Be honest, what's a shallow reason you wouldn't date someone?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Probably doesn't take care of herself. Lazy on hygiene - never wears deodorant, never cleans her hair... NO makeup EVER... never dresses up... probably if she had really dark noticeable facial hair, and never took care of it. I don't expect constantly shaved legs, etc, but I'd want to go for someone at least a LITTLE feminine.

Probably being morbidly fat/obese. I know men and women who are older tend to grow into that... but if I didn't know her FIRST before she was heavier (so I'd be in love, which may mask a bit of that recognition)... it would probably not last. Dating a bit overweight, ok... "chubby" no issue. 200 over? BIG issue.

I think someone who was Bipolar or severely depressed (and not because of a recent death or some tragedy), but just constant depression and being down ALL the time. A "Debbie Downer."

twotimestwo · Accepted Answer

Overweight. I'm athletic, so it's not hypocritical.
I don't date women who make weird noises.
You said shallow.
Crude, like telling crude bathroom jokes. Hate that.
Women who make it a point to tell you all about their bodily functions. Don't really want to know. Thanks.

eor324 · Accepted Answer

I couldn't date someone that has more gums than teeth show when they smile. I also like depth in eyes. Everyone goes crazy for blue eyes, but I only like them if they're a deep blue. The light icy looking blue that has no depth scares me for some reason. I believe that's why I'm not big on dating blondes either because they're more likely to have those light eyes. I can't date someone who can't hold a conversation, but I don't necessarily think that's shallow, and I would rather have teeth pulled than date someone boring. Also, people who are too "chill" and have no passion about anything drive me nuts.

margarita93 · Accepted Answer

That they don't earn enough money; I have had a LDR with someone who wasn't a Student at that time but wasn't earning enough to come see me (I did go see him a few times) but then decided we can never close the distance and I couldn't be the only one traveling all the time so broke it off.. But I think this condition of mine only applies to LDRs

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Their fingers have to look a certain way lol. I like this guys hands (in the pocket)! But i wouldn't date someone with these other fingers

Desconhecida · Answer

Shallow reason? Well... he may bad kisser

MusicMayhem · Answer

-Fat, ugly, short hair
-Shy
-Needy
-Expects me to mindread her
-Lives with parents
-Doesn't drive
-Vegan/vegetarian
-Hipster/dresses to show their political affiliation
-To much makeup, always dresses up; afraid of you seeing them looking anything less than their absolute best
-Socially retarded, shit personality
-I'm a princess and the guy has to do everything syndrome
-Bad breath, crooked or yellow teeth
-Social media obsessed
-Worries too much about others opinions
-Doesn't shave her pussy
-Acts like sex is an immoral act and slut shames other girls. Basically insecure about it
-Her religion is against abortion or she doesn't see it as an option in the case of accidental pregnancy (I prefer atheist anyway)

Julia420 · Answer

Ugly Don’t make me their priority Small dick A bad laugh Obese Having the same name as a relative of mine

CandacePerry · Answer

I am not going date guys from college. too immature two cheating , a aasshole and jealous girls that why I don't like anyone part from my current boyfriend. now I keep rejecting the boys in college since they keep asking me out and will still say no. i have a boyfriend.

BeHappyCloud · Answer

I once rejected a dude because his head is disproportionally big compared to his body. I'm sorry, I'm an art student and it just pains me to see that kind of body proportion. And given that I'm not God and unable to just change it like I do in my drawings... I avoid.

winterfox10 · Answer

I know this is the silliest reason in the world, but I wouldn't date a girl if she showed me, consistently, that she didn't know how to dress herself properly. I'm not talking about a disagreement over her sense of style, I'm talking about someone who either fights against style, simply doesn't understand basic matching principles, or the etiquette of dressing properly for an event.

Jes2020 · Answer

I’m picky, so here is a list.
Little or no personal hygiene
No ambition (it’s okay if he isn’t in the best place, but no effort to get out of it? Nope. Bye)
Wants to live with parents forever (dealt with this twice. Absolutely will never do it again)

Basically I just want you to be clean, and put some effort into the future.

riverplate7 · Answer

I will admit i am a fairly shallow individual. Physical appearance ways a lot into my decision. However, i expect the person to have a personality to match as well. Maybe its too much to ask for someone who looks like Hercules and has a heart of gold, its like looking for a unicorn...

