So we’ve stated the good, but what about the bad and the ugly... What is one reason why someone probably shouldn’t date you... #FeelFreeToList#TheGoodTheBadTheUgly
Name at least one con as to why someone should NOT date you?
I actively work against my flaws, some of which include past anger issues and difficulty to sympathize or put myself in other's shoes (spoiled upbringing will do that mentally). And this eludes to one "flaw" in that I'm not complacent about faults in my partner and will work with them, or against them in prayer and encouragement, to better themselves. But I don't take BS excuses about me not "loving who they are" if they're selfish, vain or incapable of admitting wrong and I don't accept any "i'm comfortable as I am" nonsense. It's tough love, and the Bible supports that, "save others by snatching them from the fire; to others show mercy, mixed with fear--hating even the clothing stained by corrupted flesh". -Jude 1:23
Christians are to always work with "fear and trembling" on our salvation, meaning putting our old selves and the old man behind us more and more each day and working on our sanctification. The more we do that, the freer we become from the shackles of worldly concerns. Sadly many Christians today accept being lukewarm, despite Jesus being very clear on the severity of such a crime for a believer. "So, because you are lukewarm--neither hot nor cold--I am about to spit you out of my mouth". -Relevation 3:16
That is one way to put it. What the Bible means by it is those who claim Christendom, and belief in Christ but they don't pursue their calling, they don't preach the Gospel to the lost, they have a lazy/spotty prayer life and do not read and study the Bible often nor seriously. They only call themselves Christian on the surface but they do not follow Christ nor His teachings or commands for us, they don't live in the truth but embrace the world and the desires of the flesh. Their lips praise God but their hearts are far from Him as Scripture says. Which ultimately means that they are neither hot (true believers) or cold (atheist). And that is despicable in the eyes of the Lord because it is the epitome of being, as you say, fake.
I can be pretty embarrassing. I love to sing but I can’t really sing well but I’ll still do it all the time in public and like I’ll ride the bikes at Walmart at midnight. And I constantly hype my girl up like at the worst times and will grab her butt or something like if she’s talking to her parents. I’m basically a child in a grown ass 20 year olds body
Omg u be ridin the bikes at walmart 😂 you're awesome! I miss those days. Around 10p we used to use the pool noodles and sword fight around walmart while playinf hide and seek 😂
Anger issues and honest to a fault. I demand transparency and monogamy. I find it hard to love or trust a guy who had sex with more than 1 girl. If he doesn't makes me feel loved and appreciated or if he lies, is over friendly with girls, manipulates and hides things from me then he's as good as dead. 😡 My dark side is very scary that I'm also scared of. I appear as a friendly, rational, calm and loving person (I mostly am if handled well). But if my TRUST is stabbed then I become the exact opposite and become controlling, egoistic, verbally, physically and emotionally abuse them, compare them with better men and start looking for someone else.
One reason some guys shouldn’t date me is because I don’t engage in casual sex. Not judging anyone who’s okay with having casual sex (I’m not), it’s just that I get easily attached and I’ve been hurt because of it, so I won’t have sex with a guy who I’m not in love with. I think that’s probably one of the reasons why I’m still single but it is what it is. If that means that I die a crazy cat lady then so be it. I like kitties anyway lol 😝
1. I'm not "confident" (cocky, arrogant, egotistical; whatever synonym you want to use for it). Women like that above all else in a guy. And well, I have flaws and definitely am not perfect, so I doubt I'll ever be Mr. Hot Sh*t like women love in men.
2. I'm short. Physically, that's my Fatal Flaw.
3. I'm honest and speak my mind. I don't like kissing people's asses or sugarcoating the truth because they're emotionally soft.
4. I'm overweight. I do NOT have a gym body, or abs. Most women (possibly, people) also hate overweight people.
5. I'm not rich, nor am I a simp. Anyone dating me is always going to go Dutch.
1. Just dont state all your insecurities aloud. No need to be repetitive 2. Wear taller shoes 3. You can be honest without sugarcoating and without being blunt 4. Start working out 5. As long as you can provide for yourself is all that matters
I practice consensual non exclusivity. So if the idea I may be home sharing a bed with a woman to a man bothers you, and you make that feeling known, I’ll tell you to suck it up or leave because they would have already consented to that relationship to begin with.
Oh I’m weird. I enjoy philosophical or scientific discussions, and can’t stand the pedantic small talk that people tend to engage in over time. If you’re not challenging me mentally then we may have a physical relationship, but I’m not interested in anything further and I’m not good at pretending otherwise. I work with people for a living and that saps me of pretty much all the energy I have to deal with people who aren’t interesting.
Lol I may be! Doubt it though because I’m a plumber. As an example though, I’m drunk now and am currently watching a video about the efficacy of prophylactic antiparasitic drugs in regards to Covid mitigation efforts. That’s what I do when I drink. Imagine me sober 😂
I have a problem being grounded to one location for more than 2 years. Meaning unless they’re okay following me across the globe all the time, we won’t be compatible. I get bored with places pretty quickly and sadly, it’s not the lifestyle for everyone.
