Been talking to a guy I matched for over a year, we became good ‘online’ friends over the pandemic. He recently relocated to the same city and lives near me, so I have met 4 times as friends in two weeks. We have kissed twice during this.
We’re going through a hard time in our lives and we had a serious chat the first time we met about if we should start something because it might not work since we need to sort ourselves out.
Last week, we agreed that we should be smart and remain as friends - it was his idea and he didn’t want to be the bad guy in 3 months time if things don’t work out.
But I feel he doesn’t know what he wants and is playing head game and can’t control
himself when he is around me. Yesterday, we went out for dinner - I wasn’t sure if it was a date and didn’t want to assume because we are ‘just friends’, but it was 100% a date once he stroked my face and arm at the table and said I looked really pretty and kept looking at me.
He paid for the expensive dinner even though I suggested to split it and he said he had wanted to take me out for dinner.
Then later in the night, he went in for a kiss, but I stepped back and asked what happened to being friends and he said ‘I know... I can’t help myself’ and he still went for a kiss and we kissed few times.
We had a goodnight kiss and he asked if I wanted to come in for coffee and I said no, it’s getting late (it was 11pm) and I’m feeling tired and then he kissed me again and said stay, sleep over and how he wants me in his T-shirt and sleep next to him. I said it’s late, my flatmate is expecting me to come home tonight and also we’re just friends and we have broken rules already.
It was his idea to be friends and being smart a week ago, but he made all the moves last night
I don’t want it to be a friends with benefits and feel he doesn’t know what he wants. I don’t know if I’m feeling it anymore since he suggested the friend zone too. What to do if he’s giving mixed signals?
We’re going through a hard time in our lives and we had a serious chat the first time we met about if we should start something because it might not work since we need to sort ourselves out.
Last week, we agreed that we should be smart and remain as friends - it was his idea and he didn’t want to be the bad guy in 3 months time if things don’t work out.
But I feel he doesn’t know what he wants and is playing head game and can’t control
himself when he is around me. Yesterday, we went out for dinner - I wasn’t sure if it was a date and didn’t want to assume because we are ‘just friends’, but it was 100% a date once he stroked my face and arm at the table and said I looked really pretty and kept looking at me.
He paid for the expensive dinner even though I suggested to split it and he said he had wanted to take me out for dinner.
Then later in the night, he went in for a kiss, but I stepped back and asked what happened to being friends and he said ‘I know... I can’t help myself’ and he still went for a kiss and we kissed few times.
We had a goodnight kiss and he asked if I wanted to come in for coffee and I said no, it’s getting late (it was 11pm) and I’m feeling tired and then he kissed me again and said stay, sleep over and how he wants me in his T-shirt and sleep next to him. I said it’s late, my flatmate is expecting me to come home tonight and also we’re just friends and we have broken rules already.
It was his idea to be friends and being smart a week ago, but he made all the moves last night
I don’t want it to be a friends with benefits and feel he doesn’t know what he wants. I don’t know if I’m feeling it anymore since he suggested the friend zone too. What to do if he’s giving mixed signals?
