So we’ve stated the good, but what about the bad and the ugly... What is one reason why someone probably shouldn’t date you... #FeelFreeToList#TheGoodTheBadTheUgly
Name at least one con as to why someone should NOT date you?
I actively work against my flaws, some of which include past anger issues and difficulty to sympathize or put myself in other's shoes (spoiled upbringing will do that mentally). And this eludes to one "flaw" in that I'm not complacent about faults in my partner and will work with them, or against them in prayer and encouragement, to better themselves. But I don't take BS excuses about me not "loving who they are" if they're selfish, vain or incapable of admitting wrong and I don't accept any "i'm comfortable as I am" nonsense. It's tough love, and the Bible supports that, "save others by snatching them from the fire; to others show mercy, mixed with fear--hating even the clothing stained by corrupted flesh". -Jude 1:23
Christians are to always work with "fear and trembling" on our salvation, meaning putting our old selves and the old man behind us more and more each day and working on our sanctification. The more we do that, the freer we become from the shackles of worldly concerns. Sadly many Christians today accept being lukewarm, despite Jesus being very clear on the severity of such a crime for a believer. "So, because you are lukewarm--neither hot nor cold--I am about to spit you out of my mouth". -Relevation 3:16
That is one way to put it. What the Bible means by it is those who claim Christendom, and belief in Christ but they don't pursue their calling, they don't preach the Gospel to the lost, they have a lazy/spotty prayer life and do not read and study the Bible often nor seriously. They only call themselves Christian on the surface but they do not follow Christ nor His teachings or commands for us, they don't live in the truth but embrace the world and the desires of the flesh. Their lips praise God but their hearts are far from Him as Scripture says. Which ultimately means that they are neither hot (true believers) or cold (atheist). And that is despicable in the eyes of the Lord because it is the epitome of being, as you say, fake.
I can be pretty embarrassing. I love to sing but I can’t really sing well but I’ll still do it all the time in public and like I’ll ride the bikes at Walmart at midnight. And I constantly hype my girl up like at the worst times and will grab her butt or something like if she’s talking to her parents. I’m basically a child in a grown ass 20 year olds body
Omg u be ridin the bikes at walmart 😂 you're awesome! I miss those days. Around 10p we used to use the pool noodles and sword fight around walmart while playinf hide and seek 😂
Anger issues and honest to a fault. I demand transparency and monogamy. I find it hard to love or trust a guy who had sex with more than 1 girl. If he doesn't makes me feel loved and appreciated or if he lies, is over friendly with girls, manipulates and hides things from me then he's as good as dead. 😡 My dark side is very scary that I'm also scared of. I appear as a friendly, rational, calm and loving person (I mostly am if handled well). But if my TRUST is stabbed then I become the exact opposite and become controlling, egoistic, verbally, physically and emotionally abuse them, compare them with better men and start looking for someone else.
One reason some guys shouldn’t date me is because I don’t engage in casual sex. Not judging anyone who’s okay with having casual sex (I’m not), it’s just that I get easily attached and I’ve been hurt because of it, so I won’t have sex with a guy who I’m not in love with. I think that’s probably one of the reasons why I’m still single but it is what it is. If that means that I die a crazy cat lady then so be it. I like kitties anyway lol 😝
1. I'm not "confident" (cocky, arrogant, egotistical; whatever synonym you want to use for it). Women like that above all else in a guy. And well, I have flaws and definitely am not perfect, so I doubt I'll ever be Mr. Hot Sh*t like women love in men.
2. I'm short. Physically, that's my Fatal Flaw.
3. I'm honest and speak my mind. I don't like kissing people's asses or sugarcoating the truth because they're emotionally soft.
4. I'm overweight. I do NOT have a gym body, or abs. Most women (possibly, people) also hate overweight people.
5. I'm not rich, nor am I a simp. Anyone dating me is always going to go Dutch.
1. Just dont state all your insecurities aloud. No need to be repetitive 2. Wear taller shoes 3. You can be honest without sugarcoating and without being blunt 4. Start working out 5. As long as you can provide for yourself is all that matters
I practice consensual non exclusivity. So if the idea I may be home sharing a bed with a woman to a man bothers you, and you make that feeling known, I’ll tell you to suck it up or leave because they would have already consented to that relationship to begin with.
Oh I’m weird. I enjoy philosophical or scientific discussions, and can’t stand the pedantic small talk that people tend to engage in over time. If you’re not challenging me mentally then we may have a physical relationship, but I’m not interested in anything further and I’m not good at pretending otherwise. I work with people for a living and that saps me of pretty much all the energy I have to deal with people who aren’t interesting.