Well, first of all: I'm SUPER SHY. Then, I am sometimes very hard to understand. My humor is the worst to many people (and I like joking around). I'm short and kinda ugly. My biggest "talent" is annoying people, and tbh, who wants a boyfriend like that xD
Lots of reasons, I'm short, still kind of fat, just kind of unattractive in general, not super responsible and will try to make anything a joke, kind of shy and not the most confident when it comes to talking to women.
So wear shoes that make you look taller and clothes that elongate your height. Exercise and get fit. Learn to be more responsible. Learn when to be serious. Hang with some outgoing people. Or hang around shy and insecure people. Your advice to them will show you're the more outgoing confident one. you're only a loser when you give up and quit
When I am not in school and have nothing better to do I am notoriously lazy and even then most weekends I am usually extremely lazy even during school unless I am studying for an exam. I can still do basic stuff like hygiene and cleaning dishes but other than that I do the same amount of work as a cardboard box that is empty.
- My health - I talk out loud to myself - I am not really social im a friend thats horrible keeping in touch... talking daily to people doesn't exist for me unless you live in the same house... - My memory isn't great - I like animals more than most people - I am blunt - I like actual food much rather home cooked meal than eating out - Hate the beach because the salt water smell and the sand... take me to a river and ill be there for hours with my dogs
1. I come with brutal honesty. 2. I don't mind being teased sometimes, but teasing me constantly is annoying as hell to me. 3. I'm very picky about junk food. 4. I hate when my phone is blown up 5. I don't tolerate someone who can't manage their emotions
Being hurt from x friendships and relationships I'm now really insecure. I need to feel like the person I'm with has my back and really likes me. Because any hint of hesitance and I jump ship
1. I tend to say what's on my mind ( a lot of stuff is outta the blue ) 2. I walk around singing like all the time ( it can get annoying ) 3 . I'm not really the romantic type 4. I am insecure about A LOT of things
I am so busy. I work a full time job, I run a company and I try and keep fit. My time for "us" is limited and regimented. You have one weekend day and after 8 on weekdays but I'm in bed by 10 as I get up early so... Yah it sucks.
Women say that I'm cheap. I'm a gentleman and pay everything for the date, but other than that I'm cheap. I'm not willing to pay her mortgage or rent, fill up her gas tank, pay her cell phone bill, etc. Now my male friends are the opposite. They are very generous with their money and the women appreciate it.
@DizzyDesii Believe me, the women I know that would like some financial assistance do feel like they owe the person giving it anything. I had one woman told me that his reward is he gets to go out with her and look at her.
I do not respond to texts immediately and I am a workaholic. I have many friends, hobbies etc sometimes prefer to do things on my own. If he cannot keep up then I will continue with my hobbies. Not clingy at all.
1. Because I´m inexperienced relating relationships. 2. I don´t have many friends. 3. I tend to be a day dreamer, if a conversation is boring and I tend to jump in my imagination and lose track their. 4. I´m stubborn and have a trust issue.
Hmm I guess the uncertainty when I play poker. I don't think it's the worst con since my win percentage is higher than most players but some days I will unfortunately lose just due to the nature of the game.
I'm a single father and I will always put my child first. It's not a con for me. I was told by a woman it's a con and turn off that I won't put her first in my life and that my child wasn't apart of the relationship she wanted to build with me. I told her my child is apart of the package and if she couldn't accept that then I'll find someone who will and walked out on her leaving her the dinner bill.
I’m very damaged from sexual, emotional and physical abuse. I can’t form emotional bonds like others and I’m super promiscuous and cheat on my partners while being clingy and needy at the same time. All I have to offer is sex. People deserve better than me.
Their are so many, its hard to choose. I'm a complete nerd so if you can't understand nerd speak or get into nerd culture then probably not going to work.
Then I'm both. I read scientific papers, study science (pretty much any and all forms of it from material science/metallurgy to physics and biology), anthropology, history, mythology, folklore, the occult, sociology, philosophy and pyschology. I also grew up reading fantasy and scifi and comics and I still enjoy games (video and board games), scifi and nerd/geek culture. So all of the above.
I mentioned all the movies I've watched and my colleague embarrassed me, "ugh where do you get the time to watch all these films?" what was I going to say... "Umm I don't have a life, I don't have friends, I stay home a lot!"
@Leavesbound Have you ever consider buying a high-quality strap-on for men? I've heard if you put a condom on it the woman can't tell the difference between the real thing and the strap-on.
by the way, how old were you when you discovered you have diabetes?
@BLMUSER I'd rather combine pump with Viagra. If I'm using a dildo I might as well keep it mounted on the f*cking machine I built. At least my way I feel something while I'm doing it.
Oh and women can tell the difference. A dildo is cold while a penis is usually very warm.
I was 59 when I discovered that I had diabetes but based on the list of symptoms I have I've probably been diabetic for around four or five years and pre diabetic for probably over a decade.
