Be honest, what's a shallow reason you wouldn't date someone?

[ThreeSheetsToTheWind]

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It's interesting seeing the different definitions of shallow being applied here. Some of the reasons listed aren't at all shallow in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Probably doesn't take care of herself. Lazy on hygiene - never wears deodorant, never cleans her hair... NO makeup EVER... never dresses up... probably if she had really dark noticeable facial hair, and never took care of it. I don't expect constantly shaved legs, etc, but I'd want to go for someone at least a LITTLE feminine.

Probably being morbidly fat/obese. I know men and women who are older tend to grow into that... but if I didn't know her FIRST before she was heavier (so I'd be in love, which may mask a bit of that recognition)... it would probably not last. Dating a bit overweight, ok... "chubby" no issue. 200 over? BIG issue.

I think someone who was Bipolar or severely depressed (and not because of a recent death or some tragedy), but just constant depression and being down ALL the time. A "Debbie Downer."

[twotimestwo]

Overweight. I'm athletic, so it's not hypocritical.
I don't date women who make weird noises.
You said shallow.
Crude, like telling crude bathroom jokes. Hate that.
Women who make it a point to tell you all about their bodily functions. Don't really want to know. Thanks.

[eor324]

I couldn't date someone that has more gums than teeth show when they smile. I also like depth in eyes. Everyone goes crazy for blue eyes, but I only like them if they're a deep blue. The light icy looking blue that has no depth scares me for some reason. I believe that's why I'm not big on dating blondes either because they're more likely to have those light eyes. I can't date someone who can't hold a conversation, but I don't necessarily think that's shallow, and I would rather have teeth pulled than date someone boring. Also, people who are too "chill" and have no passion about anything drive me nuts.

[margarita93]

That they don't earn enough money; I have had a LDR with someone who wasn't a Student at that time but wasn't earning enough to come see me (I did go see him a few times) but then decided we can never close the distance and I couldn't be the only one traveling all the time so broke it off.. But I think this condition of mine only applies to LDRs

[DizzyDesii]

Their fingers have to look a certain way lol. I like this guys hands (in the pocket)! But i wouldn't date someone with these other fingers
https://m.imgur.com/YEXU5mV

https://m.imgur.com/F1QDj0q

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[jflames]

You can just say you don't like blacks

[DizzyDesii]

@jflames i am black you ass. I love black men. I just didn't like how that one guys fingers looked

[Tomblebee]

lolll

[Desconhecida]

Shallow reason? Well... he may bad kisser

[MusicMayhem]

-Fat, ugly, short hair
-Shy
-Needy
-Expects me to mindread her
-Lives with parents
-Doesn't drive
-Vegan/vegetarian
-Hipster/dresses to show their political affiliation
-To much makeup, always dresses up; afraid of you seeing them looking anything less than their absolute best
-Socially retarded, shit personality
-I'm a princess and the guy has to do everything syndrome
-Bad breath, crooked or yellow teeth
-Social media obsessed
-Worries too much about others opinions
-Doesn't shave her pussy
-Acts like sex is an immoral act and slut shames other girls. Basically insecure about it
-Her religion is against abortion or she doesn't see it as an option in the case of accidental pregnancy (I prefer atheist anyway)

[Gregisthebest]

So basically no one

[MusicMayhem]

@Gregisthebest no i can think of at least one girl I've dated who didn't have any of these.

[Julia420]

Ugly
Don’t make me their priority
Small dick
A bad laugh
Obese
Having the same name as a relative of mine

[Confidenceoverload]

😂😂😂 I knew you’d post on this question

[Julia420]

@Confidenceoverload... thanks?

[Confidenceoverload]

Never mind 😂

[NovissimumVirorum]

Well this is sad 😢

[Julia420]

@NovissimumVirorum your not of these (well I haven’t heard your laugh yet but I doubt you sound like a dying cheeta)

[NovissimumVirorum]

I cover at least 4 of them, and what if the Hebrew name I choose is a relative’s name

[Julia420]

@NovissimumVirorum I don’t really care about Hebrew names... plus your name is the same as a really hot ginger ☺️

[Julia420]

What 4?