Lol I may be! Doubt it though because I’m a plumber. As an example though, I’m drunk now and am currently watching a video about the efficacy of prophylactic antiparasitic drugs in regards to Covid mitigation efforts. That’s what I do when I drink. Imagine me sober 😂
I have a problem being grounded to one location for more than 2 years. Meaning unless they’re okay following me across the globe all the time, we won’t be compatible. I get bored with places pretty quickly and sadly, it’s not the lifestyle for everyone.
Well, first of all: I'm SUPER SHY. Then, I am sometimes very hard to understand. My humor is the worst to many people (and I like joking around). I'm short and kinda ugly. My biggest "talent" is annoying people, and tbh, who wants a boyfriend like that xD
Lots of reasons, I'm short, still kind of fat, just kind of unattractive in general, not super responsible and will try to make anything a joke, kind of shy and not the most confident when it comes to talking to women.
So wear shoes that make you look taller and clothes that elongate your height. Exercise and get fit. Learn to be more responsible. Learn when to be serious. Hang with some outgoing people. Or hang around shy and insecure people. Your advice to them will show you're the more outgoing confident one. you're only a loser when you give up and quit
When I am not in school and have nothing better to do I am notoriously lazy and even then most weekends I am usually extremely lazy even during school unless I am studying for an exam. I can still do basic stuff like hygiene and cleaning dishes but other than that I do the same amount of work as a cardboard box that is empty.
- My health - I talk out loud to myself - I am not really social im a friend thats horrible keeping in touch... talking daily to people doesn't exist for me unless you live in the same house... - My memory isn't great - I like animals more than most people - I am blunt - I like actual food much rather home cooked meal than eating out - Hate the beach because the salt water smell and the sand... take me to a river and ill be there for hours with my dogs
1. I come with brutal honesty. 2. I don't mind being teased sometimes, but teasing me constantly is annoying as hell to me. 3. I'm very picky about junk food. 4. I hate when my phone is blown up 5. I don't tolerate someone who can't manage their emotions
Women say that I'm cheap. I'm a gentleman and pay everything for the date, but other than that I'm cheap. I'm not willing to pay her mortgage or rent, fill up her gas tank, pay her cell phone bill, etc. Now my male friends are the opposite. They are very generous with their money and the women appreciate it.
@DizzyDesii Believe me, the women I know that would like some financial assistance do feel like they owe the person giving it anything. I had one woman told me that his reward is he gets to go out with her and look at her.
Being hurt from x friendships and relationships I'm now really insecure. I need to feel like the person I'm with has my back and really likes me. Because any hint of hesitance and I jump ship
1. I tend to say what's on my mind ( a lot of stuff is outta the blue ) 2. I walk around singing like all the time ( it can get annoying ) 3 . I'm not really the romantic type 4. I am insecure about A LOT of things
I do not respond to texts immediately and I am a workaholic. I have many friends, hobbies etc sometimes prefer to do things on my own. If he cannot keep up then I will continue with my hobbies. Not clingy at all.
1. Because I´m inexperienced relating relationships. 2. I don´t have many friends. 3. I tend to be a day dreamer, if a conversation is boring and I tend to jump in my imagination and lose track their. 4. I´m stubborn and have a trust issue.
Hmm I guess the uncertainty when I play poker. I don't think it's the worst con since my win percentage is higher than most players but some days I will unfortunately lose just due to the nature of the game.
I'm a single father and I will always put my child first. It's not a con for me. I was told by a woman it's a con and turn off that I won't put her first in my life and that my child wasn't apart of the relationship she wanted to build with me. I told her my child is apart of the package and if she couldn't accept that then I'll find someone who will and walked out on her leaving her the dinner bill.
I am so busy. I work a full time job, I run a company and I try and keep fit. My time for "us" is limited and regimented. You have one weekend day and after 8 on weekdays but I'm in bed by 10 as I get up early so... Yah it sucks.
Their are so many, its hard to choose. I'm a complete nerd so if you can't understand nerd speak or get into nerd culture then probably not going to work.
Then I'm both. I read scientific papers, study science (pretty much any and all forms of it from material science/metallurgy to physics and biology), anthropology, history, mythology, folklore, the occult, sociology, philosophy and pyschology. I also grew up reading fantasy and scifi and comics and I still enjoy games (video and board games), scifi and nerd/geek culture. So all of the above.
I mentioned all the movies I've watched and my colleague embarrassed me, "ugh where do you get the time to watch all these films?" what was I going to say... "Umm I don't have a life, I don't have friends, I stay home a lot!"
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