I dont even wanna lie to you on that one. Get a virgin cause everything looks/feels big/painful to a virgin. I loved my ex but he was like 4 inches hard. It was great for oral but never went deep enough. Myother ex was 8.3-9.1 inches and that shit hurt like a mf. I couldnt even take it all. I prefer someone 5-7 inches but haven't tried those yet
@DizzyDesii. Well, I do want to marry a virgin already. But mostly just on principle out of reasons of fairness. Because my horny ass waited even though it was a lot of work and sometimes torture. So I want to be with someone who has made the same sacrifice. I hope you can understand my feelings there. No shade on anyone who didn't wait.
If that also helps us have a better sex life, then awesome. That's just a bonus.
I dont see any shade because i still prefer virgins lmao. ain't gonna stop me from liking their innocence. I just can't stand virgins who beg for their virginity to be taken. Now thats a turnoff
@DizzyDesii Agreed. Though -- ngl -- it would be a turn-on if it was a girl! I would have fun with it. I would tease the hell out of her. And then I would rock her world on the wedding night.
Only one damn I can think more than one, I´m kinda childish at times, I watch anime and love playing video games, I´m to horny sometimes also, oh and there are times that I have trust issues but not to crazy
I'm not doing it on purpose I just work with guys who kind of act like assholes and I spend 40 hours a week around them so you know you kind of subconsciously take on that behavior a little.
For me im straight forward and say what I mean. I get frustrated and eventually get upset if I feel she is not being honest with me. I get voiceful and can be intimidating.
For the most part , after my week of work. Comes to an end I honestly don’t want to drive anywhere or go shopping or do whatever , I just want to relax and have a few brews and chat with my brother over the phone , listen to music have a fire etc so she is welcome to join us as well , but if it’s her Mission to sabotage it then to me she is a bitch considering she has the rest of The night with me cuz my brother’’s bitch ass is usually in bed around 8 or 9 but usually I am not far after him lol Saturday and Sunday I am all hers but honestly Friday nights I really have no desire to do anything but relax , it has to be something exciting for me to skip brother’s night lol
A german exchange student was the one who actually said it three friends got into angry fits one of them didn't so much say it, he kindly suggested it😂 via a fist to my face one girl told her sister on me multiple times but honestly some girls I've been with left field flailing an older cousin of mine slapped me (and a "tennis coach" I guess) one cousin just straight stopped talking to me at a family gathering once (last Christmas)
You can date other people who understand or can relate to autism You can get cream for the acne You can wear taller shoes like combat boots You can get a job and then a car You can workout at home or in a gym You can do some brain quizzes and eat brain foods. You can socialize more but start slowly with other shy people Being a virgin is not bad
Cream doesn't help acne scars Job applications keep getting denied I've been going to gym for 2 years and nothings changed Brain quiz doesn't increase IQ Society says being a virgin is bad
Cream can help acne. But eating fruits and drinking lots of water has helped many more. Yea i hate my job but i keep applying. Dont give up. Gym always takes work. Maybe get a personal trainer because you may not be doing the right workouts. Fck society. What do u think about yourself? What does God think about you? What does your future partner think? Thats all thatmatters
Being a sarcastic asshole can get old, especially since my sarcasm is subtle and flies right under the radar. Being a musician is cool and all, but the stereotypes of musicians never having money, never having work, being self centered assholes, etc aren't stereotypes for no reason. High sex drive speaks for itself tbh. Having a horn dog that's ready to get busy 24/7 is not for everyone. I can't do monogamy because of it, which is a massive deal breaker for most.
My girlfriend likes all three of these, so I'm good.
@DizzyDesii I know a few sarcastic people. The odd thing is that although they enjoy being sarcastic to other people they don't handle people being sarcastic toward themselves. They get defensive and attack the people who are being sarcastic towards them.
I'm being aggressive asf and people I know get uncomfy around me. Most of my friends wonder how do I stay alive with this hatred. I can stay extremely calm tho but I can't really control it sometimes.
Same. But I mostly repressed my that side. But once i feel taken for granted, sense inconsistency, not cared about, lied to or disrespected then I'll turn into someone they never imagined. All of my calm side will disappear and they will see a BEAST RAGING. I will use the SHARPEST words to hurt them and will find the pleasure in TESTING them. Because how dare they to double cross me?
Thanks dear at least you understand me. People shame me for switching my good side and getting aggressive. I think those are toxic people. They are blind when I'm good and also blind when they are trying to double cross me. But yeah in the end I'm the one with issues for them.
Like when someone is interested or disinterested in a conversation, when it's time to move to another topic, when a certain way of explaining something oversteps the bounds into mansplaining. Things like that
I can get very busy at times when I do not have time to spend with someone. If they need constant companionship, then I'm not the right person for them!
I should stay single because i hate when people waste my time? Im talking about someone having lied to me for 2 years just so i wouldn't leave them. I was piiiisssed that he wasted my time. I dont do friends with benefits because that would be a waste of time
The age is wrong and I can't figure out how to change it. Im 43 but but all health stuff existed back when I was in my twentys. Severe rheumatoid arthritis, bipolar disorder, asthma and the list goes on.
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