[NovissimumVirorum]

Maybe no.3 if nothing is specified, but definitely 1, 4, and 5

[Julia420]

@NovissimumVirorum cdn.images.dailystar.co.uk/.../...efore-650577.jpg
This guy is obese... you look nothing like him. You are in no way ugly... everyone I know has either callled you cute or handsome and I doubt you have a 4inch cock

[NovissimumVirorum]

Still have the ugly part though, just need some plastic surgery to fix my face, hands, feet, and nose

[Julia420]

@NovissimumVirorum I love your feet ☺️😂

[NovissimumVirorum]

They’re too small

[Julia420]

@NovissimumVirorum they can’t be smaller than mine. I fit into kid size gloves/shoes

[NovissimumVirorum]

They’re only 11w and my hands are small too, about 8” from wrist to finger tip. I want to get surgery done to increase the length of my fingers

[Julia420]

@NovissimumVirorum don’t fucking do that... it’s weird. My hands are 6 inches 😔

[NovissimumVirorum]

My fingers look weird, and whenever I see another persons fingers I feel really bad about my own

[Julia420]

@NovissimumVirorum can we exchange hand pics lol

[NovissimumVirorum]

I’m in the bath right now, but I’ll get them later

[CandacePerry]

I am not going date guys from college. too immature two cheating , a aasshole and jealous girls that why I don't like anyone part from my current boyfriend. now I keep rejecting the boys in college since they keep asking me out and will still say no. i have a boyfriend.

[CandacePerry]

So what do you have what is Shallow or not.

[BeHappyCloud]

I once rejected a dude because his head is disproportionally big compared to his body. I'm sorry, I'm an art student and it just pains me to see that kind of body proportion. And given that I'm not God and unable to just change it like I do in my drawings... I avoid.

[winterfox10]

I know this is the silliest reason in the world, but I wouldn't date a girl if she showed me, consistently, that she didn't know how to dress herself properly. I'm not talking about a disagreement over her sense of style, I'm talking about someone who either fights against style, simply doesn't understand basic matching principles, or the etiquette of dressing properly for an event.

[OrionMia]

Priceless 😂😂😂😂

[winterfox10]

@OrionMia Is that shallow? I don't know. I feel like appearances matter enough that it might not be that shallow...

[OrionMia]

Oh no, not at all!

[Jes2020]

I’m picky, so here is a list.
Little or no personal hygiene
No ambition (it’s okay if he isn’t in the best place, but no effort to get out of it? Nope. Bye)
Wants to live with parents forever (dealt with this twice. Absolutely will never do it again)

Basically I just want you to be clean, and put some effort into the future.

[riverplate7]

I will admit i am a fairly shallow individual. Physical appearance ways a lot into my decision. However, i expect the person to have a personality to match as well. Maybe its too much to ask for someone who looks like Hercules and has a heart of gold, its like looking for a unicorn...

[Kaazsz]

Weighs*

It’s OK if you are a unicorn as well. But I think for men and women, no matter how ugly fat and lazy we are, we all think we deserve that unicorn.

Me too lol. But I think pretty highly of myself :)

[riverplate7]

@Kaazsz oh im not ugly and im the funniest person i know so i deserve greatness i think

[Kaazsz]

Yea me too but honestly I’m scared cuz it’s so rare. Also, when I do find that unicorn, she might not think I’m a unicorn too lol. Oh well. Good luck on your search.

[riverplate7]

@Kaazsz same to you! remember its ok to be picky! Sometimes we let people convince us that its not ok

[Kaazsz]

Yea that’s very true. I lost about 100lbs and have been told I look like a Brazilian supermodel lol. My standards went from zero to 100 and I didn’t even have control of it. It just happened automatically. Shits crazy.