Pink2000 · Answer

Bad teeth  Can’t dress No job Can’t dance  Ugly

swanask · Answer

If they are poly/ prefer to be with multiple people at a time. If they don't share the housework load. If they don't work. If there will be no oral sex. If they refuse to use a condom during sex. If they think they can tell me what I can and can't wear/ do/ be/ go etc. Not communicative. Not respectful. Not appreciative. Not understanding. The list goes on...

Shimy · Answer

Unibrow
Too short (I'm 5'11'' so short guys don't want to date me anyway)
Doesn't take care of himself
Overweight AND not willing to make any effort to get in shape
Isn't doing anything with his life (not studying, not working and isn't looking for a job/doesn't have any project)

Udbhav_Bantwal · Answer

If their personality is similar to mine and we are a match that way, I don't care if they're a little fat or something like that but I might not want to be with them if they are extremely ugly or extremely fat...
If it's just a little bit, it wouldn't bother me at all but if it is not too much then I hate to admit it but yeah...

young_blud · Answer

If he's not super smart. I just really like intelligent guys who will tell me the dorkiest facts. I love that. (Also I must state that "dorkiest" autocorrected to "dirtiest" at first. Lol.)

LongWhiteBeard · Answer

because they're ugly as fuck. I can't be seen with them in public fuck that shit is embarrassing. sorry... that's only because she came with terrible narcissism and in reality dumber than my pet rock.

Aevatar · Answer

If they had a lazy eye. I just can't seem to get in front of this one. No matter how hard I try it remains just out of sight. Horrible jokes I know but that's exactly why I couldn't do it personally. It's not so much the other person but my personality.

Pineapple_Boy · Answer

-Her second toe is bigger than her big toe
-She squeezes toothpaste from the top of the tube
-She believes gender is a social construct
-Vegan (Not sure if that's shallow)
-Doesn't like pineapple
-Uses the words "woke" or "problematic"

Anonymous · Answer

There are lots of reasons but most of them are not shallow, just natural selection (ugliness, obesity, bad eye-sight etc).
I guess shallow reason I wouldn't date a girl is - submissive behavior... but it's basically a preference (I prefer dominant girls).

Confidenceoverload · Answer

ehhhh She’s not into sex or cuddling Bad breath Messy hair (only guys can pull it off) She’s rude Messy Crooked or broken teeth or dirty teeth  And ugly 😂 but I’m not that shallow

azzntittiz · Answer

None of my reasons are shallow, if he's not Nick Bateman he has no chance, quite reasonable if you ask me.

Nivinxus · Answer

I'm not a fan of Fat/thin women and I'm not a fan of shy people either. Yeah shitty reasons to not date someone, I know, but it isn't something I want in a partner.

jessture · Answer

Expects men to do everything when dating (planning, flirting, buying, etc.)

LogicSense83 · Answer

i have a few but i dont think their shallow.. lol

reason 1 - if she has a horrible personailty and ego ( my god big turn off )

Reason 2 - standerds are wayyyyyyy to high in life.. (i understand everyone wants the best but my god )

Reason 3 - when a girl is to superficial and vanity comes into play ( oh lord i just wanna throw some kinda liquid at her and leave)

fauchelevent · Answer

Not being tall enough but also being too tall. I'm 5'2 so it's not hard to be taller than me but I'd prefer they were like 5'6 and would prefer they weren't over 6'0.

JulieXO · Answer

Somebody who has a lisp, or can't pronounce certain letters or words.

Kayttt · Answer

If he has really really really bad teeth. Not just a little bit bad, like rotting teeth. I can’t I’m sorry. I hate bad teeth!

Anonymous · Answer

Back and chest hair is terrifying, especially when it looks like there's a forest on your skin, I just can't do it and I can't really explain why I hate it so much either but it genuinely makes me cringe

Natalie11299 · Answer

It’s a turn off for me and I won’t date someone if they have no ambition and don’t go to school for their future.

