of men that can afford a family without putting their wife to work, stop making everything sound so shitty. Yes it’s expensive, but it’s totally feasible for a motivated individual. You know what motivates me? Having a well run house and a loving wife who will raise my kids well, and that will be her first priority. You really think it’s worth it, not having that? Your kids could go any which way and both parents too busy to notice, and what are the long term consequences of this
@Xyglo27 You grow up. I never said he couldn't have that, learn to read before acting like an ignorant two year old. I just find it amusing that men think so lowly of women they think a woman can't work and be a good mother or wife.
@Shamalien never said it's not possible I just said how well. There's a difference the size of Mount Rushmore. Out of curiosity what is your intended wife supposed to do when the kids are at school. And the hypocrisy of you crying about me thinking lowly of you is you think so lowly of women you can't consider a woman can work and be a good mother/wife
@SomeBlondeChick
You grow up & Stop acting like an entitled brat!
I find it amusing when women like you lose an argument but still want to enforce your ideals upon other people.
Grow up you Big Baby! 👶🏻
Grow up Womanchild!
@SomeBlondeChick i specifically said I want my kids raised by their mother, not by some shitty education system, and that is a full time job and the highest honour. You are a feminist, through and through, almost all women are because it’s such a pervasive ideology
Should go for all people
Seen too many relationships fail because people haven't worked on themselves
I think it is a good idea for a woman to get those things in life together early on if she can. I don't see what can be wrong with it.
What the shit are you talking about? It's stupid for anyone to expect to be able to maintain a healthy relationship if they can't take care of themselves first.
You would be surprised.
I shouldn't be anymore, but yes. I am regularly surprised by the stupid shit people say.
I go by the idea that marrying young is better. It is easier to build a life together then it is to mingle two lives together. If it happens that way, it isn’t bad, just harder.
It is never wrong to "work on yourself" regardless of reason.
Nothing wrong with it. In fact it is good advice for any person. It took me awhile to realize that i need to take care of myself before i can even consider bringing another person in my life.
I don't think that is an issue, in fact, even men could do this! It's a great goal for any person to have! It all depends on how you are able to handle the void from the last relationship
It's always right to work on yourself first, man or woman.
They don't. You're completely confused.
No, do the work, become a great success in your own right, become accomplished, become a real woman. Perhaps then you'll be in a place in your life to share it with someone special.
Heaven forbid someone improve themselves before involving others in their life.
I would think that this would be a very sought-after skill and accomplishment.
Prov 31: 10-31.
If you have a great partner you won't care about cats. Lol
No. Good to get education, world travel, etc. before taking on the burden of parenthood.