[Kaazsz]

What I mean is, it’s Been a battle to not beat myself up for suddenly having standards.

[riverplate7]

@Kaazsz i totally get it! I work hard to maintain my health and appearance i have amazing moral character and and i would consider myself a very accomplished woman. I know how to do a myriad of things and yet somehow i still let the world tell me im expecting to much. Im not. And i bet niether are you. Like you said earlier its one thing to be a complete loser and free loader and expect to date and underwear model who has a heart like richard the lion heart. its not realistic. Everyone is looking for the right one but few of us are actually trying to BE the right one.

[riverplate7]

so basically i feel completely justified in looking for a freaking unicorn because thats what i am! I just have a hard time "selling myself" as one.

[swanask]

If they are poly/ prefer to be with multiple people at a time. If they don't share the housework load. If they don't work. If there will be no oral sex. If they refuse to use a condom during sex. If they think they can tell me what I can and can't wear/ do/ be/ go etc. Not communicative. Not respectful. Not appreciative. Not understanding. The list goes on...

[Logan27]

And are you prepared to follow those lists as well. Most women are poly and have been with many guys - does that apply to you? Also by share the housework I hope you mean you both work equal hours because if you work part time/or don't work at all and expect him to come home AND still do housework than you're an entitled bitch, like most girls these days. Hell I bet you want him to do it all because women refuse to do housework these days and refuse ti cook for their men.

[Logan27]

And are you gonna be understanding? Or like most women are you gonna ignore his emotional side because you think men don't need help with their feelings. Are you going to respect him? Are you going to not tell him he can go with his friends? Many guys do not trust women because every girl cheats and texts like 6 guys at a time, so he has his reasons.

[swanask]

@Logan27 oh wow. Your assumptions are unnecessary. You don't know me at all and you're assuming how I live my life. Yes everything I've mentioned I would do too. And yes sharing the housework means we both work and both do the housework. Nobody is entitled not me, not him, not anyone.

[Logan27]

Oh yes you think you're entitled. I bet you wouldn't cook for him right? Or support him emotionally?

[swanask]

@Logan27 why tf would I ignore or avoid my guys emotions. Yes, he can damn well go out with his friends. "every girl cheats" oh come on. This conversation is over

[Logan27]

Most girls do cheat. You would ignore his emotions, all girls do. You would also refuse to cook, making him do more housework than you. It's OK, the Feminists have won.

[VijayPlung]

@logan27 You should try dating a real woman/feminist instead of the girls you've been dating. She'll teach you how to take care of yourself, your wife and your kids like a real man would.

[Logan27]

@VijayPlung a real woman? ahaha they don't exist and even if they did what would that do? There is no incentive to treat women well, they just cheat and use you so really it's be a dick or get used. I know which one I'd pick.

[Shimy]

Unibrow
Too short (I'm 5'11'' so short guys don't want to date me anyway)
Doesn't take care of himself
Overweight AND not willing to make any effort to get in shape
Isn't doing anything with his life (not studying, not working and isn't looking for a job/doesn't have any project)

[guyuser2]

What's " too short" for you?

[Pink2000]

Bad teeth
Can’t dress
No job
Can’t dance
Ugly

[Pink2000]

For the ones down voting me, these are my reasons. The question says shallow for a reason.

[Udbhav_Bantwal]

If their personality is similar to mine and we are a match that way, I don't care if they're a little fat or something like that but I might not want to be with them if they are extremely ugly or extremely fat...
If it's just a little bit, it wouldn't bother me at all but if it is not too much then I hate to admit it but yeah...

[young_blud]

If he's not super smart. I just really like intelligent guys who will tell me the dorkiest facts. I love that.
(Also I must state that "dorkiest" autocorrected to "dirtiest" at first. Lol.)