Anonymous · Answer

Shorter than me, chubby (I hate myself for that but thats true), bad teeths, too clingy, too fast at saying "I love u", dumb, who is not a student AND doesn't have a job for long time (he is irresponsible then) i could go on and on haha

Answers_needed_pls · Answer

If they start flirting with other girls. If they Ignore me a lot. If they are agressive and rude. etc.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

There aren't any shallow reasons; there are only reasons.

Nathaniel1316 · Answer

I wouldn't date someone who has more than one dog if they eventually want to live together.  I've dated people with bad teeth, but definitely not a first choice.

Nattybaby · Answer

not break their heart if they start liking me too fast.. I'd feel super bad if I didn't reciprocate their feelings, while they were like in love with me.😞

oftheHowl · Answer

hasn't graduated/Isn't in school/doesn't plan on going to school, no ambition to improve their life, no higher aspirations than a shitty minimum wage or office job.

coconutjuice00 · Answer

Bad hygiene  Not much hair Egoistic  Someone who gets pissed off quickly for nooo reason  Annoying

Anonymous · Answer

Small penis or premature ejaculator

Paris13 · Answer

Too sexual, too many condoms. To Start with or to go Back out with. In general, Just not my Type. xx

sean893 · Answer

I can sum this up in just three words: Trust, love and freedom. If any one of these is missing, the relationship will not be there.

cottoncandybreath · Answer

-Chubby -Ugliness -Bad Hygiene -Not Vegan/At Least Vegetarian -Bad Teeth -Super Hairy -No Sense of Humor *Guidelines, not rules

BobbyC65 · Answer

I wanna date someone but they don't want to date me.  Because I was born with cerebral palsy on my right side.

Charliefreak190 · Answer

I have a girlfriend and it doesn´t have anything to do with crushee, that dates me, so in relativity to her, it´s the shallowest reason, because she may be perfect and there is not even a shallow puddle

Trisha13 · Answer

If they voted for Trump. So I guess, lack of education haha

Lee06 · Answer

If the guy is a bit on the feminine side I would probably not want to be with him.

Anonymous · Answer

If he’s fat If he’s sick is too small  If he lacks basic hygiene If he doesn’t care for his looks and fashion sense  If his voice is too high pitched If he’s too short Yep very shallow, I know

miia389 · Answer

Fat. I don't see fat as beautiful. Just lazy and unhealthy

larmwk · Answer

If the first picture that I get from him is his dick

jflames · Answer

If she has fat features, like round chin, thick neck, arm flabs, etc. Even if she's not fat and still cute, turns me off.

ShesAmerican · Answer

I don't get how someone smelling bad or lacking any basic hygiene is a shallow reason to not date them

jessicake · Answer

If they were just a “follower of the crowd” I like an independent thinker and someone who isn’t afraid to do so

ScottieBoy · Answer

They listen to country music, I can't stand it but my family listens to it all the time so I am just tired of it

Bryce010 · Answer

Cuz I'm married? Wait you are seeking another answer, how about their reputation, or bad habits, maybe a ambition? Sorry, actually those aren't shallow, how about mismatched clothes?

OpenWine · Answer

small boobs jk

girl being ugly af would be a reason for some but to me feels natural. if she's a brony or too acceptive of trans rights and feminism stuff. I rather avoid crazy people (the bad crazy kind I like sane insaneness)

Gedaria · Answer

Nothing in common. Me I find any date a way to get to know someone it may not amount to anything as in a lasting friendship but you may have made a friend.. I like a irish saying ,, a stranger is a friend I don't know yet...

Hannah0304 · Answer

If he has a high forehead due to hair loss. I dont know, it turns me off.

wondluv27 · Answer

hygiene problems, i wouldn't wanna go ona date with someone who doesn't care about their hygiens and smell and stuff

Cosytoasty · Answer

If they come from a broken family. Nothing against them on a friendship level, but I’m not dating one.

Hurlyburly · Answer

If he's shorter than me, if he smokes, if he used to be promiscuous in the past.

Ridiya · Answer

I won't date if the other person doesn't understand the value of time and attention I am giving in the relationship to endure it

peachblossomluck · Answer

Annoying accent and mispronouncing words. If their grammar makes me cringe.

brocklee · Answer

Assuming that I am attracted.. A history of drug abuse or criminal records.

anon4us · Answer

Religion, taste in music, loneliness from not having a shared hobby

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