[pooper89]

I like that too. He has to be as intelligent or more i intelligent than me. I used to work in IT and I kid you not, a guy I was talking to asked me what IT meant... i had to let him go

[LongWhiteBeard]

because they're ugly as fuck. I can't be seen with them in public fuck that shit is embarrassing.

sorry... that's only because she came with terrible narcissism and in reality dumber than my pet rock.

[Aevatar]

If they had a lazy eye. I just can't seem to get in front of this one. No matter how hard I try it remains just out of sight. Horrible jokes I know but that's exactly why I couldn't do it personally. It's not so much the other person but my personality.

[Pineapple_Boy]

-Her second toe is bigger than her big toe
-She squeezes toothpaste from the top of the tube
-She believes gender is a social construct
-Vegan (Not sure if that's shallow)
-Doesn't like pineapple
-Uses the words "woke" or "problematic"

[newgirl69]

Oh no , I have second toe bigger than the first one. Didn't know that was a problem for other people 🤔

[Pineapple_Boy]

@newgirl69 😂🙊

[hasrett]

What's problematic with the word 'problematic'?

[Pineapple_Boy]

@hasrett The people who uses it 😛

[Mysteriee]

The first two 😂And ugh... vegans...

[Pineapple_Boy]

@Mysteriee I have a feeling you're the second one 😛

[Mysteriee]

No way, I'm OCD! :P Gotta work your way up from the bottom! :P

[Anonymous]

There are lots of reasons but most of them are not shallow, just natural selection (ugliness, obesity, bad eye-sight etc).
I guess shallow reason I wouldn't date a girl is - submissive behavior... but it's basically a preference (I prefer dominant girls).

[Confidenceoverload]

ehhhh
She’s not into sex or cuddling
Bad breath
Messy hair (only guys can pull it off)
She’s rude
Messy
Crooked or broken teeth or dirty teeth
And ugly 😂 but I’m not that shallow

[Julia420]

I don’t think you can ever date me... my hair is always a mess

[Confidenceoverload]

@Julia420 lol who said I wanted to I know your happy with yours 😂

[Julia420]

Fuck off

[Confidenceoverload]

@Julia420 lol what 😂I’m just saying I don’t want to date you because I don’t like stealing girls from other guys

[Julia420]

I don’t fucking belong to some guy. I’m an individual and deserve to be treated as such

[Confidenceoverload]

@Julia420 Okay but I can’t date you even if you weren’t dating someone else 😂 and plus I’d never say your owned by someone you just dating

[Jon_25]

I know at least one girl that can "pull of" messy hair. You have obviously just not met an awesome girl yet.

[Confidenceoverload]

@Jon_25 you are right I’ve only dated 3 girls and they were all cheaters

[Julia420]

What happened to the 20

[Jon_25]

That sucks, those girls are not worth a relationship. I hope you find good one soon.

[Confidenceoverload]

@Julia420 I dated 3 hooked up with 17 I had sex with the 3 plus the 17 hook ups makes 20

[Julia420]

I’ve dated four and had sex with none... just my luck

[Confidenceoverload]

@Julia420 well at least your still a Virgin by I lost mine to the wrong girl

[Jon_25]

Ya, better one good one than with lots of bad ones. You still have plenty ty of time for that anyways.

[Confidenceoverload]

@Jon_25 yeah exactly I wasted my time fucking all those girls when I could have been innocent

[Jon_25]

Casual sex is overrated. It doesn't do as much good as harm in the long run. I know what you mean.

[Confidenceoverload]

@Jon_25 yep it feels good at the time but then it comes back to bite you in the ass when the girl you love tells you she only wants a Virgin

[Jon_25]

Definitely.

[azzntittiz]

None of my reasons are shallow, if he's not Nick Bateman he has no chance, quite reasonable if you ask me.

[Nivinxus]

I'm not a fan of Fat/thin women and I'm not a fan of shy people either. Yeah shitty reasons to not date someone, I know, but it isn't something I want in a partner.